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By *ilkchocolate87 OP   Man
over a year ago

sw london

So many women try to write headlines for attentions and no interest in meets.

Be strong guys out there.

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By *anshee99Woman
over a year ago

all over

Did I miss something in the T&Cs saying its compulsory to meet?

Many apologies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They are probably just meeting other people.

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By *ilkchocolate87 OP   Man
over a year ago

sw london


"Did I miss something in the T&Cs saying its compulsory to meet?

Many apologies "

Yes

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray


"So many women try to write headlines for attentions and no interest in meets.

Be strong guys out there. "

So many men out there writing in the forums trying to get attention!

Women, watch out!

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By *iggy85Man
over a year ago

luon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do I detect a sense of entitlement?

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"Did I miss something in the T&Cs saying its compulsory to meet?

Many apologies

Yes"

OP.. are you ok? You seem a bit upset.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sincere apologies, OP, that all the women on here are not sex vending machines to provide you with what you want, when you want it

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By *OXBOXEDMan
over a year ago

west london

This has made my morning lmao

Sarcasm doesn’t exist online, only untapped theories.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

I wouldn't start a thread on it but OP is not wrong. A lot of people here using the site as a kinky social media type platform and never meet anyone.....ever....or maybe the odd "date" once a year - applies to ladies, men and couples but it perhaps more noticeable with ladies as fewer of them to start with. Guess it's fine if people are honest they don't meet (many are, but many aren't). The Fab sign up page says "Genuine Swingers Welcome" - lots and lots of people here fail that test.

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By *ragon007Man
over a year ago

london


"I wouldn't start a thread on it but OP is not wrong. A lot of people here using the site as a kinky social media type platform and never meet anyone.....ever....or maybe the odd "date" once a year - applies to ladies, men and couples but it perhaps more noticeable with ladies as fewer of them to start with. Guess it's fine if people are honest they don't meet (many are, but many aren't). The Fab sign up page says "Genuine Swingers Welcome" - lots and lots of people here fail that test. "

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I wouldn't start a thread on it but OP is not wrong. A lot of people here using the site as a kinky social media type platform and never meet anyone.....ever....or maybe the odd "date" once a year - applies to ladies, men and couples but it perhaps more noticeable with ladies as fewer of them to start with. Guess it's fine if people are honest they don't meet (many are, but many aren't). The Fab sign up page says "Genuine Swingers Welcome" - lots and lots of people here fail that test. "

I signed up initially to find out what this was all about.

If there was a play to join requirement I would have been too intimidated. And yet I do play.

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside


"So many women try to write headlines for attentions and no interest in meets.

Be strong guys out there. "

Hahaha.

Love it.

Liz. xx

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By *I TwoCouple
over a year ago

PDI 12-26th Nov 24


"So many women try to write headlines for attentions and no interest in meets.

Be strong guys out there. "

I always find it very amusing to see status updates like

"Thanks for all the fabs of my new pic" (click and there aren't any)

"Mailbox full bulk delete"

"Too busy to go online to check messages" (despite the fact they went online to post the update lol

Absolutely nothing wrong of course but it makes me laugh

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull


"I wouldn't start a thread on it but OP is not wrong. A lot of people here using the site as a kinky social media type platform and never meet anyone.....ever....or maybe the odd "date" once a year - applies to ladies, men and couples but it perhaps more noticeable with ladies as fewer of them to start with. Guess it's fine if people are honest they don't meet (many are, but many aren't). The Fab sign up page says "Genuine Swingers Welcome" - lots and lots of people here fail that test. "

How do you know they never meet?

The only thing you have to go from is verifications which they may choose not to display.

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By *ilkchocolate87 OP   Man
over a year ago

sw london


"Sincere apologies, OP, that all the women on here are not sex vending machines to provide you with what you want, when you want it "

They aren’t? Oh

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

I'm only here as a member of the audience.

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By *nchantedRoseWoman
over a year ago

cardiff

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By *imisugarWoman
over a year ago

Rugby


"I wouldn't start a thread on it but OP is not wrong. A lot of people here using the site as a kinky social media type platform and never meet anyone.....ever....or maybe the odd "date" once a year - applies to ladies, men and couples but it perhaps more noticeable with ladies as fewer of them to start with. Guess it's fine if people are honest they don't meet (many are, but many aren't). The Fab sign up page says "Genuine Swingers Welcome" - lots and lots of people here fail that test. "

I've socialled with plenty I wouldn't go on to have a "meet" with. If I don't fancy in person, no sparkle, no sexual chemistry. I'm not having sex. Swinging isn't about fucking whoever you can.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Wouldn't say so not in my updates

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't start a thread on it but OP is not wrong. A lot of people here using the site as a kinky social media type platform and never meet anyone.....ever....or maybe the odd "date" once a year - applies to ladies, men and couples but it perhaps more noticeable with ladies as fewer of them to start with. Guess it's fine if people are honest they don't meet (many are, but many aren't). The Fab sign up page says "Genuine Swingers Welcome" - lots and lots of people here fail that test. "

There's a test? Fuck...I never knew that...do you have to be a member of the swinging police to administer it?

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By *uriouscouple2010Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"I wouldn't start a thread on it but OP is not wrong. A lot of people here using the site as a kinky social media type platform and never meet anyone.....ever....or maybe the odd "date" once a year - applies to ladies, men and couples but it perhaps more noticeable with ladies as fewer of them to start with. Guess it's fine if people are honest they don't meet (many are, but many aren't). The Fab sign up page says "Genuine Swingers Welcome" - lots and lots of people here fail that test. "

What’s wrong with being particular about who you meet? Should you just fuck someone for the sake of it? People have lives outside of this site with jobs, family and kids that will always take priority. Just because people don’t always want to meet you at the drop of a hat, maybe they just aren’t attracted to you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So many women try to write headlines for attentions and no interest in meets.

Be strong guys out there. "

So what if they do, why should it matter to you what people do or don't do, I can't see how it makes any difference to your life what others use this site for, it's entirely up to them

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By *asseur77Man
over a year ago

chelmsford

I think they should have a page for men needing to cum now any ladies ready to help out

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By *hebestrimmerMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

It isn't compulsory to meet,thts correct.

How ever, that is what the site was originally designed for & also I imagine what most of the users are using it for.

I certinly am.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"It isn't compulsory to meet,thts correct.

How ever, that is what the site was originally designed for & also I imagine what most of the users are using it for.

I certinly am."

Should anyone be penalised because it's perceived they don't meet?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I don't meet. Shoot me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think they should have a page for men needing to cum now any ladies ready to help out"

What do the ladies get

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So many women try to write headlines for attentions and no interest in meets.

Be strong guys out there.

So what if they do, why should it matter to you what people do or don't do, I can't see how it makes any difference to your life what others use this site for, it's entirely up to them"

Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't start a thread on it but OP is not wrong. A lot of people here using the site as a kinky social media type platform and never meet anyone.....ever....or maybe the odd "date" once a year - applies to ladies, men and couples but it perhaps more noticeable with ladies as fewer of them to start with. Guess it's fine if people are honest they don't meet (many are, but many aren't). The Fab sign up page says "Genuine Swingers Welcome" - lots and lots of people here fail that test.

What’s wrong with being particular about who you meet? Should you just fuck someone for the sake of it? People have lives outside of this site with jobs, family and kids that will always take priority. Just because people don’t always want to meet you at the drop of a hat, maybe they just aren’t attracted to you!"
this

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow


"I wouldn't start a thread on it but OP is not wrong. A lot of people here using the site as a kinky social media type platform and never meet anyone.....ever....or maybe the odd "date" once a year - applies to ladies, men and couples but it perhaps more noticeable with ladies as fewer of them to start with. Guess it's fine if people are honest they don't meet (many are, but many aren't). The Fab sign up page says "Genuine Swingers Welcome" - lots and lots of people here fail that test.

How do you know they never meet?

The only thing you have to go from is verifications which they may choose not to display."

Ummm from talking to people and them saying This applies to couples as well (and men although don't talk to many of those). Spoken to so many ladies and couples over the years (been on Fab since the beginning pretty much with different profiles as single and couple). It's fine is people want to use this as sexy social media platform of course as long as honest. Not always the case.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow


"I wouldn't start a thread on it but OP is not wrong. A lot of people here using the site as a kinky social media type platform and never meet anyone.....ever....or maybe the odd "date" once a year - applies to ladies, men and couples but it perhaps more noticeable with ladies as fewer of them to start with. Guess it's fine if people are honest they don't meet (many are, but many aren't). The Fab sign up page says "Genuine Swingers Welcome" - lots and lots of people here fail that test.

I've socialled with plenty I wouldn't go on to have a "meet" with. If I don't fancy in person, no sparkle, no sexual chemistry. I'm not having sex. Swinging isn't about fucking whoever you can. "

Well you've got 9 veris so clearly meet so the above is not talking about you at all. You've misunderstood what I was saying. Of course swinging isn't about fucking whoever you can and rather misleading of you to suggest I had said so.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow


"I wouldn't start a thread on it but OP is not wrong. A lot of people here using the site as a kinky social media type platform and never meet anyone.....ever....or maybe the odd "date" once a year - applies to ladies, men and couples but it perhaps more noticeable with ladies as fewer of them to start with. Guess it's fine if people are honest they don't meet (many are, but many aren't). The Fab sign up page says "Genuine Swingers Welcome" - lots and lots of people here fail that test.

What’s wrong with being particular about who you meet? Should you just fuck someone for the sake of it? People have lives outside of this site with jobs, family and kids that will always take priority. Just because people don’t always want to meet you at the drop of a hat, maybe they just aren’t attracted to you!"

Another person who has not read what I wrote and misunderstood. You have been here 4 week and met somebody. I was talking about people who been here ages and never meet ANYBODY and just use it as a social media flirting platform but pretend otherwise. It is not about meeting ME. I've honestly got more opportunities to meet people privately and at events than i have time available.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't start a thread on it but OP is not wrong. A lot of people here using the site as a kinky social media type platform and never meet anyone.....ever....or maybe the odd "date" once a year - applies to ladies, men and couples but it perhaps more noticeable with ladies as fewer of them to start with. Guess it's fine if people are honest they don't meet (many are, but many aren't). The Fab sign up page says "Genuine Swingers Welcome" - lots and lots of people here fail that test.

What’s wrong with being particular about who you meet? Should you just fuck someone for the sake of it? People have lives outside of this site with jobs, family and kids that will always take priority. Just because people don’t always want to meet you at the drop of a hat, maybe they just aren’t attracted to you!

Another person who has not read what I wrote and misunderstood. You have been here 4 week and met somebody. I was talking about people who been here ages and never meet ANYBODY and just use it as a social media flirting platform but pretend otherwise. It is not about meeting ME. I've honestly got more opportunities to meet people privately and at events than i have time available. "

To be fare though what does it matter what people use this site for? It’s up to them as long as it doesn’t bother you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So many women try to write headlines for attentions and no interest in meets.

Be strong guys out there.

So many men out there writing in the forums trying to get attention!

Women, watch out! "
ahahahah I spat my drink out , quick with the draw there ...bang bang ...

he did not stand a chance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think they should have a page for men needing to cum now any ladies ready to help out"

what a humble suggestion

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"I wouldn't start a thread on it but OP is not wrong. A lot of people here using the site as a kinky social media type platform and never meet anyone.....ever....or maybe the odd "date" once a year - applies to ladies, men and couples but it perhaps more noticeable with ladies as fewer of them to start with. Guess it's fine if people are honest they don't meet (many are, but many aren't). The Fab sign up page says "Genuine Swingers Welcome" - lots and lots of people here fail that test. "

OK. I'll play along.

What's a 'genuine swinger' ?

Really interested to know your thoughts because having been on here 15 years I have my own definition.

And I suspect it's massively different to yours.

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't start a thread on it but OP is not wrong. A lot of people here using the site as a kinky social media type platform and never meet anyone.....ever....or maybe the odd "date" once a year - applies to ladies, men and couples but it perhaps more noticeable with ladies as fewer of them to start with. Guess it's fine if people are honest they don't meet (many are, but many aren't). The Fab sign up page says "Genuine Swingers Welcome" - lots and lots of people here fail that test.

What’s wrong with being particular about who you meet? Should you just fuck someone for the sake of it? People have lives outside of this site with jobs, family and kids that will always take priority. Just because people don’t always want to meet you at the drop of a hat, maybe they just aren’t attracted to you!

Another person who has not read what I wrote and misunderstood. You have been here 4 week and met somebody. I was talking about people who been here ages and never meet ANYBODY and just use it as a social media flirting platform but pretend otherwise. It is not about meeting ME. I've honestly got more opportunities to meet people privately and at events than i have time available. "

'So many people want to fuck me, that I simply don't have time to fit them all in'

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

OP, how do you think this post increased your chances to meet? Genuinely curious.

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By *herryEatersCouple
over a year ago

East Cheshire


"So many women try to write headlines for attentions and no interest in meets.

Be strong guys out there. "

SO MANY talk of meeting yet have absolutely no intention of doing so !, just here to get to your pics and have a wank.... BEWARE

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By *rancois Du BoisMan
over a year ago

Down the back of the sofa.


"Sincere apologies, OP, that all the women on here are not sex vending machines to provide you with what you want, when you want it "

They’re not? Then where have I been putting all my 10p pieces??

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

taunton somerset

i meet weekly sometimes several times a week (regular guy) but you would not know it via fab ...see fab or other online sites are not the be all and end all of swinging niether are clubs ...most swingers have there own networks and meet private ..

also the fact your moaning to the smallest part of fab ?? the forums are tiny 2% of fab on a good day ... no bodys profiles tell you anything .. lots meet without veri's ...

online sites have always attracted non swingers as social platforms there will be many who just chat many who use just to keep up many who use as attention and many who just wank as guess what its all ok no rules are broken .... finding people that meet is easy finding people that will meet you is another story ..

trying to read people's profile to see how many meets they had is pointless there are couples on here with zero veris thats weet often ... its the same with everthing dont belive all you read the classic one on fab is safe sex so easy to tick a box and join the ranks what what the do in private one will never know..

the site and others is not the scene the xcene is way way bigger

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By *ilkchocolate87 OP   Man
over a year ago

sw london


"OP, how do you think this post increased your chances to meet? Genuinely curious."

Not sure that was my aim..

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"I wouldn't start a thread on it but OP is not wrong. A lot of people here using the site as a kinky social media type platform and never meet anyone.....ever....or maybe the odd "date" once a year - applies to ladies, men and couples but it perhaps more noticeable with ladies as fewer of them to start with. Guess it's fine if people are honest they don't meet (many are, but many aren't). The Fab sign up page says "Genuine Swingers Welcome" - lots and lots of people here fail that test.

How do you know they never meet?

The only thing you have to go from is verifications which they may choose not to display."

Exactly. We met more people than we have veris. Not everyone wants a veri.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"I wouldn't start a thread on it but OP is not wrong. A lot of people here using the site as a kinky social media type platform and never meet anyone.....ever....or maybe the odd "date" once a year - applies to ladies, men and couples but it perhaps more noticeable with ladies as fewer of them to start with. Guess it's fine if people are honest they don't meet (many are, but many aren't). The Fab sign up page says "Genuine Swingers Welcome" - lots and lots of people here fail that test.

I've socialled with plenty I wouldn't go on to have a "meet" with. If I don't fancy in person, no sparkle, no sexual chemistry. I'm not having sex. Swinging isn't about fucking whoever you can. "

There is the social side, friendships made ect. Sex is part but not all of being a swinger.

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