FabSwingers.com forum: are we to young for the swinging scene?

By *aceylew OP Couple
over a year ago

st albans

Thought we would get your opinions on the right age to start exploring the scene, we have noticed we are out of the age range of quite a few users and haven’t had much luck with meeting anyone, dose anyone have any tips or suggestions?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

You're probably too young for many but there are quite a few people of your age about.

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By *ood Time RMan
over a year ago

London / Hertfordshire

You’re about the same age that I started swinging. On and off. Meeting people might be hard with no pictures what so ever. But your best bet is to go to swingers clubs and events. Less pressure and get to speak to people build friendships etc.

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By *uri00620Woman
over a year ago

Croydon

You've been on 3 months and had 3 meets so I'd say no...

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By *inkForLifeCouple
over a year ago

North Shields

We see people your age in our local club. I think you're probably young enough that you're younger than some people's kids.

We really enjoy playing the with younger guys (we don't play with couples) so there is definitely a market.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your verifications are from a social it looks like which is a great way to meet people.

You maybe young but there are a few around your age, maybe try a club. They are great and never any pressure to do anything that you dint want to.

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By *aceylew OP Couple
over a year ago

st albans

Thanks for the advice we are hoping to put some pictures up soon x

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By *aceylew OP Couple
over a year ago

st albans

The Bristol social was a really fun weekend and after speaking to a few different couples we are definitely going to be attending a club soon x

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

No, as long as your both happy and comfortable.

I agree with others pics would help.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice to see other members of the under 30 club. I’ve got three years left

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By *ittleMissSexy2017Couple
over a year ago

Kent

Not at all, we started a few years ago so similar age.

Yes a lot of swingers might be older (something we both enjoy) but there is a growing number of younger seems.

As long as you’re having fun that’s what matters!

Kayla

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've played with a couple your age. There are club nights specifically for younger people in the scene, you could have a look for them.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Too young for the scene? Not at all. Too young for some people's preferred age range for people to play with, sure. But there'll be plenty of compatible people for you around

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

I wouldn't say too young are many within your age group on here, whether within your own location is another thing but pictures as mentioned above does help leaving the door open

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No such thing! You’re perfect for it

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Yes for some you will be ,but not for others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I started when I was 18 so no your not too young. Just persevere and you will have lots of fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not too young for the scene but you may be too young for the majority of people on the scene.

Like all things, you’re never going to be right for everyone but that doesn’t mean you won’t be right for someone. Just might make your options a bit more limited

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By *antasysoulsCouple
over a year ago

Dumfries

Not at all to us there isn't enough people in their 20s and 30s on the site but tbh we kinda think that's because the site is so outdated people in their 40s and 50s are of a particular generation and can be off-putting to 90s kids so we do wish there was more younger people on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely not too young. I started when I was 17 and still in a foreign country back then, and when I came to the UK for my first uni stint at 21 I joined Fab and dived headlong into the swinging scene. There are others out there in your age range, fret not!

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By *ichaelsmyMan
over a year ago

douglas

i doubt that your age matters to anyone but yourselves

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By *p4fun60Couple
over a year ago

Hampshire

It's ironic that we asked the same question but at the opposite end of the spectrum at nearly 60 thinking we were too old, I think the only people feeling ageist were us when we decided we wouldn't play with anyone younger that our kids (the eldest being 40)

So how foolish did we feel when we went to a club & immediately got hit on by a couple in their early 20s - one thing we've learnt in this lifestyle is, age is immaterial as attaction & compatibility is ageless

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By *onnoisseur100Man
over a year ago

Woking-ish

"I started when I was 18 so no your not too young. Just persevere and you will have lots of fun."

I started at 19 and have been dipping my toes ever since. And you'd be ok for me but probably not the other way round! LOL.

Such is life, grasp each opportunity as it comes up.

The main thing is have fun!

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By *ellardnorthamptonMan
over a year ago

northampton

"It's ironic that we asked the same question but at the opposite end of the spectrum at nearly 60 thinking we were too old, I think the only people feeling ageist were us when we decided we wouldn't play with anyone younger that our kids (the eldest being 40)

I love a older couple it sooo hot x

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By *oupleSouthEast69Couple
over a year ago

brighton

We wouldn't meet your age on purpose but we met a younger couple at a club and it was very much go with the flow so maybe get to club!

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

Chichester

There is loads of 18- 30 swingers about in person and on other sites not so specifically just swingers sites.

Prob on fab as it’s a legacy site and quite poor visually looking / functioning compared to modern contact sites which younger or tech loving people prefer ..

I am in a couple of discords which is mostly i meet up single people from .

Clubs are a spread at some and as others said a few will cater for age specific nights like under 35s

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

I'm going to guess as your age range on here is 18-30 your choices of potential play mates is limited. Which is perfectly OK just the facts are the main demographic is mid-late 30s plus. Doesn't mean your too young for the general scene if your enjoying the socialising and hanging out with like minded others. We've made lots of good freinds and laughs we people who aren't our type or us their type either sexually, sometimes due to age. But good freinds and times non the less. The scene is more than just the sex to us and maybe it is for you too? However the lack of people in your age range will always limit your play options and/or your social options if you tend to enjoy the social company of people your own age range. However in the few years we've been at it we've notice an increase in people in their 20s attending in clubs, especially on couples nights. So the demographic is slowly widening.

As others have said if you are specifically seeking the company of folk in your advertised age group them best to seek out special events for the under 30s or organise a club visit with others who are seeking the same.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

Also as others have said younger people tend to use other apps to hook up. We have adult kids and talking to them we know the youth use other apps (in addition to the famous swipe left/right one) that we didn't even know existed to hook up and meet new people. So maybe there's other places on the Internet to find a younger active scene. From what we can tell its tends to be more informal and probably non of them would call it swinging. But it's just the same sexual non-monogamy, experimentation and 3somes/moresomes going on, just without labels.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for the advice we are hoping to put some pictures up soon x

That will certainly help

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By *onlywishiMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

As already said being at either the upper age or as you the lower age group does have the limitations of people not wanting too meet

But doing the socials locally or clubs in your local area would help ? If your worried about being recognised do what some do and go a bit further a field to clubs for fun ?

Hope this doesn’t put you off

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By *inkymixedguyMan
over a year ago

southampton

Not to young me an my ex wife started swinging at 18-19.

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

Not at all.

I started clubbing at 22.

Loads your age on the scene.

Allure 39 and under event at townhouse is great for a younger crowd.

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By *arren and AliciaCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Probably too young for some as they may have kids same age or older x

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By *uke Duchess llCouple
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

extend your looking for age, better off 18 to 90

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By *antasysoulsCouple
over a year ago

Dumfries

"extend your looking for age, better off 18 to 90"

If they don't want to meet people over the age of 30 why would they extend their age range it's there for a reason and typically only men have that kind of wide age range on fab and they get slated for it on a daily in forums.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

no me and hubs started younger than you and its for nobody else to tell you your to young either ...stick to your rules and enjoy the lifestyle

dont be fooled in to other swingers saying you must be this or that as there are no golden rules as theres no rulebook no matter where you are on the scene ...you'll hear offten oh the clubs are the scene its not its a tiny fraction same with these forums tiny tiny fraction ... go have fun you only live once

swinging = such a wide spectrum from role play,fantasy to real just enjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No but you will find a lot of swinger couples tend to be married people and thus a bit older than yourselves.

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By *ed MartinMan
over a year ago

Shefford

Certainly not, although you may find more success once you find the right event/venue for you. There are some that attract a younger crowd by virtue of the type of music they play etc- just like differing Vanilla pubs and clubs cater to different age groups.

There’s nothing “wrong” with being younger than the perceived average age on her, but before things get to the sexual stuff, it’s nice to have some sort of social chemistry as well.

That said, there will be some people who are put off by the idea of sex with someone young enough to be their child- and those who are actively looking for a cougar/cub or DDLG sort of thing.

Just be you, I’m sure you’ll find your niche if you’re patient.

And I recommend Penthouse Playrooms as a good venue, well run, with a relatively high number of under 30s- it’s in Dunstable, so also not far from you!

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