FabSwingers.com forum: CAN'T UNDERSTAND

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

One thing I'll never understand about this site is people who send you a nice message showing interest then disappearing. Coming online daily but not opening your reply. Even worse ones who send you their number and you send a what's app and they are never online or never respond. Seriously what is the point? Do people get off on wasting other people's time? Is this some new fetish ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People are allowed to change their mind or wait until they have time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate those people that have actual lives away from all the cock and vagina.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

It actually is a fetish.

Don't shame them.

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By *elcome68Man
over a year ago

manchester

change ur mind as many times as you wish if it doesnt feel rite at the time, wotever the situation its about at the time. don't let ppl be pushy grrrrrrrrr

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"People are allowed to change their mind or wait until they have time

Changing your mind after a few messages is one thing but sending a message of interest and then ghosting is another. I'm sorry you don't know the difference

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I come online daily and ignore messages, never had a complaint, there's many reasons for this.

Sometimes I want to browse the forums and not speak to people.

Level of coffee needed before human interaction.

Interest in who's messaging, they could have put me off so I'll just ignore.

I'm interested and waiting to see what the Mr thinks.

The Mr is having the conversation but it's me online so it stays unread.

People can and do change their minds and that's perfectly acceptable.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I hate those people that have actual lives away from all the cock and vagina.

Cool then don't respond to people in interest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One thing I'll never understand about this site is people who send you a nice message showing interest then disappearing. Coming online daily but not opening your reply. Even worse ones who send you their number and you send a what's app and they are never online or never respond. Seriously what is the point? Do people get off on wasting other people's time? Is this some new fetish ?"

Welcome to the Jungle that is Fab..my tuppence worth is do not let anything here upset or affect you in any shape or form..it's simply not worth it . Your health in every way is way more important than anything here .. believe me ..have a great Easter

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By *elcome68Man
over a year ago

manchester

wearing a ball gown wud fit in well with my ball room x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People are busy, nobody owes me there time but I do like people to make an effort if they don't that's fine I move on.

I always go into this with no expectations.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"change ur mind as many times as you wish if it doesnt feel rite at the time, wotever the situation its about at the time. don't let ppl be pushy grrrrrrrrr

That's not what I'm talking about but cool

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

"I hate those people that have actual lives away from all the cock and vagina.

There is such a thing as an actual life?

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By *olf and RedCouple
over a year ago

Nr Cardiff or at Chams Darlaston

Wolf often opens messages on our profile, but I do most of the replying. Sometimes that takes a couple of days. So maybe you’ll get a reply, but they’re too busy to send one immediately.

Red

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By *elcome68Man
over a year ago

manchester

here here am, cud do with a tuppence here rite now LOL x

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

People are fickle, you’ve served your purpose for that moment in time and now something better has come along. You should do the same don’t dwell, move on.

The mr

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I come online daily and ignore messages, never had a complaint, there's many reasons for this.

Sometimes I want to browse the forums and not speak to people.

Level of coffee needed before human interaction.

Interest in who's messaging, they could have put me off so I'll just ignore.

I'm interested and waiting to see what the Mr thinks.

The Mr is having the conversation but it's me online so it stays unread.

People can and do change their minds and that's perfectly acceptable.

Mrs "

But why would you message someone stating you want to meet or show interest then complety ignore that person. What are you trying to achieve other than just showing you're unreliable and a timewaster

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"People are busy, nobody owes me there time but I do like people to make an effort if they don't that's fine I move on.

I always go into this with no expectations. "

Cool if you're busy don't message people. Simple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just because someone shows interest does not mean they want to chat or meet.

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By *elcome68Man
over a year ago

manchester

lol apologies

. to quick to jump in, jst read your aloud to change ur mind. silly billy me x

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"I come online daily and ignore messages, never had a complaint, there's many reasons for this.

Sometimes I want to browse the forums and not speak to people.

Level of coffee needed before human interaction.

Interest in who's messaging, they could have put me off so I'll just ignore.

I'm interested and waiting to see what the Mr thinks.

The Mr is having the conversation but it's me online so it stays unread.

People can and do change their minds and that's perfectly acceptable.

Mrs

But why would you message someone stating you want to meet or show interest then complety ignore that person. What are you trying to achieve other than just showing you're unreliable and a timewaster "

No it shows I have a life away from fab and that your cock isn't high on my priorities.....

Posts like this are a great filter for the self entitelled.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Wolf often opens messages on our profile, but I do most of the replying. Sometimes that takes a couple of days. So maybe you’ll get a reply, but they’re too busy to send one immediately.

Red

No I'm not expecting immediate replies. I mean people who don't reply at all. Or people who send numbers then ghost after you send an initial "hello" message.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"People are fickle, you’ve served your purpose for that moment in time and now something better has come along. You should do the same don’t dwell, move on.

The mr "

I think you're right. This site used to be so good 5-10 years ago. Loads of real nice genuine people

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just because someone shows interest does not mean they want to chat or meet.

That makes absolutely no sense. That's like saying just because I'm a vegetarian it doesn't mean I want to eat plants

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I come online daily and ignore messages, never had a complaint, there's many reasons for this.

Sometimes I want to browse the forums and not speak to people.

Level of coffee needed before human interaction.

Interest in who's messaging, they could have put me off so I'll just ignore.

I'm interested and waiting to see what the Mr thinks.

The Mr is having the conversation but it's me online so it stays unread.

People can and do change their minds and that's perfectly acceptable.

Mrs

But why would you message someone stating you want to meet or show interest then complety ignore that person. What are you trying to achieve other than just showing you're unreliable and a timewaster

No it shows I have a life away from fab and that your cock isn't high on my priorities.....

Posts like this are a great filter for the self entitelled.

Mrs "

It's not about entitlement. I'm not entitled for a reply. I'm just saying don't message someone if you have no intention of chatting or meeting. Don't waste people's time.

Replies like yours are a good Indicator of who is geniune and who isn't

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"I come online daily and ignore messages, never had a complaint, there's many reasons for this.

Sometimes I want to browse the forums and not speak to people.

Level of coffee needed before human interaction.

Interest in who's messaging, they could have put me off so I'll just ignore.

I'm interested and waiting to see what the Mr thinks.

The Mr is having the conversation but it's me online so it stays unread.

People can and do change their minds and that's perfectly acceptable.

Mrs

But why would you message someone stating you want to meet or show interest then complety ignore that person. What are you trying to achieve other than just showing you're unreliable and a timewaster

No it shows I have a life away from fab and that your cock isn't high on my priorities.....

Posts like this are a great filter for the self entitelled.

Mrs

It's not about entitlement. I'm not entitled for a reply. I'm just saying don't message someone if you have no intention of chatting or meeting. Don't waste people's time.

Replies like yours are a good Indicator of who is geniune and who isn't "

Yes I think my verifications speak for themselves regarding being genuine.

You are being very entitelled as you've stated I'm unreliable and a time waster, far from the fact, I've met everyone I've planned to meet, I'm happy to wait a week for a reply because I understand people have lives.

Believe it or not we don't sit and scroll fab 24/7 or reply to messages when I don't want to, people can wait there's far more important things than replying quickly so someone doesn't spit their dummy out.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I come online daily and ignore messages, never had a complaint, there's many reasons for this.

Sometimes I want to browse the forums and not speak to people.

Level of coffee needed before human interaction.

Interest in who's messaging, they could have put me off so I'll just ignore.

I'm interested and waiting to see what the Mr thinks.

The Mr is having the conversation but it's me online so it stays unread.

People can and do change their minds and that's perfectly acceptable.

Mrs

But why would you message someone stating you want to meet or show interest then complety ignore that person. What are you trying to achieve other than just showing you're unreliable and a timewaster

No it shows I have a life away from fab and that your cock isn't high on my priorities.....

Posts like this are a great filter for the self entitelled.

Mrs

It's not about entitlement. I'm not entitled for a reply. I'm just saying don't message someone if you have no intention of chatting or meeting. Don't waste people's time.

Replies like yours are a good Indicator of who is geniune and who isn't

Yes I think my verifications speak for themselves regarding being genuine.

Mrs "

Reading skills are not something you obviously have.

Good for you on being genuine your blue Peter badge is in the post

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"I come online daily and ignore messages, never had a complaint, there's many reasons for this.

Sometimes I want to browse the forums and not speak to people.

Level of coffee needed before human interaction.

Interest in who's messaging, they could have put me off so I'll just ignore.

I'm interested and waiting to see what the Mr thinks.

The Mr is having the conversation but it's me online so it stays unread.

People can and do change their minds and that's perfectly acceptable.

Mrs

But why would you message someone stating you want to meet or show interest then complety ignore that person. What are you trying to achieve other than just showing you're unreliable and a timewaster

No it shows I have a life away from fab and that your cock isn't high on my priorities.....

Posts like this are a great filter for the self entitelled.

Mrs

It's not about entitlement. I'm not entitled for a reply. I'm just saying don't message someone if you have no intention of chatting or meeting. Don't waste people's time.

Replies like yours are a good Indicator of who is geniune and who isn't

Yes I think my verifications speak for themselves regarding being genuine.

Mrs

Reading skills are not something you obviously have.

Good for you on being genuine your blue Peter badge is in the post"

Why thank you, I've always wanted one.

Reading skills are amazing if rate myself a good 10/10.

Now pop your dummy in, and take the no reply as a no thank you.

Sumo.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I come online daily and ignore messages, never had a complaint, there's many reasons for this.

Sometimes I want to browse the forums and not speak to people.

Level of coffee needed before human interaction.

Interest in who's messaging, they could have put me off so I'll just ignore.

I'm interested and waiting to see what the Mr thinks.

The Mr is having the conversation but it's me online so it stays unread.

People can and do change their minds and that's perfectly acceptable.

Mrs

But why would you message someone stating you want to meet or show interest then complety ignore that person. What are you trying to achieve other than just showing you're unreliable and a timewaster

No it shows I have a life away from fab and that your cock isn't high on my priorities.....

Posts like this are a great filter for the self entitelled.

Mrs

It's not about entitlement. I'm not entitled for a reply. I'm just saying don't message someone if you have no intention of chatting or meeting. Don't waste people's time.

Replies like yours are a good Indicator of who is geniune and who isn't

Yes I think my verifications speak for themselves regarding being genuine.

Mrs

Reading skills are not something you obviously have.

Good for you on being genuine your blue Peter badge is in the post

Why thank you, I've always wanted one.

Reading skills are amazing if rate myself a good 10/10.

Now pop your dummy in, and take the no reply as a no thank you.

Sumo.

Mrs "

If your reading skills were amazing you wouldn't be arguing about something I didn't say. That's usually a good indicator that someone can't read or comprehend

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Since you seem to have an inability to read your own response to me I'll copy and paste it below.

"But why would you message someone stating you want to meet or show interest then complety ignore that person. What are you trying to achieve other than just showing you're unreliable and a timewaster"

Now I managed to read that reasonably well with a little help..... But here you are, if you need a hand reading your own words, Google translate may help.

Have the most lovely of Easter weekends.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just because someone shows interest does not mean they want to chat or meet.

That makes absolutely no sense. That's like saying just because I'm a vegetarian it doesn't mean I want to eat plants "

Sorry to deflate your ego but the people messaging you are probably messaging multiple other people on Fab at the same time and have chosen to continue the conversation with someone other than you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why thank you, I've always wanted one.

Reading skills are amazing if rate myself a good 10/10.

It also helps when you know what the meaning of words you use are and in what context you should use them.

'entitled' is something you may want to look up and understand.

I'll give you 1/10... The 1 was for effort

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"People are busy, nobody owes me there time but I do like people to make an effort if they don't that's fine I move on.

I always go into this with no expectations.

Cool if you're busy don't message people. Simple"
how long is too long though. I can message someone

. Then not check my replies for days.. sometimes longer if work is busy.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Why thank you, I've always wanted one.

Reading skills are amazing if rate myself a good 10/10.

It also helps when you know what the meaning of words you use are and in what context you should use them.

'entitled' is something you may want to look up and understand.

I'll give you 1/10... The 1 was for effort"

dummy back in

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Since you seem to have an inability to read your own response to me I'll copy and paste it below.

Now I managed to read that reasonably well with a little help..... But here you are, if you need a hand reading your own words, Google translate may help.

Have the most lovely of Easter weekends.

Mrs "

Messaging someone then ignoring them shows you're a timewaster. It isn't an indicator that you're entitled to a reply. You've already had the reply.

Bless you did your best.

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By *imply DeeWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

You sound very bitter and very angry OP and I believe your responses won’t help your situation either.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just because someone shows interest does not mean they want to chat or meet.

That makes absolutely no sense. That's like saying just because I'm a vegetarian it doesn't mean I want to eat plants

Sorry to deflate your ego but the people messaging you are probably messaging multiple other people on Fab at the same time and have chosen to continue the conversation with someone other than you.

Why sent phone numbers then? Once again you need to know what ego means. Don't use words out of context

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"People are busy, nobody owes me there time but I do like people to make an effort if they don't that's fine I move on.

I always go into this with no expectations.

Cool if you're busy don't message people. Simple how long is too long though. I can message someone

. Then not check my replies for days.. sometimes longer if work is busy. "

It's never. You get a message saying how nice your profile is and they would love to meet. You respond with a possitive friendly message and they never open or read it even though they're online daily. I think it's people seeking attention to build their self esteem

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why thank you, I've always wanted one.

Reading skills are amazing if rate myself a good 10/10.

It also helps when you know what the meaning of words you use are and in what context you should use them.

'entitled' is something you may want to look up and understand.

I'll give you 1/10... The 1 was for effort

dummy back in

Very original. Come back when you learn to read or learn the meaning of words.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You sound very bitter and very angry OP and I believe your responses won’t help your situation either. "

Not really. I just give rude people the same energy they give so when people like you come and get all defensive and rude you try to gaslight people for giving you what you gave in the first instance

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think it's just women with low self-esteem trying to build theirs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People are busy, nobody owes me there time but I do like people to make an effort if they don't that's fine I move on.

I always go into this with no expectations.

Cool if you're busy don't message people. Simple how long is too long though. I can message someone

. Then not check my replies for days.. sometimes longer if work is busy.

Threads like this O.P rarely go well, I see the usual suspects are here throwing insults.

O.P if this is your experience then it should be accepted, but instead you are denied and insulted, this is the way on FAB.

There are many, many posts such as yours on here, but FAB rules are people can do whatever they wish regardless of how it affects others.

By such rules your post and other posts like yours should be accepted regardless of how others feel about your post, but this it seems this is where the rules do not apply.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"People are busy, nobody owes me there time but I do like people to make an effort if they don't that's fine I move on.

I always go into this with no expectations.

Cool if you're busy don't message people. Simple how long is too long though. I can message someone

. Then not check my replies for days.. sometimes longer if work is busy.

Threads like this O.P rarely go well, I see the usual suspects are here throwing insults.

O.P if this is your experience then it should be accepted, but instead you are denied and insulted, this is the way on FAB.

There are many, many posts such as yours on here, but FAB rules are people can do whatever they wish regardless of how it affects others.

By such rules your post and other posts like yours should be accepted regardless of how others feel about your post, but this it seems this is where the rules do not apply."

Exactly my point my friend. It's always the same clique and the same white nights. Post something and they come frothing at the mouths

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People are busy, nobody owes me there time but I do like people to make an effort if they don't that's fine I move on.

I always go into this with no expectations.

Cool if you're busy don't message people. Simple how long is too long though. I can message someone

. Then not check my replies for days.. sometimes longer if work is busy.

Threads like this O.P rarely go well, I see the usual suspects are here throwing insults.

O.P if this is your experience then it should be accepted, but instead you are denied and insulted, this is the way on FAB.

There are many, many posts such as yours on here, but FAB rules are people can do whatever they wish regardless of how it affects others.

By such rules your post and other posts like yours should be accepted regardless of how others feel about your post, but this it seems this is where the rules do not apply.

Exactly my point my friend. It's always the same clique and the same white nights. Post something and they come frothing at the mouths"

Keep on speaking your truth your entitled to do so.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Welcome to fab you have to take the rough with the smooth nobody said anything was going to be easy just like life

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By *wendolineFoxWoman
over a year ago

Chester

It’s the same on all ‘dating’ sites, and with all genders. People are weird and you can’t control that. You can only control your reaction; block, forget and move on if it’s really been a significant amount of time since the last interaction.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

Another one of these threads and they rarely go well. OP just forget it, move on, ignore the negatives, focus on positive aspects of the site, be happy, friendly etc. Works much better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People are busy, nobody owes me there time but I do like people to make an effort if they don't that's fine I move on.

I always go into this with no expectations.

Cool if you're busy don't message people. Simple how long is too long though. I can message someone

. Then not check my replies for days.. sometimes longer if work is busy.

Threads like this O.P rarely go well, I see the usual suspects are here throwing insults.

O.P if this is your experience then it should be accepted, but instead you are denied and insulted, this is the way on FAB.

There are many, many posts such as yours on here, but FAB rules are people can do whatever they wish regardless of how it affects others.

By such rules your post and other posts like yours should be accepted regardless of how others feel about your post, but this it seems this is where the rules do not apply.

Exactly my point my friend. It's always the same clique and the same white nights. Post something and they come frothing at the mouths"

There are some helpful people, place your focus on those and bipass any you consider cliquey or white knights.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately OP, people can be frustrating.

They have their reasons, whether they're valid or simply fantasists, or time wasters.

Whichever category they in, it's irrelevant, we just have to suck it up, and realise people can be frustrating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had that few times but I have also met some nice people too I not bothered there loss I am sexi lady

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
over a year ago

South West London

"I come online daily and ignore messages, never had a complaint, there's many reasons for this.

Sometimes I want to browse the forums and not speak to people.

Level of coffee needed before human interaction.

Interest in who's messaging, they could have put me off so I'll just ignore.

I'm interested and waiting to see what the Mr thinks.

The Mr is having the conversation but it's me online so it stays unread.

People can and do change their minds and that's perfectly acceptable.

Mrs

But why would you message someone stating you want to meet or show interest then complety ignore that person. What are you trying to achieve other than just showing you're unreliable and a timewaster

No it shows I have a life away from fab and that your cock isn't high on my priorities.....

Posts like this are a great filter for the self entitelled.

Mrs

It's not about entitlement. I'm not entitled for a reply. I'm just saying don't message someone if you have no intention of chatting or meeting. Don't waste people's time.

Replies like yours are a good Indicator of who is geniune and who isn't "
Agree 100%

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Self control is needed that way you won't let things bother you as much and enjoy yourself

Happy Easter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Imagine having a public strop about what other people decide to do. Cringe level off the charts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your having public strop too silverandblack

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This chat is swinging support and advice not being nasty to people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This chat is swinging support and advice not being nasty to people "

Nothing to do with being nasty, it's called free speech babe.

Sarah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He can put the post up if he wants and saying it's cringe is being nasty the clue is in the chat swinging support and advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s called acceptance. If you just accept things for what they are then those things won’t bother you. No point getting knickers in a twist over something you can’t control.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Imagine having a public strop about what other people decide to do. Cringe level off the charts

Come on, calling someone out this way, and on the support forum.

It's not better, is it?

I mean, it really isn't.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

It's so terrible they show interest, you replied, there no longer interested - common denominator - your reply.

Hardly time wasting!

As for the bless you patronising comment, I'm already blessed and require no further blessings but many thanks.

I'll give up having a conversation with someone who can't understand their own comments is tedious.

Mrs

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

I understand:

Why some people have lives,

some change their minds,

some get caught off their wife, husbands, partners,

some have a wank instead,

some fall in love with swedish woman named Helga and has a Ferrari,

some get herpies,

some move country..

What I don't get is not getting any offers myself, fkers.

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By *esparate danMan
over a year ago

glasgow

Its dudes. Youre giving your contact details to dudes

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By *he Dark GentlemanMan
over a year ago

London

"I understand:

Why some people have lives,

some change their minds,

some get caught off their wife, husbands, partners,

some have a wank instead,

some fall in love with swedish woman named Helga and has a Ferrari,

some get herpies,

some move country..

What I don't get is not getting any offers myself, fkers.

I think this is probably the best answer to the ops question.

Sometimes things happen, loss of interest, busy lire, WiFi and phone bill cut off, leave Fab for various reasons.

I can understand the ops frustration and I find it interesting that he is being vilified when I've seen the same question asked by couples and women about single men sending messages and dissapearing /not responding.

The response to their question was vastly different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Few things

Your reply may be way down in their inbox so not seen

Lots of ppl use a different phone/sim for here

Ppl change their mind if they don't like the reply. I do, often. And I'll mark the message unread and just let it sit there to remind me not to contact that person again

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By *iss pleasuringWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near

Some on here are 3/4 times checking up on messages whilst others once twice either side of day.

There are many cock wombles who just want dirty messages to get off on

Sounds like this person's was a wank material messager

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By *randMrsNorthernCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire

Welcome to Fab

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By *ocketman20Man
over a year ago

Douglas

I once had a lovely meet with a single female, dinner, nice hotel, sex most of the night - left on good terms.

Next few weeks I was ghosted then blocked. I was curious for a while, but it’s their choice - it either didn't go as well as I thought or they fell madly in love with me (joke!).

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By *imply DeeWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

"I once had a lovely meet with a single female, dinner, nice hotel, sex most of the night - left on good terms.

Next few weeks I was ghosted then blocked. I was curious for a while, but it’s their choice - it either didn't go as well as I thought or they fell madly in love with me (joke!).

Probably none of the above. Some people just like one off thing, nothing wrong with that, as long as they are open about it from the start.

Most likely nothing to do with you.

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

Typical Fab. Behind their keyboards they often don't give a rats how the person they message might actually feel about thier words or their actions. Makes them feel good or superior, makes me feel sorry for them.

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By *iss pleasuringWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near

"I once had a lovely meet with a single female, dinner, nice hotel, sex most of the night - left on good terms.

Next few weeks I was ghosted then blocked. I was curious for a while, but it’s their choice - it either didn't go as well as I thought or they fell madly in love with me (joke!).

Likely wasn't as good as you thought

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray

"I hate those people that have actual lives away from all the cock and vagina.

There is such a thing as an actual life?"

I think this was a sarcastic reply to OP.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It seems the usual suspects don't know how to read and have poor comprehension skills.

To those that can read and understand, I thank you.

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By *axtanMan
over a year ago

los Cristianos now

Yes and yes.

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By *hillman789Man
over a year ago

Middlewich

To the males on here it seems many have 'fussy requests' of 'do's and dont's' with a word for reply in the heading etc.,. If the males had these requests and desires they would never meet anyone! Just saying, I realise everyone has to be careful of the time-wasters and so on but there IS a bit of give and take surely? The one's I find annoying are those who say they are 'looking' but not meeting or just chat or show off and never really meet anyone? I know we all have our own kinks and stuff but for us males this can be grrr too!

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By *nkyCplCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

No one owes you anything. Just block and move on.

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By *nkyCplCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

"To the males on here it seems many have 'fussy requests' of 'do's and dont's' with a word for reply in the heading etc.,. If the males had these requests and desires they would never meet anyone! Just saying, I realise everyone has to be careful of the time-wasters and so on but there IS a bit of give and take surely? The one's I find annoying are those who say they are 'looking' but not meeting or just chat or show off and never really meet anyone? I know we all have our own kinks and stuff but for us males this can be grrr too!"

Supply and demand my friend. There’s nothing stopping you from being “fussy”, having “do’s & donts” and requesting a word in the subject to ensure the profile is read.

Quit whining

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

You're right mate. Ignore the other replies. They are just here for attention and to bait you into an argument because they have nothing better to do and nothing going on in their lives.

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By *nkyCplCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

"You're right mate. Ignore the other replies. They are just here for attention and to bait you into an argument because they have nothing better to do and nothing going on in their lives. "

That’s right, live in an echo chamber ha ha.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I think what happens is they send the same message to loads of guys then when they get guys that are interested they narrow it down to those that appeal to them the most. Carry on communication with those and ignore the rest

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think what happens is they send the same message to loads of guys then when they get guys that are interested they narrow it down to those that appeal to them the most. Carry on communication with those and ignore the rest"

So just time wasting then. If they opened your message and you saw it was read, at least you'll know they might have changed their mind or they didn't like your reply and you'll move on. But then again they send their number and just go AWOL. literally had a few send their number and I sent a "hi it's xxx from fab" and they replied with "hi" then never opened a message again or never messaged. Weirdos

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By *nkyCplCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

[Removed by poster at 10/04/23 20:19:00]

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By *unfunfun xMan
over a year ago

LONDON

I understand your frustration especially when it involves communication away from this site because you think things are moving forward, but it be the same on any site,its tough have no expectations even at whatsapp stage or calling stage always have them barriers up for a knock back, there's males females couples who even got to the stage of a meet up but no show, its tough but keep going

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By *annyjones1204Man
over a year ago

by the seaside

I actually ask a woman about this once and she said it was her way of managing messages, if a hot women is visible, everyone can message her, if she’s hidden, only those with existing message threads can message her… no new messages from unwanted people and can still keep in touch with those under “consideration”

She might be hiding from you, or it could be the 30,000 other blokes…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its dudes. Youre giving your contact details to dudes "

(((

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why thank you, I've always wanted one.

Reading skills are amazing if rate myself a good 10/10.

It also helps when you know what the meaning of words you use are and in what context you should use them.

'entitled' is something you may want to look up and understand.

I'll give you 1/10... The 1 was for effort

dummy back in

He’s really doing himself no favours getting a reply now after acting like this

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why thank you, I've always wanted one.

Reading skills are amazing if rate myself a good 10/10.

It also helps when you know what the meaning of words you use are and in what context you should use them.

'entitled' is something you may want to look up and understand.

I'll give you 1/10... The 1 was for effort

dummy back in

He’s really doing himself no favours getting a reply now after acting like this

You're not the sort of person I'm wanting replies from so it's no loss for me thanks

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

"People are allowed to change their mind or wait until they have time

Changing your mind after a few messages is one thing but sending a message of interest and then ghosting is another. I'm sorry you don't know the difference "

In casual sex, people owe you no explanation

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

[Removed by poster at 12/04/23 08:03:58]

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

"Since you seem to have an inability to read your own response to me I'll copy and paste it below.

Now I managed to read that reasonably well with a little help..... But here you are, if you need a hand reading your own words, Google translate may help.

Have the most lovely of Easter weekends.

Mrs

Messaging someone then ignoring them shows you're a timewaster. It isn't an indicator that you're entitled to a reply. You've already had the reply.

Bless you did your best. "

If someone messages you I assume you respond. If the problem for you is happening a lot maybe it's your responses that are the issue?

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I do understand your point of view. But the real issue here is choice or intention. It seems alot of people cannot be truthful to themselves or others. For example,they want to cheat on their partners, they crave for the attention they don't get from their partners, but when reality hits (like getting telephone number or actual meet up) they recoil. Choice, I'm a typical fab woman who gets unindated with choice. If a guy says something that turns me off, I do change my mind and disappear. If I formed some sort of connection but changed my mind, usually I would say, regardless how brutal it may appear.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

On the plus side you're getting messages OP.

There are frequently single males posting in the forums asking why they never get any, how to attract interest to a profile and questioning if people actually ever message si gle men on Fab.

So every cloud.........

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By *awg-mo-thoinWoman
over a year ago

Brixton

Leaving aside your other points, I find it really odd that you’re annoyed by people who are on here just to chat or use cams but not meet in person. Why does it bother you how they choose to have fun? How does this affect you? Other than narrowing the pool of women who presumably you feel would surely be a potential meet for you otherwise.

It’s interesting that you actually reference the cam users on your profile as “voyeurism with no real meet envisaged.” You do realise voyeurism is a kink that exists in more than one form? Particularly given that you’ve listed it as one of your own kinks on your profile?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

On the plus side you're getting messages OP.

There are frequently single males posting in the forums asking why they never get any, how to attract interest to a profile and questioning if people actually ever message si gle men on Fab.

So every cloud.........

To be honest I rather not get responses from attention seekers and timewasters.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 12/04/23 09:57:40]

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

On the plus side you're getting messages OP.

There are frequently single males posting in the forums asking why they never get any, how to attract interest to a profile and questioning if people actually ever message si gle men on Fab.

So every cloud.........

To be honest I rather not get responses from attention seekers and timewasters. "

What an odd way to describe a couple that meets and has way more veris than you.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

"[Removed by poster at 12/04/23 09:57:40]"

See you deleted the message questioning why so many people here seem to struggle to understand you and questioning education in the 1960-80s.

Here’s a thought. Perhaps the way you write makes things ambiguous and hard to understand?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On the plus side you're getting messages OP.

There are frequently single males posting in the forums asking why they never get any, how to attract interest to a profile and questioning if people actually ever message si gle men on Fab.

So every cloud.........

To be honest I rather not get responses from attention seekers and timewasters.

What an odd way to describe a couple that meets and has way more veris than you. "

I assumed his response was aimed towards those mentioned in his initial post, rather than suggesting that of the couple he replied to.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

On the plus side you're getting messages OP.

There are frequently single males posting in the forums asking why they never get any, how to attract interest to a profile and questioning if people actually ever message si gle men on Fab.

So every cloud.........

To be honest I rather not get responses from attention seekers and timewasters.

What an odd way to describe a couple that meets and has way more veris than you.

I assumed his response was aimed towards those mentioned in his initial post, rather than suggesting that of the couple he replied to. "

Oh yes possibly - see I told you his way of writing is perhaps ambiguous and hard to understand

Must be my education in the 1970's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On the plus side you're getting messages OP.

There are frequently single males posting in the forums asking why they never get any, how to attract interest to a profile and questioning if people actually ever message si gle men on Fab.

So every cloud.........

To be honest I rather not get responses from attention seekers and timewasters.

What an odd way to describe a couple that meets and has way more veris than you.

I assumed his response was aimed towards those mentioned in his initial post, rather than suggesting that of the couple he replied to.

Oh yes possibly - see I told you his way of writing is perhaps ambiguous and hard to understand

Must be my education in the 1970's

We all express ourselves differently.

Sometimes reading the words helps, other times reading the emotion behind the words is key.

Some people are good expressing with words, others better with expressing with emotion.

Some are good are understanding words, others at understanding emotions behind them.

We're all different is all.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

On the plus side you're getting messages OP.

There are frequently single males posting in the forums asking why they never get any, how to attract interest to a profile and questioning if people actually ever message si gle men on Fab.

So every cloud.........

To be honest I rather not get responses from attention seekers and timewasters.

What an odd way to describe a couple that meets and has way more veris than you.

I assumed his response was aimed towards those mentioned in his initial post, rather than suggesting that of the couple he replied to.

Oh yes possibly - see I told you his way of writing is perhaps ambiguous and hard to understand

Must be my education in the 1970's

We all express ourselves differently.

Sometimes reading the words helps, other times reading the emotion behind the words is key.

Some people are good expressing with words, others better with expressing with emotion.

Some are good are understanding words, others at understanding emotions behind them.

We're all different is all. "

Yes but when somebody is complaining rather a lot in a childish and insulting manner about people not understanding them and criticising the education standards of others perhaps the problem is not with others. But then again he deleted that post so perhaps he realised it was not appropriate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have lots of conversations that amount to nothing. That’s how we gauge whether we want to take the next step; by having a chat and seeing if there is any compatibility. A message does not mean the recipient is entitled to a meet. We’ll just go check ourselves into the ‘timewaster’ suite too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On the plus side you're getting messages OP.

There are frequently single males posting in the forums asking why they never get any, how to attract interest to a profile and questioning if people actually ever message si gle men on Fab.

So every cloud.........

To be honest I rather not get responses from attention seekers and timewasters.

What an odd way to describe a couple that meets and has way more veris than you.

I assumed his response was aimed towards those mentioned in his initial post, rather than suggesting that of the couple he replied to.

Oh yes possibly - see I told you his way of writing is perhaps ambiguous and hard to understand

Must be my education in the 1970's

We all express ourselves differently.

Sometimes reading the words helps, other times reading the emotion behind the words is key.

Some people are good expressing with words, others better with expressing with emotion.

Some are good are understanding words, others at understanding emotions behind them.

We're all different is all.

Exactly that, and yet you felt it was appropriate to use those words to discredit him, even though he had retracted them.

It's no better behaviour, just because you feel you're more word smart. *Shrugs*

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

On the plus side you're getting messages OP.

There are frequently single males posting in the forums asking why they never get any, how to attract interest to a profile and questioning if people actually ever message si gle men on Fab.

So every cloud.........

To be honest I rather not get responses from attention seekers and timewasters.

What an odd way to describe a couple that meets and has way more veris than you. "

I think you need to learn to read mate

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"[Removed by poster at 12/04/23 09:57:40]

See you deleted the message questioning why so many people here seem to struggle to understand you and questioning education in the 1960-80s.

Here’s a thought. Perhaps the way you write makes things ambiguous and hard to understand? "

Ooorrrr..... You can learn to read and comprehend

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

On the plus side you're getting messages OP.

There are frequently single males posting in the forums asking why they never get any, how to attract interest to a profile and questioning if people actually ever message si gle men on Fab.

So every cloud.........

To be honest I rather not get responses from attention seekers and timewasters.

What an odd way to describe a couple that meets and has way more veris than you.

I assumed his response was aimed towards those mentioned in his initial post, rather than suggesting that of the couple he replied to. "

Exactly. Thank you for being able to understand a comment

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We have lots of conversations that amount to nothing. That’s how we gauge whether we want to take the next step; by having a chat and seeing if there is any compatibility. A message does not mean the recipient is entitled to a meet. We’ll just go check ourselves into the ‘timewaster’ suite too

That's not what I was saying but ok you do that

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

On the plus side you're getting messages OP.

There are frequently single males posting in the forums asking why they never get any, how to attract interest to a profile and questioning if people actually ever message si gle men on Fab.

So every cloud.........

To be honest I rather not get responses from attention seekers and timewasters.

What an odd way to describe a couple that meets and has way more veris than you.

I assumed his response was aimed towards those mentioned in his initial post, rather than suggesting that of the couple he replied to.

Oh yes possibly - see I told you his way of writing is perhaps ambiguous and hard to understand

Must be my education in the 1970's

We all express ourselves differently.

Sometimes reading the words helps, other times reading the emotion behind the words is key.

Some people are good expressing with words, others better with expressing with emotion.

Some are good are understanding words, others at understanding emotions behind them.

We're all different is all.

Actually I responded to the couple who were talking about cam girls because I mentioned them earlier however I swiftly realised they were talking about another user who complained about cam girls and therefore removed my comment because it didn't apply. Basically I jumped into a separate convo because I thought she was talking to me. I reread her comment and the message they were replying to. However my comment still applies to you so maybe I should have kept it up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What I dont understand is why some get so wound up because they dont get what they want. If i dont get a reply or further contact i accept the persons had a change of heart, it's not a big deal and definately not worth winding yourself up about.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What I dont understand is why some get so wound up because they dont get what they want. If i dont get a reply or further contact i accept the persons had a change of heart, it's not a big deal and definately not worth winding yourself up about."

That's not what I'm talking about. My Original Message isn't "why is no one replying to me"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am I right in thinking that your gripe is you not being replied to ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's not what I'm talking about. My Original Message isn't "why is no one replying to me" "

You complain that you either message them back or text them but hear nothing back, yes? All I'm saying is it's not worth all this grief. It's not great but better to focus on those who do converse with you and just block and forget the ones you're talking here about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never online or never respond"

. Seriously what is the point? Do people get off on wasting other people's time? Is this some new fetish ?"

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

Never assume it's actually their real number that they are giving you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Am I right in thinking that your gripe is you not being replied to ?

Nope

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That's not what I'm talking about. My Original Message isn't "why is no one replying to me"

I understand what's your saying. I'm just asking why people do the thing I mentioned. What is the point of it? Some replies said it's basically people who are here for attention and nothing more which started to make sense to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am I right in thinking that your gripe is you not being replied to ?

Nope"

Ignored ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Never assume it's actually their real number that they are giving you."

I've had it where it was a catfish but I'm talking about people who give real numbers. Had 1 girl who gave me her number and asked me to video call her to verify myself. Called her...no response, called her again...no response. Left a text saying it's me from fab you asked me to call you etc.... Then responded with "why are you bothering me? You've put me off now" lmfao. You're the one who asked me to call you lady...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never assume it's actually their real number that they are giving you.

So lack of a reply until you harassed her

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Never assume it's actually their real number that they are giving you.

So lack of a reply until you harassed her "

You're absolutely right, when you give your number to someone and ask them to call you and they do, it's harassment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never assume it's actually their real number that they are giving you.

So lack of a reply until you harassed her

You're absolutely right, when you give your number to someone and ask them to call you and they do, it's harassment. "

Maybe she got busy and found 2 calls and a text to be too much. Cos if you did that to me, I'd block you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Never assume it's actually their real number that they are giving you.

So lack of a reply until you harassed her

You're absolutely right, when you give your number to someone and ask them to call you and they do, it's harassment.

Maybe she got busy and found 2 calls and a text to be too much. Cos if you did that to me, I'd block you"

So if you ask someone to call you and they do and leave a message when you don't pick up so they know it's you, you'll block them. Sounds like a normal thing to do. I should block everyone who calls me. Seems like a reasonable thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never assume it's actually their real number that they are giving you.

So lack of a reply until you harassed her

You're absolutely right, when you give your number to someone and ask them to call you and they do, it's harassment.

Maybe she got busy and found 2 calls and a text to be too much. Cos if you did that to me, I'd block you

2 calls and text, yup. Cos ppl Ave lives away from here. Patience is a virtue

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By *nkyCplCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

Change of mind, no longer interested, maybe nervous….

Frustrating yes, but absolutely nothing wrong with it. Just block and move on.

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