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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Doesn't make sense the whole idea of this site is swinging and obviously meeting new people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

I've often blocked mid conversation, simply because something they've said doesn't sit right with me.

Had people say something racist or homophobic, which has totally turned me off. People ask if they can be my master, 3 messages in, block.

Numerous reasons, accept it and move on. Not a lot you can do about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Doesn't make sense the whole idea of this site is swinging and obviously meeting new people."

Yep! But meeting people you actually want to, after chatting and finding you have similar tastes and that there's the obvious question of attraction!

This isn't always instant. Someone that looks great can have the social skills and conversational ability of a brain dead lab rat - and you may not discover this til you've exchanged a few messages.

Don't stress - if you've been blocked or the conversation dries up - move on - there's many more interesting folk on site!

Good luck!

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

because the needy on here ask why why why why why

it saves you and them wasting another nano second of your life on something that is going no where and allows you to focus on new opportunities

welcome and good luck

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

i have blocked mid convo as well.. just when it is patently obvious that they haven't read my profile .....

some people have said stiff that has completely turned me off to the point of not wanting anymore contact

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By *ikkiBWoman
over a year ago

Falkirk

I do it all the time. I give someone a chance and they automatically think I replied so they get a shag so I end up just blocking them when the abuse starts after I say no to a meet

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

because they no longer wish to chat

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By *eminiman61Man
over a year ago

mansfield

I agree with some of the above but when youve been on a while. Youll find out that some see this site as a game or bit of fun. Add to this the fakers.

I was chatting to one yday a girl of 26 I think the profile had been active 16 mins.... What an idiot.... I kept thinking of the robot in "lost in space" lol

warning warning warning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I block straight away if it is obvious from the first message that the gent does not tickle my fancy.

However there are times when the first message catches my eyes and I would like to find out more, and would continue to exchange messages, until it transpires that the gent is not going to cut it.

Then I would inform him the chances of meeting is zilch before I block him from further contacts and wasting each other's time and efforts.

Nowadays I make it clear that I do not mind chatting, however it does not necessarily lead to anything more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People ask if they can be my master, 3 messages in, block. "

Very poor form, everyone knows that even with a username containing the word grey it is at least 5 messages before you can ask that,!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People ask if they can be my master, 3 messages in, block.

Very poor form, everyone knows that even with a username containing the word grey it is at least 5 messages before you can ask that,!"

5? Shouldn't that be 50?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"because the needy on here ask why why why why why

"

Or get abusive. It is quite simply the easiest way.

However messages have been swapped the other person owes you nothing and can block you if you don;t want to chat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Doesn't make sense the whole idea of this site is swinging and obviously meeting new people."

maybe they decided after tralking to you they didnt actually like and want to meet you?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

But what if someone asked to be someones Jedi Master in their very first message? Surely that would be tempting?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a guy message me, we was chatting then he sudenly said that he had just noticed i have been verified by a black guy and no longer wished to talk and blocked me lol

It happens, not everyone on here who you talk to will continue onto meeting you, you must have expected that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Better to be blocked than ignored, at least you know where you stand with that person. Plenty more fish in the sea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I block straight away if it is obvious from the first message that the gent does not tickle my fancy.

However there are times when the first message catches my eyes and I would like to find out more, and would continue to exchange messages, until it transpires that the gent is not going to cut it.

Then I would inform him the chances of meeting is zilch before I block him from further contacts and wasting each other's time and efforts.

Nowadays I make it clear that I do not mind chatting, however it does not necessarily lead to anything more.

"

Lol I've never spoken to you and I'm blocked

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By *olfcartweaselCouple
over a year ago

Melrose

The point of talking is getting to know someone, to work out if they're a good match as a playmate.

Sometimes it becomes obvious mid-conversation that not only is there no spark - but there's a total turn-off factor too. And often the kind of folks who cause this reaction are the kind of folks you can see not taking a "sorry no" very well. A block is the easiest way to just wipe them off the radar & get back to enjoying yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I block straight away if it is obvious from the first message that the gent does not tickle my fancy.

However there are times when the first message catches my eyes and I would like to find out more, and would continue to exchange messages, until it transpires that the gent is not going to cut it.

Then I would inform him the chances of meeting is zilch before I block him from further contacts and wasting each other's time and efforts.

Nowadays I make it clear that I do not mind chatting, however it does not necessarily lead to anything more.

Lol I've never spoken to you and I'm blocked "

yep that happens to, im blocked by loads of people i have never even spoken to before

Sometimes people read your profile and if your not what they are looking for they will block you to stop you contacting them in future, or if you post on here and say something they dont like they will block you

Theres so many reasons why people black theres no point asking why lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People ask if they can be my master, 3 messages in, block.

Very poor form, everyone knows that even with a username containing the word grey it is at least 5 messages before you can ask that,!

5? Shouldn't that be 50? "

No way! A Twue Master can lay claim to any sub He fancies, whenever He fancies, slap a collar on her and demand anal.

crystal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But what if someone asked to be someones Jedi Master in their very first message? Surely that would be tempting? "

I would worry that they might admit they're my father

crystal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People ask if they can be my master, 3 messages in, block.

Very poor form, everyone knows that even with a username containing the word grey it is at least 5 messages before you can ask that,!

5? Shouldn't that be 50?

No way! A Twue Master can lay claim to any sub He fancies, whenever He fancies, slap a collar on her and demand anal.

crystal"

i best make sure i carry my strap on then just incase

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By *quirrelMan
over a year ago

East Manchester

Some people can be slightly over sensitive and you being nervous may say the wrong thing which has causes offence. They may then through past experience think you were the wrong person for them and decided to then block you rather than carry on the conversation and argue on line.

Alternatively they themselves may be confused about what they want and the conversation was going in the wrong direction for them and rather than continue they block and start again with somneone else.

Best advice is keep plugging away and remember that a pencil has a rubber on the end because you are expected to make mistakes rectify them and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I block straight away if it is obvious from the first message that the gent does not tickle my fancy.

However there are times when the first message catches my eyes and I would like to find out more, and would continue to exchange messages, until it transpires that the gent is not going to cut it.

Then I would inform him the chances of meeting is zilch before I block him from further contacts and wasting each other's time and efforts.

Nowadays I make it clear that I do not mind chatting, however it does not necessarily lead to anything more.

Lol I've never spoken to you and I'm blocked

yep that happens to, im blocked by loads of people i have never even spoken to before

Sometimes people read your profile and if your not what they are looking for they will block you to stop you contacting them in future, or if you post on here and say something they dont like they will block you

Theres so many reasons why people black theres no point asking why lol"

It doesn't bother me really. I look at profiles in forums to build a picture of whom I'm speaking to. Rarely do I mail anyone. Hey Ho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It doesn't bother me really. I look at profiles in forums to build a picture of whom I'm speaking to. Rarely do I mail anyone. Hey Ho "

thats what i usually do, if im reading a thread and someone says something that gets my attention i will look at their profile just out of interest, i have found on a few occasions they have blocked me, tho i respect everyones rights to block, i do find it quite odd that someone would block a person who dont mail them anyway, if i dont mail them anyway and have never spoken what are they achieving by blocking me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've blocked mid conversation too but only after its become quite plain that they aren't our type and won't take no for a answer, are hiding something( not sending a pic excuse after excuse for example) or are crude.

Don't focus on why's just move on you need to have a thick skin on this interweb thingy

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

We block so we don't have to see all the attention seeking rubbish on our updates list, people telling the world their iron has broken....who wants to buy me a new one and such

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We block so we don't have to see all the attention seeking rubbish on our updates list, people telling the world their iron has broken....who wants to buy me a new one and such "

same reason i dont use face book

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It doesn't bother me really. I look at profiles in forums to build a picture of whom I'm speaking to. Rarely do I mail anyone. Hey Ho

thats what i usually do, if im reading a thread and someone says something that gets my attention i will look at their profile just out of interest, i have found on a few occasions they have blocked me, tho i respect everyones rights to block, i do find it quite odd that someone would block a person who dont mail them anyway, if i dont mail them anyway and have never spoken what are they achieving by blocking me?

"

We've read a few posts that have made us block someone before they even contact us just because of what they may have said saves any time in the future x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It doesn't bother me really. I look at profiles in forums to build a picture of whom I'm speaking to. Rarely do I mail anyone. Hey Ho

thats what i usually do, if im reading a thread and someone says something that gets my attention i will look at their profile just out of interest, i have found on a few occasions they have blocked me, tho i respect everyones rights to block, i do find it quite odd that someone would block a person who dont mail them anyway, if i dont mail them anyway and have never spoken what are they achieving by blocking me?

We've read a few posts that have made us block someone before they even contact us just because of what they may have said saves any time in the future x"

oh right so its vanity on their part in assuming i would be interested enough to mail them at some point lol

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By *ady4ladyWoman
over a year ago

liverpool

Maybe its the word 'block' that makes people feel annoyed.

If we had a button called 'not for me' then people wouldnt be so bothered.

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

Please note that I'm not bringing your profile up for discussion here, but the complete lack of information on there means that people would HAVE to talk to you to get any indication as to whether they wanted to meet you or not.

Short of blocking you in the first place, this is the only way you've given them to grasp some sort of feel about the person you are, and as with all potential meets, this would usually become apparent after the first few messages.

Getting a response doesn't guarantee you a shag, and as the only way they can find out what sort of person you are/what you're into is by responding, you have to expect that some people WILL lose interest when they realise you're not compatible.

It may not seem nice but people block to avoid timewasting and unwanted hassle.

It's just the way it is, I'm afraid.

Good luck and happy Fabbing.

- VincentandAmy. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've often blocked mid conversation, simply because something they've said doesn't sit right with me.

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By *eavensent78Couple
over a year ago

west mids

We wish ppl would block us instead of staying on our friends list and not replying to any messages you sent out to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe its the word 'block' that makes people feel annoyed.

If we had a button called 'not for me' then people wouldnt be so bothered.

"

If people are that sensitive, they need to get a grip.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We wish ppl would block us instead of staying on our friends list and not replying to any messages you sent out to them "

First time I've heard someone want to be blocked ! maybe ill try reverse psychology and ask to be blocked and see what happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've noly been on here for just over a week and had two people who became presumptuous and pushy, so I told them in no uncertain terms , that there was no way it was going to happen.

So up to yet, i've not had to block anyone, but would do if they kept being persistant.

I've done this on tv sites before and wholeheartedly agree with anyone who blocks obnoxious people.

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By *ady4ladyWoman
over a year ago

liverpool


"Maybe its the word 'block' that makes people feel annoyed.

If we had a button called 'not for me' then people wouldnt be so bothered.

If people are that sensitive, they need to get a grip.

"

Newbies are sensitive, thats why they often come in the forums and ask for help.

Even some 'oldies' are sensitive, I am and Im happy to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 12/01/13 14:20:16]"

Lmao well current research shows if you ask to be blocked you will be !

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By *eavensent78Couple
over a year ago

west mids


"We wish ppl would block us instead of staying on our friends list and not replying to any messages you sent out to them

First time I've heard someone want to be blocked ! maybe ill try reverse psychology and ask to be blocked and see what happens "

We don't want to be blocked but would rather them block us than stay on our friends list and ignore us when we msg them

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By *ntelligent Gent.Man
over a year ago

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I find blocks useful.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 12/01/13 14:20:16]

Lmao well current research shows if you ask to be blocked you will be ! "

always happy to help where I can

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We wish ppl would block us instead of staying on our friends list and not replying to any messages you sent out to them

First time I've heard someone want to be blocked ! maybe ill try reverse psychology and ask to be blocked and see what happens

We don't want to be blocked but would rather them block us than stay on our friends list and ignore us when we msg them "

And that's quite right....it only takes a moment to reply that you're really busy or a simple hope alls well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find blocks useful....."

very useful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 12/01/13 14:20:16]

Lmao well current research shows if you ask to be blocked you will be !

always happy to help where I can "

lol damn you had nice pics too !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

We've read a few posts that have made us block someone before they even contact us just because of what they may have said saves any time in the future x

oh right so its vanity on their part in assuming i would be interested enough to mail them at some point lol"

Not vanity just time saving

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been chatting to people, and then all of a sudden they've turned into some psycho hose beast and told me to "kneel bitch, suck my cock" or the best one was a guy who was going to give me some drugs to calm me down so I'd let him and his mate give me anal bareback.

Block block BLOCK.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been chatting to people, and then all of a sudden they've turned into some psycho hose beast and told me to "kneel bitch, suck my cock" or the best one was a guy who was going to give me some drugs to calm me down so I'd let him and his mate give me anal bareback.

Block block BLOCK.

"

haha sorry tho not funny that did make me laugh

Did he really think a woman would still meet him after saying that

Good job he was to stupid to keep his gob shut could be quite dangerous if he decided to spring that on someone after you was locked away in a room somewhere with them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

P.S was he local sounds like something someone round here would say lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been chatting to people, and then all of a sudden they've turned into some psycho hose beast and told me to "kneel bitch, suck my cock" or the best one was a guy who was going to give me some drugs to calm me down so I'd let him and his mate give me anal bareback.

Block block BLOCK.

"

eeew block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah the second one was. Haha Duddesfolk, can't beat em.

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts


"The best one was a guy who was going to give me some drugs to calm me down so I'd let him and his mate give me anal bareback.

Block block BLOCK.

"

I can't believe I'm going to say this, but at least he said it beforehand rather than spiking you when you're in a confined space with them... I would hope he's just a fantasist and that he never actually does this with an unwilling partner...

Even so, what is WRONG with some people?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had already met him once, been in touch for a while and he seemed pretty affable.

At the time the whole thing made me really shudder, for that very reason ....

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts


"I had already met him once, been in touch for a while and he seemed pretty affable.

At the time the whole thing made me really shudder, for that very reason ....

"

That is extremely worrying.

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By *adja_lazloCouple
over a year ago

Solihull


"I've often blocked mid conversation, simply because something they've said doesn't sit right with me.

Had people say something racist or homophobic, which has totally turned me off. People ask if they can be my master, 3 messages in, block.

Numerous reasons, accept it and move on. Not a lot you can do about it. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Doesn't make sense the whole idea of this site is swinging and obviously meeting new people.

Yep! But meeting people you actually want to, after chatting and finding you have similar tastes and that there's the obvious question of attraction!

This isn't always instant. Someone that looks great can have the social skills and conversational ability of a brain dead lab rat - and you may not discover this til you've exchanged a few messages.

Don't stress - if you've been blocked or the conversation dries up - move on - there's many more interesting folk on site!

Good luck! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each time it happens - onwards and upwards and don't look back, or ever ask why.

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I agree block sounds harsh, but take it with a pinch of salt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The block option is the best bit about this site...it cuts down on the amount of people that cant bloody read (and have no intention of reading your profile), and the weirdos who's opening lines are 'are you into SCAT/Can you call me master/do you want some length?? etc etc - pick one!

We use it purely for the oddbods or stalkers that cant use their brain and read our bloody profile!!

Good luck on here.

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By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

I doubt any couples or single females could use this site without the block function

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its getting replies like this from single guys that urk me,

after my reply back questioning his Understanding of "my profile"

I received this

quote " (Oh i read your profile very carefully but where a female is concerned i take no notice as they change there mind more often then there knickers

thats from expereince )"

Dohhhh !!!

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By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"Its getting replies like this from single guys that urk me,

after my reply back questioning his Understanding of "my profile"

I received this

quote " (Oh i read your profile very carefully but where a female is concerned i take no notice as they change there mind more often then there knickers

thats from expereince )"

Dohhhh !!!"

Good god some people are just bone headed on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because a site like this will not only attract intelligent polite people, but others too

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By *HAEDRUS2013Man
over a year ago

LONDON


"Doesn't make sense the whole idea of this site is swinging and obviously meeting new people."

It happened to me yesterday, for first time, I might add, and in mid conversation. Yes, it is upsettng, and stunning, but that is life. You never know the kind of badgering that women on here go through so it may just be easier to halt and block. Being on here has to be the closest experience to a professional actor: the rejection is personal (as I don't have an interest in 'you'), but somehow it isn't. A contradicton, I know, but finding peace with it in your head will make you happier and more successful on here. I promise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This happened to us the other day. As usual we asked people if we could see their face piccy. As is our perogative we thought no not for us and rather than just disappear and not reply we sent them a polite email saying thanks for the interest but we are not interested in taking this further. After we'd done this we blocked them because we don't want to constantly waste people's time by revisiting them again and again, It's a good way to not keep pestering people if you don't like. Anyway next thing we knew an email from one of their friends came back saying. "Oh who are you to say you are not interested and then block someone.Such and such are a lovely people and you are awful people for blocking them". Just a little anecdote. Takes all sorts doesn't it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's obvious that a guy hasn't read our profile then I have no problem pointing out where they went wrong and then block them.

I do it because I don't want to have to deal with the to and fro because they couldnt be assed to read a few pargraphs.

Have also blocked one guy who just wouldn't take no for an answer and another who kept messagin everytime he was passing through the area "just in case your free".

Also block anyone who doesnt turn up for a meet.

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