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By *ootprints1629 OP Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray

OK ladies, it's getting to that stage in life, iv tested positive twice for it and monthlys are no longer monthlys and a bit all over the place, it's not happned yet but I want to be prepared for when or if it happens, anyone that's been through it or is still going through it and have sadly lost all sex drive, have you found anything that helps kick start it or even just a helps a little bit.

Obv if your happy to share this info in the forums or if not feel free to pop I to our inbox.

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By *ampicCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

Everoll hrt patches gets you back on track!!

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By *urreyNotSoNewbiesCouple
over a year ago

Surrey

Second vote for some HRT. Patches etc made a massive difference. Brain fog, lack of sex drive, hot flushes and anger all sorted out within a couple of weeks.

Hubby’s very happy too! No low flying saucepans

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By *edi123Couple
over a year ago

aberystwyth

I’ve tried HRT patches now I’m on a hormone gel

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By *one2-Do2Couple
over a year ago

South Yorkshire

"OK ladies, it's getting to that stage in life, iv tested positive twice for it and monthlys are no longer monthlys and a bit all over the place, it's not happned yet but I want to be prepared for when or if it happens, anyone that's been through it or is still going through it and have sadly lost all sex drive, have you found anything that helps kick start it or even just a helps a little bit.

Hey, I can vouch that it’s a pretty crazy time. Read stuff from Dr Louise Newson (The menopause Doctor). Everyone is so different but HRT defo helps. Also for loss of libido, testosterone replacement can be requested if you feel it’s needed. Talk to your Dr. It’s a lot more of an open subject these days.

Obv if your happy to share this info in the forums or if not feel free to pop I to our inbox. "

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By *ikingpairCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

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By *ikingpairCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

"I’ve tried HRT patches now I’m on a hormone gel"

Why did you change from patch to gel? I started patches in December and they have sorted the night sweats and mood swings (ish!) but haven't done anything for lack of libido... So wondering if gel is better

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By *ootprints1629 OP Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray

Thanks ladies, I wanted to see how long I could go without HRT, may I ask at what stage and age you all started HRT?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It took till the beginning of last year to finally get told I was peri menopausal. After years of being at the drs with various stupid things.

I've been on hrt for a year.

I took a few weeks to think about it.

The dr who finally diagnosed me was annoyed I hadn't been diagnosed sooner as they are all the things I'd been to the drs with

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Definitely get on HRT as soon as you can.

Sadly, due to other issues that needed sorting first, I didn't go on HRT until after my periods stopped.

It might take a little while to find what type works for you, but it is so worthwhile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use hormone plant based spray, safer than pills and lube yes ob is good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I use hormone plant based spray, safer than pills and lube yes ob is good "

What's the name of it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I use hormone plant based spray, safer than pills and lube yes ob is good

What's the name of it? "

It's called YES all natural objects is better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks ladies, I wanted to see how long I could go without HRT, may I ask at what stage and age you all started HRT? "

You can start it at any stage, but the sooner the better. It’s bloody brilliant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Defo hrt I have full hysterectomy only thing that has helped me

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By *earlDivingCouple
over a year ago

Chester

You can start hrt way before your periods finish - it's from perimenopause onwards.

If your libido doesn't pick up your GP can refer you to a menopause clinic and they can prescribe testosterone as well - just a tiny dab works wonders

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got myself a mirena coil fitted which sorted me out after 3 months, and the beauty being no more periods, therefore an early menopause - the definition

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had a rough year with a very happy ending. At no point did my sex drive take a dip, it did the opposite which lead me to think it wasn’t a menopausal thing. I felt crazy, hyper emotional, hubby could do no right

despite his best efforts. It almost ended us and I started hrt as an act of desperation. The difference it made was insane. Do not underestimate how crazy unmedicated menopause can make you feel. And it’s so different for everyone x the more we talk about it, the less people suffer in silence xx

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By *handlerMonicaCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

Do not wait to start HRT. I am a menopause advocate at work and a health care professional. HRT offers protection for your heart and protects against dementia. Get to your GP and chat it through.

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By *os Amantes 22Couple
over a year ago

sexy lane

Wish I’d tried hrr sooner, didn’t realise how much of ‘myself’ I was missing until I started on patches and then I was horny most of the time, nearly 12 months later and I’m still horny although have changed to gel as can’t quite get my hormones balanced and I’m ratty and emotional a lot but it turns out I was intolerant to progesterone! Don’t be afraid to keep going back to docs if you don’t feel ok x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They say im borderline so wont help me. I feel like im losing the plot, anxiety is really bad, not lost my sex drive but dont feel like myself.

Getting an appointment with my dr is impossible.

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By *ootprints1629 OP Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray

Wow ladies, thankyou do much for all your advice and sharing your story's, I defiantly don't feel like myself, as another lady said my anxiety is through the roof, so many things are happening to be that iv never suffered from before. I love a good soft massage, no deep tissue stuff, love any part of my skin being rubbed but recently iv found that it becomes so sensitive that it starts to hurt, a bit like how your skin would feel of you had the flu.., and so iv not been enjoying it like I did, I'm aware this might not be a perimenapause issue but ita defiantly a new thing, also my digestive system is seriously playing up and again something iv never suffered from..and now I'm not complaining about this..because its all Iv ever wanted but I'm loosing weight rapidly...and concerning as to why so fast..iv been to the doctor about that issue and was basically told not to worry, when I put all these things together I start to worry that something serious is wrong but yet it could just be PM that's causing it but trying to get near a doctor up here is ridiculous, and when you do they never take anything seriously.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks ladies, I wanted to see how long I could go without HRT, may I ask at what stage and age you all started HRT? "

I am 45 just started x It’s your body/your life. Everything comes with risk and your future life is not guaranteed whatever you do. I decided to do what I could to make myself happy now

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

I had a total hysterectomy (ovaries to) 14yrs ago aged 44, I didn't have any hormone replacement. I felt fabulous almost immediately, my moods have been great, I feel great. The only issue has been vaginal dryness recently, for which I have hormone cream I insert.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Everoll hrt patches gets you back on track!!"

How do you get the outlines of the pat he's off? My Wife is on them and has black marks short of a hard scrub with a brillo pad they are a nightmare to get off?

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By * F 2018Couple
over a year ago

shropshire

"Thanks ladies, I wanted to see how long I could go without HRT, may I ask at what stage and age you all started HRT? "

Tried it didnt get on with hrt

So evening primrose/starflower and various vitamins and so far not to bad out the other side of the menapauses now x

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By *ootprints1629 OP Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray

"Everoll hrt patches gets you back on track!!

How do you get the outlines of the pat he's off? My Wife is on them and has black marks short of a hard scrub with a brillo pad they are a nightmare to get off?"

I'm.not sure about this because iv not used them but you could Tey oil? That might work.

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By *ootprints1629 OP Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray

Yes, iv just googled it..oil is a good start.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any couples?

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By *edi123Couple
over a year ago

aberystwyth

Either nail polish remover or baby oil will removed the marks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use hrt spray, plant based so it's safer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a HRT coil inserted and it works wonders.

No more periods but still full on sex drive.

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By * o yWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

You do you ...

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Has anyone tried the HRT tablet "Livial (tibolone)", by any chance?

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By *irenSaintSinnerCouple
over a year ago

Haywards Heath

Yam based HRT & Testosterone gel every other day

I'm against the patches everol conti as made from Pregnant Mares urine, they keep mares really thirsty so urine is extra concentrated & kill the foal

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By *traighttothepoint20Man
over a year ago

Bradford

HRT prescriptions are now free, make sure you consult with a medical professional first ladies

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By *inglelady2022Woman
over a year ago

inverness

I'm in 2nd year of menopause now and have to say my sex life and libido has never been better. HRT free but I feel that healthy lifestyle and plenty of exercise have contributed. It is possible to do it naturally

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Why do users choose to ignore the heading of the poster says women only

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By *ady GoodwitchWoman
over a year ago

Witchery wish lane

Been through the change, tbh didn't have high sex drive before (was married) after all the shite of the change ive turned into a horny horny woman that just can't get satisfied lol I have sex then come home get the wand out hahaha, hopefully when it all calms down you will get back on track, xxx

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By *ady GoodwitchWoman
over a year ago

Witchery wish lane

Oh buy some horny goat pills they are amazing x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Recent research worth noting is that women taking bio identical estrogen are 73% less likely to develop dementia and other degenerative brain diseases.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

i went thru my menopause in my early 30s i had to have a dr to tell me this as i felt nothing no sweats no lost of sex drive no nothing just no periods im as horny now as i was when i was 18 lol if not more ..

menopause affect so many in so many different ways we forget we dont hear the good we only tend to hear the bad

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By *ootprints1629 OP Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray

"Do not wait to start HRT. I am a menopause advocate at work and a health care professional. HRT offers protection for your heart and protects against dementia. Get to your GP and chat it through. "

I'm really eased at the outcome of this post, and some really helpful comments, I'm glad I made it. How do you know what HRT is right for you? Apart from the lady's on here with their positive experiences with it all iv heard is horror story's, also I have absoloutly no faith in my GP surgery, I have been to them a few times about various things unrelated to PM/M and was told referrals were done, my name was put on lists etc, turns out none of that was done, so tbh I'm just at the point now with them that I have lost all faith, but I know I need to get this organised!

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By *aughty Couple ABCCouple
over a year ago

West Bromwich

"I'm in 2nd year of menopause now and have to say my sex life and libido has never been better. HRT free but I feel that healthy lifestyle and plenty of exercise have contributed. It is possible to do it naturally "

I've also been HRT free during my perimenopause and menopause. I've had hot sweats and grumpyness (starflower oil is good for this), but never needed HRT.

Hubby says my sex drive has increased since my menopause started. It seems that no two women are the same when it comes to symptoms

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

"Why do users choose to ignore the heading of the poster says women only "

I don't know, you tell us?

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

I chose to go medications free, I believe menopause is a natural process and should not be suppressed. Our bodies know what to do, it’s our minds that need an extra boost. I feel grateful to be able to experience this stage of my life as many women couldn’t, including my best friend who died unexpectedly of cancer at the age of 48.

My symptoms are night sweats, brain fog and general fatigue but it’s not that bad. I do intermittent fasting and low carbs diet, lots of exercise, meditation and breath work. My libido is fluctuating but overall higher than before.

Good luck in whatever route you decide to take xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yam based HRT & Testosterone gel every other day

I'm against the patches everol conti as made from Pregnant Mares urine, they keep mares really thirsty so urine is extra concentrated & kill the foal

Source please?

As far as I'm aware Evorel Conti contains estradiol which is plant based, and noresthisterone & doesn’t contain Premarin (PREgnant MAres uRINe) which is what you're referring to

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"Why do users choose to ignore the heading of the poster says women only

I don't know, you tell us?"

Maybe lacking respect for others

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By *irenSaintSinnerCouple
over a year ago

Haywards Heath

"Yam based HRT & Testosterone gel every other day

I'm against the patches everol conti as made from Pregnant Mares urine, they keep mares really thirsty so urine is extra concentrated & kill the foal

Source please?

As far as I'm aware Evorel Conti contains estradiol which is plant based, and noresthisterone & doesn’t contain Premarin (PREgnant MAres uRINe) which is what you're referring to

Just looked this up & I was completely miss informed on those patches, at the time I had 100% brain fog & was warned off them by someone who works in the health industry!

I will be more careful with posting such & thanks for the information.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

"Why do users choose to ignore the heading of the poster says women only "

You first, what's your excuse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yam based HRT & Testosterone gel every other day

I'm against the patches everol conti as made from Pregnant Mares urine, they keep mares really thirsty so urine is extra concentrated & kill the foal

Source please?

As far as I'm aware Evorel Conti contains estradiol which is plant based, and noresthisterone & doesn’t contain Premarin (PREgnant MAres uRINe) which is what you're referring to

Just looked this up & I was completely miss informed on those patches, at the time I had 100% brain fog & was warned off them by someone who works in the health industry!

I will be more careful with posting such & thanks for the information.

No problem at all

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

"Why do users choose to ignore the heading of the poster says women only

I don't know, you tell us?

Maybe lacking respect for others

I think you're missing the irony of your post

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"Why do users choose to ignore the heading of the poster says women only

You first, what's your excuse

I was pointing out after seeing other comments and understanding op post. So I'm leaving it their for respect to the op and fellow users to the thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My GP said that hrt will only help with :

*hair loss

*sweats

*dry skin +vaginal atrophy

*reduced sex drive

*low mood

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By *ootprints1629 OP Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray

"Why do users choose to ignore the heading of the poster says women only

I don't know, you tell us?"

I did recieve your private message although unsure what your motive was seeing your a man who commented on a "female only post"

I made this post to gain peoples experiences, opinions, when and what age they went on HRT if they did at all. I didn't ask should I or shouldn't I go to my gp about it which is what you suggested which really I suppose is quite an obvious idea. But again I wanted to hear from other women. Not my gp.

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By *ingdong11Man
over a year ago

emsworth

"Why do users choose to ignore the heading of the poster says women only "

Ironic ……. You ignored it .

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By *orphia2003Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

Been on mirena coil for 15 years. Started suffering terrible depression, mood swings, brain fog, night sweats etc about 2 years ago, aged 47.

GP wasn't prepared to address the issue until I was 50. Found another GP who prescribed HRT patches, as well as some mood stabilizers.

Most of the symptoms have been elevated, except the brain fog. Libedo went through roof.

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By *orphia2003Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

"Everoll hrt patches gets you back on track!!

How do you get the outlines of the pat he's off? My Wife is on them and has black marks short of a hard scrub with a brillo pad they are a nightmare to get off?"

Warm Olive oil, massage into skin, gently scrub with loofah in circular motion. Gets mine off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Obv if your happy to share this info in the forums or if not feel free to pop I to our inbox. "

There's a menopause clinic in Inverness I saw something on social media about- I am planning a trip there since my own GP is fobbing me off with "being too young for menopause", despite the fact that early menopause is a thing in women in my mum's side of the family. Maybe look her up and get an appointment to see if you can get some specialist advise - particularly in relation to getting access to testosterone to help with low libido. Good luck!

Mrs

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By *ootprints1629 OP Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray

Obv if your happy to share this info in the forums or if not feel free to pop I to our inbox.

Mrs"

Ah perfect thankyou, is that NHS of private?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Obv if your happy to share this info in the forums or if not feel free to pop I to our inbox.

Mrs

Ah perfect thankyou, is that NHS of private? "

I think she's an NHS doctor but her clinic is private....in all honesty I am more than happy to pay to just get sorted properly rather than constantly fighting to be listened to by a GP at my local surgery x

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By *ootprints1629 OP Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray

Obv if your happy to share this info in the forums or if not feel free to pop I to our inbox.

Mrs

Ah perfect thankyou, is that NHS of private?

I agree, sometimes it's the only way you know you will get what's needed, I have zero faith in my gp practice. I'm looking to move ASAP but will check this clinic out.

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By *ootprints1629 OP Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray

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By *rcadian110Couple
over a year ago

Barnsley

There is a new amino acid treatment In the us called PT 141 that is working wonders. Helps both men and women with low libido, sexual disfunction and even ed. It's not lisenced in the UK yet but is available online and is very easy to use. You can even get it on Amazon lol. From experience we can tell you it really really works. We were both like teenagers again.

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