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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Been on this site for a while now, and still had hardly any messages back from any women lots of men which I’m not interested in. Can anyone help ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Youve wrote more on this post than u have on your profile

Block men so that they cant message you

Get some more photos (not of ur dick)

Write a decent profile

Go to socials

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

You've only been on here a month that's nothing in Fab terms. Most wait many months before their first meet.

Can I ask what you were expecting when you joined?

You need to put some work into your profile, most women will look at that before even reading your message. If your profile is not interesting your message will most likely stay unread or get deleted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get rid of that status. I find them an instant put off, your just looking to bust a nut. Sort your profile out, what your looking for ultimately what you want too. Be polite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely remove your status woman know men are horny all the time. Be honest and clear in your profile and have a look at your interest and maybe remove some

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Write a profile op!

Yours currently tells us nothing about you and what you offer meets.

Also as another poster said block men using your filters and I agree your status is a little off putting .

Join in on the forums too and get yourself known .

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By *astesLikeMagicWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

Yup, block men from messaging you. Use your filters. Problem solved.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Hi op

I'd suggest searching the forums for help and advice their is loads of threads started by previous folk whom asked similar as yourself type profile help/advice it's a useful tool with loads of useful information left by fellow users... You know yourself better than anyone

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You make your own luck.

I won't comment on your profile as you haven't asked specifically for advice. However you need to stand out in the sea of cocks. Be different but be you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First things first, OP, I would suggest you think about what your expectations were on joining the site.

You've only been here 4 weeks. That's nothing.

A lot of single men wait around a year to get their first meet, so you should bear this in mind.

Single men outnumber women and couples by over 100 to 1. Women especially tend to find themselves inundated with messages.

As has already been said, almost everyone you message will take a look at your profile before they even consider opening your message, so you need to make sure it is the best it can possibly be.

If they don't like the look or sound of you, then chances are they'll either ignore or delete your message.

Don't get too hung up about it.

Fab isn't quite the shag fest you might have been led to believe.

People on fab aren't on here to fuck anyone and everyone who asks. It's just like in the real world, they have to fancy you first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you messaged me and I went to your profile……I’d delete your message without reading. Like others said, it’s your profile dude

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Competition is stiff (pun intended). You have to portray yourself in the best light possible. That includes your profile text.

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

I check out profiles before a message is read.

There's no information in your blurb

Your photos are uninspiring

I'm walking by your shop window...

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray

4 weeks is far from a while on fab, some guys have been on it years amd still struggle, what some guys don't realise is this is a swingers site not instashag, you have to lower your expectations!

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By *nowy669Man
over a year ago

East Kilbride

Thw guya absolutely outway the girls so they are spoiled for choices

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thw guya absolutely outway the girls so they are spoiled for choices "

Oh ladies we are so spoiled

that’s actually not true just because more men on her sure doesn’t mean it’s not hard to find someone.

It’s still finding someone who is suitable for you and that can be hard.

If a profile stands out has had some effort put into it and the person is respectful then it goes a long way.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds


"Youve wrote more on this post than u have on your profile

Block men so that they cant message you

Get some more photos (not of ur dick)

Write a decent profile

Go to socials

"

All of this! If you CBA to write a profile I CBA to reply, no idea what your looking for, what you have to offer.....

Mrs

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"I check out profiles before a message is read.

There's no information in your blurb

Your photos are uninspiring

I'm walking by your shop window...

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been on here ages not met a couple yet

It is hard for single guys especially older ones like me.

Life in the old dog yet but not many are interested

Perhaps a 50+ section lol

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"I’ve been on here ages not met a couple yet

It is hard for single guys especially older ones like me.

Life in the old dog yet but not many are interested

Perhaps a 50+ section lol "

But there is a 50+ section already.

Literally anyone that has people 50+ listed as who they're looking for.

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I understand that but lots but 18 to 99 lol

Either way hard to get get even a reply tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve been on here ages not met a couple yet

It is hard for single guys especially older ones like me.

Life in the old dog yet but not many are interested

Perhaps a 50+ section lol "

Maybe try some clubs might be easier than on here. Most clubs now have socials first it’s a great way to meet people. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Profile is a bit sparse. Add some detail but not chapter and verse. Leave something to picque interest and invite a question or two.

Post some more photo's (and not of your dick - keep those from friends or private)

When you write to women, READ THEIR PROFILE and find something that attracts you to them in particular (not that you're just looking for a fuck!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been on this site for a while now, and still had hardly any messages back from any women lots of men which I’m not interested in. Can anyone help ? "

Do you put as much effort in attempting to meet as you have writing your profile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do four things. Don't bring negative attention to yourself by posting stuff like this on the forum.

Drop the idea that anyone you message is obliged to reply.

Lower your expectations overall. Men on this site out number women 10 to 1 so the ladies have a wider choice of suitable playmates to deal with and are probably getting hundreds of messages to sift through. Read the forums on this subject. Many admit to just deleting as they can't read every message.

Make sure you have a decent bio on your profile.

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