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"I know that alot of guys don't read the forums. They don't even seem to read the profiles they want to meet. But in all seriousness, it gets quite frustrating when you're bombarded by guys, not one of whom appears to have read your profile-just looked at your pictures! Guys, if you want a response, read before messaging! Good luck n happy swinging" Open a Word document. Type in 'Read my/our profile'. Save. Then for every person who messages and who has, evidently, not read the profile, simply copy and paste. Do this repeatedly until they get the message. | |||
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"I know that alot of guys don't read the forums. They don't even seem to read the profiles they want to meet. But in all seriousness, it gets quite frustrating when you're bombarded by guys, not one of whom appears to have read your profile-just looked at your pictures! Guys, if you want a response, read before messaging! Good luck n happy swinging" Sorry - can you repeat that? I was too busy ogling your very nice pictures to read it. Sorry!! | |||
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"I know that alot of guys don't read the forums. They don't even seem to read the profiles they want to meet. But in all seriousness, it gets quite frustrating when you're bombarded by guys, not one of whom appears to have read your profile-just looked at your pictures! Guys, if you want a response, read before messaging! Good luck n happy swinging" yea but some are like an epic ! Surely you don't need homers epic as a profile ? Some take hours to read and they are all don't do this or that ! | |||
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"I know that alot of guys don't read the forums. They don't even seem to read the profiles they want to meet. But in all seriousness, it gets quite frustrating when you're bombarded by guys, not one of whom appears to have read your profile-just looked at your pictures! Guys, if you want a response, read before messaging! Good luck n happy swinging" We are suffering the same problem right now with guys who do not read the profile,hey ho and hits delete | |||
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" yea but some are like an epic ! Surely you don't need homers epic as a profile ? Some take hours to read and they are all don't do this or that ! " Thay are all dont do this/dont do that because it saves alot of time explaining it over messages and gives u a general idea of the person in question. Sounds like you have the mental capacity of a 3yr old if it takes you hours to read a few sentences, If you cant be arsed to read a profile, dont send a message simple as that. | |||
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"i try and reply to any message saying thanks but no thanks but its getting me how many people will send me a nasty message back dont get me wrong i do report them but save there messages so i can see if they get removed by admin as usual nothing happens and they seam to have had nothing done to them just a bit wrong i think as some of the messages have been really nasty yet the people are still on here" As with any forum they probably don't kick someone for a bad message, it'll be a filter system pick up X amount of complaints and a mod will come and check in Xx Of course this will be because you are on a swingers site and you have to put out to any man, woman, sheep, goat or vegetable that manages to string together "fancy a fuck".. if you don't you are of course a timewaster | |||
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"I think single guys in here just get frustrated ,so they trawl profiles in hope of a response, You girls can be very fickle lol " Fickle because we won't drop our knickers for anyone! If guys read a profile and only sent a message if they actually fitted what someone was looking for, they might stand more of a chance on the site. And for the guy that says it takes hours to read a profile, what an exaggeration, longest profile I have ever come across has taken 2 minutes to read, the attitude can't be bothered to read a profile, tells me can't be bothered to put a little effort in which in turn tells me bad meet potential. | |||
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"It does seem to defeat the point of sites like this that r based on us all having a profile.. Also shows desperation to me especially the post above" If you say so pmsl It's not just guys that don't read profiles , don't paint us all with the same brush :0) | |||
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"It does seem to defeat the point of sites like this that r based on us all having a profile.. Also shows desperation to me especially the post above If you say so pmsl It's not just guys that don't read profiles , don't paint us all with the same brush :0) " Totally agree, I get messages from a lot if couples that don't read my profile either | |||
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"It does seem to defeat the point of sites like this that r based on us all having a profile.. Also shows desperation to me especially the post above If you say so pmsl It's not just guys that don't read profiles , don't paint us all with the same brush :0) " The thread is aimed at those who don't read profiles.. it doesn't say every guy doesn't read them. I guess its aimed at single guys as you don't see couples on the forums griping about not getting replies.. | |||
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"It does seem to defeat the point of sites like this that r based on us all having a profile.. Also shows desperation to me especially the post above If you say so pmsl It's not just guys that don't read profiles , don't paint us all with the same brush :0) The thread is aimed at those who don't read profiles.. it doesn't say every guy doesn't read them. I guess its aimed at single guys as you don't see couples on the forums griping about not getting replies.." Yes you do! | |||
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"It does seem to defeat the point of sites like this that r based on us all having a profile.. Also shows desperation to me especially the post above If you say so pmsl It's not just guys that don't read profiles , don't paint us all with the same brush :0) The thread is aimed at those who don't read profiles.. it doesn't say every guy doesn't read them. I guess its aimed at single guys as you don't see couples on the forums griping about not getting replies.. Yes you do!" | |||
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"We find that couples are worse than single guys for totally skipping the reading part." This I disagree with, for every couple that have messaged and not read my profile, I get around 20 guys do same. Obviously I expect higher volume of guys as more guys on site than couples and girls. Lately finding an increase in guys (new members) that have joined thinking its instashag site, and get surly and abusive when point out its not | |||
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"We find that couples are worse than single guys for totally skipping the reading part." Totally disagree - my profile says I'm not looking for single guys and I'm not meeting atm. Yet the only ones who still message me r single guys | |||
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" yea but some are like an epic ! Surely you don't need homers epic as a profile ? Some take hours to read and they are all don't do this or that ! Thay are all dont do this/dont do that because it saves alot of time explaining it over messages and gives u a general idea of the person in question. Sounds like you have the mental capacity of a 3yr old if it takes you hours to read a few sentences, If you cant be arsed to read a profile, dont send a message simple as that. " . | |||
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"Some of you complaining would be moaning far more if you never got any messages! Take it as a compliment and stop being so full of yourselves. Sheesh. " | |||
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"People ignoring your messages? Not getting meets even thought you meet their requirements? Cant get a shag for love nor money? You may be entitled to compensation for the emotional distress it causes to you and your family. BETTER CALL SAUL! Call Saul Goodman now on 555-0123 and get the justice YOU deserve! " I prefer Judge Judy myself Wolf | |||
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"We had a message saying love your profile.our profile says nothing so I said to him.have you even read our profile? Fucking dick heads." Perhaps he was loving the emptyness - some are a bit kinky when it comes to sensory deprivation! Wolf | |||
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"I know that alot of guys don't read the forums. They don't even seem to read the profiles they want to meet. But in all seriousness, it gets quite frustrating when you're bombarded by guys, not one of whom appears to have read your profile-just looked at your pictures! Guys, if you want a response, read before messaging! Good luck n happy swinging" I actually DO read every profile so I can send a tailored personal message. I still get mostly ignored. On one occasion i got a reply that said 'sorry i don't reply to messages you send to everyone else' when it in fact responded to most of her profile! It was obvious she didn't even read my message. I do feel single guys get the poor end of the stick. | |||
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"I think single guys in here just get frustrated ,so they trawl profiles in hope of a response, You girls can be very fickle lol Fickle because we won't drop our knickers for anyone! If guys read a profile and only sent a message if they actually fitted what someone was looking for, they might stand more of a chance on the site. And for the guy that says it takes hours to read a profile, what an exaggeration, longest profile I have ever come across has taken 2 minutes to read, the attitude can't be bothered to read a profile, tells me can't be bothered to put a little effort in which in turn tells me bad meet potential." Lots of single guys wont drop for anyone, over a year on and no veris, alot of fakes etc. We have easily messaged over 200 fems and had one ffm meet and no solo meets with any (either fm or ff) and lots are just up themselfs profiles We see it from both ends as amy meets solo and we get bombarded but i can see guys point of view as well the response rate is really low if a guy had to read then compose and individual message for every fem as supposed to a reasonable cnp message then you could literally sit 6-8 hours a day messaging tons of unique women / couples and not get any response or a rude one Is it any wonder single malea can get tetchy? They as a whole get treated like 3rd class citizens here and this opinion that they should bust their balls while fems or us couples can do what we want is grossly unfair. They are here for a good time just like the rest of us | |||
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"I think single guys in here just get frustrated ,so they trawl profiles in hope of a response, You girls can be very fickle lol Fickle because we won't drop our knickers for anyone! If guys read a profile and only sent a message if they actually fitted what someone was looking for, they might stand more of a chance on the site. And for the guy that says it takes hours to read a profile, what an exaggeration, longest profile I have ever come across has taken 2 minutes to read, the attitude can't be bothered to read a profile, tells me can't be bothered to put a little effort in which in turn tells me bad meet potential. Lots of single guys wont drop for anyone, over a year on and no veris, alot of fakes etc. We have easily messaged over 200 fems and had one ffm meet and no solo meets with any (either fm or ff) and lots are just up themselfs profiles We see it from both ends as amy meets solo and we get bombarded but i can see guys point of view as well the response rate is really low if a guy had to read then compose and individual message for every fem as supposed to a reasonable cnp message then you could literally sit 6-8 hours a day messaging tons of unique women / couples and not get any response or a rude one Is it any wonder single malea can get tetchy? They as a whole get treated like 3rd class citizens here and this opinion that they should bust their balls while fems or us couples can do what we want is grossly unfair. They are here for a good time just like the rest of us" Thanks Andy & Amy - someone understands anyway! | |||
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"I think single guys in here just get frustrated ,so they trawl profiles in hope of a response, You girls can be very fickle lol Fickle because we won't drop our knickers for anyone! If guys read a profile and only sent a message if they actually fitted what someone was looking for, they might stand more of a chance on the site. And for the guy that says it takes hours to read a profile, what an exaggeration, longest profile I have ever come across has taken 2 minutes to read, the attitude can't be bothered to read a profile, tells me can't be bothered to put a little effort in which in turn tells me bad meet potential. Lots of single guys wont drop for anyone, over a year on and no veris, alot of fakes etc. We have easily messaged over 200 fems and had one ffm meet and no solo meets with any (either fm or ff) and lots are just up themselfs profiles We see it from both ends as amy meets solo and we get bombarded but i can see guys point of view as well the response rate is really low if a guy had to read then compose and individual message for every fem as supposed to a reasonable cnp message then you could literally sit 6-8 hours a day messaging tons of unique women / couples and not get any response or a rude one Is it any wonder single malea can get tetchy? They as a whole get treated like 3rd class citizens here and this opinion that they should bust their balls while fems or us couples can do what we want is grossly unfair. They are here for a good time just like the rest of us" Having swung as a single guy previously, I totally appreciate where some guys are coming from. However, it takes no more than a minute or two to read & digest what a couple is looking for if the guys bother to read, most do not. They look at some saucy photos, possibly see a meet/event is planned & then alot will send some crass one line message. They do not read the actual text that we didn't compose because we're miserable. We composed it because we're looking for like minded individuals. Men need to appreciate that as a single guy, competition on here is very, very stiff so they need to do stand out from the crowd, one way or another. Personally I believe the best way to do that is to compose a few lines, taking into account the profiles aspect, after reading it first.... We've only just started using the forum the past couple of days & have noticed that interest in our profile has soared. We're not naturally rude people, far from it, but we're exasperated by the number of morons(there is no more appropriate adjective to describe them) who fail to read our profile first. We must have had 50-60 messages yesterday,5-6 got a reply. Or they do read then choose to ignore the meat of the message. Guys will spend 1-15 minutes looking at & 'fabbing'photos but spend 30 scanning text & as long composing a message which then goes awry. From Mr n Mrs Exasperated Busty Sub x | |||
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"I know that alot of guys don't read the forums. They don't even seem to read the profiles they want to meet. But in all seriousness, it gets quite frustrating when you're bombarded by guys, not one of whom appears to have read your profile-just looked at your pictures! Guys, if you want a response, read before messaging! Good luck n happy swinging Sorry - can you repeat that? I was too busy ogling your very nice pictures to read it. Sorry!! " lol | |||
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"We think we have become second class citizens on here as we are over 40." We should start and over 40's support group! | |||
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"I know that alot of guys don't read the forums. They don't even seem to read the profiles they want to meet. But in all seriousness, it gets quite frustrating when you're bombarded by guys, not one of whom appears to have read your profile-just looked at your pictures! Guys, if you want a response, read before messaging! Good luck n happy swinging I actually DO read every profile so I can send a tailored personal message. I still get mostly ignored. On one occasion i got a reply that said 'sorry i don't reply to messages you send to everyone else' when it in fact responded to most of her profile! It was obvious she didn't even read my message. I do feel single guys get the poor end of the stick." For a single woman or couple this is a target rich environment. Personally it is quite evident if someone reads our profile,if they do we will reply even if just to point out they missed something else! Sadly for guys, there are alot of people who are bombarded & harrassed & so become somewhat intolerant(like we have). But then everyone has a filter, we like to meet single guys so our profile & geography is our filter. It is all in the text, not the photos. Appreciating Lous' womanly charms will not get you a response, reading our text & understanding, will! Take care x | |||
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"We think we have become second class citizens on here as we are over 40. We should start and over 40's support group!" one of us is in our 30s the other the 40s, so where do we come?? Affiliate membership! | |||
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"I wish got 50-60 messages a day, D would love the attention. We are not so self important that we wouldn't appreciate it." There's clearly something wrong with the guys in Warrington then!! | |||
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"We think we have become second class citizens on here as we are over 40. We should start and over 40's support group! one of us is in our 30s the other the 40s, so where do we come?? Affiliate membership!" Yes, affiliate memberships available - must be over 40's friendly! | |||
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"I wish got 50-60 messages a day, D would love the attention. We are not so self important that we wouldn't appreciate it. There's clearly something wrong with the guys in Warrington then!!" We have been here a while and think we must be a bit 'old hat'! Also beginning to wonder if being over 40 we are now seen as a bit old. | |||
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" yea but some are like an epic ! Surely you don't need homers epic as a profile ? Some take hours to read and they are all don't do this or that ! Thay are all dont do this/dont do that because it saves alot of time explaining it over messages and gives u a general idea of the person in question. Sounds like you have the mental capacity of a 3yr old if it takes you hours to read a few sentences, If you cant be arsed to read a profile, dont send a message simple as that. " and take note of the content | |||
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"I wish got 50-60 messages a day, D would love the attention. We are not so self important that we wouldn't appreciate it. There's clearly something wrong with the guys in Warrington then!! We have been here a while and think we must be a bit 'old hat'! Also beginning to wonder if being over 40 we are now seen as a bit old. " haha, same here, i get that feeling as well, perhaps we should make an oldies forum lol | |||
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"We think we have become second class citizens on here as we are over 40. We should start and over 40's support group!" Just be thankful you're not over 50! that's when the age filters really kick in | |||
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"We think we have become second class citizens on here as we are over 40. We should start and over 40's support group! Just be thankful you're not over 50! that's when the age filters really kick in " Ah well, some people put 18 - 99 in there filters and dont really mean it, i have had a couple of relpies strangly enough saying im too old even with those filters in place lol | |||
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"im greatful to the ones that havent read profile ! makes it soooooooo easy then to em out from the off " Exactly, if they havent read it they are playing the numbers game rather than picking you because they think you are a good match. Better they send a rubbish message now than read your profile and find a way to pretend to be the right person(s) for you which will later unravel in an awkward fashion. Be clear what you want and clear that those who don't heed it are onto plumbs. Then don't feel bad about "delete, also block sender" | |||
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