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By *rFoxAndXeno OP   Couple
over a year ago

Weymouth

The time has once again come for me to completely doubt myself when it comes to fab!

Maybe it's imposter syndrome, maybe it's anxiety...

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By *ase4122Man
over a year ago

Lancashire

Who is having doubts, Mr or Mrs?

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By *rFoxAndXeno OP   Couple
over a year ago

Weymouth


"Who is having doubts, Mr or Mrs?"

Mrs, sorry forgot to state it was me x

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By *ase4122Man
over a year ago

Lancashire


"Who is having doubts, Mr or Mrs?

Mrs, sorry forgot to state it was me x"

No worries, nothing to doubt yourself from what I can see, a very beautiful curvaceous woman, my fav

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By *rFoxAndXeno OP   Couple
over a year ago

Weymouth


"Who is having doubts, Mr or Mrs?

Mrs, sorry forgot to state it was me x

No worries, nothing to doubt yourself from what I can see, a very beautiful curvaceous woman, my fav"

Thank you, if only physical appearance could make up for what I lack

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By *ase4122Man
over a year ago

Lancashire


"Who is having doubts, Mr or Mrs?

Mrs, sorry forgot to state it was me x

No worries, nothing to doubt yourself from what I can see, a very beautiful curvaceous woman, my fav

Thank you, if only physical appearance could make up for what I lack "

In what sense, message me if you don't want to discuss in open forum

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By *rFoxAndXeno OP   Couple
over a year ago

Weymouth


"Who is having doubts, Mr or Mrs?

Mrs, sorry forgot to state it was me x

No worries, nothing to doubt yourself from what I can see, a very beautiful curvaceous woman, my fav

Thank you, if only physical appearance could make up for what I lack

In what sense, message me if you don't want to discuss in open forum"

I posted to get different opinions with any luck, just wondered if anyone else ever gets anxious like I do when it comes to casual sex. It's never come naturally to me

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By *ase4122Man
over a year ago

Lancashire


"Who is having doubts, Mr or Mrs?

Mrs, sorry forgot to state it was me x

No worries, nothing to doubt yourself from what I can see, a very beautiful curvaceous woman, my fav

Thank you, if only physical appearance could make up for what I lack

In what sense, message me if you don't want to discuss in open forum

I posted to get different opinions with any luck, just wondered if anyone else ever gets anxious like I do when it comes to casual sex. It's never come naturally to me"

If I had the chance to engage in some casual sex I would, but as a man on here it's extremely limited

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By *teve666TMan
over a year ago

Harrow

Anxiety when doing anything outside of what we would normally consider our comfort zone is normal.

What you need to consider is if you want to carry on swinging..... It could just be ' done, bought the T-shirt...now I've moved on'

Another factor could be jealousy creeping in and you've reached the point where you don't like the idea of seeing your partner with other people. This is common and I've experienced it. Remember swinging is just fun. What you have with your partner outside of the swinging scene is different, intimate and loving.

If you want to try a trick to overcome your anxiety, next time you are playing, try to use a different persona and give yourself a play name. It will help separate the swinging you from the every-day you...

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By *ensualgent38Man
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh


"The time has once again come for me to completely doubt myself when it comes to fab!

Maybe it's imposter syndrome, maybe it's anxiety... "

Inviting someone to share your body your fantasises and your desires is the most intimate thing you can do. It’s completely understandable to be anxious. Embrace the anticipation and excitement that brings when you meet people you want to play with.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Who is having doubts, Mr or Mrs?

Mrs, sorry forgot to state it was me x

No worries, nothing to doubt yourself from what I can see, a very beautiful curvaceous woman, my fav

Thank you, if only physical appearance could make up for what I lack

In what sense, message me if you don't want to discuss in open forum

I posted to get different opinions with any luck, just wondered if anyone else ever gets anxious like I do when it comes to casual sex. It's never come naturally to me"

Is it something you really want to do?

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By *punk n gushCouple
over a year ago

Walmer, Deal


"The time has once again come for me to completely doubt myself when it comes to fab!

Maybe it's imposter syndrome, maybe it's anxiety... "

I think as women we are more anxious about things I know I struggle with it alot I usually love the meets once there but the build up to it can bring on major anxiety and I always worry wether I'll be good enough or not

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By *heshirefungirlWoman
over a year ago

ammanford

A few things I know

When it's anything to do with swing "I'm Chesh" she is totally different to what the vanilla world knows of me.

Chesh is confident and loves to be naughty, she fucks and shags, she knows she's got it and is good at it.

But chesh does not make romantic connections or make love

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By *rFoxAndXeno OP   Couple
over a year ago

Weymouth

Thank you for all the replies I've had a real rough time the past couple of months so it's probably no surprise that my head is a little all over the place with swinging x

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By *eandmrsjones69Couple
over a year ago

Middle England

When you say doubts, is that about body consciousness or more an ethical moral issue?

Certainly you look amazing and from your profile and reviews seems to be positive.

Are you just not enjoying the lifestyle or hasn't it been what you were expecting?

Maybe with other things going on in your life it's been all mixed together. A step back, recharge and then see how you feel.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Thank you for all the replies I've had a real rough time the past couple of months so it's probably no surprise that my head is a little all over the place with swinging x"

I'm a firm believer that if something that isn't mandatory or vital to your well being is causing anxiety or unhappiness you need to stop doing it, even if it's just temporarily.

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By *rFoxAndXeno OP   Couple
over a year ago

Weymouth


"Thank you for all the replies I've had a real rough time the past couple of months so it's probably no surprise that my head is a little all over the place with swinging x

I'm a firm believer that if something that isn't mandatory or vital to your well being is causing anxiety or unhappiness you need to stop doing it, even if it's just temporarily. "

That's a very wise mantra to follow, thank you!!

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By *amdenfunMan
over a year ago

London

I think for useful advice, it could help to be a little more precise. Surely you could be a anxious in all sorts of ways. I get that it's hard to pin down angst, but a few thoughts would help. If that's what you want.

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By *ittle MonkeysCouple
over a year ago

Kimberley

If it feels wrong or your heart is not in it then stop. Don’t try to force yourself to enjoy something if you just aren’t feeling it, and certainly don’t let anyone else make you feel you should.

If/when the time is right it will happen and you will be happy with it and enjoy it. My device now is to take a break and reassess sometime in the future. There is more to life than swinging

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By *oulou22Woman
over a year ago

Sutton


" Thank you, if only physical appearance could make up for what I lack "

If your issue is not feeling like you're as exciting/sexy/skilled as others on here then it's worth remembering that we only see a fragment of people's lives on here. Photos, statuses and veris give the illusion that others have perfect bodies and amazingly exciting energetic sex lives but there's other things going on behind the scenes. Comparison is the thief of joy as they say. This site can really wreck your self esteem if you're not feeling great, but swinging isn't going anywhere so you won't miss anything by taking a break to get your head together.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I have anxieties sometimes around the fab world I just put fab on hold and don't even look, I think it's only natural when things are going on in real life too.

I think it's easy to see people as confident online even if they aren't in reality.

Mrs

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By *nglo-Indian-DelightCouple
over a year ago

Worcestershire

I do get anxious (male), both socially and sexually. But 2 years into swinging only ever accept offers within my/our limitations x

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By *oyahandrussCouple
over a year ago

Nr Rugby

Anxiety is definitely what T always feels combined with excitement.She just treas meetings as social & also going to clubs a night out to enjoy.If things turn sexy it's a bonus.As a couple you need to be talking a lot about how you are both feeling.If you aren't enjoying things at all maybe have a break.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Thank you, if only physical appearance could make up for what I lack

If your issue is not feeling like you're as exciting/sexy/skilled as others on here then it's worth remembering that we only see a fragment of people's lives on here. Photos, statuses and veris give the illusion that others have perfect bodies and amazingly exciting energetic sex lives but there's other things going on behind the scenes. Comparison is the thief of joy as they say. This site can really wreck your self esteem if you're not feeling great, but swinging isn't going anywhere so you won't miss anything by taking a break to get your head together. "

What a lovely response x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The time has once again come for me to completely doubt myself when it comes to fab!

Maybe it's imposter syndrome, maybe it's anxiety...

I think as women we are more anxious about things I know I struggle with it alot I usually love the meets once there but the build up to it can bring on major anxiety and I always worry wether I'll be good enough or not "

I completely agree! I sometimes end up cancelling because I don’t feel good enough, I get scared of expectations and worry that I will disappoint

You are not alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Thank you, if only physical appearance could make up for what I lack

If your issue is not feeling like you're as exciting/sexy/skilled as others on here then it's worth remembering that we only see a fragment of people's lives on here. Photos, statuses and veris give the illusion that others have perfect bodies and amazingly exciting energetic sex lives but there's other things going on behind the scenes. Comparison is the thief of joy as they say. This site can really wreck your self esteem if you're not feeling great, but swinging isn't going anywhere so you won't miss anything by taking a break to get your head together. "

Great response, I think swinging can really hit your self esteem especially as a single lady. I think sometimes we have to take a break to build ourselves up, to miss it so we can enjoy it again

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By *ake-Me-FeelWoman
over a year ago

Sussex

Oh I feel this!

I've had a rough few months and didn't really do any clubs, and stopped meets. Im trying to get back into it now. I've found surrounding myself with friends at clubs has helped massively and I've started playing but with only a few people who I really trust.

Just talking to people at clubs and socials, I lost all confidence, but again, having friends around who I know I can go find if I need them has helped me talk to more people.

I can feel that it won't be long and I'll hopefully be back to where I was. I hope you find something that helps with the anxiety x

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