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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Would you stay with someone if they do not kiss or snog you at all?

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

No! not for me personally i like intimacy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No! not for me personally i like intimacy."
what about if you really loved that person tho? Would you stay with them but try and find a kiss somewhere else?

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By *exycouplesswingCouple
over a year ago

Tunbridge Wells

Unless there was a medical reason ( no, can’t think of one either!) then we would question why someon in a relationship would not be kissing their partner..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Unless there was a medical reason ( no, can’t think of one either!) then we would question why someon in a relationship would not be kissing their partner.."
well it happens

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Unless there was a medical reason ( no, can’t think of one either!) then we would question why someon in a relationship would not be kissing their partner.."
and I think it's the worst thing ever

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle


"No! not for me personally i like intimacy. what about if you really loved that person tho? Would you stay with them but try and find a kiss somewhere else? "
Never said i'd kiss someone else... If I was in a relationship with someone and they didn't want to be intimate or affectionate, I'd be wondering why unless their was a valid reason. Perhaps they are getting elsewhere?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No! not for me personally i like intimacy. what about if you really loved that person tho? Would you stay with them but try and find a kiss somewhere else? Never said i'd kiss someone else... If I was in a relationship with someone and they didn't want to be intimate or affectionate, I'd be wondering why unless their was a valid reason. Perhaps they are getting elsewhere? "
but if they were getting it somewhere else, they probably wouldn't have sex with you then either tho? But they do, sex is not a problem there

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

They just don't like kissing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We won't even play with people on one night thing if there is no kissing, as for a relationship the bags would be packed and the kids would be getting 2 Christmas's.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We won't even play with people on one night thing if there is no kissing, as for a relationship the bags would be packed and the kids would be getting 2 Christmas's."
lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If there was no kissing in the relationship then I would definitely think there was something wrong I just couldn have the relationship personally, kissing is affectionate and it’s be love n bond between a couple, n as for kissing other men or men kissing another women when swinging absolutely not

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle


"No! not for me personally i like intimacy. what about if you really loved that person tho? Would you stay with them but try and find a kiss somewhere else? Never said i'd kiss someone else... If I was in a relationship with someone and they didn't want to be intimate or affectionate, I'd be wondering why unless their was a valid reason. Perhaps they are getting elsewhere? but if they were getting it somewhere else, they probably wouldn't have sex with you then either tho? But they do, sex is not a problem there"
The question was about kissing not sex. A relationship with no affection is pretty much dead in my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kissing especially french kissing is a real sign of your love for someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unless there was a medical reason ( no, can’t think of one either!) then we would question why someon in a relationship would not be kissing their partner.."

Severe halitosis?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Nope

Mrs

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By *aximus74Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

Wouldn't get in the relationship in the first place if there was no kissing...

That initial first kiss says a lot in my opinion

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By *lasphemousGirlWoman
over a year ago

Cambs

I couldn't be with someone who doesn't want to kiss me..

We'd be totally incompatible.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

No, I couldn't see it working for me

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex

Maybe there's a trauma related reason.

Maybe they genuinely dislike kissing

Maybe the person who likes kissing has a problem they're unaware of.

If it's not possible to discuss this and find a compromise a person has to either leave or find a way to live with it.

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By *estinysswingersCouple
over a year ago

Worsley

Nope. Wouldn’t work for us.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"Would you stay with someone if they do not kiss or snog you at all?"

Not a chance. Intermucy is everything to me in a relationship.

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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago

London | Belfast

If you never kissed, it's not a relationship.

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By *ap AdgeMan
over a year ago

Wirral

Definitely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Utterly weird why would anybody ..

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By *arialoueWoman
over a year ago

bradford

No coz I love kissing n cuddles best part of a relationship

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle


"Maybe there's a trauma related reason.

Maybe they genuinely dislike kissing

Maybe the person who likes kissing has a problem they're unaware of.

If it's not possible to discuss this and find a compromise a person has to either leave or find a way to live with it. "

I get what you mean about trauma! But surely if you are in a relationship with someone you trust them completely, As they are supposed to be your safe place and security blanket.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would you stay with someone if they do not kiss or snog you at all?"

Are there other signs of affection? Touch, cuddling, being intimate in other ways? I must admit, I'd really struggle to nit feel horribly rejected and unwanted if my partner did not want to kiss me even with other things happening...

Is it a physical reason? Or psychological...people withdraw from expressions of affection for all kinds of reasons? Is it a recent thing or always been the case?

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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago

London | Belfast


"Maybe there's a trauma related reason.

Maybe they genuinely dislike kissing

Maybe the person who likes kissing has a problem they're unaware of.

If it's not possible to discuss this and find a compromise a person has to either leave or find a way to live with it. I get what you mean about trauma! But surely if you are in a relationship with someone you trust them completely, As they are supposed to be your safe place and security blanket. "

It's not your partner's burden to carry you through your trauma. In my opinion, you should work up your issues before you seek out for a relationship. Everything else is just selfish.

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle


"Maybe there's a trauma related reason.

Maybe they genuinely dislike kissing

Maybe the person who likes kissing has a problem they're unaware of.

If it's not possible to discuss this and find a compromise a person has to either leave or find a way to live with it. I get what you mean about trauma! But surely if you are in a relationship with someone you trust them completely, As they are supposed to be your safe place and security blanket.

It's not your partner's burden to carry you through your trauma. In my opinion, you should work up your issues before you seek out for a relationship. Everything else is just selfish."

Wow you have taken it out of context. You are supposed to feel safe with a partner! That's not selfish at all. Wasn't me who said about trauma? Please don't patronise me. Nothing selfish about me dear Lol

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle


"Maybe there's a trauma related reason.

Maybe they genuinely dislike kissing

Maybe the person who likes kissing has a problem they're unaware of.

If it's not possible to discuss this and find a compromise a person has to either leave or find a way to live with it. I get what you mean about trauma! But surely if you are in a relationship with someone you trust them completely, As they are supposed to be your safe place and security blanket.

It's not your partner's burden to carry you through your trauma. In my opinion, you should work up your issues before you seek out for a relationship. Everything else is just selfish."

Work on you mean? That is kind of obvious though. Lol

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By *elix85Man
over a year ago

Kings Lynn

No. I need kissing. It’s a fundamental part of foreplay. Just seems odd to me. I mean, if you’re prepared to swap other bodily fluids, why is salvia such a red line?

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By *elix85Man
over a year ago

Kings Lynn

Saliva, even.

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By *ansexualPandaMan
over a year ago

cumallover

I don't need kissing to enjoy sex but I do need kissing to enjoy an intimate relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe there's a trauma related reason.

Maybe they genuinely dislike kissing

Maybe the person who likes kissing has a problem they're unaware of.

If it's not possible to discuss this and find a compromise a person has to either leave or find a way to live with it. I get what you mean about trauma! But surely if you are in a relationship with someone you trust them completely, As they are supposed to be your safe place and security blanket. "

This

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By *aGaGagging for itCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

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By *aGaGagging for itCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

As always, there are 3 options:

1. Put up and shut up.

2. Change it (which requires 2 willing parties).

3. Bin it.

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By *r and Mrs SnogalotCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

What a relationship with “No kissing??”

As you might have guessed from our fab name that notion sounds abhorrent.

But…. There is always a but

You would have to find out the reasons why the person has opted for a no kissing rule with the relationship? Bad experience? Personal issue?

One that going into a relationship might be a red flag for you and then you can walk away! Mid way through a relationship you really have to sit down and discuss it together and find out the reasons why and then make an educated guess within that situation.

Mr S big sloppy snogs of a kiss ??

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"Unless there was a medical reason ( no, can’t think of one either!) then we would question why someon in a relationship would not be kissing their partner.."
I never used to kiss my partner's or anyone else for that matter. I had my reasons. I'm still hugely picky about when I will and who

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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago

London | Belfast


"Maybe there's a trauma related reason.

Maybe they genuinely dislike kissing

Maybe the person who likes kissing has a problem they're unaware of.

If it's not possible to discuss this and find a compromise a person has to either leave or find a way to live with it. I get what you mean about trauma! But surely if you are in a relationship with someone you trust them completely, As they are supposed to be your safe place and security blanket.

It's not your partner's burden to carry you through your trauma. In my opinion, you should work up your issues before you seek out for a relationship. Everything else is just selfish. Work on you mean? That is kind of obvious though. Lol"

I was commenting, not attacking. But yeah, work on yourself.

See, loads of women don't. They go around the world with obvious mental problems and think their partner just has to accept them the way they are, which is selfish but way too common.

Don't date before you feel good in your own skin. If you hve insecurities, find a man and have children, who do you think will suffer under your(not you personally, generally, don't want you to get this wrong again) mental disorders?

If you notice that you're not well mentally, don't be a burden to whoever you're dating.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Bad breath maybe

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle


"Maybe there's a trauma related reason.

Maybe they genuinely dislike kissing

Maybe the person who likes kissing has a problem they're unaware of.

If it's not possible to discuss this and find a compromise a person has to either leave or find a way to live with it. I get what you mean about trauma! But surely if you are in a relationship with someone you trust them completely, As they are supposed to be your safe place and security blanket.

It's not your partner's burden to carry you through your trauma. In my opinion, you should work up your issues before you seek out for a relationship. Everything else is just selfish. Work on you mean? That is kind of obvious though. Lol

I was commenting, not attacking. But yeah, work on yourself.

See, loads of women don't. They go around the world with obvious mental problems and think their partner just has to accept them the way they are, which is selfish but way too common.

Don't date before you feel good in your own skin. If you hve insecurities, find a man and have children, who do you think will suffer under your(not you personally, generally, don't want you to get this wrong again) mental disorders?

If you notice that you're not well mentally, don't be a burden to whoever you're dating."

Just because someone has mental health issues that doesn't make them a burden or unlovable. Lot's of people with health conditions whether it's physical or mental have healthy relationships. Maybe you need more compassion and understanding? It's selfish to expect someone to be perfect because everyone has flaws.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

20 odd years little intimacy and no kissing, now single I'm out to snog lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it entirely depends on the person and their reasons for not wanting to kiss/snog. If you/they love them, then it’s something to work on.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My best mate is autistic. He is unable to do kissing, cuddling with his Mrs.

Their sex life is almost entirely BDSM with him as dominant.

They have a whole room set up for it.

She just accepts it because he loves her and she loves him.

If she wants a cuddle and affection they have several dogs.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"My best mate is autistic. He is unable to do kissing, cuddling with his Mrs.

Their sex life is almost entirely BDSM with him as dominant.

They have a whole room set up for it.

She just accepts it because he loves her and she loves him.

If she wants a cuddle and affection they have several dogs.

"

There are many ways of being in a loving relationship aren't there.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"If you never kissed, it's not a relationship."
utter rubbish. I didn't kiss my first husband. We loved each other dearly. He accepted why I didn't. We showed affection in other ways

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By *amieLDN22Man
over a year ago

London

If I love a person deeply then there's nothing I wouldn't do and/or put up with. Remember a person can cheat on you one minute and kiss you goodnight the next. If your partner doesn't like kissing well....you find a way to work around that. Seems like she may have intimacy issues which you need explore. But if the sex is good then carry on pounding and rogering.

Kiss her other lips.

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By *weetkitten65Woman
over a year ago

Halifax

Noooooo

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah I wrote this post, because I have been in a kissless marriage for nearly 15 years now.and I accepted that she just doesn't like kissing! But if I'm honest, reading story's on here, and watching other people kiss and get off with one another. It's starting to get to me now! And I have realised that I really do miss it. I used to love kissing and getting it on, having a good snog, and then where it leads to afterwards. And now I'm not sure what I want to do about it?

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By *obbaukMan
over a year ago

Hitchin

Each to own. For me it’s essential, I can’t get into a groove otherwise

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By *ilverfox for youMan
over a year ago

Hull

More to the point no sex !!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Each to own. For me it’s essential, I can’t get into a groove otherwise "
that's how I was in the beginning mate, until I accepted it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"More to the point no sex !!!"
??

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By *adtaffladMan
over a year ago

Rhyl

No chance

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