FabSwingers.com forum: Good Intro

By *unnoisseur OP Man
over a year ago

Stratford

It’s quite hard to produce a good intro message baring in mind the aim is to indulge in carnal pleasures.

Especially when a profile has little to go on and very often is probably not in the owners mind when receiving said intro.

So tell me. What consideration should be taken in an intro message?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't matter what you say in a first message if you aren't what the other person is looking for

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By *unnoisseur OP Man
over a year ago

Stratford

"Doesn't matter what you say in a first message if you aren't what the other person is looking for "

But if it’s 50/50 the intro would be what sparks a conversation.

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Doesn't matter what you say in a first message if you aren't what the other person is looking for

But if it’s 50/50 the intro would be what sparks a conversation. "

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Read their profile, create your approach message with that in mind

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

"So tell me. What consideration should be taken in an intro message?"

Do I match their stated preferences? Do they match mine? Am I what they're actually looking for? Do we have anything in common? What does their profile say about how to approach them?

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By *unnoisseur OP Man
over a year ago

Stratford

"So tell me. What consideration should be taken in an intro message?

Do I match their stated preferences? Do they match mine? Am I what they're actually looking for? Do we have anything in common? What does their profile say about how to approach them?"

That’s fine with people that have bothered to state.

Being a woman on here you don’t even have to have a pic to have your pick.

For fellas it’s a completely different ball game.

I’m straight but my profile looks and messages are from men!!!

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Being a woman on here it's utterly irrelevant whether I have pictures up or state in my profile that I'm not looking for additional people. You're straight and still get messages from men. Imagine that times 100 and the you'll see what I have to 'pick' from.

If the profile doesn't tell you anything about a person to craft a message from, how do you know you're interested in them at all?

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By *winging Sally SeanCouple
over a year ago

Warks / Northants Border

For us, the initial message(s) needs to make us believe we are individuals, not part of a collective who have been contacted that evening.

If their first message is generic rubbish, the reply will be generic rubbish. After that, we expect structured, bespoke messages.

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By *iscreetfuncpl12Couple
over a year ago

Somerset

"It’s quite hard to produce a good intro message baring in mind the aim is to indulge in carnal pleasures.

Especially when a profile has little to go on and very often is probably not in the owners mind when receiving said intro.

So tell me. What consideration should be taken in an intro message?"
Someone’s profile is as important as their message. We deliberately don’t give too much away about what we are not looking for because if you do, people just tailor their message to that like a job application. What we are not looking for is as much of a filter as what we are looking for. I know my profile says I am interested in this but really I like that etc. We would wish for people to tell us about them and what they are looking for. It either meets with what we are looking for or it doesn’t.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Just remember that they are human so anything sensible can work besides using anything sexual people don't just think about sex may not apply to some

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me personally 1st message doesn't mean anything at all. If I was looking I would look at the profile and go off that. And look at any forum interactions if there were any to get a feel of the person.

If I was going to entertain a 1st message I would want to know they had read my profile so my advice would be start with something from there. If there is nothing you go on, how would you know they are what you are looking for?

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

Ultimately, it’s your pics and bio that will establish if there’s any interest. I check a profile out before I even open a message. If they’re not for me, I will just delete the message unread.

Next, if I like their profile, I might open the message as long as the subject isn’t anything vulgar or ‘meet tonight’ etc.

Finally, the message itself doesn’t have to be war and peace. Just send a nice polite genuine message. A few lines saying something like ‘Hello! I’m xxxx Loved your pics and think I might fit what you’re looking for. Let me know if you might fancy a chat’ would be fine.

Good luck

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By *amLaraCroftWoman
over a year ago

London

I prefer the intro messages that say something specific about my profile summary. If guys haven’t read my profile and it’s clear from the intro that is a turn off

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By *unnoisseur OP Man
over a year ago

Stratford

This is a great answer. Most of us men approach the site like a meat factory. Expecting to be able to select a nice slice of meat. Then turn into wolves fighting for any chunk or lick of flesh we can get.

We approach from a male perspective. But men are from Mars…..

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By *unnoisseur OP Man
over a year ago

Stratford

"Ultimately, it’s your pics and bio that will establish if there’s any interest. I check a profile out before I even open a message. If they’re not for me, I will just delete the message unread.

Next, if I like their profile, I might open the message as long as the subject isn’t anything vulgar or ‘meet tonight’ etc.

Good luck

Good damn Samantha!!

You is a GENIUS!!!

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whoever you message is going to check out your profile before even thinking of looking at what you've sent them, and most likely already decided if you're for them or not

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By *ontWannaMissASwingCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Something that shows the person has read our profile and fits what we are looking for but also someone who treats us as a couple. A lot of messages we get are either directed just at me as though Mr doesn't exist or are asking the Mr if I would like x,y,z as though I'm not able to speak for myself. Both are rather a turn off for us.

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"For us, the initial message(s) needs to make us believe we are individuals, not part of a collective who have been contacted that evening.

If their first message is generic rubbish, the reply will be generic rubbish. After that, we expect structured, bespoke messages."

We are the borg Resistance is

Futile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Short and sweet is best.

A intro with a face pic and something that shows they have read the profile.

Also nice when they put a compliment directed towards Mrs and a general greeting to Mr.

2 short paragraphs is plenty.

But as long as there is a face photo and simple hello will do.

Sending a very sexual message doesn’t work 99% of the time as it takes a lot of presumption about what will turn us both on.

It could work but a guy would have to get it just right and that’s highly unlikely

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By *astesLikeMagicWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

"It’s quite hard to produce a good intro message baring in mind the aim is to indulge in carnal pleasures.

Especially when a profile has little to go on and very often is probably not in the owners mind when receiving said intro.

So tell me. What consideration should be taken in an intro message?"

If the profile has little to go on then I don't understand why you want to message them in the first place [shrugs]

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