FabSwingers.com forum: When to call it a day?

By *anielpierced OP Man
over a year ago

by the seaside

I'm doing a bit of soul searching as I'm approaching the grand old age of 51 in May and was wondering if maybe now is the time to bow out gracefully?

Trouble is for every con s to why there's three pro's as to why not.

On Fab 51 seems to be the death knell as most profiles age range top out generally at 40 or 50 but in a club where I tend to meet face to face people don't ask your age so it doesn’t matter.

I'm having too much fun to seriously stop right now but it did raise the question of when would be the right time.

What do you think is the right age? Is there one?

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

No, but you do find yourself dropping out of folks filters as the years advance. Clubs work - as I've recently discovered

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By *quirtyndirty!Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Just go to clubs then. If you are a nice guy and know how to talk to people you'll have loads of fun. Meeting people off fab is hard work at the best of times

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Nope their isn't one because given amount of people interested in the lifestyle the age just keeps going up as they get older

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By *unfunfun xMan
over a year ago

LONDON

The good thing with technology and apps there are so many dating sites cantered for 40+ 50+ etc so many out there

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By *anielpierced OP Man
over a year ago

by the seaside

"Just go to clubs then. If you are a nice guy and know how to talk to people you'll have loads of fun. Meeting people off fab is hard work at the best of times "

That's what I do, I only meet at clubs not off Fab so it doesn't really matter but it got me thinking while I was surfing local updates and saw peoples age limits.

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By *anielpierced OP Man
over a year ago

by the seaside

"No, but you do find yourself dropping out of folks filters as the years advance. Clubs work - as I've recently discovered

I only do club meets and fwb's not met off Fab for years so was just a hypothetical pondering tbh

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By *anielpierced OP Man
over a year ago

by the seaside

"Nope their isn't one because given amount of people interested in the lifestyle the age just keeps going up as they get older "

I've noticed quite a lot of age limits are now 55 or 60 on some profiles where as when I joined here a long time ago 50 seemed like game over if you relied on getting meets off here.

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By *anielpierced OP Man
over a year ago

by the seaside

"The good thing with technology and apps there are so many dating sites cantered for 40+ 50+ etc so many out there "

I guess that could be due to a lot more people getting divorced in their 40's and finding themselves single again maybe?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm doing a bit of soul searching as I'm approaching the grand old age of 51 in May and was wondering if maybe now is the time to bow out gracefully?

Trouble is for every con s to why there's three pro's as to why not.

On Fab 51 seems to be the death knell as most profiles age range top out generally at 40 or 50 but in a club where I tend to meet face to face people don't ask your age so it doesn’t matter.

I'm having too much fun to seriously stop right now but it did raise the question of when would be the right time.

What do you think is the right age? Is there one? "

BS I'm 64 and still get some meets.

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By *arcteggMan
over a year ago

grays

"I'm doing a bit of soul searching as I'm approaching the grand old age of 51 in May and was wondering if maybe now is the time to bow out gracefully?

Trouble is for every con s to why there's three pro's as to why not.

On Fab 51 seems to be the death knell as most profiles age range top out generally at 40 or 50 but in a club where I tend to meet face to face people don't ask your age so it doesn’t matter.

I'm having too much fun to seriously stop right now but it did raise the question of when would be the right time.

What do you think is the right age? Is there one? "

Interesting post , at 53 I’ve noticed the interest has disappeared for the last few years . I still enjoy the site but starting to wonder if I’m just browsing a “Kays catalogue “ ( yes now yoh know I’m not lying about my age

I’ve been to clubs but I suffer massive social anxiety , which is a huge shame as I’m very polite and well educated .

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

There isn't a right age. As the gambling ads say

'when the fun stops, stop'.

If you're still meeting why stop?

Also just search profiles where you match their age requirements. Stops you looking in the cake shop window when it's closed

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By *amLaraCroftWoman
over a year ago

London

As you said in clubs people don’t generally ask ages and if they do like me it doesn’t matter I am 49 and I play with a 63 year old who can message me

But he comes to kestrels regularly and he’s a good friend and swinging partner when he can couple with me

I would say build a circle of friends at clubs together with your fab profile it goes hand in hand I think

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By *ickdasterdly51Man
over a year ago

Lingfield

I'm 62 and although I've never had a meet off here there are plenty of older couples to chat to as well as younger ones who prefer older men. You're only 51, in your prime!

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

we meet somebody 20 years older

don't give up if it's what you enjoy x

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

When people start saying that interest drops off because they're a year or two older it always confuses me.

Are the people you were interested in 2 years ago not now 2 years older?

Does everyone else age at a different rate to you?

If you find yourself out of someone else's age range it either means you're now in someone else's or it means that those people uoure filtered out by haven't adjusted theirs as they get older.

Or is it because despite ageing yourself you're age preferences have remained the same? In which case it's as much your fault you're filtered out as theirs?

We all get older. You can either accept it or not.

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By *r_PinkMan
over a year ago

london stratford

Quite simple really!

Take a time out approach.

If you find you want/need to come back,do.

AND if you don't! DON'T!

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By *astesLikeMagicWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

So the only reason you wanna give up swinging is bc you think you'll be out of some people's age ranges?

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By *anielpierced OP Man
over a year ago

by the seaside

"I'm doing a bit of soul searching as I'm approaching the grand old age of 51 in May and was wondering if maybe now is the time to bow out gracefully?

Trouble is for every con s to why there's three pro's as to why not.

On Fab 51 seems to be the death knell as most profiles age range top out generally at 40 or 50 but in a club where I tend to meet face to face people don't ask your age so it doesn’t matter.

I'm having too much fun to seriously stop right now but it did raise the question of when would be the right time.

What do you think is the right age? Is there one?

I’ve been to clubs but I suffer massive social anxiety , which is a huge shame as I’m very polite and well educated . "

It was just a momentary feeling sorry for myself that I'm getting old moment. Having too much fun at the moment to stop swinging but set me wondering when is too old.

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By *anielpierced OP Man
over a year ago

by the seaside

"There isn't a right age. As the gambling ads say

'when the fun stops, stop'.

If you're still meeting why stop?

Also just search profiles where you match their age requirements. Stops you looking in the cake shop window when it's closed"

Wasn't actually planning on giving up was just thinking about reaching 51 and the impact it has on here. At clubs I play every time I visit and age is never an issue talking to people face to face not over messages. As stated in other replies it just set me wondering about when I'd feel too old to still swing and wondered if other people my age had had that thought.

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By *anielpierced OP Man
over a year ago

by the seaside

"As you said in clubs people don’t generally ask ages and if they do like me it doesn’t matter I am 49 and I play with a 63 year old who can message me

But he comes to kestrels regularly and he’s a good friend and swinging partner when he can couple with me

I would say build a circle of friends at clubs together with your fab profile it goes hand in hand I think "

In the clubs people take you for who you are based on what they see so it's a lot less fraught isn't it.

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By *anielpierced OP Man
over a year ago

by the seaside

"we meet somebody 20 years older

don't give up if it's what you enjoy x"

Not planning on giving up just yet touch wood x

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By *anielpierced OP Man
over a year ago

by the seaside

"So the only reason you wanna give up swinging is bc you think you'll be out of some people's age ranges?"

No, wasn't planning on giving up just set me wondering at what age I would tbh

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"There isn't a right age. As the gambling ads say

'when the fun stops, stop'.

If you're still meeting why stop?

Also just search profiles where you match their age requirements. Stops you looking in the cake shop window when it's closed

Well here I am at 66

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Use the search tool and tick "people looking for my age"

Problem solved.

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By *anielpierced OP Man
over a year ago

by the seaside

"Use the search tool and tick "people looking for my age"

Problem solved."

Don't have a problem meeting, I meet in clubs where my age isn't an issue. This was more a philosophical pondering of my impending age increase

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

I dont think there's a tight or wrong age but if your having more luck in clubs than on here then I'd stick with clubs and ditch fab either all together or keep it just to stay upto date with events & nights in your area

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah, no need to call it a day, you just have to reframe your place in this world as you age. This applies to many things, not just recreational sex.

The landscape will change though, and you will need to change the way you think, and perhaps the type of people you want to meet.

There's also a pretty distinct cut off at 45 which I've noticed quite starkly so I've changed my viewpoint, and the type of people I contact.

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By *lecom1Couple
over a year ago

Stornoway

Not hung up our swinging boots yet

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By *ancelot1633Man
over a year ago

weybridge

"Not hung up our swinging boots yet"

I fully intend to invest in some swinging slippers when the time is right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just go to clubs then. If you are a nice guy and know how to talk to people you'll have loads of fun. Meeting people off fab is hard work at the best of times "

Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find perspectives on this interesting. I’ll turn (cough) 50 this year and probably out of range for a lot of fab.

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

I am 55 and I have thought of leaving Fabs as I was feeling a bit flat but over the last 18 months I have started to do the things I was doing before lockdown like attending socials , club and spa.I now feel a bit better so I am still

on Fabs.

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By *he Gentleman CallerMan
over a year ago

Southampton

Its obviously harder when you are older as there are less people here of a similar age or interested in meeting the 'more mature', but personally I've found there are a sufficient number who want to interact and meet to make it still a stimulating place to inhabit...good luck OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm 56 and fab has just come alive for me the past few months. Seems some couples like an older man with experience

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By *xhib12Man
over a year ago

Blyth

The age limit button here goes up to 99 so I guess when you reach 100 you have to leave. Until then just enjoy yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm completely with the OP it feels like you get put out to pasture here on Fab and at 55 now struggle but hang on to that thread of hope

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By *anielpierced OP Man
over a year ago

by the seaside

"I dont think there's a tight or wrong age but if your having more luck in clubs than on here then I'd stick with clubs and ditch fab either all together or keep it just to stay upto date with events & nights in your area "

That's pretty much all I do use it for tbh that and staying in touch with people and using the forums.

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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago

Near Wells

51 isn't old. Plus If you're having fun and enjoying it, why stop because of your age?

When you're not enjoying it, is the time to stop.

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By *weetkitten65Woman
over a year ago

Halifax

I have called it a day as to meeting as now rekindled a relationship..

However when I rejoined last year I only had one sexual meet that was great..

I want exclusive, not casual sex..

I had a fantastic time on here over the 4 years...

Just here for the forums now

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

taunton somerset

51 ?? puts you in to a very big group of swinger who actually meet and play without all the prick teasing ..maybe your looking at the wrong people to meet

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By *edi123Couple
over a year ago

aberystwyth

We have only just started and haven’t had any problems

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By *anted by NightMan
over a year ago

Shangri-La

"Just go to clubs then. If you are a nice guy and know how to talk to people you'll have loads of fun. Meeting people off fab is hard work at the best of times "

Couldn’t agree more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

51 is the new 41 OP.

I’m the same age as you. Actually I will be 52 in April. I was diagnosed with lymphoma in October . So maybe I should be thinking about slowing down or hanging up my gun and being put out to pasture.

Not a bit of it ! I feel more alive than ever. I stay physically fit and I’m truly embracing the lifestyle more than ever before.

It’s a cliche, I know, but age is just a number.

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By * F 2018Couple
over a year ago

shropshire

Just keep going and enjoy....

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By *iberatedduoCouple
over a year ago

Ashbourne

We’ve met someone 20 years older on here so all is not lost.

On the whole it’s mostly how we connect that influences whether we are likely to play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends what you want out of fab (or wherever you go for your kicks). If you're looking for younger people, you'll probably be limited by age filters - it's just a fact of life. But there are plenty of older people around, having fun. At 62 I'm still playing and still meeting on occasion, so there is certainly life after 50! Go for it!

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By *allguynowMan
over a year ago

durham

I wouldn't worry about your age as everyone else on here is also getting older.

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