FabSwingers.com forum: Winks

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

When someone winks you, do you normally then message that person if interested or do you just wink back?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ignore 99% and wink back and let them tell us why they want to chat and meet

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By *winging Sally SeanCouple
over a year ago

Warks / Northants Border

If they are close to what we've written we're looking for in our profile, we may wink back to give them the opportunity to expand more

If someone is clearly NOT what we're looking for, we'll usually send a wink then too. This is just to waste their time, like they have with mine. Childish I know, but it keeps be amused!

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By *ady CurvaceousWoman
over a year ago

Kent

I ignore winks

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By *ouble_The_DelightCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield

We message to thank for for the wink and if their profile matches what we are looking for we ask t what interests them about our profile then the answer dictates if we chat further.

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By *ove2watchMan
over a year ago

weymouth

Wink is a good way to break the ice I guess

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By *liviajohnnyCouple
over a year ago

London

Depends how hot they are lol

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By *ilverfox for youMan
over a year ago

Hull

Don’t really understand the concept of a wink myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they are close to what we've written we're looking for in our profile, we may wink back to give them the opportunity to expand more

If someone is clearly NOT what we're looking for, we'll usually send a wink then too. This is just to waste their time, like they have with mine. Childish I know, but it keeps be amused!

How did they waste your time?

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Sometimes I wink back if I like the profile, other times I'll message to say thanks etc and sometimes I totally ignore them.

Mrs

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

If they are from a guy , tv , ts I just delete if they are from a lady or a couple I read the profile then if of interest I message back.

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By *winging Sally SeanCouple
over a year ago

Warks / Northants Border

"If they are close to what we've written we're looking for in our profile, we may wink back to give them the opportunity to expand more

If someone is clearly NOT what we're looking for, we'll usually send a wink then too. This is just to waste their time, like they have with mine. Childish I know, but it keeps be amused!

How did they waste your time? "

They clearly didn't read our profile the first time, and decided on a mass wink spree instead. So we'll return the wink, wait for their message, then go from there. If they are particularly self-obsessed, and their messages clearly indicate they haven't read our profile after a few messages, they'll be led up the garden path for a while.

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By *hatCoupleNextDoorCouple
over a year ago

nearby

If we get a wink and we are interested we will wink back! Then usually that's it

silence!

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By *rlandoMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

if lazy people can t be arsed to reply to messages , then there s no chance they ll reply to a wink ?

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By *enrythe8thMan
over a year ago

worthing

Hiya all sexy rascals..

Chill out u lot..

A wink is just a laugh and a bit of banter..

All gets very serious on here sometimes..

Meant to be fun and enjoyable

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By *ebootCouple
over a year ago

Telford

In all our time on here, very rarely has a wink we’ve received ever turned into anything other than a waste of time. Experience has taught us they’re usually sent by people who are have arsed attitude about actually meeting - it’s a no effort, quick and easy throw away action that has no investment or substance.

We just ignore them now - and on occasions if we notice someone has winked us, we’ll block them, as our profile states we ignore winks and it’s a great indicator that they haven’t even bothered to read our profile.

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By *enrythe8thMan
over a year ago

worthing

All too serious..

good luck all

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By *ilth N KinkCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"When someone winks you, do you normally then message that person if interested or do you just wink back?"

If they match what we are looking for we wink back and message to thank them.

If they aren’t what we are looking for we delete the wink.

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By *eartsmanMan
over a year ago

southeast , midlands, southern France

It's funny how some people are quick to judge others on winks. I'm sure in some cases the person sending a wink is just randomly sending them. But I think in most cases, like mine, winks are to say hey I've looked at your profile and liked what I see. If I then get a wink back, I immediately follow it up with a message, it's not being lazy to send a wink, it just saves time with countless messages that get send and never get open let alone a reply. So all those people that are quick to judge us winkers

spare a thought as to way we wink first

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By *eff1961Man
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I totally agree with you I only send winks if I'm. within there range of required wants I think it's easier than sending msg but if they respond il always reply also if I get winks (very rare these days lol) I always respond n thank them it's only polite to do so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I ignore winks"

Why? A wink shows initial interest. If you wink back then you’ve invited them to message you. Winks should be before messaging for all. A wink is like eye contact over a crowded place

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London

"When someone winks you, do you normally then message that person if interested or do you just wink back?

If they match what we are looking for we wink back and message to thank them.

If they aren’t what we are looking for we delete the wink. "
A very sensible approach I think.

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London

I have had some great meets that all started with a wink. I'm definitely a fan of winks.

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By *uttercup and BeauCouple
over a year ago

kent

Very rare that we look at them. Just delete them maybe once a week

J x

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By *etWetWet453Couple
over a year ago

CAMBERLEY

Our perspective on Winks - copied from our profile:

WINKS: If we send you a Wink, please do not think we are being lazy. That is not the case. It is what it is - an an indication of interest. If you are interested then please do likewise or message us. It is just that we have learnt from experience that this saves a lot of time on both sides, if the other party is not interested, ie. we haven`t wasted our time writing a message and more importantly, we haven`t wasted your time by you having to read it. If you don`t respond to our Wink, don`t worry and we won`t bother you again.(We make a note in the Private notes section of your profile that we have Winked you - we know - Anoraks.)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely wink back and potentially message saying thanks for the wink

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By *hoenix_1Man
over a year ago

richmond

if we like there profile then we wink back and see what happens

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By *lex.and.SexCouple
over a year ago

Bedale

If we receive a wink we tend to treat it as an expression of initial interest.

If our interest level is zero, utterly irredeemably low, then we tend to block. It's not personal but ultimately if we are never going to meet someone we use the block as a filter so that we don't waste their time or ours by appearing on each others searches any more and having to appraise the profile repeatedly.

If the interest is moderate, or high but with a factor that may impair our ability to meet them. This may be distance, a particular boundary of theirs that's problematic (but could possibly be accomodated) or only one half is attractive - We will tend to return the wink, see if a chat emerges and play it by ear from there.

If there is high interest and no limiting factors we will usually respond with a message

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By *r-8-BBCMan
over a year ago

LONDON

"When someone winks you, do you normally then message that person if interested or do you just wink back?"

Message back

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

We even offer guidance in our bio, think of it as a hint.

Single guys, we delete and ignore.

Couples, we look at profile, if we like we wink back, then either of us can message.

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By *aughtyPeepzMan
over a year ago

London

I message if I'm interested. Hardly ever happens tho

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By *ormalfornorfolkMan
over a year ago

Norwich

I always delete them for the power trip.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We look at the profile. If we like what we see. We wink back and leave it at that.

Usually get a message from them but 99% of conversations end after 3-4 replies. Always the same, hi how are you, what you up to.

You ask the same thing cause wtf are you meant to ask back. They then reply with good or some half arsed shit and the conversation ends there.

Stopped putting effort into people who show 0 interest in having a conversation.

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By *oyahandrussCouple
over a year ago

Nr Rugby

"if lazy people can t be arsed to reply to messages , then there s no chance they ll reply to a wink ? "
Well if they don't reply to your message I think it means they are not interested.So no point winking.

If we get a wink we will either wink back if the profile works for us we will send a message.

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

"I ignore winks"

Don't I know it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would message them but unlike women/couples I don't receive too many so it doesn't become a burden to reply to the ones that i do receive

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

" I'm definitely a fan of winks.

Thankyou. Much appreciated.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Wink and respond with a message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes, though from the other perspective if you're messaging X amount of people looking for something, you can get burnt out.

A wink is a nice nod - but a lot of people tend to just ... disregard them.

I think a wink here is a bit like someone giving you the eye when you're out and about.

A nice gesture.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they are close to what we've written we're looking for in our profile, we may wink back to give them the opportunity to expand more

If someone is clearly NOT what we're looking for, we'll usually send a wink then too. This is just to waste their time, like they have with mine. Childish I know, but it keeps be amused!

How did they waste your time?

That seems a waste of much more of your time than simply ignoring the wink. Also a bit childish as you've stated but whatever keeps you happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I message if I'm interested. Hardly ever happens tho

And that, in my view, is exactly the purpose. All a wink does is indicate a level of interest. If its reciprocated, take it further, if not...dont.

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

"I message if I'm interested. Hardly ever happens tho

And that, in my view, is exactly the purpose. All a wink does is indicate a level of interest. If its reciprocated, take it further, if not...dont.

This is the way we take it & kind of what we expect if we wink someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I message if I'm interested. Hardly ever happens tho

And that, in my view, is exactly the purpose. All a wink does is indicate a level of interest. If its reciprocated, take it further, if not...dont.

This is the way we take it & kind of what we expect if we wink someone

Me too

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By *alentino7Man
over a year ago

London

"If we get a wink and we are interested we will wink back! Then usually that's it

silence!"

This!!

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"We look at the profile. If we like what we see. We wink back and leave it at that.

Usually get a message from them but 99% of conversations end after 3-4 replies. Always the same, hi how are you, what you up to.

You ask the same thing cause wtf are you meant to ask back. They then reply with good or some half arsed shit and the conversation ends there.

Stopped putting effort into people who show 0 interest in having a conversation.

This is the exact reason we hardly message anyone these days, just haven't the time for half arsed conversations.

Mrs

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By *carlett 44Woman
over a year ago

bootle

I always check my winks. If their hot I will send one back. Then hopefully they message lol

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By *im494Man
over a year ago

Westhill

"I always check my winks. If their hot I will send one back. Then hopefully they message lol"

Dam just below your age range

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By *ir SupremacyMan
over a year ago

Bolton

I never check on my winks .

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By *an hjCouple
over a year ago

Stowmarket

I use winks as a filter, if they wink me, they haven't read the profile, so will not meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the profile really and my mood if I wink back or message.

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By *lex.and.SexCouple
over a year ago

Bedale

"I use winks as a filter, if they wink me, they haven't read the profile, so will not meet."
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I frequently wink profiles with that in for shits and giggles :P

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By *ezebel100Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham

If interested I wink back

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By *t8880Couple
over a year ago

Staffs

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