FabSwingers.com forum: Erections problems

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm close to mid 60's years of age.

I masterbate a lot, too much but when it comes time to make love to my wife - I start off with my hand and then when I go in, as old not got the stamina and cant keep it hard. I then use a dildo.

Helen has no complains

My BP is normal says gp and not diabetic etc but lac excercise as lazy and dont want to try viagra etc as many negatives.

I also cant make Helen cum hard and I can tell she is not fulfilled but she disagrees.

We had a good sesion yesterday after interaction with a FS guy but dildo was used

So, Helen has not complained but I'm not happy

What would you do and how do you ensure your wife/GF etc climaxes - we are both over 60 years young and Helen is quiet fit and does try to help in the session via sturdy hip jolts.

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By *9Karm69Man
over a year ago

plymouth/chesterfield

Before you buy viagra from over the counter, talk to your doctor about it as viagra does not suit everyone as there's also Calis, again best prescribed

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By *otshot14Woman
over a year ago

nuneaton

Try a cock ring

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By *rozac_fairyCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Cock rings can be brilliant.

Also, viagra connect can be brilliant, Matt uses it on occasions where he wants to ensure he stays rock solid for a prolonged period of time, we consulted with our GP first before buying it though, made sure his bloods were good. I absolutely don't recommend anyone try anything such as viagra without doing so first.

You could also benefit from sexual therapy, Relate offer this at a reasonable rate. If Helen is saying she's happy and feels fulfilled, perhaps this is a hang up more for you? (Apologies if that offends). You can do therapy together or separately. If may help you feel more connected x

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By *uilder506Man
over a year ago

bognor

Just take a quarter of a 50 mm tablet.

Start small

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By *uttercup and BeauCouple
over a year ago

kent

I have a family member that works in a high street pharmacy. Who tells me There’s no need to go to your GP, if you prefer not to. You can have a consultation with a pharmacist in a lot of high street stores. They ask you several health and lifestyle questions. If they feel it’s safe for you to have it you can but it over the counter.

M hope you get things sorted OP x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you watch a lot of porn?

Do you use lube when masturbating?

Maybe you have desensitised yourself watching too much? As in what you see doesn't kick it as much?

Too much dry masturbating can be an issue too.... so much easier and faster to get off as you know exactly how to touch yourself and how much pressure you want.... it can cause sensitivity issues and you may well drop.

Ditch the porn a lay off the self gratification for a couple weeks...

See how you get on.

Blue pills do help however mirroring the above advice see your GP first.

Best of luck

Jay

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Try some core exercises bit like yoga

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

"Do you watch a lot of porn?

Do you use lube when masturbating?

Maybe you have desensitised yourself watching too much? As in what you see doesn't kick it as much?

Ditch the porn a lay off the self gratification for a couple weeks...

See how you get on.

Blue pills do help however mirroring the above advice see your GP first.

Best of luck

Jay "

Was going to say exactly that

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By *usie pTV/TS
over a year ago

taunton

Simples get off your butt and get some regular exercise it will work miracles, no pain no gain, be wary there are plenty of guys around willing to sweet talk your wife.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Morning all

A big thanks to all that have posted here as well of the several private messages

First of all I may try the cock ring, watch less porn and masturbate less and exercise.

Thanks again

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By *onnoisseur100Man
over a year ago

Woking-ish

"Just take a quarter of a 50 mm tablet.

Start small "

Not that small quarter of a 50mm tablet is still a half an inch! Lol..

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By *athers123Man
over a year ago

Harpenden

Try kegel exercise. Look them up on Google if you don't know what they are. No idea if it works to be honest, just trying them myself for a while.

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By *ongueFkYouMan
over a year ago

Bradford

Try delay spray with a viagra that will definitely work

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By *vgloryholebs16TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol.

"Just take a quarter of a 50 mm tablet.

Start small "

Good advice.

Several years ago I discovered Viagra and at that time they came in 3 strengths;

25 mg 50mg and 100mg.i started on the 25 as my dysfunction wasn't too bad, I have subsequently increased it to 50mg as I got older.

Someone recently told me that a black one is available 200mg keeps you hard for 3 days ( no thank you lol).

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By *ongueFkYouMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"Just take a quarter of a 50 mm tablet.

Start small

Good advice.

Several years ago I discovered Viagra and at that time they came in 3 strengths;

25 mg 50mg and 100mg.i started on the 25 as my dysfunction wasn't too bad, I have subsequently increased it to 50mg as I got older.

Someone recently told me that a black one is available 200mg keeps you hard for 3 days ( no thank you lol).

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never seen a black one I have the red one that is really good I only have half to start with

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By *ilthy couple 111Couple
over a year ago

boston

"Simples get off your butt and get some regular exercise it will work miracles, no pain no gain, be wary there are plenty of guys around willing to sweet talk your wife."

prick

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By *orthmanMan
over a year ago

Kendal

Exercise really helps. In my late fifties I was 94kg, pretty inactive and my sex drive was so so. I am now 61 and weigh 77 kg (lighter than when my profile pics were taken), do 500 reps a day and run 7 km every other day. My sex drive is much higher, my erections are harder and I walk around with a nice full feeling down below for large parts of the day.

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By *oroMale41Man
over a year ago

Stockton on tees

Try to stick to edging and don't masterbate to completion

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By *icosaurvoMan
over a year ago

Church Crookham

I’ve used a cock ring in a house party they’re not bad but I wouldn’t like to relay on it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

edging, may try but i feel i will just shoot my load quicker next time

all helpful, will send of for cock ring and excercise as i recall from years ago ret home from 12 hour days at work, i did a bit of dumble excercises and in the shower got a rock hard cock and wanked and still manged the wife those night up to two times but i was much younger, but excerise is good

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By *herubchubWoman
over a year ago

Nr the sea

Definitely quit the porn and masturbation!

Get yourself a copy of a book called The Porn Trap.

I like porn before anyone thinks I’m vilifying it!

But used to excess it can be a very bad road! My Ex did and it led to lots of problems!

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By *rodigalMan
over a year ago

sunderland

Change positions every so often talk dirty anything that floats your boat and good luck

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By *ippa 63TV/TS
over a year ago

St Helens

Have you tried a penis pump.

Doesn't make you any bigger but gets more blood in your penis making your erection harder.

Try it with a cock ring as this will make it last longer.

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By *aGaGagging for itCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Don't be afraid to discuss it with your GP and its more common than you think.

As well as some of the good advice that's been given, there are a number of options. If its just viagra / sildenafil that you've heard negative things about, maybe consider some of the other similar medications, e.g. cialis / tadalafil that have different effects, but also work well.

Try Eroxon from boots. As it is not medication, it doesn't need a prescription, so xan be bought online. It's a gel that cools then warms the penis, causing an erection and is reckoned to be effective.

There are other gels and pellets on prescription, e.g Muse, as well as injections (caverject, invicorp, viridal, etc). These are nowhere near as scary to inject as you might think and are extremely effective (and may be too effective for you if you can get an erection yourself). Good luck.

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