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Getting that first verification

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How has everyone got over the hurdle of getting their first verification and meet? I know it’s probably been asked 1000 times but need to start somewhere

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Interacting with people and finding someone where you both find attraction are compatible able to strike up a connection build up chemistry keep the effort be creative let your imagination go wild

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah that’s fair, just getting that initial interaction to make that possibly really

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By *p4fun60Couple
over a year ago

Hampshire

Check out hhe meets section in the events calendar & look for a social event near you & attend it, chat to people & explain your trouble & ask for a veri, most people will happily oblige

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By *assy LassieWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

Try not focusing on a sex verification. A social one is just as valuable if that's what what you want.

Don't go right in hoping to meet for sex. Play it casual and meet for a no expectations coffee.

Or attend some pre arranged social events. Loads are happening in glasgow in the next few months

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Attending some social meets is your best and easiest bet, or possible a club and just interacting with people.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"Yeah that’s fair, just getting that initial interaction to make that possibly really "

Then be creative use your Imagination even humour at the right time don't make it sound lame treat people same way as you would find them beyond online

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah I’ll take a look, appreciate the replies and inputs

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By *eth_loves_lifeTV/TS
over a year ago

London (Camden area)


"How has everyone got over the hurdle of getting their first verification and meet? I know it’s probably been asked 1000 times but need to start somewhere "

Going to a club, socialising, and asking someone there seems like a good shout.

Also, as long as you're meeting in public, I think that many folk (including me) are happy to meet folk without verifications.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've always said we're happy to jump on cam with people who need that first verification. As long as their profile isn't completely garbage

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I went to swingers clubs before I joined fab so the day I joined I received several veris from people I had met who are on here.

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By *omRachCouple
over a year ago

Wirral

We got our 1st verification from the 1st guy we met from here who has now (sadly) left the site. It was a great meet and it seems the most polite and courteous thing to do.

Since then we have met 2 guys on more than one occasion, however Rach has asked for veri's not to be left until such a time as she is ready for them. I know we all want to be seen as genuine but just because there are no veri's it doesn't mean that somebody isn't 'active'.

Don't get too hung up on it is my advice (for what it's worth).

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

Just to let you know, verification doesn’t automatically guarantee meets, in case you didn’t know that.

I will happily meet people without verifications for social in a public place because I trust my gut feeling but sometimes I let my guard down to meet people with lots of verifications and it’s disappointing, hope it makes sense.

As other said, clubs or organised socials are your way to go. Good luck OP.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"How has everyone got over the hurdle of getting their first verification and meet? I know it’s probably been asked 1000 times but need to start somewhere "

Go into group chat and get webcam verification

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Just to let you know, verification doesn’t automatically guarantee meets, in case you didn’t know that.

I will happily meet people without verifications for social in a public place because I trust my gut feeling but sometimes I let my guard down to meet people with lots of verifications and it’s disappointing, hope it makes sense.

As other said, clubs or organised socials are your way to go. Good luck OP."

Definitely not...I turned down men who got over 100 verifications. It just depends how well you get on

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

We state on our profile, only message us if we have a meet or statuts up. We've had 4 offers this morning already, for invites to play. Why? It's a compleate waste of time. We're not free to play.

When we do put a meet up, we say date, time and duration of play. We then get bombared with offers for the meet, along with the ones. That they can't do that day. But can do the day after, or 3 hours after the planned meet.

Or we're put up a club meet. They offer, to meet us doggin, or come to ours. .

Ffs, if you see a meet on advertised. Just take what's in offer. Don't try to change it. If you can't do the planned dates, times or rules. Wait for the next one.

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By *oss mclovinMan
over a year ago

Runcorn

Get yourself to a club day or night an just get in there chatting away to anyone and everyone. I find everytime ive been to a club i end up talking to someone that i have never seen on here.

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By * F 2018Couple
over a year ago

shropshire


"How has everyone got over the hurdle of getting their first verification and meet? I know it’s probably been asked 1000 times but need to start somewhere "

Talking to people....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go to a club and take some slips of paper with your Fab name written on.

Be sociable, chat and give a slip to anyone that you get along with.

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By *cnugatugMan
over a year ago

Chatham

I simply met someone for a social and asked if she'd verify me when we parted sadly the meet didn't go further but we still have eachother a verification

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever


"I simply met someone for a social and asked if she'd verify me when we parted sadly the meet didn't go further but we still have eachother a verification "

You have only one cam verification though?

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
over a year ago

South West London

I met a few people at a social gathering and they suppose to verify me but havent yet and I cant verify them

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By *inky_CarpenterMan
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I've helped quite a few local guys out with social verifications.

If they aproach me decently asking for help advice etc I'll always make time to meet them somewhere for a beer and a chat. Then I can give them an honest veri and off they go to have a fab time....

Failing that look for local social events or clubs to attend.

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By *oreAgainForeverCouple
over a year ago

doncaster

Just get cam verified that’s how we got our first one wasn’t even that bothered about having one but to many people thought we was a single guy hiding behind a couples profile as said above though a veto doesn’t guarantee you a meet all it does is prove your real

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By *ack Flash400Man
over a year ago

The Bat Cave

And don't forget that if people leave the site or (like me), you leave and then return, any verifications received disappear - and you then have to start again!

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

Surely that’s true.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah completely get a verification doesn’t guarantee a meet, would never expect that to be a green light anyway

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"Yeah completely get a verification doesn’t guarantee a meet, would never expect that to be a green light anyway"

If you are a non judgemental person like myself arrange a social with anyone just for a social drink

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