FabSwingers.com forum: Realised I have a kink/fetish..

By *eyeY OP Couple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

Frankly I (Mr) have found I get extremely turned on by Y narrating or instructing during sex.

Narrative when I top, instructed when bottom when we feel it..

Now, this is not a Cuck, degradation, name calling scenario, but more encouraging and expressing how much what we're doing to/having done to us is turning us on and what we'd like to do next or potentially in the future (intentions/fantasies I guess)

One of the ultimate ones, being her watching (which she loves) with another whilst directing the action for her to enjoy.

Which being more the mentally aroused type seems to really push me over 'the edge'.

Question really is on trying to understand it better myself and impart the information to her as she wants to know, I have found little regards this, only Cuckold, Femdom, etc., and yes, there are elements of what I describe, but it's not quite that.

Common? Thoughts..

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By *ope_kisses22Couple
over a year ago

Hyde

I'm not quite sure what responses you're looking for here....

But if that's what you enjoy then go for it..... do you need to label or understand it to enjoy it?

Just do what feels good to you both

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By *eyeY OP Couple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

Hi and thanks for taking the time to respond!

Guess as guys we're stereotyped as the visual (excuse the expression 'Any Hole's a Goal') gender and little seems to cater for the more cerebral weirdos like me

Found the following articles which shed a little light on the dirty talk aspect, but not much on the desire to be directed by Y without the dominance/derogatory side..

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-myths-sex/202009/talk-dirty-me-the-psychology-dirty-talk

https://www.medicaldaily.com/science-dirty-talk-and-why-it-increases-sexual-pleasure-349854

We do enjoy this intensely and honestly don't need to label it.

I am just one of those who enjoys exploring things a little.

D x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like a lot of fun

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By *winging Sally SeanCouple
over a year ago

Warks / Northants Border

From reading the sentence below, I (Mr) am wondering whether you are over complicating what is simple 'pillow talk'?

"but more encouraging and expressing how much what we're doing to/having done to us is turning us on "

Surely most couples speak before, during and after sex? Saying what feels good, what turns them on, what they want to try next, etc.

Your example seems to be a slight deviation from that.

Have fun exploring it, and learning more about yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Common? Thoughts..

A "kink" is very different to a "fetish".

Kink = Something you find arousing that in general is not explicitly sexual by nature. The kink is something that adds to your otherwise general sex life.

Fetish = Something that is *required* for the person to be aroused or to achieve orgasm. Without the fetish aspect/object/whatever the person *can not* achieve orgasm.

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By *eyeY OP Couple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

"Common? Thoughts..

A "kink" is very different to a "fetish".

Kink = Something you find arousing that in general is not explicitly sexual by nature. The kink is something that adds to your otherwise general sex life.

Fetish = Something that is *required* for the person to be aroused or to achieve orgasm. Without the fetish aspect/object/whatever the person *can not* achieve orgasm."

Thank you. Was aware

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