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By *iner69er OP   Man
over a year ago

inverness

I joined fab in about 2008 and have had one meet in 2015,so that's 8 years with nothing doing. That got me thinking,I wonder what is the longest run of no success on here? So,has anybody had nowt longer than my 8 years?

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

OP .. there are so many things...

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I can't say I have but you get out what you put in.

Mrs

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

I think it boils down to expectations some like myself happy to meet when both available calmly as an in between normal life and fab being a sociable one

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By *iss pleasuringWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near

In my experience when meeting guys. Get a better success by going to clubs and Socials.

Rather than direct meets off here that's my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You were verified 11 mths ago..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You were verified 11 mths ago.."

Busted!

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante


"You were verified 11 mths ago.."

Where's that Sherlock Holmes emoji

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By *enfella4uMan
over a year ago

staffs

Been on here quite a while now, had a couple of meets problem is you start by off sending real nice messages then soon get tired of no replies and rejections that u don’t send as nice messages then get slated for that too but when I do meet we have a great time and meet again but getting that first initial chance is like getting blood out of a stone on here so much so I’m leaving after my time is up this time

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth


"You were verified 11 mths ago.."

TBF that might have been at a club, mine was. As an arranged meet off here NADA

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By *omething4theweekend2023Couple
over a year ago

newcastle


"I joined fab in about 2008 and have had one meet in 2015,so that's 8 years with nothing doing. That got me thinking,I wonder what is the longest run of no success on here? So,has anybody had nowt longer than my 8 years?"

We come across people on this site who think they have a right to meet. As someone already said you get out what you put in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You were verified 11 mths ago..

TBF that might have been at a club, mine was. As an arranged meet off here NADA "

Maybe but...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No public pictures and a bio consisting of just two sentences.

Has it always been like that OP?

If so, I'd say you're getting about the right amount of attention for the effort you've put in.

You're not really selling yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if you view meets as a success and not an experience then your going to struggle on fab this is probably my 4th profile over 10 years had loads of meets and i have never once tried to be successful i just like meeting people and shareing experiences with them but i dont just meet anyone.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow


"No public pictures and a bio consisting of just two sentences.

Has it always been like that OP?

If so, I'd say you're getting about the right amount of attention for the effort you've put in.

You're not really selling yourself"

Don't think OP was asking for profile feedback...

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By *arialoueWoman
over a year ago

bradford

I joined fab 2015 had 1 social meet nothing since

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By *iner69er OP   Man
over a year ago

inverness


"You were verified 11 mths ago.."
That was a quick drink with a girl on here. She was on for meeting properly,then quit the site,came back a few weeks later, then said she didn't want to meet me again. Third time that's happened.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No public pictures and a bio consisting of just two sentences.

Has it always been like that OP?

If so, I'd say you're getting about the right amount of attention for the effort you've put in.

You're not really selling yourself

Don't think OP was asking for profile feedback..."

True, he didn't specifically, but I very much got the impression that he's unhappy about his lack of meets and perhaps wondering why he isn't fairing better. Tried very carefully to avoid giving specific profile advice, since he hasn't asked for it, but merely making an observation

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By *r-8-BBCMan
over a year ago

LONDON


"I joined fab in about 2008 and have had one meet in 2015,so that's 8 years with nothing doing. That got me thinking,I wonder what is the longest run of no success on here? So,has anybody had nowt longer than my 8 years?"

The only way us to go clubs and not take fab so seriously.

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By *iner69er OP   Man
over a year ago

inverness


"No public pictures and a bio consisting of just two sentences.

Has it always been like that OP?

If so, I'd say you're getting about the right amount of attention for the effort you've put in.

You're not really selling yourself

Don't think OP was asking for profile feedback...

True, he didn't specifically, but I very much got the impression that he's unhappy about his lack of meets and perhaps wondering why he isn't fairing better. Tried very carefully to avoid giving specific profile advice, since he hasn't asked for it, but merely making an observation"
was only wondering about others long runs of similar non success. I have accepted that I'm unlikely to ever get a meet again,so I'm not unhappy.

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By *rChapMan
over a year ago

Rayleigh

It's easier getting meets that lead to "fun" on normal dating sites than on here. Better looking women, too.

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By *assy LassieWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire


"It's easier getting meets that lead to "fun" on normal dating sites than on here. Better looking women, too."

Haha. Popcorn!

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By *ryton 123TV/TS
over a year ago

Chatham

I've had no problems. Men looking for seems to be far easier to get a meet.

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By *jekimMan
over a year ago

Wigan

Far too long

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was once a single lady on here, many years ago. If there’s no effort in your profile, you wouldn’t get a reply off me if you’d have messaged.

Put some effort in. Find familiar ground.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's easier getting meets that lead to "fun" on normal dating sites than on here. Better looking women, too."

So why stick around?

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By *alleyDaveMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

Just hit one year on Fab and not even a sniff of a meet. More chance of platting fog.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"It's easier getting meets that lead to "fun" on normal dating sites than on here. Better looking women, too."

Wow you just slammed your meeting door shut with that comment

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

I joined a few months ago. Had my first coffee the second week with my now fwb. Had four coffee meets since and my first hotel meet tonight.

Meeting someone tomorrow night too and have a coffee planned for wed.

I haven't sent a single opening message either. If you make an effort to be present, have a good bio and photos you'll be pleasantly surprised to find out there are lots of lovely sane women on fab who are also n looking to meet someone.

I think some guys don't actually want to meet. It's a fab fantasy and the forum is an outlet to vent frustration

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow


"It's easier getting meets that lead to "fun" on normal dating sites than on here. Better looking women, too."

Not sure you really understand swinging. If you just want a shag with a lady then perhaps easier. But how's it going on normal dating sites for group sex, gang bangs, threesomes, sex party invites etc?

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By *onlywishiMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

Having been on before and having a great time and back again with limited luck I can understand?

But success ? As a title it’s not a win or lose game it’s being a fit for a nice couple or single who are allowing you to meet ? If you don’t fit who they are looking for then that’s their choice .

Also having and still being in your area the difference between my home area and yours is massive in numbers of people on site and who are regulars?

If it’s such a problem go to clubs or take weekends away to different areas to meet likeminded people who might be looking for someone with your profile.

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley


"In my experience when meeting guys. Get a better success by going to clubs and Socials.

Rather than direct meets off here that's my opinion "

Exactly never had a actual meet on here, only clubs

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"In my experience when meeting guys. Get a better success by going to clubs and Socials.

Rather than direct meets off here that's my opinion "

My experience of being a single, straight, white guy is; Fab works better. I would never recommend the club scene to a mate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t really care at the moment. Enjoying the forums, reading profiles, getting into the swinging psyche. I’m going to get myself to a club to, hopefully, get to meet and chat with other swingers and perhaps get a few verifications. It will happen eventually, or not. Or maybe I will meet that one person not into the lifestyle and I will give it up before it’s started. I dunno…maybe, maybe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Years to infinity

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