FabSwingers.com forum: to stay on fab or leave

By *agicmarc OP Man
over a year ago

tonyrefail

seriously debating wether to stay on fab or leave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your choice, fella.

Only you know if it’s worth staying or not.

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By *ommy 999Man
over a year ago

dublin

if its depressing you leave

attention seeking post

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By *ove2watchMan
over a year ago

weymouth

You will come back trust me

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By *agicmarc OP Man
over a year ago

tonyrefail

not attention seeking at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been on here on and off since I was 26. I always come back haha.

Only you can make that decision. Fab is frustrating and it's not an easy site to find what you want, but ultimately I find it worth it.

You just need to decide if you do.

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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

Why do you want to leave?

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By *ommy 999Man
over a year ago

dublin

"not attention seeking at all "

yeah right

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By *agicmarc OP Man
over a year ago

tonyrefail

"I've been on here on and off since I was 26. I always come back haha.

Only you can make that decision. Fab is frustrating and it's not an easy site to find what you want, but ultimately I find it worth it.

You just need to decide if you do. "

might hide my profile instead always got the option to unhide it then

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By *agicmarc OP Man
over a year ago

tonyrefail

feel like i’m getting nowhere fast go to

clubs and socials but still don’t get anywhere

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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

"feel like i’m getting nowhere fast go to

clubs and socials but still don’t get anywhere "

Will you get somewhere if you delete your profile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not an unusual feeling and debated many times… Just hide it for now.

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By *agicmarc OP Man
over a year ago

tonyrefail

no i won’t

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By *agicmarc OP Man
over a year ago

tonyrefail

"Not an unusual feeling and debated many times… Just hide it for now. "

may do

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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

What will you do with your time instead if you do leave?

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By *ommy 999Man
over a year ago

dublin

"What will you do with your time instead if you do leave?"

probably join another site to look for attention

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By *agicmarc OP Man
over a year ago

tonyrefail

"What will you do with your time instead if you do leave?

probably join another site to look for attention

do one

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By *ommy 999Man
over a year ago

dublin

"What will you do with your time instead if you do leave?

probably join another site to look for attention

do one "

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By *agicmarc OP Man
over a year ago

tonyrefail

is there a way of building confidence up

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By *pank the MonkeyCouple
over a year ago

Fylde Coast

"is there a way of building confidence up "

Confidence comes from within yourself. My advice is accept who you are and don't try to be something you aren't. If there is something you can change about yourself that you feel will give you more confidence then do it, again this comes from you.

If you aren't happy on here then get out. The dating scene is far easier, for guys, than fabs will ever be.

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By *ilverfox for youMan
over a year ago

Hull

Same here mate .problem is finding a site that’s better !!and free

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By *agicmarc OP Man
over a year ago

tonyrefail

"Same here mate .problem is finding a site that’s better !!and free"

glad it’s not just me then

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By *agicmarc OP Man
over a year ago

tonyrefail

didn’t say i wasn’t hsppy just feel like i’m banging my head against a brick wall

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By *pank the MonkeyCouple
over a year ago

Fylde Coast

"didn’t say i wasn’t hsppy just feel like i’m banging my head against a brick wall "

Does feeling that way make you happy?

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"didn’t say i wasn’t hsppy just feel like i’m banging my head against a brick wall "

If what you're doing isn't working then the only sensible choice is to change what you're doing.

Just being here guarantees nothing. Trying the same unsuccessful approach will just get the same results.

Good luck

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

7 meet in person verifications this year!!! Most men would be happy to get that in a lifetime on here!!!!!

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By *pank the MonkeyCouple
over a year ago

Fylde Coast

"7 meet in person verifications this year!!! Most men would be happy to get that in a lifetime on here!!!!!

I just read his profile. This guy has nothing to moan about!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d say stay… take a break from fab a week or two comeback and see how you feel.

It’s your choice and only you can say how you feel, and make your choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe take a break, place your profile into hidden, take some time away and if you choose to come back, you carry on where you left.

Try to avoid the mistake of deleting, coming back and trying to start again.

Take care, OP.

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By *estinysswingersCouple
over a year ago

Worsley

Up to you. Fab doesn’t work for everyone.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

19 verifications pretty good for a guy on here, delete and you lose the lot. Hide your profile instead I do when I’m not feeling it.

All posts are ‘attention posts’ you don’t create or contribute to a thread if you’re not looking for some attention.

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By *agicmarc OP Man
over a year ago

tonyrefail

"7 meet in person verifications this year!!! Most men would be happy to get that in a lifetime on here!!!!!

think my problem is i lack confidence literally only spoke to 2-3 people last night deffo need to come out of my shell more x

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By *umamoto88Man
over a year ago

leeds

Please don’t leave mate,,fab won’t be the same without you ..!!

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By *agicmarc OP Man
over a year ago

tonyrefail

"Please don’t leave mate,,fab won’t be the same without you ..!! "

just need to gain confidence and open my rather large gob tbh mate

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By *pank the MonkeyCouple
over a year ago

Fylde Coast

"7 meet in person verifications this year!!! Most men would be happy to get that in a lifetime on here!!!!!

think my problem is i lack confidence literally only spoke to 2-3 people last night deffo need to come out of my shell more x"

Most single guys on here don't speak to anyone most of the time. 2/3 in one night is very good going. I'd stop moaning about it if I was you

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By *agicmarc OP Man
over a year ago

tonyrefail

lol ??

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By *pank the MonkeyCouple
over a year ago

Fylde Coast

"lol ?? "
??

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By *agicmarc OP Man
over a year ago

tonyrefail

"lol ?? ??"

that you said stop moaning i’m not moaning

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By *awpleasureMan
over a year ago

Sutton Coldfield

"seriously debating wether to stay on fab or leave "

My advice is hide your profile and don't log on for a while.

You may feel differently in a few weeks.

Much easier than constantly leaving and returning.

Don't forget your password though

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By *agicmarc OP Man
over a year ago

tonyrefail

not really not bothered what you think

as your thousands of miles away

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By *pank the MonkeyCouple
over a year ago

Fylde Coast

"not really not bothered what you think

as your thousands of miles away "

Lol

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By *agicmarc OP Man
over a year ago

tonyrefail

"not really not bothered what you think

as your thousands of miles away

Lol"

stating truth

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By *pank the MonkeyCouple
over a year ago

Fylde Coast

"not really not bothered what you think

as your thousands of miles away

Lol

stating truth "

You've no idea where we are

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By *agicmarc OP Man
over a year ago

tonyrefail

according to your profile your in alabama

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By *pank the MonkeyCouple
over a year ago

Fylde Coast

"according to your profile your in alabama "

Oh ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go to clubs. Meet people in the flesh. Don't have to waste your time messaging 1000s of people.

Go to a club and chat to people.

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By *agicmarc OP Man
over a year ago

tonyrefail

"Go to clubs. Meet people in the flesh. Don't have to waste your time messaging 1000s of people.

Go to a club and chat to people.

was at chams last night decent ish night just need go get over my nerves x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"didn’t say i wasn’t hsppy just feel like i’m banging my head against a brick wall

ITS NOT Dail a ride go Pay for it

what are you talking about "

Ignore him.

Seems like clubs are working for you. Keep going to them and you will meet loads of lovely people.

Chams is great. We have been once before on a bbw Sunday night.

Definitely be going back there at some point

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By *agicmarc OP Man
over a year ago

tonyrefail

"didn’t say i wasn’t hsppy just feel like i’m banging my head against a brick wall

ITS NOT Dail a ride go Pay for it

what are you talking about

Ignore him.

Seems like clubs are working for you. Keep going to them and you will meet loads of lovely people.

Chams is great. We have been once before on a bbw Sunday night.

Definitely be going back there at some point

thanks deffo trying darlo bbw sundays soon

i’m i. darlo on a friday end of month

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aren’t you going to a social tonight?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you stay will there be trouble?

If you go will it be doubled?

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By *agicmarc OP Man
over a year ago

tonyrefail

"If you stay will there be trouble?

If you go will it be doubled? "

ha ha lol ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you stay will there be trouble?

If you go will it be doubled?

ha ha lol ?? "

The clash.

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By *hropsGuy69Man
over a year ago

telford

I go through times where I just simply hide profile, can go months like that , then return when I’m ready …. Feels better than cancelling forever.

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By *rlandoMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

"seriously debating wether to stay on fab or leave "

Stay , whats the point being miserable by yourself !

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

Have you decided yet, OP?

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By *agicmarc OP Man
over a year ago

tonyrefail

staying for now i think

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By *eau and ArrowCouple
over a year ago

Bromsgrove

It is tricky as a single male. Many single males

Are not attention seeking but it can still be demoralising

We met on here so will always support fab and it’s results but understand how it can feel

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By *agicmarc OP Man
over a year ago

tonyrefail

"It is tricky as a single male. Many single males

Are not attention seeking but it can still be demoralising

We met on here so will always support fab and it’s results but understand how it can feel"

so it’s possible then?

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By *ubcdverykinkyMan
over a year ago

Bourne lincs

Yes this site is full of people looking at ur pics or talk about it. Really sad

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By *agicmarc OP Man
over a year ago

tonyrefail

yeah

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By *ischiefManaged69Couple
over a year ago

Preston

"seriously debating wether to stay on fab or leave "

If you're at the stage where you ask on the forums.... Leave.

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By *agicmarc OP Man
over a year ago

tonyrefail

staying i think now give it im one last shot

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By *un4you1978Man
over a year ago

Telford

It's amazing how many people say they are leaving a d you then see them online the next day.

It's tough on fab as a single guy. But as in the real world not everyone is attracted to each other and just because the site is whatnot is, doesn't mean your guaranteed a meet.

Just hang in there and chill.

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By *actilenorfolkgentMan
over a year ago

Norwich

I've wondered after so many let downs, but then hey, tomorrow's another day, another possibilty

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

I have been using this site for over 15 years now. The first time I left I deleted my profile, which I definitely regretted when I decided to rejoin.

You can hide your profile, you can just turn on all your message filters. Either of these options work well if you feel the need to take a break.

If you feel that your only problem is your lack of confidence when you attend a club, then you probably just need to keep going to clubs. Eventually, chatting to others becomes easier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had far more hook-ups on normal dating sites than I have on Fab. With better looking and more grounded women to boot.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Only you know the answer to your question op

I'm stopping

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I left I had verifications, when I came back I didn't.

Meh, I dunno -- it's easier to get laid on conventional dating sites, so if you're just here for a shag you will drive yourself barmy.

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray

Can't help thinking this is an attention post, you have 30 verifications..thats amazing for a single man on here..iv seen men that have been on here for years and years and not had 1 meet. I'd say you were doing very well

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray

"It's amazing how many people say they are leaving a d you then see them online the next day.

It's tough on fab as a single guy. But as in the real world not everyone is attracted to each other and just because the site is whatnot is, doesn't mean your guaranteed a meet.

Just hang in there and chill. "

I'd say it's not tough for him, he has 30 verifications.

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By *assy LassieWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

"I've had far more hook-ups on normal dating sites than I have on Fab. With better looking and more grounded women to boot."

Committed fab suicide with this post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had far more hook-ups on normal dating sites than I have on Fab. With better looking and more grounded women to boot."

Me too, so leaving wouldn't really bother me tbh. My sub is up today so having similar thoughts. I have previously just hidden it especially when I meet someone and start dating I've either deleted it all or hidden it all. The dating apps are way more fruitful as a single guy, plenty kinky folks out there who've never heard of this site or just dont feel the need to be part of 'the scene' or lifestyle but they are plenty fun in the bedroom.

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By *ilentnoiseMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"7 meet in person verifications this year!!! Most men would be happy to get that in a lifetime on here!!!!!

Totally agree with the above!

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By *achel SmythTV/TS
over a year ago

Farnborough

There are a few on here who routinely post, or put on their profile, how they are leaving, they are fed up , it’s not working, it’s too much … etc, etc - but never do!!

Then there are others I have spoken, or are friends with in here who simply just disappear - maybe for the reasons cited above.

The bottom line is, those who talk about it often don’t, those who don’t talk about often do.

R x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If ppl want to leave they should just leave. No one will try to convince anyone to stay.

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"seriously debating wether to stay on fab or leave "

Weigh up why are you thinking of leaving,

You've had veris from this year. 7 I believe it is, so your doing better than alot of ppl...

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

Its not easy for cpls either. You can attend socials and hardly anyone talks to you. We met a guy saterday night and thats the guy first meet in a while due to family, childcare and work commitments. Keep at it and you will strike lucky marc mate. I have been a single on here so understand the trouble and strife this site causes you. John

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"I've had far more hook-ups on normal dating sites than I have on Fab. With better looking and more grounded women to boot."

Your inbox got some tumble blowing across it then.....if not it soon will have...

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Pause use and decide

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By *2sexyMan
over a year ago

kenilworth

"Can't help thinking this is an attention post, you have 30 verifications..thats amazing for a single man on here..iv seen men that have been on here for years and years and not had 1 meet. I'd say you were doing very well"
I will conquer with this reply . On my previous venture I had 2 verifications albeit from the people who i knew who got me onto the site and when they left I left also and now I’m back to square one …… which is about 10 steps backwards . Just don’t overthink it because I do and it’s not healthy . When I get 1 reply back even to say sorry or I see a message deleted at least I know I exist

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By *agicmarc OP Man
over a year ago

tonyrefail

"Can't help thinking this is an attention post, you have 30 verifications..thats amazing for a single man on here..iv seen men that have been on here for years and years and not had 1 meet. I'd say you were doing very well I will conquer with this reply . On my previous venture I had 2 verifications albeit from the people who i knew who got me onto the site and when they left I left also and now I’m back to square one …… which is about 10 steps backwards . Just don’t overthink it because I do and it’s not healthy . When I get 1 reply back even to say sorry or I see a message deleted at least I know I exist "

yeah i’m deffo overthinking it

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