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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I don’t seem to be getting any attention why is this

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By *amnaughtybutniceWoman
over a year ago

tf1

Probably because of your age but also it’s tough for single guys. There are so many more guys that women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're an attractive guy and there are people looking for attractive guys in their 20s, but there's no information about what you have to offer. It's not necessarily the reason (I've met someone with a sparse profile), but you may have more joy with a few more lines in your profile. Or you might not! It's luck of the draw, who is active and near you and wants to meet someone at the same time as you.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow


"I don’t seem to be getting any attention why is this "

Are you just sitting there waiting for attention? (especially regarding your meet today) Or are you proactively out looking for people that might possibly match? Short-term meet today's rarely work especially when you can't accommodate.

If you are free today perhaps just have a search to see if an organised social nearby or perhaps go to a club.

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By *oyahandrussCouple
over a year ago

Nr Rugby

It is hard you have to put in the work socials go to clubs try and get to know people it's all about communication first.

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By *umagain58Man
over a year ago

London

Agree can be hard work but if put in effort some fun to have. Always be respectful and talk about what might like or not. You won’t be for all but as others as said you might attract some. If you do go slow and don’t expect them to jump into bed with you. Sometimes the chemistry works but lot of time not. Keep going and hope works out for you soon.

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By *amLaraCroftWoman
over a year ago

London


"I don’t seem to be getting any attention why is this "

Your profile summary could be longer xx

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By *amLaraCroftWoman
over a year ago

London


"I don’t seem to be getting any attention why is this "

I would meet you if you travel to London or Watford

Check out my verifications xx

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Your pictures are decent. Your profile text could be better - tell people more about you and why you might be interesting to them.

Your age will work against you.

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

As harsh as it sounds, there are -thousands- of profiles just like yours on this site. Should you be getting attention? Why? ….

If you have the answer, pop it in your bio and see if it works.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

You need to bring attention to gain attention

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go to clubs. Not for sex but to meet people. Become part of the scene. Get some veris and women will find you. It’s not a case of get a profile on fab and that’s enough. If this site wasn’t worth the effort then neither would the reward

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Your profile doesn't really say anything about you or what your looking for.

The age maybe off-putting for some too.

There are absolutely tons of single men you need to make yourself stand out.

Effort goes a long way.

Mrs

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By *onsShlongMan
over a year ago

bury

You're a fish in a very big pond mate. Don't get discouraged though, spice up your bio, maybe visit a club?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I will meet you

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Profile says nothing and pics are repetitive.

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
over a year ago

South West London

It takes time but eventually once you do get a meet you should be fine

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By *ragon007Man
over a year ago

london


"I don’t seem to be getting any attention why is this "

Million dollar question lol if you find the answer you will be rich quick lol

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By *orny-DJMan
over a year ago

Leigh-on-Sea

What were your expectations on joining the site?

Did you think, for instance, that all you needed to do was to pop a single sentence on your profile, upload a few pictures and then sit back and wait for the offers to roll in?

Your profile says nothing about you. Nothing about what you're looking for or what you bring to the table.

Are you messaging others or hoping they'll find you?

Men outnumber the ladies by around 100 to 1 - or more, and many chaps are proactively messaging others - some with greater success than others - to build up a rapport with others in the hope that a meet might come out of it.

Effort in = rewards out

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

because hot young men are 2 a penny or should i say 100 a penny on here and by far the easiest meets to get if your a woman or couple ...

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset


"

Effort in = rewards out"

in a way this but it dont matter how much effort you put in if no one fancies you after all attraction of sorts in key

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Try going to clubs and meet people in person. Many people don’t come over well on a profile but are lovely in person.

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By *orny-DJMan
over a year ago

Leigh-on-Sea


"

Effort in = rewards out

in a way this but it dont matter how much effort you put in if no one fancies you after all attraction of sorts in key"

Absolutely spot on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t seem to be getting any attention why is this "

Doesn't say anything interesting about you. Read other profiles like mine

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By *nkforthekinkMan
over a year ago

london/fareham/brighton

Don’t give up! Keep messaging!

Don’t send dick pics! There are to many men tooo many many men on here! Think we outnumber women and couples by about 1000/1 try to stand out from the sausage party!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t seem to be getting any attention why is this "

You probably will now you've done one of the many "look at my profile" posts on here...and more than likely it'll be men that check you out.

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By *melie LALWoman
52 weeks ago

Peterborough

You've learned nothing

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By *layfullsamMan
52 weeks ago

Solihull

Green arrow of truth tells all

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By *orny-DJMan
52 weeks ago

Leigh-on-Sea

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By *CBoyTV/TS
51 weeks ago

Tonypandy


"I don’t seem to be getting any attention why is this "

Ha ha ha. You may as well ask why you've not won the Lottery. You have a very vague profile with no real information about yourself and what YOU have to offer your potential partners. To paraphrase JFK....ask not what others can do for you but tell them what you can do for them.

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By *iner69erMan
51 weeks ago

inverness


"I don’t seem to be getting any attention why is this "
because you have very little chance on here.

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By *iner69erMan
51 weeks ago

inverness


"It takes time but eventually once you do get a meet you should be fine"
well,it took me 7 years to get a meet and that was 2015, there's been nothing since, so I'm certainly not fine

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By *ony8907Man
51 weeks ago

whitehaven

Iam front northwest cumbria whitehaven.. not getting any attention any solution please

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By *litterbabeWoman
51 weeks ago

hiding from cock pics.


"I don’t seem to be getting any attention why is this "

There is literally a few words on your profile, no way of feeling any kind of connection or shared interests.

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By *acavityMan
51 weeks ago

Redditch

Why is the footballer not paying attention to my advice.

I was at a premier league match the other day, and was shouting advice to my team. They totally ignored me...

Imagine that the supporters are single men, and the players are single women

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By *penbicoupleCouple
51 weeks ago

Northampton


"I don’t seem to be getting any attention why is this "

Why should you be getting any attention?

Plus, your profile is basically empty.

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By *penbicoupleCouple
51 weeks ago

Northampton


"Iam front northwest cumbria whitehaven.. not getting any attention any solution please"

Start your own thread, instead of hijacking someone else's.

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By (user no longer on site)
51 weeks ago

Did you not get the answer in your other three posts from 3 weeks ago, 9 weeks ago or 11 weeks ago when you put up a very similar post..?!

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By (user no longer on site)
51 weeks ago


"Iam front northwest cumbria whitehaven.. not getting any attention any solution please

Start your own thread, instead of hijacking someone else's."

You tell ‘em..lol

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By (user no longer on site)
51 weeks ago


"I don’t seem to be getting any attention why is this "

Imagine fab is like being in a nightclub at 4am.... it's a sausage fest with about 3 girls left and 200 men who are all trying to get laid lol

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By (user no longer on site)
51 weeks ago


"Probably because of your age but also it’s tough for single guys. There are so many more guys that women. "

Well said ,may say fantastic pics .Wish you Merry Christmas and all the best new year xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
51 weeks ago


"As harsh as it sounds, there are -thousands- of profiles just like yours on this site. Should you be getting attention? Why? ….

If you have the answer, pop it in your bio and see if it works. "

This sums the site up, you've got a middle age curvy women talking down to a decent looking chap in his twenties

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By (user no longer on site)
51 weeks ago


"As harsh as it sounds, there are -thousands- of profiles just like yours on this site. Should you be getting attention? Why? ….

If you have the answer, pop it in your bio and see if it works.

This sums the site up, you've got a middle age curvy women talking down to a decent looking chap in his twenties"

Actually it sums the entitled view of the women on the forums anyway

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By *hagTonightMan
51 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

The best way is clubs and socials

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By *iss DevilWoman
51 weeks ago

Bedford


"As harsh as it sounds, there are -thousands- of profiles just like yours on this site. Should you be getting attention? Why? ….

If you have the answer, pop it in your bio and see if it works.

This sums the site up, you've got a middle age curvy women talking down to a decent looking chap in his twenties

Actually it sums the entitled view of the women on the forums anyway "

Yes, we are entitled to respect, to having ability to exercise our choice of play partners and to not be expected to open our legs for just any man on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
51 weeks ago


"As harsh as it sounds, there are -thousands- of profiles just like yours on this site. Should you be getting attention? Why? ….

If you have the answer, pop it in your bio and see if it works.

This sums the site up, you've got a middle age curvy women talking down to a decent looking chap in his twenties

Actually it sums the entitled view of the women on the forums anyway

Yes, we are entitled to respect, to having ability to exercise our choice of play partners and to not be expected to open our legs for just any man on here. "

Did anyway say just open your legs lol

Love how dismiss OP as "any old man"

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By *alcon43Woman
51 weeks ago

Paisley

I think it’s the guys who are feeling ‘entitled’ with their ‘poor me’ posts.

We’re here for our pleasure, not to service the guys on here. What makes guys think we’re going to fall at their feet and be grateful for any attention they give us?

Women are quite capable of making their own decisions about who they meet and what they do with their bodies. We are not beholden to the men of Fab for anything.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
51 weeks ago

Carlisle usually


"Love how dismiss OP as "any old man" "

As far as I'm concerned, anyone without what I consider relevant information available about them is just any old man.

Apart from those with standout looks it's not normal to get attention just for existing in the general vicinity. It's about what people do and say

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By (user no longer on site)
51 weeks ago


"I think it’s the guys who are feeling ‘entitled’ with their ‘poor me’ posts.

We’re here for our pleasure, not to service the guys on here. What makes guys think we’re going to fall at their feet and be grateful for any attention they give us?

Women are quite capable of making their own decisions about who they meet and what they do with their bodies. We are not beholden to the men of Fab for anything. "

Your resentment of the men of fab is clear for all to see

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By *mall.sausageMan
51 weeks ago

Rochdale

Op i dont get any on here either lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
51 weeks ago


"I think it’s the guys who are feeling ‘entitled’ with their ‘poor me’ posts.

We’re here for our pleasure, not to service the guys on here. What makes guys think we’re going to fall at their feet and be grateful for any attention they give us?

Women are quite capable of making their own decisions about who they meet and what they do with their bodies. We are not beholden to the men of Fab for anything. "

That's fine, but the tone of the origin post was very condescending.

Oh there's 1000s of plebs like you...we get so many messages don't you know. What makes you think you're so special

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By (user no longer on site)
51 weeks ago


"I think it’s the guys who are feeling ‘entitled’ with their ‘poor me’ posts.

We’re here for our pleasure, not to service the guys on here. What makes guys think we’re going to fall at their feet and be grateful for any attention they give us?

Women are quite capable of making their own decisions about who they meet and what they do with their bodies. We are not beholden to the men of Fab for anything.

That's fine, but the tone of the origin post was very condescending.

Oh there's 1000s of plebs like you...we get so many messages don't you know. What makes you think you're so special "

Original *

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By (user no longer on site)
51 weeks ago


"Op i dont get any on here either lol. "

In fairness, flashing you're flacid penis doesn't deserve anything

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By *electableicecreamMan
51 weeks ago

The West

I like the football analogy above because there are so many own goals by men in this thread.

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By *ickey ThumbWoman
51 weeks ago

South Down


"As harsh as it sounds, there are -thousands- of profiles just like yours on this site. Should you be getting attention? Why? ….

If you have the answer, pop it in your bio and see if it works.

This sums the site up, you've got a middle age curvy women talking down to a decent looking chap in his twenties"

Talking down? Fairly solid and friendly advice I think. And why does the lady's age and body shape preclude her from giving advice?

After all, the decent looking chap in his twenties has been asking the same question for almost 6 months without ever making a change to his profile...

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By *assy LassieWoman
51 weeks ago

Lanarkshire


"I think it’s the guys who are feeling ‘entitled’ with their ‘poor me’ posts.

We’re here for our pleasure, not to service the guys on here. What makes guys think we’re going to fall at their feet and be grateful for any attention they give us?

Women are quite capable of making their own decisions about who they meet and what they do with their bodies. We are not beholden to the men of Fab for anything.

Your resentment of the men of fab is clear for all to see "

Resentment of men. More like respect for ourselves towards entitled men who think the little women should put up and shut up. It's 2023 not 1950.

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By *entleman of FortuneMan
51 weeks ago

Hull

What do guys expect when joining FAB, it's harder on here than in real non fab world for single guys, but lots after getting no action after a few months get bitter, which gets you even less. Go to socials expect nothing be respectful and funny if you can and you'll get meets, but it takes time.

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By *alleyDaveMan
50 weeks ago

Sheffield


"The best way is clubs and socials "

Not this old chestnut again .??????

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By *elkieWoman
50 weeks ago

Durham

I mean, in this thread you’ve had one bloke whinging about the suggestion he should go to a club, one bloke calling women entitled and one bloke trying to make someone else’s thread all about him. The reality is that most sane women are going to stop looking on here rather than keep any hope of finding a fuckable man.

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By *ikesEmBigMan
50 weeks ago

Herts


"I don’t seem to be getting any attention why is this "

Because I'm the competition obviously

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By *melie LALWoman
50 weeks ago

Peterborough


"I don’t seem to be getting any attention why is this

Because I'm the competition obviously "

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By *melie LALWoman
50 weeks ago

Peterborough


"I mean, in this thread you’ve had one bloke whinging about the suggestion he should go to a club, one bloke calling women entitled and one bloke trying to make someone else’s thread all about him. The reality is that most sane women are going to stop looking on here rather than keep any hope of finding a fuckable man. "

I live in hope but then I don't relate to "most sane women"

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By *ere to please2023Man
50 weeks ago

Shrewsbury


"I don’t seem to be getting any attention why is this "

Just look in any of the cam rooms at the ratio of M to F.

There’s your answer. Fab is a sausage fest.

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

I think we just have patient on here and just keep putting in the effort, definitely a difficult site to be noticed.

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By *penbicoupleCouple
50 weeks ago

Northampton


"After all, the decent looking chap in his twenties has been asking the same question for almost 6 months without ever making a change to his profile..."

Be fair, it's only 3 months

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
50 weeks ago

South West London

I know one of the reasons why Im not getting much attention is because Im not attractive to 99% of the women here

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By *ixiekissesWoman
50 weeks ago

Happy place

When they can't even carry on messaging for more than a few exchanges what do they expect!

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By *ensible lady 1960Woman
50 weeks ago

Near Bishop Auckland.

meaby those intrested are too far away from you.

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By *viatrixWoman
50 weeks ago

Redhill

I like young guys, but your look is too casual for me, I’m afraid!

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By *astlincscoupleCouple
50 weeks ago

Tinsel Town


"The best way is clubs and socials

Not this old chestnut again .??????"

But it's true.

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

I get no attention because I'm old with a little cock...hey ho.

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By *naswingdressWoman
50 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"The best way is clubs and socials

Not this old chestnut again .??????"

It's the lowest bar to admission. Proving that you can go somewhere in public and behave yourself, and that you are vaguely who you say you are.

It's not "you must be a club or organised social person", it's "it's much easier to get into this stuff and prove you're not a psychopath, which might make one on one meets easier in the future"

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By *edWitch0000Woman
50 weeks ago

worthing


"As harsh as it sounds, there are -thousands- of profiles just like yours on this site. Should you be getting attention? Why? ….

If you have the answer, pop it in your bio and see if it works.

This sums the site up, you've got a middle age curvy women talking down to a decent looking chap in his twenties"

Some men REALLY resent that fab switches the real world dynamics and gives women all the power. We can see how you really feel about the women of fab too matey. Not attractive!

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By *electableicecreamMan
50 weeks ago

The West


"The best way is clubs and socials

Not this old chestnut again .??????"

I thought you were abstaining from the negative posting?

You might not like it but it is true.

Men who go to socials will fair better every time.

One of the reasons they fair better is most men won't go to socials.

On fab you to compete with thousands and thousands of men on

Imagine turning up to a social with 50 attendees and theres seven single men.

That was my experience. It's not hard to do the math.

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By *naswingdressWoman
50 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"As harsh as it sounds, there are -thousands- of profiles just like yours on this site. Should you be getting attention? Why? ….

If you have the answer, pop it in your bio and see if it works.

This sums the site up, you've got a middle age curvy women talking down to a decent looking chap in his twenties

Some men REALLY resent that fab switches the real world dynamics and gives women all the power. We can see how you really feel about the women of fab too matey. Not attractive! "

Yes. It's refreshing, and honestly a bit of fun.

Oh, does being on the bad side of a power dynamic suck? Huh. How about that. Who knew?

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By *xl PoseMan
50 weeks ago

West Lothian

Cause there's 20 women on here & 10,000 men mate, unfortunately.

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By *melie LALWoman
50 weeks ago

Peterborough


"As harsh as it sounds, there are -thousands- of profiles just like yours on this site. Should you be getting attention? Why? ….

If you have the answer, pop it in your bio and see if it works.

This sums the site up, you've got a middle age curvy women talking down to a decent looking chap in his twenties

Some men REALLY resent that fab switches the real world dynamics and gives women all the power. We can see how you really feel about the women of fab too matey. Not attractive! "

Girl power

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By *viatrixWoman
50 weeks ago

Redhill


"As harsh as it sounds, there are -thousands- of profiles just like yours on this site. Should you be getting attention? Why? ….

If you have the answer, pop it in your bio and see if it works.

This sums the site up, you've got a middle age curvy women talking down to a decent looking chap in his twenties

Some men REALLY resent that fab switches the real world dynamics and gives women all the power. We can see how you really feel about the women of fab too matey. Not attractive! "

So unattractive that all he’ll have is Palm and his 5 friends night after night.

LOOOOL how did I miss that response?? Hahaha!

It does sum this site up, yes. I snap my fingers- boom. Drowning in hot, gorgeous, young cock.

Shame it doesn’t work the same for you my dear…

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By *viatrixWoman
50 weeks ago

Redhill


"As harsh as it sounds, there are -thousands- of profiles just like yours on this site. Should you be getting attention? Why? ….

If you have the answer, pop it in your bio and see if it works.

This sums the site up, you've got a middle age curvy women talking down to a decent looking chap in his twenties

Some men REALLY resent that fab switches the real world dynamics and gives women all the power. We can see how you really feel about the women of fab too matey. Not attractive!

Girl power "

Totally!

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By *obertjMan
50 weeks ago

Birmingham

Hang in there and be patient. It will come

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By *moothCriminal_xMan
50 weeks ago

Redditch


"As harsh as it sounds, there are -thousands- of profiles just like yours on this site. Should you be getting attention? Why? ….

If you have the answer, pop it in your bio and see if it works.

This sums the site up, you've got a middle age curvy women talking down to a decent looking chap in his twenties

Some men REALLY resent that fab switches the real world dynamics and gives women all the power. We can see how you really feel about the women of fab too matey. Not attractive! "

If you think men have any power in the real world when it comes to mate selection then that's hilarious. Clearly this site simply echoes the real world. 85% of women competing for the top few % of the men and are perfectly hapoy to ignore the rest.

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

Yeah it’s hard work ain’t it lol

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By *oxy jWoman
50 weeks ago

somerset

if no one wants to meet you then theres nothing you can do yes you can go to a club or social but the odds are not much difference if no one wants to chat because theirs nothing there then what can you do ... couples and women need sexual attraction at the very least and its not the only thing ...

its so easy for me i have the love of my life this is purely sexual and social where i get to have fun with those im sexually attracted to and not those im not .... if 99.9 % of men left the scene tomorrow there would still be to many % wise compared to couples and women ..

swinging is a lifestyle where fun can be had it not a lifestyle where men get free sex ...

if you guys think couples and women have it easy well they dont think of all the rubbish they have to daily work thru .. i think only those that have been on the scene along time find it easy with knowhow and little black books and the underground scene thats getting more and more underground again

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
50 weeks ago

South West London

Single men should never go to swinging clubs on their own. Should try and go with someone or get charged top dollar entrance fee

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By *assy LassieWoman
50 weeks ago

Lanarkshire


"Hang in there and be patient. It will come"

Bad advice. For some it may never come.

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By *Normal1Man
50 weeks ago

Stoke


"As harsh as it sounds, there are -thousands- of profiles just like yours on this site. Should you be getting attention? Why? ….

If you have the answer, pop it in your bio and see if it works.

This sums the site up, you've got a middle age curvy women talking down to a decent looking chap in his twenties

Some men REALLY resent that fab switches the real world dynamics and gives women all the power. We can see how you really feel about the women of fab too matey. Not attractive!

If you think men have any power in the real world when it comes to mate selection then that's hilarious. Clearly this site simply echoes the real world. 85% of women competing for the top few % of the men and are perfectly hapoy to ignore the rest."

Magnified infact

But well said

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

You have put no effort into your description that’s y

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By *iscreetfuncpl12Couple
50 weeks ago

Somerset


"As harsh as it sounds, there are -thousands- of profiles just like yours on this site. Should you be getting attention? Why? ….

If you have the answer, pop it in your bio and see if it works.

This sums the site up, you've got a middle age curvy women talking down to a decent looking chap in his twenties

Some men REALLY resent that fab switches the real world dynamics and gives women all the power. We can see how you really feel about the women of fab too matey. Not attractive!

If you think men have any power in the real world when it comes to mate selection then that's hilarious. Clearly this site simply echoes the real world. 85% of women competing for the top few % of the men and are perfectly hapoy to ignore the rest."
So, 85% of women are ignoring 95|% of men? How come everyone I know is part of a couple with a woman bar those that are gay and male?

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By *aughtyNaughtyCouple69Couple
50 weeks ago

Suffolk

Because you look like chav?

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By *enSiskoMan
50 weeks ago

Cestus 3


"As harsh as it sounds, there are -thousands- of profiles just like yours on this site. Should you be getting attention? Why? ….

If you have the answer, pop it in your bio and see if it works.

This sums the site up, you've got a middle age curvy women talking down to a decent looking chap in his twenties

Some men REALLY resent that fab switches the real world dynamics and gives women all the power. We can see how you really feel about the women of fab too matey. Not attractive!

If you think men have any power in the real world when it comes to mate selection then that's hilarious. Clearly this site simply echoes the real world. 85% of women competing for the top few % of the men and are perfectly hapoy to ignore the rest."

I know that is not true, the real world is better much better for me anyway so much better ive hidden my profile and just use the forums to pass time when I am not busy.

no need to pay the single guy fee, no need to go to socials as I just simply walked through my door and met people.

my advise do not put your knobs in one fab basket, get out and live your life, or hang around here and compete with other guys, who have their mails ignored, blocked on a site you pay for and just ridiculed.

Stop entitling others who wouldn't get a second look in real life, entitle yourself by having some worth to get worth you need to find worth in others and you will not get that here.

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By *edWitch0000Woman
50 weeks ago

worthing


"As harsh as it sounds, there are -thousands- of profiles just like yours on this site. Should you be getting attention? Why? ….

If you have the answer, pop it in your bio and see if it works.

This sums the site up, you've got a middle age curvy women talking down to a decent looking chap in his twenties

Some men REALLY resent that fab switches the real world dynamics and gives women all the power. We can see how you really feel about the women of fab too matey. Not attractive!

If you think men have any power in the real world when it comes to mate selection then that's hilarious. Clearly this site simply echoes the real world. 85% of women competing for the top few % of the men and are perfectly hapoy to ignore the rest."

When I refer to power dynamics IRL I'm not only talking about choice of sexual partners! Also you're sounding kinda inc*lly there

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By *edWitch0000Woman
50 weeks ago

worthing


"Stop entitling others who wouldn't get a second look in real life, entitle yourself by having some worth to get worth you need to find worth in others and you will not get that here.

"

It's great when men post stuff in the forums that shows women what they really think about us. Resentment drips.

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By *enSiskoMan
50 weeks ago

Cestus 3


"As harsh as it sounds, there are -thousands- of profiles just like yours on this site. Should you be getting attention? Why? ….

If you have the answer, pop it in your bio and see if it works.

This sums the site up, you've got a middle age curvy women talking down to a decent looking chap in his twenties

Some men REALLY resent that fab switches the real world dynamics and gives women all the power. We can see how you really feel about the women of fab too matey. Not attractive!

If you think men have any power in the real world when it comes to mate selection then that's hilarious. Clearly this site simply echoes the real world. 85% of women competing for the top few % of the men and are perfectly hapoy to ignore the rest.

When I refer to power dynamics IRL I'm not only talking about choice of sexual partners! Also you're sounding kinda inc*lly there "

My profile shows the level of interest I have in this site,

Plus I do not care what you think of me as you do not or ever will know me.

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By *eresa_cdslutTV/TS
50 weeks ago

Bodmin

Yawning

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By *penbicoupleCouple
50 weeks ago

Northampton


"If you think men have any power in the real world when it comes to mate selection then that's hilarious. Clearly this site simply echoes the real world. 85% of women competing for the top few % of the men and are perfectly hapoy to ignore the rest."

But shouldn't women 'ignore' (to use your word) men they don't like? You can't seriously be suggesting that these women are obliged to pay attention to a guy they're not interested in?

Other things to consider - when it comes to 'mate selection' next time you're out on the town, take a look at the amount of effort each gender puts into it. Sometimes, Alice and I go out for a drink or meal and see couples out on a date. It's shocking how often then woman has clearly taken hours to look good and they guy, well, hasn't.

Also, what you call 'power' in mate selection' may simply be standards.

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By *livepalmWoman
50 weeks ago

Town


"I don’t seem to be getting any attention why is this "

I get the impression it’s tough for single guys and I think it’s getting harder as more men join the site. When I’m not online now I hide my profile or I come back to over a hundred messages in 12 hours. Almost all being from single men

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By *helovesitwetCouple
50 weeks ago

brighton


"I don’t seem to be getting any attention why is this "
because you have lied on your profile .you say you are straight .what straight man in his right mind would meet or want to meet a tvs .basically a man with a cock wearing women's knickers

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By *livepalmWoman
50 weeks ago

Town

For the single men.

Try not to take it too personally. I have just done two searches on the site:

Searching for a woman within 5 miles: 28 results

Searching for a man within 5 miles: 300+ results, so the search was maxed out

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By *livepalmWoman
50 weeks ago

Town


"I don’t seem to be getting any attention why is this because you have lied on your profile .you say you are straight .what straight man in his right mind would meet or want to meet a tvs .basically a man with a cock wearing women's knickers "

I’ve been on and off her for a few years and met a few people over that time.

I’ve met more than a few straight men through fab that I would have never thought would meet a CD/TV but after a few years or months they have. I think because there’s so many females and it’s hard to get a meet they start looking at CD/TV and meet them. I have discussed this with a few friends and it’s been discussed at clubs a few times.

Someone said it’s like Cannibalism, in a survival situation you will eat your own.

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago


"I don’t seem to be getting any attention why is this because you have lied on your profile .you say you are straight .what straight man in his right mind would meet or want to meet a tvs .basically a man with a cock wearing women's knickers

I’ve been on and off her for a few years and met a few people over that time.

I’ve met more than a few straight men through fab that I would have never thought would meet a CD/TV but after a few years or months they have. I think because there’s so many females and it’s hard to get a meet they start looking at CD/TV and meet them. I have discussed this with a few friends and it’s been discussed at clubs a few times.

Someone said it’s like Cannibalism, in a survival situation you will eat your own."

What a truly awful thing to say. So what people are saying is that they will change their sexuality just to get a fuck.

Wow

Or they see CD/TV (as you’ve put it) as being a second best option to a female.

Wow

And sex is seen as cannibalism and in survival you’ll eat your own.

Honestly no words. That people think that sex is so important.

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By *layfulguy123Man
50 weeks ago

strat

I would defo meet you :p

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By *hropshireGentMan
50 weeks ago

Shropshire


"I don’t seem to be getting any attention why is this because you have lied on your profile .you say you are straight .what straight man in his right mind would meet or want to meet a tvs .basically a man with a cock wearing women's knickers

I’ve been on and off her for a few years and met a few people over that time.

I’ve met more than a few straight men through fab that I would have never thought would meet a CD/TV but after a few years or months they have. I think because there’s so many females and it’s hard to get a meet they start looking at CD/TV and meet them. I have discussed this with a few friends and it’s been discussed at clubs a few times.

Someone said it’s like Cannibalism, in a survival situation you will eat your own."

I can relate to that!! I often get messages from men with profiles that say “straight” asking me to meet.

It makes me wonder how many men actually have met people other than what it shows on the verification summary.

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago


"I don’t seem to be getting any attention why is this because you have lied on your profile .you say you are straight .what straight man in his right mind would meet or want to meet a tvs .basically a man with a cock wearing women's knickers

I’ve been on and off her for a few years and met a few people over that time.

I’ve met more than a few straight men through fab that I would have never thought would meet a CD/TV but after a few years or months they have. I think because there’s so many females and it’s hard to get a meet they start looking at CD/TV and meet them. I have discussed this with a few friends and it’s been discussed at clubs a few times.

Someone said it’s like Cannibalism, in a survival situation you will eat your own."

This would be the same men who will try to meet any woman, regardless of whether they actually find them attractive. If you’re going to be reductionist like this, do it properly.

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By *glyBettyTV/TS
50 weeks ago

About 3 feet away from the fence


"What a truly awful thing to say. So what people are saying is that they will change their sexuality just to get a fuck.

Wow

Or they see CD/TV (as you’ve put it) as being a second best option to a female.

Wow"

I don't know why TVs were randomly brought into this lol but what I will say is that I don't think the men in question see it as they're "changing their sexuality", more of a case of "every holes a goal".

This will sound harsh but basing it off what I've been told, some men say that after months of getting rejected by "300lb women in their 40s with a huge list of demands", they start to think well this tranny over there looks in great shape & dead game for a bit of dick, and it then becomes a more attractive proposition to them...

Certainly some of the men who message me do very much see CD/TVs as being a 3rd rate option, and it's obvious by the lack of effort they put into their communication. It does make me wonder exactly how much effort they were putting into meeting women in the first place, however.

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By *imisugarWoman
50 weeks ago

Rugby


"What a truly awful thing to say. So what people are saying is that they will change their sexuality just to get a fuck.

Wow

Or they see CD/TV (as you’ve put it) as being a second best option to a female.

Wow

I don't know why TVs were randomly brought into this lol but what I will say is that I don't think the men in question see it as they're "changing their sexuality", more of a case of "every holes a goal".

This will sound harsh but basing it off what I've been told, some men say that after months of getting rejected by "300lb women in their 40s with a huge list of demands", they start to think well this tranny over there looks in great shape & dead game for a bit of dick, and it then becomes a more attractive proposition to them...

Certainly some of the men who message me do very much see CD/TVs as being a 3rd rate option, and it's obvious by the lack of effort they put into their communication. It does make me wonder exactly how much effort they were putting into meeting women in the first place, however. "

Morning - that's a really interesting viewpoint and I've found it interesting to read this perspective. I've spoken to a few friends about the messages I've received, genuinely curious if they approach works (I block as I don't want to engage with it).

I do find some profiles lack much information/effort. Similar to getting winks from profiles with no pictures at all or friends only. Can't engage with it as I don't know what I would be replying to.

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago


"What a truly awful thing to say. So what people are saying is that they will change their sexuality just to get a fuck.

Wow

Or they see CD/TV (as you’ve put it) as being a second best option to a female.

Wow

I don't know why TVs were randomly brought into this lol but what I will say is that I don't think the men in question see it as they're "changing their sexuality", more of a case of "every holes a goal".

This will sound harsh but basing it off what I've been told, some men say that after months of getting rejected by "300lb women in their 40s with a huge list of demands", they start to think well this tranny over there looks in great shape & dead game for a bit of dick, and it then becomes a more attractive proposition to them...

Certainly some of the men who message me do very much see CD/TVs as being a 3rd rate option, and it's obvious by the lack of effort they put into their communication. It does make me wonder exactly how much effort they were putting into meeting women in the first place, however. "

I can only speak for me but if it ever became that “any hole is a goal” then I’d much rather visit a sex worker.

We seem to get that people have feelings, and messing with those feelings is not nice, by sleeping with anyone and giving the “patter” you may well do to get them in to bed seems wrong to me.

Just be honest. Whether a one off or more. Be honest with intent. And if you do have the any hole is a goal mentality let them know

Just my thoughts

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By *glyBettyTV/TS
50 weeks ago

About 3 feet away from the fence


"Morning - that's a really interesting viewpoint and I've found it interesting to read this perspective. I've spoken to a few friends about the messages I've received, genuinely curious if they approach works (I block as I don't want to engage with it).

I do find some profiles lack much information/effort. Similar to getting winks from profiles with no pictures at all or friends only. Can't engage with it as I don't know what I would be replying to. "

For me personally no, their approach doesn't work on me. I'll only meet men at clubs.

It clearly says in my profile I only meet at clubs but still I'll get a dick pic or a random disembodied head with "Wuu2" or "come mine" at like 1am from some of these guys. They don't even do me the courtesy of reading profile.

I can't speak for how well that works with other CD/TVs but I think they must be getting some success somewhere if they keep doing it..

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By *glyBettyTV/TS
50 weeks ago

About 3 feet away from the fence


"I can only speak for me but if it ever became that “any hole is a goal” then I’d much rather visit a sex worker. "

I get that. I'm only going off what a few men have directly said to me. Obviously not all men would choose a TV over a woman. I felt the guys who said they thought some CD/TVs looked hotter than the women they were being rejected by were being honest with me, though.

Only just now I saw the comment that brought TVs into the topic. Well if OP has that as one of his preferences then I guess it's going to put some women off.

Someone should tell that lady that this is fabswingers & between the trannies, cucks & pegging enthusiasts practically no straight men exist on this platform loool*

*(it's a joke I don't want no DMs ffs )

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By *imisugarWoman
50 weeks ago

Rugby


"Morning - that's a really interesting viewpoint and I've found it interesting to read this perspective. I've spoken to a few friends about the messages I've received, genuinely curious if they approach works (I block as I don't want to engage with it).

I do find some profiles lack much information/effort. Similar to getting winks from profiles with no pictures at all or friends only. Can't engage with it as I don't know what I would be replying to.

For me personally no, their approach doesn't work on me. I'll only meet men at clubs.

It clearly says in my profile I only meet at clubs but still I'll get a dick pic or a random disembodied head with "Wuu2" or "come mine" at like 1am from some of these guys. They don't even do me the courtesy of reading profile.

I can't speak for how well that works with other CD/TVs but I think they must be getting some success somewhere if they keep doing it.."

There are a lot of chancers than don't respect clear boundaries. I agree with you - it must work with some profiles though or they would change their approach (assuming! Maybe they don't, hence these numerous threads on the same topic).

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By *layfullsamMan
50 weeks ago

Solihull


"I don’t seem to be getting any attention why is this "

You are getting loads of attention

It’s just the wrong type

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

You were on hot photos recently so must be

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By *entleman of FortuneMan
37 weeks ago

Hull

Exactly that! Also the people at (socials) are generally really friendly. But still expect nothing, don't be weird and it'll be fine.

Hi Swing - We chatted a few years ago about coastal geomorphology, was really hot lol, hope you're good xx

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By *adyCassandraClonmelTV/TS
37 weeks ago

woodford h

Just to add to the prior conversation.

Around 90% of messages I get are from "straight" guys, and around 90% of those haven't bothered reading my profile, they see the profile pic, check the public pics, then send a message.

From the genuine guys in that group that I've spoken to, most have attributed it to the lack of effort they have experienced with women on the site.

Many say that women have so many options and offers, that they can afford to not really put much effort into their appearance, and atleast for some guys, the appearance plays a large part into the attraction they feel.

And they recognise the effort girls like myself have to out in to look the way we do.

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