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By *aughtyboy852000 OP   Man
over a year ago

Bootle

Ladies whats your thoughts on being with a married man

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

With the full enthusiastic consent of the wife it's fabulous

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By *lasphemousGirlWoman
over a year ago

Cambs


"With the full enthusiastic consent of the wife it's fabulous "

Ha ha what she said

Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

taunton somerset

none of my business ... im not going judge someone i know nothing about its there choice as long as they understand the down side as well as the up side ...

and rather than saying married men its women too and there alot of couples on here who have no clue their partner is ''doing extra swinging with out them knowing'' the amount of mail i get from one half of a couple who dont want the other one to know is unreal ...

also for alot of swinger married is preferred as there's no emotional needy person stuff that often comes with singles ..

so deffo not a man only thing not just swinging but all walks of life ..

ps dont forget how small the forums are and in no way what so ever a reflection of the scene these forums are like 1 or 2 % of fab so even smaller than the whole scene the forums is not and never will be the standards or rules of swinging resopn for saying that is people quite often think the forums are the gold standard of swinging and they really are not not by a zillion miles

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By *moothGrooveWoman
over a year ago

Durham

That's something for their conscience, not mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Married or attached people playing with or without their spouses consent is their choice.

I prefer honesty from the start so I can may my own choice about if I want to play with them or not.

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By *herry delightWoman
over a year ago

Ilfracombe

I don't ask about their relationship status.

There are many other things to talk about that determines if I would meet up.

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By *lirtatious JadeWoman
over a year ago

Wakefield

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

I only play in clubs so married men for me is fine, if partner is also at the club (doesn’t have to be involved).

Cheating (both sexes) isn’t okay with me

For me, single men bring much less drama and that whole married have no feelings isn’t true.

Just be honest, some will mind and some won’t. Can’t please everyone x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as his wife isn't aware it's fine.

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

Zero interest in anyone cheating, but married isn’t a problem providing the other half is happy.

I definitely do judge people who cheat on their partners. For me there’s never an excuse and I certainly don’t ever want to be involved.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

With consent, no problem! Hasn't happened yet but would be open to it

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By *aria_dreamgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

stockport

Discretion always given but I won't compromise any relationship nor will I be treated as a dirty secret

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By *ofiaxxx69Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Zero interest in anyone cheating, but married isn’t a problem providing the other half is happy.

I definitely do judge people who cheat on their partners. For me there’s never an excuse and I certainly don’t ever want to be involved. "

100% agree with this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This will bring out the Fab Police in their hoards

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

It does always give me a giggle when attached folks describe themselves as "genuine"

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

As swingers we are happy with married men as long as they are accompanied by their wives.

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By *obandruthCouple
over a year ago

wolverhampton

I am .my husband's married to me.

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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago

Durham

In clubs, if I know they’re married and cheating, I keep my pants on around them. I won’t meet married men solo privately - I don’t want the drama that goes with cheating, and so far, there’s never been anyone who says they’re playing with permission who understands that I don’t accommodate so it has to be their house or a hotel meet.

Also - every time I’ve had a problem, particularly with consent, he’s been married.

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By *eandmrsjones69Couple
over a year ago

Middle England

In a club setting we wouldn't ask if someone is married. We wouldn't, however, arrange a meeting with someone who was married though.

Comments like 'fab police' it's as if your not allowed to have a view and be happy to have sex with anyone. Some may see cheating as not the same as swinging and what's wrong with that?

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By *ifty69Man
over a year ago

north tyneside


"I am .my husband's married to me. "
lucky Rob

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They’re not usually as clever as they imagine and there’s a very real danger of an irate wife banging on a hotel door sometime.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"With the full enthusiastic consent of the wife it's fabulous "

I agree! I heard married guys fuck better. Don’t know if that’s true?!

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There


"It does always give me a giggle when attached folks describe themselves as "genuine" "

‘Genuine, respectful married guy looking for discreet encounters’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"With the full enthusiastic consent of the wife it's fabulous

I agree! I heard married guys fuck better. Don’t know if that’s true?! "

The ones who haven't had sex in ages are great fucks. Desperation makes them hard.

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By *otwifedundeeWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

It’s a massive turn on and I love it. Advice, don’t lie and say you are single. Tell them at start and let them decide if they will meet or not.

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By *ormalfornorfolkMan
over a year ago

Norwich


"It’s a massive turn on and I love it. Advice, don’t lie and say you are single. Tell them at start and let them decide if they will meet or not. "

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By *ophie199Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

As a couple who’s preference is single guys I assume 99% are married, doesn’t bother us

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth


"It does always give me a giggle when attached folks describe themselves as "genuine"

‘Genuine, respectful married guy looking for discreet encounters’ "

Tale as old as time!!

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By *iss SinWoman
over a year ago

portchester

No way am I touching one of those

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The guys that we played with at the club could have been married. We didn’t ask their marital status and won’t ask if the situation occurs again

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By *s.Scarlett-MWoman
over a year ago

Land of the Iceni (She/Her)


"Ladies whats your thoughts on being with a married man "

Great at first.

But the married man needs to respect the person’s emotions and keep their distance, it’s not fair to love bomb someone , text them all day, every day, see them often throughout the week and not expect an attachment to form in the process.

Equally when they move on they end up doing it to the next unsuspecting lady. And so on and so forth.

If a wife is in the mix - there should be full consent directly from the wife on video call. And allow them to make an informed choice, not constantly lie about things.

Imo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"With the full enthusiastic consent of the wife it's fabulous "

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By *umagain58Man
over a year ago

London


"That's something for their conscience, not mine "

That’s how I look at as long as all want to do fine with me. Appreciate some don’t like. My wife knows anyway when play alone but don’t always tell meet that

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By *hat girl next doorWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Permission is everything in my own dynamic so for me, its a no. Having said that though, you never really know so if they are then thats on them but I won’t willingly be with someone whos taken.

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By *s.Scarlett-MWoman
over a year ago

Land of the Iceni (She/Her)

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By *s.Scarlett-MWoman
over a year ago

Land of the Iceni (She/Her)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really don’t care if a woman is married and cheating. It’s their conscience, not mine…I’m not cheating, ergo: I’m not doing anything wrong.

My opinion. Every one else is free to set their own standards and morals.

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By *herry delightWoman
over a year ago

Ilfracombe

At least married men know it's just sex and nothing else.

I have had so many guys that seam to want a friendship and my phone number.

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By *umagain58Man
over a year ago

London


"At least married men know it's just sex and nothing else.

I have had so many guys that seam to want a friendship and my phone number. "

Like you approach Cherry. Not gonna fall in love here myself

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By *ittle Miss BipolarWoman
over a year ago

Up My Own Arse Apparently

I've chatted with plenty on here but would never meet one.

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By *s.Scarlett-MWoman
over a year ago

Land of the Iceni (She/Her)


"At least married men know it's just sex and nothing else.

I have had so many guys that seam to want a friendship and my phone number. "

Unfortunately there are married men who will not respect boundaries and get close, I was a lover , but I was misinformed and mis-led , thinking most men on here are married. I was looking for a play partner and the comparability was there.

After being on the receiving end of a series of lies and mis-information, manipulation and divisiveness, it’s a never again for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would stay clear of married men as I’ve seen first hand the damage and pain it can cause

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By *aria_dreamgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

stockport

Lots of married guys are in a no sex relationship and don't see tgirls as cheating.

We are supposed to be their dirty little secret.

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By *appyBeexxxWoman
over a year ago

Paisley


"I would stay clear of married men as I’ve seen first hand the damage and pain it can cause "

This....

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By *un couple 2Couple
over a year ago

Tynemouth.

it can work for some.

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By *luebellRacerCouple
over a year ago

Shropshire

We've recently agreed that I (Mr) can play solo, as long as Mrs knows about it.

Bloody daunting though, not the idea of being with someone without Mrs there, but trying to stand out amongst the others on here.

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By *ympho6969Woman
over a year ago

glasgow


"With the full enthusiastic consent of the wife it's fabulous "
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Exactly this. Yes they can lie and say they're single but I won't meet a married man playing away without permission if I can help it

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By *obertjMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Many married women seek pleasure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Many married women seek pleasure"
exactly, this goes both ways!! When someone states in their profile, that they would like to stay discreet, then everyone should just respect that, as they do for their own privacy too. Judging and then asking them lot's of questions and that, is basically trying to invade that discretion they want. It's a easy thing to be very curious tho, for all of us, everyone does it, I've asked questions, even though I know they want pure discretion. Obviously I got told off and blocked, for asking if they were married lol a lot people don't get it tho, what that persons story is, and why they want to come on here and cheat on their partner. Yes it's wrong but everyone should still respect it. There is a million reasons why they might do it. Some men get bullied by their wives and is a long time victim of abuse, and maybe this is the only way that he can release everything, and get what he wants now and then. Is that really so bad if your going through hell at home? Yeah people will then say. Why not just leave her then? Well again, that could be the easy way out for some people, and not for others. Some are even too afraid to be alone, so they will just put up with it, because this site might help and get him through that shit at home. Especially if they think they are too old to be alone too. There are 100's of reasons why men will cheat and don't want to talk about it, but then forced and judged on, and I say men, because it's mostly men that this happens to, and makes someone ask a question like this one. It is a bit one sided on this subject, if a man asks a woman about it, they have a go at him. When a woman asks a man, he ends up feeling backed in a corner most likely, pressured and then made to feel and look like a fool. But it does swing both sides here. If I see someone with discreet needed, if that bothers you, just go on past, why ask questions wasting each others time's. But if you don't mind that, then go with the flow and get it on with each other, no questions asked lol simple really!! Same goes when someone wants NSA. You either want it or not? Lol why ask each other questions and then end up letting it get to you, because you are doing it too and feeling guilty about it lol don't say anything and just do it, have some nsa fun with someone. I came on here to find some good conversations with people and have some fun too. I'm getting on, life is short and I heard this is a good site to find all that. But 100% the one thing I did not join this site for, is to argue, or judge anyone, or seek out and find people who are cheating on their partners haha!! Why do people come on site's like this to do so? Does it really bug them that much to see it happen? Yes it's a damm shame and it's bloody horrible that it does happen, but that could really be helping and changing that persons life, just that little bit of fun they are finding on here. So people, try not to ruin for anyone if they are doing it. We're all adults, they make their own decisions, move on if you disagree with it. You could be saving someone's life, if you don't interfere and take that away from them. You just never know, trust me! Adult life, relationships are hard and complicated as you marry and grow with that same person, year after year after year! But at the end of the day, we all have that side of naughtyness, and sometimes we need it to go on lol so remember, once you start asking each other questions, after they have stated they want discretion, you are basically you are provoking that person to start lying and making up things, until they can't go on, and then end up saying, yes I have a wife, or I have a husband. And then it starts, you end up calling them a liar and alsorts probably. When really, at the end of the day did it really matter, you are basically looking for a fuck, or a nice regular fuck nsa!! So does anyone really need to know that information about them? Respect each others personal life and privacy, and just enjoy yourselves instead. Surely that's why you all signed up here? There is one problem tho, which I have a very big issue about!!! The large percentage of guys on here who talk to women like a piece of shit. It's sad, immature and disgusting. For example "fancy a fuck?" " like the picture, come and sit on it "

Greets like that towards women, WHY? SERIOUSLY!! All the men out there who talk like this and send pictures of their small cocks to women, which they try their hardest to make it look bigger by taking 100's and 100's of photos from different angels hahaha now that is funny! Seriously why do you think it's ok to talk and send a message to females like that? Is that what you would do in a club or pub? I doubt it very much, because I doubt you even have the bottle to walk up to a female and say hello and ask them out. So you prefer to chance your luck, behind your screens at home, or mum's home really lol and see if one woman, out of 500 women probably, will bite and go for your little prick, and say hello back to you. Just stop it yeah, grow some ball's and some manners and ask like a man is supposed to ask and treat a lady. You actually might be surprised. Because at the moment, that is the biggest problem for men on here. Well the guys who are on here actually being polite and respectful, but they can't get a reply, because women are fed up and hardly replying, because of that online abuse, and I don't blame them. So give it a rest boy's. Because that's what you are at the end of the day, cowardly boy's who doesn't know how to grow into a man or talk to a lady. Sorry for the long reply, but thank you if you just read all of this yeah, respect!!

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over a year ago

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By *oastal1968Man
over a year ago

London


"Many married women seek pleasure exactly, this goes both ways!! When someone states in their profile, that they would like to stay discreet, then everyone should just respect that, as they do for their own privacy too. Judging and then asking them lot's of questions and that, is basically trying to invade that discretion they want. It's a easy thing to be very curious tho, for all of us, everyone does it, I've asked questions, even though I know they want pure discretion. Obviously I got told off and blocked, for asking if they were married lol a lot people don't get it tho, what that persons story is, and why they want to come on here and cheat on their partner. Yes it's wrong but everyone should still respect it. There is a million reasons why they might do it. Some men get bullied by their wives and is a long time victim of abuse, and maybe this is the only way that he can release everything, and get what he wants now and then. Is that really so bad if your going through hell at home? Yeah people will then say. Why not just leave her then? Well again, that could be the easy way out for some people, and not for others. Some are even too afraid to be alone, so they will just put up with it, because this site might help and get him through that shit at home. Especially if they think they are too old to be alone too. There are 100's of reasons why men will cheat and don't want to talk about it, but then forced and judged on, and I say men, because it's mostly men that this happens to, and makes someone ask a question like this one. It is a bit one sided on this subject, if a man asks a woman about it, they have a go at him. When a woman asks a man, he ends up feeling backed in a corner most likely, pressured and then made to feel and look like a fool. But it does swing both sides here. If I see someone with discreet needed, if that bothers you, just go on past, why ask questions wasting each others time's. But if you don't mind that, then go with the flow and get it on with each other, no questions asked lol simple really!! Same goes when someone wants NSA. You either want it or not? Lol why ask each other questions and then end up letting it get to you, because you are doing it too and feeling guilty about it lol don't say anything and just do it, have some nsa fun with someone. I came on here to find some good conversations with people and have some fun too. I'm getting on, life is short and I heard this is a good site to find all that. But 100% the one thing I did not join this site for, is to argue, or judge anyone, or seek out and find people who are cheating on their partners haha!! Why do people come on site's like this to do so? Does it really bug them that much to see it happen? Yes it's a damm shame and it's bloody horrible that it does happen, but that could really be helping and changing that persons life, just that little bit of fun they are finding on here. So people, try not to ruin for anyone if they are doing it. We're all adults, they make their own decisions, move on if you disagree with it. You could be saving someone's life, if you don't interfere and take that away from them. You just never know, trust me! Adult life, relationships are hard and complicated as you marry and grow with that same person, year after year after year! But at the end of the day, we all have that side of naughtyness, and sometimes we need it to go on lol so remember, once you start asking each other questions, after they have stated they want discretion, you are basically you are provoking that person to start lying and making up things, until they can't go on, and then end up saying, yes I have a wife, or I have a husband. And then it starts, you end up calling them a liar and alsorts probably. When really, at the end of the day did it really matter, you are basically looking for a fuck, or a nice regular fuck nsa!! So does anyone really need to know that information about them? Respect each others personal life and privacy, and just enjoy yourselves instead. Surely that's why you all signed up here? There is one problem tho, which I have a very big issue about!!! The large percentage of guys on here who talk to women like a piece of shit. It's sad, immature and disgusting. For example "fancy a fuck?" " like the picture, come and sit on it "

Greets like that towards women, WHY? SERIOUSLY!! All the men out there who talk like this and send pictures of their small cocks to women, which they try their hardest to make it look bigger by taking 100's and 100's of photos from different angels hahaha now that is funny! Seriously why do you think it's ok to talk and send a message to females like that? Is that what you would do in a club or pub? I doubt it very much, because I doubt you even have the bottle to walk up to a female and say hello and ask them out. So you prefer to chance your luck, behind your screens at home, or mum's home really lol and see if one woman, out of 500 women probably, will bite and go for your little prick, and say hello back to you. Just stop it yeah, grow some ball's and some manners and ask like a man is supposed to ask and treat a lady. You actually might be surprised. Because at the moment, that is the biggest problem for men on here. Well the guys who are on here actually being polite and respectful, but they can't get a reply, because women are fed up and hardly replying, because of that online abuse, and I don't blame them. So give it a rest boy's. Because that's what you are at the end of the day, cowardly boy's who doesn't know how to grow into a man or talk to a lady. Sorry for the long reply, but thank you if you just read all of this yeah, respect!! "

Nope.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah. Didn’t read that long piece.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Many married women seek pleasure exactly, this goes both ways!! When someone states in their profile, that they would like to stay discreet, then everyone should just respect that, as they do for their own privacy too. Judging and then asking them lot's of questions and that, is basically trying to invade that discretion they want. It's a easy thing to be very curious tho, for all of us, everyone does it, I've asked questions, even though I know they want pure discretion. Obviously I got told off and blocked, for asking if they were married lol a lot people don't get it tho, what that persons story is, and why they want to come on here and cheat on their partner. Yes it's wrong but everyone should still respect it. There is a million reasons why they might do it. Some men get bullied by their wives and is a long time victim of abuse, and maybe this is the only way that he can release everything, and get what he wants now and then. Is that really so bad if your going through hell at home? Yeah people will then say. Why not just leave her then? Well again, that could be the easy way out for some people, and not for others. Some are even too afraid to be alone, so they will just put up with it, because this site might help and get him through that shit at home. Especially if they think they are too old to be alone too. There are 100's of reasons why men will cheat and don't want to talk about it, but then forced and judged on, and I say men, because it's mostly men that this happens to, and makes someone ask a question like this one. It is a bit one sided on this subject, if a man asks a woman about it, they have a go at him. When a woman asks a man, he ends up feeling backed in a corner most likely, pressured and then made to feel and look like a fool. But it does swing both sides here. If I see someone with discreet needed, if that bothers you, just go on past, why ask questions wasting each others time's. But if you don't mind that, then go with the flow and get it on with each other, no questions asked lol simple really!! Same goes when someone wants NSA. You either want it or not? Lol why ask each other questions and then end up letting it get to you, because you are doing it too and feeling guilty about it lol don't say anything and just do it, have some nsa fun with someone. I came on here to find some good conversations with people and have some fun too. I'm getting on, life is short and I heard this is a good site to find all that. But 100% the one thing I did not join this site for, is to argue, or judge anyone, or seek out and find people who are cheating on their partners haha!! Why do people come on site's like this to do so? Does it really bug them that much to see it happen? Yes it's a damm shame and it's bloody horrible that it does happen, but that could really be helping and changing that persons life, just that little bit of fun they are finding on here. So people, try not to ruin for anyone if they are doing it. We're all adults, they make their own decisions, move on if you disagree with it. You could be saving someone's life, if you don't interfere and take that away from them. You just never know, trust me! Adult life, relationships are hard and complicated as you marry and grow with that same person, year after year after year! But at the end of the day, we all have that side of naughtyness, and sometimes we need it to go on lol so remember, once you start asking each other questions, after they have stated they want discretion, you are basically you are provoking that person to start lying and making up things, until they can't go on, and then end up saying, yes I have a wife, or I have a husband. And then it starts, you end up calling them a liar and alsorts probably. When really, at the end of the day did it really matter, you are basically looking for a fuck, or a nice regular fuck nsa!! So does anyone really need to know that information about them? Respect each others personal life and privacy, and just enjoy yourselves instead. Surely that's why you all signed up here? There is one problem tho, which I have a very big issue about!!! The large percentage of guys on here who talk to women like a piece of shit. It's sad, immature and disgusting. For example "fancy a fuck?" " like the picture, come and sit on it "

Greets like that towards women, WHY? SERIOUSLY!! All the men out there who talk like this and send pictures of their small cocks to women, which they try their hardest to make it look bigger by taking 100's and 100's of photos from different angels hahaha now that is funny! Seriously why do you think it's ok to talk and send a message to females like that? Is that what you would do in a club or pub? I doubt it very much, because I doubt you even have the bottle to walk up to a female and say hello and ask them out. So you prefer to chance your luck, behind your screens at home, or mum's home really lol and see if one woman, out of 500 women probably, will bite and go for your little prick, and say hello back to you. Just stop it yeah, grow some ball's and some manners and ask like a man is supposed to ask and treat a lady. You actually might be surprised. Because at the moment, that is the biggest problem for men on here. Well the guys who are on here actually being polite and respectful, but they can't get a reply, because women are fed up and hardly replying, because of that online abuse, and I don't blame them. So give it a rest boy's. Because that's what you are at the end of the day, cowardly boy's who doesn't know how to grow into a man or talk to a lady. Sorry for the long reply, but thank you if you just read all of this yeah, respect!! "

Wow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The best.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah. I just assumed that anyone writing a piece of text in a swinging forum is having a rant…

Someone who has read it tell me I’m wrong and I might have a read later.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Damn. Wish I could edit a post…. Post above should read:

Anyone writing a piece of text that long in a swinging forum…is probably having a rant.

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By *ainsb1Man
over a year ago

North Lincs/S.Yorks

Married guys might just want to be in the company of swingers just to associate and maybe take part. It maybe is a meeting new people that share an interest that is what he wants.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find that I tend to connect better with married men for some reason. I know that it cannot go any further than just sex, far less likely to become clingy and nothing can be said of who I chose to meet given that they return home to their wives.

It’s a win win situation.

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

We never ask on here or in Clubs. However, if someone starts talking about cheating it is a turn off. Plenty of positive things to talk about instead!

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By *arleycplCouple
over a year ago

Leyburn

only if she is there to join in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are similar married men don’t want any extra just a regular play and go, we aren’t too

Fussy if they are married or not x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are similar married men don’t want any extra just a regular play and go, we aren’t too

Fussy if they are married or not x"

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There


"Many married women seek pleasure exactly, this goes both ways!! When someone states in their profile, that they would like to stay discreet, then everyone should just respect that, as they do for their own privacy too. Judging and then asking them lot's of questions and that, is basically trying to invade that discretion they want. It's a easy thing to be very curious tho, for all of us, everyone does it, I've asked questions, even though I know they want pure discretion. Obviously I got told off and blocked, for asking if they were married lol a lot people don't get it tho, what that persons story is, and why they want to come on here and cheat on their partner. Yes it's wrong but everyone should still respect it. There is a million reasons why they might do it. Some men get bullied by their wives and is a long time victim of abuse, and maybe this is the only way that he can release everything, and get what he wants now and then. Is that really so bad if your going through hell at home? Yeah people will then say. Why not just leave her then? Well again, that could be the easy way out for some people, and not for others. Some are even too afraid to be alone, so they will just put up with it, because this site might help and get him through that shit at home. Especially if they think they are too old to be alone too. There are 100's of reasons why men will cheat and don't want to talk about it, but then forced and judged on, and I say men, because it's mostly men that this happens to, and makes someone ask a question like this one. It is a bit one sided on this subject, if a man asks a woman about it, they have a go at him. When a woman asks a man, he ends up feeling backed in a corner most likely, pressured and then made to feel and look like a fool. But it does swing both sides here. If I see someone with discreet needed, if that bothers you, just go on past, why ask questions wasting each others time's. But if you don't mind that, then go with the flow and get it on with each other, no questions asked lol simple really!! Same goes when someone wants NSA. You either want it or not? Lol why ask each other questions and then end up letting it get to you, because you are doing it too and feeling guilty about it lol don't say anything and just do it, have some nsa fun with someone. I came on here to find some good conversations with people and have some fun too. I'm getting on, life is short and I heard this is a good site to find all that. But 100% the one thing I did not join this site for, is to argue, or judge anyone, or seek out and find people who are cheating on their partners haha!! Why do people come on site's like this to do so? Does it really bug them that much to see it happen? Yes it's a damm shame and it's bloody horrible that it does happen, but that could really be helping and changing that persons life, just that little bit of fun they are finding on here. So people, try not to ruin for anyone if they are doing it. We're all adults, they make their own decisions, move on if you disagree with it. You could be saving someone's life, if you don't interfere and take that away from them. You just never know, trust me! Adult life, relationships are hard and complicated as you marry and grow with that same person, year after year after year! But at the end of the day, we all have that side of naughtyness, and sometimes we need it to go on lol so remember, once you start asking each other questions, after they have stated they want discretion, you are basically you are provoking that person to start lying and making up things, until they can't go on, and then end up saying, yes I have a wife, or I have a husband. And then it starts, you end up calling them a liar and alsorts probably. When really, at the end of the day did it really matter, you are basically looking for a fuck, or a nice regular fuck nsa!! So does anyone really need to know that information about them? Respect each others personal life and privacy, and just enjoy yourselves instead. Surely that's why you all signed up here? There is one problem tho, which I have a very big issue about!!! The large percentage of guys on here who talk to women like a piece of shit. It's sad, immature and disgusting. For example "fancy a fuck?" " like the picture, come and sit on it "

Greets like that towards women, WHY? SERIOUSLY!! All the men out there who talk like this and send pictures of their small cocks to women, which they try their hardest to make it look bigger by taking 100's and 100's of photos from different angels hahaha now that is funny! Seriously why do you think it's ok to talk and send a message to females like that? Is that what you would do in a club or pub? I doubt it very much, because I doubt you even have the bottle to walk up to a female and say hello and ask them out. So you prefer to chance your luck, behind your screens at home, or mum's home really lol and see if one woman, out of 500 women probably, will bite and go for your little prick, and say hello back to you. Just stop it yeah, grow some ball's and some manners and ask like a man is supposed to ask and treat a lady. You actually might be surprised. Because at the moment, that is the biggest problem for men on here. Well the guys who are on here actually being polite and respectful, but they can't get a reply, because women are fed up and hardly replying, because of that online abuse, and I don't blame them. So give it a rest boy's. Because that's what you are at the end of the day, cowardly boy's who doesn't know how to grow into a man or talk to a lady. Sorry for the long reply, but thank you if you just read all of this yeah, respect!! "

Starting reading and got to the many excuses that people cheat and that it should be respected then gave up

No one cheating will ever get any respect from me, I don’t care what the circumstances are. It’s inexcusable to me and I’d be furious if I got dragged into someone’s cheating without knowing.

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By *otSoPetiteMortWoman
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

I used to think it wouldn't bother me as I had come to the conclusion that many people on here were probably hiding a partner at home. I have met one married Man and thought I appreciated the honesty, but honestly,after one meet I'm now not so sure...

Couldn't help thinking about his Missus and kids at home, even though I know that if it isn't me, it will just be someone else as it is his choice.

I also don't like the restrictions and constantly having to worry about biting or scratching him when I cum, or getting perfume or make-up on his crisp white shirt that he's wearing because she thinks he's at work.

So, yeah, battling with my own morals about it...

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By *otSoPetiteMortWoman
over a year ago

Hertfordshire


"I find that I tend to connect better with married men for some reason. I know that it cannot go any further than just sex, far less likely to become clingy and nothing can be said of who I chose to meet given that they return home to their wives.

It’s a win win situation. "

See, I feel this is dependent on whether they are in an otherwise happy relationship.

If they're happy at home but just want a little extra, it tends to be fine, but if they're unhappy at home (and especially if they can't separate love from sex), they can often latch onto you and develop feelings.

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By *awg-mo-thoinWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

Way more effort than it’s worth. If their own wife doesn’t want them, why would I?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't meet anyone regardless of gender playing away without the others knowledge but if everyone is aware and consenting then it can be awesome fun.

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray

Not intrested, yes they have their reasons as do women and respect that! Doesn't mean I have to agree with it. But we are not prepared to potentially have to deal with drama or being a soundboard! So we stay away!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"With the full enthusiastic consent of the wife it's fabulous "

How about the wife cheering you both on and then joining you?

Mrs

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By *orny_lifeguardMan
over a year ago

Rotherham

As a married guy on here I’m always straight up. Once we start messaging I just let them know and as people say it’s up to them. I’ve no hard feelings if they decide not to carry on. I get people have other morals etc.

For me I have kids but we have no sex. I’m not interested in having a relationship, I just want what I’m missing.

I’ve met a few on here and the sex has been great - just not as regular as I’d like. Ladies. DM’s are open.

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By *onningtonplumberMan
over a year ago

Donnington

I normally keep quiet on these threads as like so many male and female I am married.

Just for example if the marriage is sexless not by choice but for medical reasons and the person with issues says you need to go out and get sex but I don't want to know about it, otherwise the relationship is loving caring, supportive in every way. So there's permission but not knowledge.

It's everyone's personal choice to accept or decline offers from married folk, if you play in. Clubs likely you have all interacted with married "cheaters" even if there in the club as a couple with another person. I speak from more than one experience when I have been here before as part of 2 separate "legit" couples. Even had a couple who said they were married to our house couple of times, had a lot of fun and found out later they were not married to each other and both were playing behind respective partners backs.

Please folks make your choices but do not judge, no one knows what happens behind closed doors.

As for one comment above I would consider a married woman just because of the likely higher discressiin.

Stay fab folks

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By *oveoldercouples99Man
over a year ago

Merton

These forums get so boring sometimes. Always the same issues and moans keep cropping up.

Rightly or wrongly I just assume everyone I meet in this scene is attached. No care given equals no disappointment.

I'm married. My wife knows I occasionally go to clubs and meet people. But she doesn't want to know when I go and what I do.

Everyone's relationship status matters less than you think.

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By *homCrownMan
over a year ago

West Fife


"It’s a massive turn on and I love it. "

Shame I'm a year outwith you're age range. i love you r pics and the scenario.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"These forums get so boring sometimes. Always the same issues and moans keep cropping up.

Rightly or wrongly I just assume everyone I meet in this scene is attached. No care given equals no disappointment.

I'm married. My wife knows I occasionally go to clubs and meet people. But she doesn't want to know when I go and what I do.

Everyone's relationship status matters less than you think.

"

It matters to some people.

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By *ylonlover87Man
over a year ago

Southwick

I'd love to be with a married girl, especially if husband knows she's out

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By *igerkittyCouple
over a year ago

cardiff

If the spouse is aware and allows then fine, but cheating is a no go. Wouldn't like it done to me and the hurt it would cause, put yourself in their shoes.but each to their own

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By *imisugarWoman
over a year ago

Rugby


"If the spouse is aware and allows then fine, but cheating is a no go. Wouldn't like it done to me and the hurt it would cause, put yourself in their shoes.but each to their own "

I agree. I had an open marriage. I'm happy to play with people in that situation/real open relationships. I'm separated and I tell people - let them make their own mind up if they want to engage with me.

I really don't enjoy the lies on here about it. Had all sorts of stories. One member even messaged me from his honeymoon. It feels horrible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone notice the amount of single guy profiles that the post in the forums about their wives getting involved or wanting to share wives or wives are so turned on by X, Y & Z

Yet they don’t have a pic, on fab over a year and never verified lol and there “single” on profile

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By *otBunsHunWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

I don't mind,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I normally keep quiet on these threads as like so many male and female I am married.

Just for example if the marriage is sexless not by choice but for medical reasons and the person with issues says you need to go out and get sex but I don't want to know about it, otherwise the relationship is loving caring, supportive in every way. So there's permission but not knowledge.

It's everyone's personal choice to accept or decline offers from married folk, if you play in. Clubs likely you have all interacted with married "cheaters" even if there in the club as a couple with another person. I speak from more than one experience when I have been here before as part of 2 separate "legit" couples. Even had a couple who said they were married to our house couple of times, had a lot of fun and found out later they were not married to each other and both were playing behind respective partners backs.

Please folks make your choices but do not judge, no one knows what happens behind closed doors.

As for one comment above I would consider a married woman just because of the likely higher discressiin.

Stay fab folks "

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By *ecretSilverlinkMan
over a year ago

Manchester

love married

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By *lecom1Couple
over a year ago

Stornoway

Most of the men we meet are married

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has anyone ever had a message from someone saying you’ve been with my husband ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you?"
yes I did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you? yes I did"

Jezzz that must have been awkward.. hence one the reasons we stay away from married men

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

I prefer not to meet people who are playing away. I get that some have what feel like fair justifications, but I don’t want to be part of it.

I’ve been cheated on.

I’ve found out a person I’d been seeing regularly was in a relationship with a birth imminent.

Earlier in my time on the scene, I’ve been at someone’s house while a woman was trying to get in the bedroom and the guy I was with was blocking the door.

Too much drama to get tied up in.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth


"Has anyone ever had a message from someone saying you’ve been with my husband ?"

I’d found it all out by that point so it wasn’t a shock on my side but yes.

We’d seen each other a far bit over a few months and been to various clubs. I told her where we’d been and when. If he had a right to do it, she had a right to know.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax


"Has anyone ever had a message from someone saying you’ve been with my husband ?"

Not on here but in real life yes,many years ago.

Told me he was single and no kids

He could message and meet regularly ,so I wasn't suspicious.

Then one morning I woke up to a few missed calls,his Mrs.

It took me a good while to convince her I really didn't know she existed ,she was gutted as I was totally honest with her about how long I'd been seeing him etc.

He continued to try and lie to us both after she confronted him.

How did she find out? A text from me on his phone ,so she was already suspicious about him.

He'd even lied about having kids,he had 2.

Put me off dating for ages

That's why I choose not to meet married men,I admire the ones who are upfront on their profiles.

The worse ones are those who hide it and ignore your preferences.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has anyone ever had a message from someone saying you’ve been with my husband ?

Not on here but in real life yes,many years ago.

Told me he was single and no kids

He could message and meet regularly ,so I wasn't suspicious.

Then one morning I woke up to a few missed calls,his Mrs.

It took me a good while to convince her I really didn't know she existed ,she was gutted as I was totally honest with her about how long I'd been seeing him etc.

He continued to try and lie to us both after she confronted him.

How did she find out? A text from me on his phone ,so she was already suspicious about him.

He'd even lied about having kids,he had 2.

Put me off dating for ages

That's why I choose not to meet married men,I admire the ones who are upfront on their profiles.

The worse ones are those who hide it and ignore your preferences.

Miss"

I agree with the ones who hide it. No one in the world wants a be cheated on. Remember someone telling me sex is sex with whoever. For me its not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer not to meet people who are playing away. I get that some have what feel like fair justifications, but I don’t want to be part of it.

I’ve been cheated on.

I’ve found out a person I’d been seeing regularly was in a relationship with a birth imminent.

Earlier in my time on the scene, I’ve been at someone’s house while a woman was trying to get in the bedroom and the guy I was with was blocking the door.

Too much drama to get tied up in.

"

Exactly.. Drama free always.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

Case in point, today we found out a fab friend we made last year (never met) had in fact been married for the past 5 years. Would have been mortified had things progressed to meeting!! X

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