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By *esmond and Molly Jones OP   Couple
over a year ago

Watford

Why would a sudden upsurge in people looking at our profile happen?

It's normally a couple of people a day, but today, nearly 80! Wtf?

I'm not complaining but we've also had a lot of messages from new people. We usually don't get messages out of the blue.

I did update some photos and tweaked our profile text, but why the sudden upsurge?

Is it something we've done?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You just answered your own question

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By *an1978Woman
over a year ago

GONE/TIMEOUT (No DMs please)

Adding a photo on a Sunday is a sure fire way to get an upsurge

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By *r PantyMan
over a year ago

Morpeth

Look at me, look at me, look at me .. What better way to get profile views but to make a forum post mentioning your profile, new photos and tweaks ?

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By *athers123Man
over a year ago

Harpenden

Starting a thread in the forum also results in an upsurge. Although in my case an upsurge is 3 instead of the usual none.

I just looked at your profile too to sort of prove my own point. Nice, I'm just up the road!

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By *ea wangMan
over a year ago

scunthorpe

Usual look at us thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Look at me, look at me, look at me .. What better way to get profile views but to make a forum post mentioning your profile, new photos and tweaks ?"

Ok Mr keep your pantys on

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Nothing wrong with drawing attention to your profile. Single men frequently start threads asking how to do just that and are often advised to contribute to the forum.

We're *all* here to draw attention to ourselves otherwise it's a bit pointless really.

Anyway op, it'll be your updated photos, we've added some yesterday and today, got loads of views and a heady six messages

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By *reykiwi500Man
over a year ago

West Kent (near Tonbridge)

Leaving a club review also seems to have a similar impact. I left one two days ago (not for that reason) and went from an average of 1-2 profile views per day to 11 yesterday and 9 the day before. Those are the ones I know of as I block single men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry just viewed love the profile x

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray


"Why would a sudden upsurge in people looking at our profile happen?

It's normally a couple of people a day, but today, nearly 80! Wtf?

I'm not complaining but we've also had a lot of messages from new people. We usually don't get messages out of the blue.

I did update some photos and tweaked our profile text, but why the sudden upsurge?

Is it something we've done?"

You will find that adding photos will get people looking amd msging you, it's how you advertise yourself on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why would a sudden upsurge in people looking at our profile happen?

It's normally a couple of people a day, but today, nearly 80! Wtf?

I'm not complaining but we've also had a lot of messages from new people. We usually don't get messages out of the blue.

I did update some photos and tweaked our profile text, but why the sudden upsurge?

Is it something we've done?

You will find that adding photos will get people looking amd msging you, it's how you advertise yourself on here."
wow great profile

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray


"Nothing wrong with drawing attention to your profile. Single men frequently start threads asking how to do just that and are often advised to contribute to the forum.

We're *all* here to draw attention to ourselves otherwise it's a bit pointless really.

Anyway op, it'll be your updated photos, we've added some yesterday and today, got loads of views and a heady six messages "

I wish that were the case, I'm always in the forum (female half) and commenting and alot of the time if not moat of the time my comments are totally ignored...iv seen a few people saying that about the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nothing wrong with drawing attention to your profile. Single men frequently start threads asking how to do just that and are often advised to contribute to the forum.

We're *all* here to draw attention to ourselves otherwise it's a bit pointless really.

Anyway op, it'll be your updated photos, we've added some yesterday and today, got loads of views and a heady six messages

I wish that were the case, I'm always in the forum (female half) and commenting and alot of the time if not moat of the time my comments are totally ignored...iv seen a few people saying that about the forums. "
Ithat always seems to happen

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Back of the bins.

[Removed by poster at 15/05/23 05:31:22]

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Back of the bins.

If you change your looking for parameters as well, cos fab only shows you people in that demographic that looked at you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nothing wrong with drawing attention to your profile. Single men frequently start threads asking how to do just that and are often advised to contribute to the forum.

We're *all* here to draw attention to ourselves otherwise it's a bit pointless really.

Anyway op, it'll be your updated photos, we've added some yesterday and today, got loads of views and a heady six messages

I wish that were the case, I'm always in the forum (female half) and commenting and alot of the time if not moat of the time my comments are totally ignored...iv seen a few people saying that about the forums. "

There is definitely a click on these forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck to you!

Almost certainly the new photo’s that draw new attention.

Never mind the negativity.

Obviously they don’t want people to be happy.

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By *esmond and Molly Jones OP   Couple
over a year ago

Watford

The negative comments were a bit silly. I've never wanted to draw attention or start a "look at me" thread, and that wasn't the purpose of My post.

I was simply surprised at an unusual level of views which was outside our normal couple a day.

We're not the type of people who seek any kind of attention other than participating in the scene.

These forums can be quite toxic at times.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante


"The negative comments were a bit silly. I've never wanted to draw attention or start a "look at me" thread, and that wasn't the purpose of My post.

I was simply surprised at an unusual level of views which was outside our normal couple a day.

We're not the type of people who seek any kind of attention other than participating in the scene.

These forums can be quite toxic at times."

They can indeed but just rise above it.

We post pictures and interact because we can and we enjoy it but do find any new pictures or change of status brings in more views and often messages and it's nice to chat with people so it's all good.

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Back of the bins.


"The negative comments were a bit silly. I've never wanted to draw attention or start a "look at me" thread, and that wasn't the purpose of My post.

I was simply surprised at an unusual level of views which was outside our normal couple a day.

We're not the type of people who seek any kind of attention other than participating in the scene.

These forums can be quite toxic at times."

May have been a tongue in cheek kinda jokey reply rather than negative.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"The negative comments were a bit silly. I've never wanted to draw attention or start a "look at me" thread, and that wasn't the purpose of My post.

I was simply surprised at an unusual level of views which was outside our normal couple a day.

We're not the type of people who seek any kind of attention other than participating in the scene.

These forums can be quite toxic at times."

Concentrate on the good replies would be my advice and celebrate the irony of publicly accusing another person of attention seeking

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By *he Silver FuxMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter


"You just answered your own question "

Plus posting on a forum asking why the uptick in interest is in itself a precursor to a positive feedback loop..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why would a sudden upsurge in people looking at our profile happen?

It's normally a couple of people a day, but today, nearly 80! Wtf?

I'm not complaining but we've also had a lot of messages from new people. We usually don't get messages out of the blue.

I did update some photos and tweaked our profile text, but why the sudden upsurge?

Is it something we've done?"

Yeah, adding photos, a status or chatting in the forum's always attracts a couple or three

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By *eau and ArrowCouple
over a year ago

Bromsgrove

All of the above increase traffic. At times both our profile or Beaus single profile have seen increases in traffic for no apparent reason but have been tied in with someone on verifications posting something or being in a different area. People click on them and subsequently verifications and then those people.

Just one of the idiosyncrasies of fab I suppose

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

bedford

We normally get an upsurge or messages once we log on or comment in forum

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By *esmond and Molly Jones OP   Couple
over a year ago

Watford

Thanks for the replies. I was just a bit spooked to be honest.

Now I realise that by posting this I'm going to be accused of self-promotion lol. You just can't win!

I've never once posted for profile advice as I do tend view those mainly as 'look at me' posts, nor do I care about how many people view it. Actually, the fewer the better as far as I'm concerned, as it is more likely to be people interested in our profile, rather than simply checking us out as a result of a forum post.

So it does seem that adding photos and posting in forums makes your profile more actively viewed, but we've been on here probably 15 years or so and been on the forums (not all that much) and added photos but never seen this happen.

Glad to say it seems to be back to normal now so we can slip back into the obscurity that we deserve!

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By *vilgasamWoman
over a year ago

The dot in the i

Not sure why but am getting a similar upswing of couples looking at my profile but I didn’t tick looking for couples and haven’t changed anything, yet this past week it’s like my profile is being pushed to them

The messages I’m getting demanding why I say no to them isn’t ok, actually had to block couples being able to dm

One pair even went so far to demand I meet them because ’you meet men and women, we’re a man and a women’

Like I’m not allowed to be bisexual and not want consent 3ways or something, it’s nuts

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By *he Silver FuxMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter


"Not sure why but am getting a similar upswing of couples looking at my profile but I didn’t tick looking for couples and haven’t changed anything, yet this past week it’s like my profile is being pushed to them

The messages I’m getting demanding why I say no to them isn’t ok, actually had to block couples being able to dm

One pair even went so far to demand I meet them because ’you meet men and women, we’re a man and a women’

Like I’m not allowed to be bisexual and not want consent 3ways or something, it’s nuts "

The subset of people on FS that can be considered to be classed as ‘arseholes’ is disturbingly large

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By *vilgasamWoman
over a year ago

The dot in the i


"Not sure why but am getting a similar upswing of couples looking at my profile but I didn’t tick looking for couples and haven’t changed anything, yet this past week it’s like my profile is being pushed to them

The messages I’m getting demanding why I say no to them isn’t ok, actually had to block couples being able to dm

One pair even went so far to demand I meet them because ’you meet men and women, we’re a man and a women’

Like I’m not allowed to be bisexual and not want consent 3ways or something, it’s nuts

The subset of people on FS that can be considered to be classed as ‘arseholes’ is disturbingly large "

I agree, it makes me feel like I’m bitchy af but the alternative is being a doormat so I guess there isn’t any in between, sadly

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By *inky and QuirkyCouple
over a year ago

Leighton Buzzard

It seems you already know the answer to your own question.

Updates and new pics will always drive interest and curiosity xx

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By *ea wangMan
over a year ago

scunthorpe

Well op I can't look anyway

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