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"I'll quote you profile: "I am straight so only interested in women. Sorry guys!!" your statement could be applied to this as you are discriminating against, gay, bi and trans. " Nail. Head. | |||
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"Why does this forum allow its members to publicly state that they don’t want to interact with a person of colour. Why should a coloured person feel discriminated for the colour of their skin. You have all these clubs and events would it ever say no blacks or no browns? No because we are in modern times so why does this forum allow for members to have on their page and things like, white only no black or Asians. As an Asian I find it horrible that this day and age I am still made to feel ashamed for the colour of my skin. Members on here shouldn’t be allowed to write white only no Asians or blacks. " Op... As many have said already, it's about preference at the end of the day and not specifically anyone being racist/derogatory to anyone. On the contrary, I think you'll find there a LOAD more threads on the forum pages for people who DO have a preference for people from various parts of the world... Asian, Oriental, BBC to name but a few appreciation threads.... Sadly, the 'Slim, white, single male from Sunderland' appreciation thread hasn't started yet, but I pray its only a matter of time  | |||
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"Why does this forum allow its members to publicly state that they don’t want to interact with a person of colour. Why should a coloured person feel discriminated for the colour of their skin. You have all these clubs and events would it ever say no blacks or no browns? No because we are in modern times so why does this forum allow for members to have on their page and things like, white only no black or Asians. As an Asian I find it horrible that this day and age I am still made to feel ashamed for the colour of my skin. Members on here shouldn’t be allowed to write white only no Asians or blacks. " Unfortunately, people find attractive and sexy what works fir them. I do not take offence to anyone not wanting to meet a bi man. It's their choice who they want to meet. I'm certain that most do not post these things to be offensive but purely for preference. If you think about it then they are not wasting your time. | |||
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"I actually prefer when a profile States there ethnic sexual preferences it does save a wasted message. But what always makes me scratch my head is the term tall dark and handsome it's the dark part what is weird. (I know what it means) "It comes from when people fancied Rudoloph Valentino, they used the term to describe him, thats the origin I believe. | |||
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"People always say it's a preference and it saves wasted messages Hitler had a preference and look how that ended up Clubs that promote a fan club of a race never say "oh you can't come here because you're not a certain colour" do they To the person who said here we go again another one who can't get meets, if it was a job advert and not in fab would you say 'oh look he's moaning because he can't get a job, doubt it " Does your girlfriend know your on here, justing asking. Why will you not meet someone over 70 or under 40? | |||
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"People always say it's a preference and it saves wasted messages Hitler had a preference and look how that ended up Clubs that promote a fan club of a race never say "oh you can't come here because you're not a certain colour" do they To the person who said here we go again another one who can't get meets, if it was a job advert and not in fab would you say 'oh look he's moaning because he can't get a job, doubt it Does your girlfriend know your on here, justing asking. Why will you not meet someone over 70 or under 40?" Haven't got one, and I haven't blocked anyone from messages, anymore | |||
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"People always say it's a preference and it saves wasted messages Hitler had a preference and look how that ended up Clubs that promote a fan club of a race never say "oh you can't come here because you're not a certain colour" do they To the person who said here we go again another one who can't get meets, if it was a job advert and not in fab would you say 'oh look he's moaning because he can't get a job, doubt it " Clubs wouldn't di that because that would be excluding certain demographics from entry and that would be deemed racism. Someone stating a preference to skin colour and features is not racist at all. As someone else said, there's profiles stating they'll only meet black people, are we calling them out for racism against white or Asian people? Bringing Hitler into it really? No one can have a preference because of Hitler. Get a grip. | |||
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"People always say it's a preference and it saves wasted messages Hitler had a preference and look how that ended up Clubs that promote a fan club of a race never say "oh you can't come here because you're not a certain colour" do they To the person who said here we go again another one who can't get meets, if it was a job advert and not in fab would you say 'oh look he's moaning because he can't get a job, doubt it " Choosing who to have sex with does not compare with what Hitler did. A club setting their rules to be open to all, again isn't the individual choosing who to have sex with. The club also wouldn't expect anyone to have sex with anyone they didn't choose to do so, on their property. I see what you're trying to suggest, but these examples are not fitting, at all. | |||
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"Why does this forum allow its members to publicly state that they don’t want to interact with a person of colour. Why should a coloured person feel discriminated for the colour of their skin. You have all these clubs and events would it ever say no blacks or no browns? No because we are in modern times so why does this forum allow for members to have on their page and things like, white only no black or Asians. As an Asian I find it horrible that this day and age I am still made to feel ashamed for the colour of my skin. Members on here shouldn’t be allowed to write white only no Asians or blacks. " So you don't mention the forums or posts that exclude white people to fit your narrative I'm guessing? | |||
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"Why does this forum allow its members to publicly state that they don’t want to interact with a person of colour. Why should a coloured person feel discriminated for the colour of their skin. You have all these clubs and events would it ever say no blacks or no browns? No because we are in modern times so why does this forum allow for members to have on their page and things like, white only no black or Asians. As an Asian I find it horrible that this day and age I am still made to feel ashamed for the colour of my skin. Members on here shouldn’t be allowed to write white only no Asians or blacks. " Welcome to a world where people are allowed their own autonomy and you can't strongarm yourself past consent. C | |||
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"People always say it's a preference and it saves wasted messages Hitler had a preference and look how that ended up Clubs that promote a fan club of a race never say "oh you can't come here because you're not a certain colour" do they To the person who said here we go again another one who can't get meets, if it was a job advert and not in fab would you say 'oh look he's moaning because he can't get a job, doubt it " So if you have a preference you could end up being like Hitler? Your profile states your looking for people between 40-70. Oh dear, you have a preference!! | |||
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"People always say it's a preference and it saves wasted messages Hitler had a preference and look how that ended up Clubs that promote a fan club of a race never say "oh you can't come here because you're not a certain colour" do they To the person who said here we go again another one who can't get meets, if it was a job advert and not in fab would you say 'oh look he's moaning because he can't get a job, doubt it " You’re only meeting women and couples. Why aren’t you meeting men? Hitler didn’t like homosexuals and look how that ended. Get one up ya son! | |||
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"Isn't it just down to personal preference? Would it be discriminatory if I only wanted to interact with black women? Some Asian people only want to interact with other Asians. And I have seen events that are specifically for black people and Asian people. If someone says no Asian or no black, then they've already done me a favour." Exactly this!!! It's saving me wasting my time messaging them and them wasting time being inundated with pointless messages from people they know they have no intention of communicating with.. | |||
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"People always say it's a preference and it saves wasted messages Hitler had a preference and look how that ended up Clubs that promote a fan club of a race never say "oh you can't come here because you're not a certain colour" do they To the person who said here we go again another one who can't get meets, if it was a job advert and not in fab would you say 'oh look he's moaning because he can't get a job, doubt it " You can't compare a job advert to someone's physical attraction, it just isn't the same thing. Poor attempt to make a point. | |||
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"Why does this forum allow its members to publicly state that they don’t want to interact with a person of colour. Why should a coloured person feel discriminated for the colour of their skin. You have all these clubs and events would it ever say no blacks or no browns? No because we are in modern times so why does this forum allow for members to have on their page and things like, white only no black or Asians. As an Asian I find it horrible that this day and age I am still made to feel ashamed for the colour of my skin. Members on here shouldn’t be allowed to write white only no Asians or blacks. Welcome to a world where people are allowed their own autonomy and you can't strongarm yourself past consent. C" 
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"We despise racism of any form, but having a preference (be that in terms of body shape, hair colour or dare we say skin colour) doesn’t make someone racist. On the contrary, some people on here use their skin colour to advertise themselves (BBC) while some women will only meet black men. Each to their own. " This is definetely not the case. Preference is what you like particularly but if you find a skin colour attractive it is different as i doubt youd find a stereotypical Scandinavian man who has a genetic anomaly of dark brown skin attractive. Why? because its just colour, is it...it's the background behind it aswell. Otherwise all those tattooed people who have literal jet black skin would recieve similar consideration for attraction. What people actually mean is they havent thought hard enough, long enough or explored enough why they are sexuallyy attracted to someone. Word to the wise, if it's based on ethnicity or colour then you are likely fetishizing them! They are people, not just sexually attractive meat. Saying i prefer JAPANESE women because of their bone structure, cultural attitude, fat placement AND how their skin shade is and blends with all of the aformentioned...IS completely different to saying "i'm only interested in really pale women or japanese women who are white" You need only look at how light skin people are commodified in china to prove my point. | |||
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"To my way of thinking it’s straightforward.If I see a ladies or couples profile stating only looking for bi guys or only looking for black guys then I know straight away that I don’t fit their criteria and move on." Which is the correct adult thing to do. Some ppl just like to bring attention to their otherwise sad lives tho. Unfortunately the wokes and flakes have had society pandering to them for to long and this original post shows it. | |||
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"To my way of thinking it’s straightforward.If I see a ladies or couples profile stating only looking for bi guys or only looking for black guys then I know straight away that I don’t fit their criteria and move on. Which is the correct adult thing to do. Some ppl just like to bring attention to their otherwise sad lives tho. Unfortunately the wokes and flakes have had society pandering to them for to long and this original post shows it. " And that's literally how racism continues because people dgaf to explore it outside of their own bias. | |||
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"To my way of thinking it’s straightforward.If I see a ladies or couples profile stating only looking for bi guys or only looking for black guys then I know straight away that I don’t fit their criteria and move on. Which is the correct adult thing to do. Some ppl just like to bring attention to their otherwise sad lives tho. Unfortunately the wokes and flakes have had society pandering to them for to long and this original post shows it. " . To me it is the correct thing to do as the couple or lady has stated their preference / what they are seeking I don’t believe I can change their mind so no point getting upset over something I can’t change just move on simple. | |||
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"To my way of thinking it’s straightforward.If I see a ladies or couples profile stating only looking for bi guys or only looking for black guys then I know straight away that I don’t fit their criteria and move on. Which is the correct adult thing to do. Some ppl just like to bring attention to their otherwise sad lives tho. Unfortunately the wokes and flakes have had society pandering to them for to long and this original post shows it. . To me it is the correct thing to do as the couple or lady has stated their preference / what they are seeking I don’t believe I can change their mind so no point getting upset over something I can’t change just move on simple." I have seen a club in Atalanta offering bands to couples and single ladies at the front door based on the choices and that did include race. You can more than one band to mix things, and I found it sensible approach, as you eliminate unnecessary and increase a chance to find a right people you want to play with. You get an option to change/ add additional bands whole night. | |||
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"To my way of thinking it’s straightforward.If I see a ladies or couples profile stating only looking for bi guys or only looking for black guys then I know straight away that I don’t fit their criteria and move on. Which is the correct adult thing to do. Some ppl just like to bring attention to their otherwise sad lives tho. Unfortunately the wokes and flakes have had society pandering to them for to long and this original post shows it. . To me it is the correct thing to do as the couple or lady has stated their preference / what they are seeking I don’t believe I can change their mind so no point getting upset over something I can’t change just move on simple. I have seen a club in Atalanta offering bands to couples and single ladies at the front door based on the choices and that did include race. You can more than one band to mix things, and I found it sensible approach, as you eliminate unnecessary and increase a chance to find a right people you want to play with. You get an option to change/ add additional bands whole night. " What club is this? | |||
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"To my way of thinking it’s straightforward.If I see a ladies or couples profile stating only looking for bi guys or only looking for black guys then I know straight away that I don’t fit their criteria and move on. Which is the correct adult thing to do. Some ppl just like to bring attention to their otherwise sad lives tho. Unfortunately the wokes and flakes have had society pandering to them for to long and this original post shows it. And that's literally how racism continues because people dgaf to explore it outside of their own bias." I'll be sure to mention how racist I am to my 2 mixed race grand kids and the son in law. | |||
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"At what shade of sun tan does a skin colour become too dark for people who aren't racist? If it genuinely is a case of not being attracted to a certain shade of brown then someone you found attractive prior to a fortnight in Magaluf becomes unattractive on their return. Or have I misunderstood?" It's likely not skin colour but physical features or attitudes. Black, white, Asian, generally have different physical features and/or cultural attitudes. Of course every individual has different physical features but some can be attributed to certain races as a general rule | |||
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"I'll quote you profile: "I am straight so only interested in women. Sorry guys!!" your statement could be applied to this as you are discriminating against, gay, bi and trans. " Oi... But I'm a laydeeeeeeee! Pppffft... Seriously, maybe the OP is trying to say let's be positive and say what you prefer, rather than what you don't prefer? That said, I once had an guy who accused me of being racist because I only seem to fancy white guys (as listed on my profile). Huh? Minefield eh? | |||
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"At what shade of sun tan does a skin colour become too dark for people who aren't racist? If it genuinely is a case of not being attracted to a certain shade of brown then someone you found attractive prior to a fortnight in Magaluf becomes unattractive on their return. Or have I misunderstood? It's likely not skin colour but physical features or attitudes. Black, white, Asian, generally have different physical features and/or cultural attitudes. Of course every individual has different physical features but some can be attributed to certain races as a general rule" So it's a case of attributing certain characteristics by race? | |||
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"At what shade of sun tan does a skin colour become too dark for people who aren't racist? If it genuinely is a case of not being attracted to a certain shade of brown then someone you found attractive prior to a fortnight in Magaluf becomes unattractive on their return. Or have I misunderstood? It's likely not skin colour but physical features or attitudes. Black, white, Asian, generally have different physical features and/or cultural attitudes. Of course every individual has different physical features but some can be attributed to certain races as a general rule So it's a case of attributing certain characteristics by race?" Some certainly can be. | |||
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"To my way of thinking it’s straightforward.If I see a ladies or couples profile stating only looking for bi guys or only looking for black guys then I know straight away that I don’t fit their criteria and move on. Which is the correct adult thing to do. Some ppl just like to bring attention to their otherwise sad lives tho. Unfortunately the wokes and flakes have had society pandering to them for to long and this original post shows it. And that's literally how racism continues because people dgaf to explore it outside of their own bias. I'll be sure to mention how racist I am to my 2 mixed race grand kids and the son in law. "Just vecause you have dual heritage people in your family it doesnt mean you cant be racist or ignorant..... | |||
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"irony is that something that can be discussed candidly is completely covered by political correctness here on Fab. Race plays an important role that is why you have BMFC, interracial event( focused on a specific race) openly published here on Fab. What’s wrong in accepting it??" I mean candidly during standup comedy | |||
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"At what shade of sun tan does a skin colour become too dark for people who aren't racist? If it genuinely is a case of not being attracted to a certain shade of brown then someone you found attractive prior to a fortnight in Magaluf becomes unattractive on their return. Or have I misunderstood? It's likely not skin colour but physical features or attitudes. Black, white, Asian, generally have different physical features and/or cultural attitudes. Of course every individual has different physical features but some can be attributed to certain races as a general rule" true - now tell us here what features you are calling out? Think you are a standup comedian - no political correctness. And BTW, Asians include , Indian, Pakistani, Bangladeshi, Japan, Korea,Thailand, Malaysia, Singapore, and Indonesia and Philippines who you don’t normally see having wed with whites in porn or at least I have not seen any big production house catering to that fetish because it doesn’t exist. | |||
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"Why does this forum allow its members to publicly state that they don’t want to interact with a person of colour. Why should a coloured person feel discriminated for the colour of their skin. You have all these clubs and events would it ever say no blacks or no browns? No because we are in modern times so why does this forum allow for members to have on their page and things like, white only no black or Asians. As an Asian I find it horrible that this day and age I am still made to feel ashamed for the colour of my skin. Members on here shouldn’t be allowed to write white only no Asians or blacks. " I agree with you Shaun. If Fab could find a way of filtering by ethnicity those people with a preference would be able to filter better. They wouldn’t need to put it on their profile as the people they don’t want to speak to would be automatically blocked. At the end of the day it’s a persons preference. Often formed through a combination of stereotypes, learned experiences and fantasy. | |||
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"Why does this forum allow its members to publicly state that they don’t want to interact with a person of colour. Why should a coloured person feel discriminated for the colour of their skin. You have all these clubs and events would it ever say no blacks or no browns? No because we are in modern times so why does this forum allow for members to have on their page and things like, white only no black or Asians. As an Asian I find it horrible that this day and age I am still made to feel ashamed for the colour of my skin. Members on here shouldn’t be allowed to write white only no Asians or blacks. I agree with you Shaun. If Fab could find a way of filtering by ethnicity those people with a preference would be able to filter better. They wouldn’t need to put it on their profile as the people they don’t want to speak to would be automatically blocked. At the end of the day it’s a persons preference. Often formed through a combination of stereotypes, learned experiences and fantasy. " true mate, you don’t go to eat Indian food in Caribbean restaurant, doesn’t matter if they situated next to each other. You make a choice and then enter then enter the restaurant…isn’t it? Then why these swingers club cannot offer a wrist bands based on your preferences at the door, just cut the noise and give clear message who don’t fall into preferred category - stay away!! Keep swinging simple because it is all about sex, at the end of the day for most of the people, and there is a race that is better in it, so be it, accept it. Entire porn industry accepted that, but people over here are just using political correctness. Things that are so obvious, look at all the interracial events and BMFC (sexual) all focused on one race. | |||
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"Why does this forum allow its members to publicly state that they don’t want to interact with a person of colour. Why should a coloured person feel discriminated for the colour of their skin. You have all these clubs and events would it ever say no blacks or no browns? No because we are in modern times so why does this forum allow for members to have on their page and things like, white only no black or Asians. As an Asian I find it horrible that this day and age I am still made to feel ashamed for the colour of my skin. Members on here shouldn’t be allowed to write white only no Asians or blacks. " what’s wrong in it mate, they are not looking for CEO to run their company. It’s sex and it’s clear who is at the top of the leaderboard, entire porn industry knows it why don’t you accept it? | |||
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""Just for the unsuspecting, my son, gf and their child lives with me so I can't accommodate, now back to me." "Aged from 40 to 70" quoted from your bio. I didn't say you block messages.
By what your wrote its his sons gf.
Son gf and THEIR child. Point missed, the question was does his girlfriend know he is on here...
I didn't say his child.
Could age pref be an indication of ageism....
Using the op's discussion point.  "I think you need to read it again. It’s his son’s girlfriend, not his. | |||
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""Just for the unsuspecting, my son, gf and their child lives with me so I can't accommodate, now back to me." "Aged from 40 to 70" quoted from your bio. I didn't say you block messages.
By what your wrote its his sons gf.
Son gf and THEIR child. Point missed, the question was does his girlfriend know he is on here...
I didn't say his child.
Could age pref be an indication of ageism....
Using the op's discussion point.
I think you need to read it again.
It’s his son’s girlfriend, not his."I dind't say anything the kid, I was asking if his girlrfriend knew he was on here to make a point and to highlight he had an age pref. If his girlfriend didn't know he was on her, that would make him a lyer and therefore..... Why do I bother... AGAIN: I didn't imply he had a kid, I took the quote from his bio..... | |||
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""Just for the unsuspecting, my son, gf and their child lives with me so I can't accommodate, now back to me." "Aged from 40 to 70" quoted from your bio. I didn't say you block messages.
By what your wrote its his sons gf.
Son gf and THEIR child. Point missed, the question was does his girlfriend know he is on here...
I didn't say his child.
Could age pref be an indication of ageism....
Using the op's discussion point.
I think you need to read it again.
It’s his son’s girlfriend, not his. I dind't say anything the kid, I was asking if his girlrfriend knew he was on here to make a point and to highlight he had an age pref.
If his girlfriend didn't know he was on her, that would make him a lyer and therefore.....
Why do I bother...
AGAIN: I didn't imply he had a kid, I took the quote from his bio.....
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"I dind't say anything the kid, I was asking if his girlrfriend knew he was on here to make a point and to highlight he had an age pref. If his girlfriend didn't know he was on her, that would make him a lyer and therefore..... Why do I bother... AGAIN: I didn't imply he had a kid, I took the quote from his bio..... "Where does it say anywhere on his profile that he personally has a girlfriend?? And I didn’t mention anything about a child  | |||
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"Why does this forum allow its members to publicly state that they don’t want to interact with a person of colour. Why should a coloured person feel discriminated for the colour of their skin. You have all these clubs and events would it ever say no blacks or no browns? No because we are in modern times so why does this forum allow for members to have on their page and things like, white only no black or Asians. As an Asian I find it horrible that this day and age I am still made to feel ashamed for the colour of my skin. Members on here shouldn’t be allowed to write white only no Asians or blacks. I agree with you Shaun. If Fab could find a way of filtering by ethnicity those people with a preference would be able to filter better. They wouldn’t need to put it on their profile as the people they don’t want to speak to would be automatically blocked. At the end of the day it’s a persons preference. Often formed through a combination of stereotypes, learned experiences and fantasy. true mate, you don’t go to eat Indian food in Caribbean restaurant, doesn’t matter if they situated next to each other. You make a choice and then enter then enter the restaurant…isn’t it? Then why these swingers club cannot offer a wrist bands based on your preferences at the door, just cut the noise and give clear message who don’t fall into preferred category - stay away!! Keep swinging simple because it is all about sex, at the end of the day for most of the people, and there is a race that is better in it, so be it, accept it. Entire porn industry accepted that, but people over here are just using political correctness. Things that are so obvious, look at all the interracial events and BMFC (sexual) all focused on one race." You have a very UK/perhaps American centric way of looking at things. There is no one race "better at sex". There may be a race with on average bigger cocks but that's a different thing. It also ignores the female half of the race. Go to other parts of the world and the fascination with black men is not there. Flipping it around in Japan for example there is more a fascination with white ladies in porn and sex establishments. You rarely find a black lady. Does that mean that race is better at sex? Perhaps not. All down to the individual.... | |||
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"So all the people who think I’m over reacting to this if I approached you in a club would you flat say to my face no Asians….. If people don’t think their preference could be worded better then you really are ignorant. No way would anyone who has on the profile no blacks or Asians would ever have the guts to say it to someone’s face in that way. " Any person would use a polite approach in any club or face to face it's a preference which you clearly don't understand people are entitled to express and if the only way is within the bio so they don't get inundated with messages from those whom don't fit their criteria it's common sense | |||
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"So they would use a polite approach in a club why? It's how people are then it's about respecting those wishes in life you can't always have what you want which is something that needs to be understood " What nonesense are you on, who said anything about not always getting what you want, and if you think asking for some respect for the colour of my skin I need to understood your a fool mate ignorant one at that. | |||
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"I can see here people are ignorant as to what my issue is, Where people on the profiles have no blacks or Asians in their bio that is racist, it’s like being back in the 70/80s where you would see signs outside pubs and restaurants read…. No blacks Asians. Was it also a preference then or was that being racist? We can all sit here and try to say it preferences but how you word something means something. " Users also have only meeting black guys people have preferences it's not discrimination as for wording it their is no other way without describing | |||
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"So they would use a polite approach in a club why? It's how people are then it's about respecting those wishes in life you can't always have what you want which is something that needs to be understood What nonesense are you on, who said anything about not always getting what you want, and if you think asking for some respect for the colour of my skin I need to understood your a fool mate ignorant one at that. " Wow now it boils down to name calling I'd prefer being a fool but one who understands people who are entitled to a choice without any judgement | |||
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"So all the people who think I’m over reacting to this if I approached you in a club would you flat say to my face no Asians….. If people don’t think their preference could be worded better then you really are ignorant. No way would anyone who has on the profile no blacks or Asians would ever have the guts to say it to someone’s face in that way. " I totally get what you're saying. I couldn't care less about who fancies who, and certainly not interested in 'changing anyone's mind' 
but there's a way to put things... A preference is just a want. Put what you WANT on your profile,not what you DON'T want. Otherwise they'll attract the not wanted and become very unhappy and angry at life with faces like bitter gargoyles  | |||
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"So all the people who think I’m over reacting to this if I approached you in a club would you flat say to my face no Asians….. If people don’t think their preference could be worded better then you really are ignorant. No way would anyone who has on the profile no blacks or Asians would ever have the guts to say it to someone’s face in that way. I totally get what you're saying. I couldn't care less about who fancies who, and certainly not interested in 'changing anyone's mind'
but there's a way to put things... A preference is just a want. Put what you WANT on your profile,not what you DON'T want. Otherwise they'll attract the not wanted and become very unhappy and angry at life with faces like bitter gargoyles "But even when a user puts what they prefer it's still going to be looked at as if it's judgment to another it's a no win | |||
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"That's fine though, we all judge & are judged. There's no need to be offensive which outlining what you don't want invariably is. I like fit men, if I said in my profile that I don't want unfit men over a certain age I'd be seen as quite an awful person and I would be. Why concentrate on the negative? It's pretty telling of those that do "Still it's a preference similar to age preferences now would that be looked at as discrimination without wording it ? But picking the option it's more about understanding and respecting without any judgement | |||
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Still it's a preference similar to age preferences now would that be looked at as discrimination without wording it ? But picking the option it's more about understanding and respecting without any judgement "I think a good idea would to be able to choose colour wants/nationalities & so on from a drop-down that goes directly to your profile. Admin any chance of this? | |||
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"I can see here people are ignorant as to what my issue is, Where people on the profiles have no blacks or Asians in their bio that is racist, it’s like being back in the 70/80s where you would see signs outside pubs and restaurants read…. No blacks Asians. Was it also a preference then or was that being racist? We can all sit here and try to say it preferences but how you word something means something. " You're simply trying to rebrand the word "preference" to mean racist. Good luck with that one. I'm not racist. But I do have the right to make my own choices about my activities and who I undertake them with. If you're not happy with that then it's your problem not mine. | |||
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"That's fine though, we all judge & are judged. There's no need to be offensive which outlining what you don't want invariably is. I like fit men, if I said in my profile that I don't want unfit men over a certain age I'd be seen as quite an awful person and I would be. Why concentrate on the negative? It's pretty telling of those that do
Still it's a preference similar to age preferences now would that be looked at as discrimination without wording it ? But picking the option it's more about understanding and respecting without any judgement
I think a good idea would to be able to choose colour wants/nationalities & so on from a drop-down that goes directly to your profile.
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"I can see here people are ignorant as to what my issue is, Where people on the profiles have no blacks or Asians in their bio that is racist, it’s like being back in the 70/80s where you would see signs outside pubs and restaurants read…. No blacks Asians. Was it also a preference then or was that being racist? We can all sit here and try to say it preferences but how you word something means something. You're simply trying to rebrand the word "preference" to mean racist. Good luck with that one. I'm not racist. But I do have the right to make my own choices about my activities and who I undertake them with. If you're not happy with that then it's your problem not mine." That is a excellent way to put it | |||
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"Members on here shouldn’t be allowed to write white only no Asians or blacks. " There are two Asian couple's near me. Both say they'll meet only other Asian couple's. So by your own definition they're racists for excluding white & black people? | |||
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"That's fine though, we all judge & are judged. There's no need to be offensive which outlining what you don't want invariably is. I like fit men, if I said in my profile that I don't want unfit men over a certain age I'd be seen as quite an awful person and I would be. Why concentrate on the negative? It's pretty telling of those that do
Still it's a preference similar to age preferences now would that be looked at as discrimination without wording it ? But picking the option it's more about understanding and respecting without any judgement
I think a good idea would to be able to choose colour wants/nationalities & so on from a drop-down that goes directly to your profile.
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"I can see here people are ignorant as to what my issue is, Where people on the profiles have no blacks or Asians in their bio that is racist, it’s like being back in the 70/80s where you would see signs outside pubs and restaurants read…. No blacks Asians. Was it also a preference then or was that being racist? We can all sit here and try to say it preferences but how you word something means something. You're simply trying to rebrand the word "preference" to mean racist. Good luck with that one. I'm not racist. But I do have the right to make my own choices about my activities and who I undertake them with. If you're not happy with that then it's your problem not mine. That is a excellent way to put it " | |||
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"Members on here shouldn’t be allowed to write white only no Asians or blacks. There are two Asian couple's near me. Both say they'll meet only other Asian couple's. So by your own definition they're racists for excluding white & black people?" . I attend a club in London and whenever I have attended on a Friday night there are 3-4 Indian / Pakistan couples. I regularly chat with them and they are all friendly and respectful towards me and others.When it comes to adult fun they tend to keep it amongst themselves.To me that is a preference not racist but I think others would see it the other way round. | |||
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"Op your not all there dude. People don't want to meet Asian people then so be it....it's not racist dude...get that through your head!!if in a club you can say not interested.....but use your head, on here to they will say no Asian or whatever so the don't get hundreds of unwanted messages!! " People don’t want a meet is different to write it down . You don’t tell a person you are FaT . Why not ? Because it is rude . It is rude to mention certain stuff . It is not about being racists or not is about a manner. If u don’t like it good for you no one force you to meet-up. So you say no thank you. Imagine organise a party saying for white people only and telling oh this is our preference. I don’t accept at sorry. Also the meaning of racists is important to read many comments above even don’t know what does racism mean. | |||
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"People always say it's a preference and it saves wasted messages Hitler had a preference and look how that ended up Clubs that promote a fan club of a race never say "oh you can't come here because you're not a certain colour" do they To the person who said here we go again another one who can't get meets, if it was a job advert and not in fab would you say 'oh look he's moaning because he can't get a job, doubt it " Are you seriously comparing people having preferences to the Holocaust?! | |||
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"Another one pulling the race card because he can't take the rejection. Someone saying they won't meet black guys is the same as someone saying they don't meet bold guys, it's called having a preference." jeez | |||
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"To my way of thinking it’s straightforward.If I see a ladies or couples profile stating only looking for bi guys or only looking for black guys then I know straight away that I don’t fit their criteria and move on. Which is the correct adult thing to do. Some ppl just like to bring attention to their otherwise sad lives tho. Unfortunately the wokes and flakes have had society pandering to them for to long and this original post shows it. And that's literally how racism continues because people dgaf to explore it outside of their own bias. I'll be sure to mention how racist I am to my 2 mixed race grand kids and the son in law.
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"Op your not all there dude. People don't want to meet Asian people then so be it....it's not racist dude...get that through your head!!if in a club you can say not interested.....but use your head, on here to they will say no Asian or whatever so the don't get hundreds of unwanted messages!! People don’t want a meet is different to write it down . You don’t tell a person you are FaT . Why not ? Because it is rude . It is rude to mention certain stuff . It is not about being racists or not is about a manner. If u don’t like it good for you no one force you to meet-up. So you say no thank you. Imagine organise a party saying for white people only and telling oh this is our preference. I don’t accept at sorry. Also the meaning of racists is important to read many comments above even don’t know what does racism mean." Yup hate these type of threads, always brings the I'm not racist but brigade out in full force. | |||
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"People always say it's a preference and it saves wasted messages Hitler had a preference and look how that ended up Clubs that promote a fan club of a race never say "oh you can't come here because you're not a certain colour" do they To the person who said here we go again another one who can't get meets, if it was a job advert and not in fab would you say 'oh look he's moaning because he can't get a job, doubt it Are you seriously comparing people having preferences to the Holocaust?! "Appears to be along those lines yes. Pitiful really. | |||
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"People always say it's a preference and it saves wasted messages Hitler had a preference and look how that ended up Clubs that promote a fan club of a race never say "oh you can't come here because you're not a certain colour" do they To the person who said here we go again another one who can't get meets, if it was a job advert and not in fab would you say 'oh look he's moaning because he can't get a job, doubt it Are you seriously comparing people having preferences to the Holocaust?! "Think it's called Godwins Law. | |||
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"Racism is the belief in superiority based wholly on skin colour. Anything else is many other things but not racism." Woefully inadequate explanation of racism. | |||
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"I'll quote you profile: "I am straight so only interested in women. Sorry guys!!" your statement could be applied to this as you are discriminating against, gay, bi and trans. " Exactly this I understand where your coming from but your profile is also being discriminatory to another demographic I'm sure you've not meant that with any malice & hopefully neither will they have it's just their preference | |||
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"So all the people who think I’m over reacting to this if I approached you in a club would you flat say to my face no Asians….. If people don’t think their preference could be worded better then you really are ignorant. No way would anyone who has on the profile no blacks or Asians would ever have the guts to say it to someone’s face in that way. " There's no choice for race/colour in the options menu, so it has to be written in a biography, there's no other way to let a visitor know who you're looking for. How someone says it is another thing entirely of course. In your scenario, at a club, face to face, I'd expect someone to politely decline an invitation to be intimate with someone they weren't physically attached to. I can talk to people I'm not sexually attracted to all day. In your scenario you seem to be suggesting I should have sex with you because you want it, regardless of what I want. Consent and respecting my preferences is important to me. Obviously it's not to you. | |||
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"Why does this forum allow its members to publicly state that they don’t want to interact with a person of colour. Why should a coloured person feel discriminated for the colour of their skin. You have all these clubs and events would it ever say no blacks or no browns? No because we are in modern times so why does this forum allow for members to have on their page and things like, white only no black or Asians. As an Asian I find it horrible that this day and age I am still made to feel ashamed for the colour of my skin. Members on here shouldn’t be allowed to write white only no Asians or blacks. " People are allowed to state their preferences, of course the way they express that can vary and it's not always said with bad intent. Stating what you like is probably better than stating what you don't. Stating your preferences is meant to help reduce messages from those you don't seek (provided people actually read profiles). I'm an Asian (Filipino) woman and I know I won't be for everyone and you know what I do? I move on and only concern myself with those who are interested in me (regardless of my race having to do anything with that connection). OP I'd suggest that you not think to much about it here as real world racism exists out in the real world, and certainly can occur in swinging, but someone's body isn't a shop or restaurant that anyone can buy or eat from. | |||
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"People always say it's a preference and it saves wasted messages Hitler had a preference and look how that ended up Clubs that promote a fan club of a race never say "oh you can't come here because you're not a certain colour" do they To the person who said here we go again another one who can't get meets, if it was a job advert and not in fab would you say 'oh look he's moaning because he can't get a job, doubt it You’re only meeting women and couples. Why aren’t you meeting men? Hitler didn’t like homosexuals and look how that ended. Get one up ya son! " I feel the need to hi five you now!! | |||
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"Why does this forum allow its members to publicly state that they don’t want to interact with a person of colour. Why should a coloured person feel discriminated for the colour of their skin. You have all these clubs and events would it ever say no blacks or no browns? No because we are in modern times so why does this forum allow for members to have on their page and things like, white only no black or Asians. As an Asian I find it horrible that this day and age I am still made to feel ashamed for the colour of my skin. Members on here shouldn’t be allowed to write white only no Asians or blacks. People are allowed to state their preferences, of course the way they express that can vary and it's not always said with bad intent. Stating what you like is probably better than stating what you don't. Stating your preferences is meant to help reduce messages from those you don't seek (provided people actually read profiles). I'm an Asian (Filipino) woman and I know I won't be for everyone and you know what I do? I move on and only concern myself with those who are interested in me (regardless of my race having to do anything with that connection). OP I'd suggest that you not think to much about it here as real world racism exists out in the real world, and certainly can occur in swinging, but someone's body isn't a shop or restaurant that anyone can buy or eat from." Yep the way some people say things matters. Sometimes people say things with no menace and just expressing a preference and sometimes it seems to be with racist/abusive menace. Personally I've lived in Asia in China and Japan and been on the other side of this and really got a feel for preference vs racism in various contexts. I read profiles here and some do seem to express things in a borderline racist way.....well sometimes not even borderline. I feel the same on being ginger. Sometimes people say things about ginger people in a friendly joking way and sometimes abusive. The trouble is when you've had such comments all the way from childhood with trauma at certain points it can be easy to take things badly even if that wasn't the intention. I feel perhaps OP is a bit like that on race having suffered for a long time. | |||
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"Why does this forum allow its members to publicly state that they don’t want to interact with a person of colour. Why should a coloured person feel discriminated for the colour of their skin. You have all these clubs and events would it ever say no blacks or no browns? No because we are in modern times so why does this forum allow for members to have on their page and things like, white only no black or Asians. As an Asian I find it horrible that this day and age I am still made to feel ashamed for the colour of my skin. Members on here shouldn’t be allowed to write white only no Asians or blacks. People are allowed to state their preferences, of course the way they express that can vary and it's not always said with bad intent. Stating what you like is probably better than stating what you don't. Stating your preferences is meant to help reduce messages from those you don't seek (provided people actually read profiles). I'm an Asian (Filipino) woman and I know I won't be for everyone and you know what I do? I move on and only concern myself with those who are interested in me (regardless of my race having to do anything with that connection). OP I'd suggest that you not think to much about it here as real world racism exists out in the real world, and certainly can occur in swinging, but someone's body isn't a shop or restaurant that anyone can buy or eat from. Yep the way some people say things matters. Sometimes people say things with no menace and just expressing a preference and sometimes it seems to be with racist/abusive menace. Personally I've lived in Asia in China and Japan and been on the other side of this and really got a feel for preference vs racism in various contexts. I read profiles here and some do seem to express things in a borderline racist way.....well sometimes not even borderline. I feel the same on being ginger. Sometimes people say things about ginger people in a friendly joking way and sometimes abusive. The trouble is when you've had such comments all the way from childhood with trauma at certain points it can be easy to take things badly even if that wasn't the intention. I feel perhaps OP is a bit like that on race having suffered for a long time. " It's nice to see some people do get it | |||
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"Even if everyone chose a bottle of sauce as a option red brown BBQ it would still cause an issue
Nearly can't leave mayonnaise my apologies if I've missed anything I'm sorry "Salad cream. How dare you. You're saladist lol. | |||
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"Dear OP, I am asian and my wife is Jamaican. We have both had partners from various backgrounds before we met that were white british / white european / latin american. I now have a sexual preference for black women now along with latin american women and regularly tell my wife lol. Although when I regularly see a white woman that I find attractive, I point her out to my wife. My wife regularly tells me if she notices a hot guy she finds cute, either black or white guy or asian guy. These are our sexual preferences. It is what turns us both on. And our sexual preferences are different to our preferences for friendships where we are open to people from any background. Incidentally, I am very turned on when she tells me she has seen a hot black guy. I'm not paranoid about it, being an asian male. In fact I am happy that we talk openly about our fantasies and desires. And to be fair, I regularly tell her I would love to see her with a black male having fun as I watch. We just like who we like in terms of sex. As many have said, it is just a preference. That is all. My advice would be get out there and get to some clubs etc. Meet people and use your personality to let others know more about you. You never really get to know people by exchanging a few messages here on the forums or by chatting or texting. " Amen, it’s all down to personal preferences and NOT a racist choice! | |||
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"The guy does have a point to some degree. You don't often people see people post things like 'no fatties' do you?" It depends how you read a profile. Say, for example, someone's profile states that they prefer slim gym fit women. It's an innocent enough statement. But women who aren't gym fit could read it as don't meet fatties and become offended enough to start a topic in the forums about it. It's all in the mindset of the reader. Some are sensible and just move on in the search for someone who's compatible. Others are not and will scrutinise the profile wording in an attempt to make it an "ist" situation. | |||
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"Well I must say I'm disappointed at the OP for not replying to my comment about the two Asian couples who have "will only meet other Asians" on their profiles. I mean, going by his own rationale it's racist right? Or anyone else on the thread who has an issue with people stating their preferences regarding who who they wish to meet. I'm guessing the OP has declined because he knew his answer would be somewhat hypocritical. That or he just couldn't think of a reply with some substance to it. It's personal choice folks. Nothing more sinister than that. I don't like beards. I find them itchy, tickly and irritating. So I state on my profile that I don't meet bearded guys. Does that make me beardist? Obviously it must do because personal choice is seemingly being replaced by someone's word of choice with "ist" tagged on the end. How sad is that?" I wonder how the op would react to his sister bringing home a non Asian... | |||
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"The guy does have a point to some degree. You don't often people see people post things like 'no fatties' do you?" Believe it or not their is that even worded differently in some whereas no over weight but it's their preferences just like those whom prefer to meet tall folk and mention this it's nothing personal | |||
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"Well I must say I'm disappointed at the OP for not replying to my comment about the two Asian couples who have "will only meet other Asians" on their profiles. I mean, going by his own rationale it's racist right? Or anyone else on the thread who has an issue with people stating their preferences regarding who who they wish to meet. I'm guessing the OP has declined because he knew his answer would be somewhat hypocritical. That or he just couldn't think of a reply with some substance to it. It's personal choice folks. Nothing more sinister than that. I don't like beards. I find them itchy, tickly and irritating. So I state on my profile that I don't meet bearded guys. Does that make me beardist? Obviously it must do because personal choice is seemingly being replaced by someone's word of choice with "ist" tagged on the end. How sad is that? I wonder how the op would react to his sister bringing home a non Asian..." There could possibly be clash of personal preferences. | |||
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some people protesting bit much & getting bent out of shape trying to assure they're not racist. Be a racist, who actually cares? Own it I maintain, the site should provide tools that simply & politely make PREFERENCES/WANTS easily known | |||
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"The guy does have a point to some degree. You don't often people see people post things like 'no fatties' do you? It depends how you read a profile. Say, for example, someone's profile states that they prefer slim gym fit women. It's an innocent enough statement. But women who aren't gym fit could read it as don't meet fatties and become offended enough to start a topic in the forums about it. It's all in the mindset of the reader. Some are sensible and just move on in the search for someone who's compatible. Others are not and will scrutinise the profile wording in an attempt to make it an "ist" situation. " This. ^ | |||
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" some people protesting bit much & getting bent out of shape trying to assure they're not racist. Be a racist, who actually cares? Own it I maintain, the site should provide tools that simply & politely make PREFERENCES/WANTS easily known "It already does though, it's just as easy to write something positive about the people they are looking for, than going down the no blacks, no dogs no Irish route. | |||
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" some people protesting bit much & getting bent out of shape trying to assure they're not racist. Be a racist, who actually cares? Own it I maintain, the site should provide tools that simply & politely make PREFERENCES/WANTS easily known
It already does though, it's just as easy to write something positive about the people they are looking for, than going down the no blacks, no dogs no Irish route. "No dogs? Fab really is changing...I mean so they don't have to write anything about who they want. For example, ticking a drop down of white/black/martian only, choose the one they want, that goes straight to their profile,next to their username - Like a sticky title Ignore any msgs from people that don't interest them, quite simple. | |||
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"I'm not racist, but...... I only want to fuck black woman/women, asian women, chinese women or japanese women and in that order! " | |||
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"It's called - preference. Should I feel discriminated against when people say they prefer BBC. No - they know what they like and lets me know they will not be interested in me. " Preference is about stating what you like. Aka “prefer”. It’s not about stating what and who you dislike. It’s also not normal to discount entire ethnic groups consisting of millions of people you’ve never seen or met. There’s definitely something deeper going on there. Personally I don’t care if someone is or isn’t attracted to whatever ethnic group, as long as they acknowledge they have some kind of deep rooted prejudice. | |||
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"It's called - preference. Should I feel discriminated against when people say they prefer BBC. No - they know what they like and lets me know they will not be interested in me. Preference is about stating what you like. Aka “prefer”. It’s not about stating what and who you dislike. It’s also not normal to discount entire ethnic groups consisting of millions of people you’ve never seen or met. There’s definitely something deeper going on there. Personally I don’t care if someone is or isn’t attracted to whatever ethnic group, as long as they acknowledge they have some kind of deep rooted prejudice." Yep thats my take on it too. Like or dislike what you like or dislike. But have the wit to accept what it is. | |||
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"Why does this forum allow its members to publicly state that they don’t want to interact with a person of colour. Why should a coloured person feel discriminated for the colour of their skin. You have all these clubs and events would it ever say no blacks or no browns? No because we are in modern times so why does this forum allow for members to have on their page and things like, white only no black or Asians. As an Asian I find it horrible that this day and age I am still made to feel ashamed for the colour of my skin. Members on here shouldn’t be allowed to write white only no Asians or blacks. " Op aren't you discriminating against guys as you say women only? What about people over 61? Why should they be excluded? Or is it only you allowed preferences? | |||
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"Why does this forum allow its members to publicly state that they don’t want to interact with a person of colour. Why should a coloured person feel discriminated for the colour of their skin. You have all these clubs and events would it ever say no blacks or no browns? No because we are in modern times so why does this forum allow for members to have on their page and things like, white only no black or Asians. As an Asian I find it horrible that this day and age I am still made to feel ashamed for the colour of my skin. Members on here shouldn’t be allowed to write white only no Asians or blacks. " Are you actually having a laugh.... People must always have the right to describe their preferences.. pretty sure many don't like me because of various elements of my physical appearance.. I chose not to give a shit and seek engagement with those that do have preferences for my particular physical attitributes or whatever... People are very very sick of the race card being dealt to force them to somehow condition their natural preferences. By pushing it some elements of society are making it worse for themselves, both in race and sexial identify among other 'things' .. | |||
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"We have a set list of attributes we do not find attractive. Some are age, size, sexuality, and yes race may come into it. My/our preferences are outwardly listed on our profile to save people wasting their own time and ours. This site is like being in a bar, lots of people that won’t float your boat and occasionally a couple that do. I definitely shouldn’t be made to feel guilty for saying generally speaking certain races don’t do anything for me. That’s a preference and outlines consent. Why would you want to chat with those that aren’t into your race? If we saw another couple that state they’re into a race that isn’t us we simply don’t approach and move on. Because we aren’t what they’re looking for doesn’t mean we should be upset by it. Racial preference is exactly the same as age preference or sexuality preference." This site is not like being in a bar. If you were to walk into a bar with a label saying you don't like a race of people the establishment are most likely to ask you to leave. However, if you are approached in a bar by people not of your liking you can sit somewhere else or leave or inform the management. I have certain preferences but none that are offensive to other races or sections of society. But, I prefer men older than 40 because I have children in their 30s and it would just feel weird! I really dislike reading comments in regards to race. No Blacks, no Asians, no whites. We are no longer in the 1960s. All very offensive. I ignore the message or block if they continue to be insistent. | |||
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"Why does this forum allow its members to publicly state that they don’t want to interact with a person of colour. Why should a coloured person feel discriminated for the colour of their skin. You have all these clubs and events would it ever say no blacks or no browns? No because we are in modern times so why does this forum allow for members to have on their page and things like, white only no black or Asians. As an Asian I find it horrible that this day and age I am still made to feel ashamed for the colour of my skin. Members on here shouldn’t be allowed to write white only no Asians or blacks. Op aren't you discriminating against guys as you say women only? What about people over 61? Why should they be excluded? Or is it only you allowed preferences? "It looks like we are indeed allowed preferences but only if he finds them agreeable. Whereas he can do whatever he wants. | |||
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"We have a set list of attributes we do not find attractive. Some are age, size, sexuality, and yes race may come into it. My/our preferences are outwardly listed on our profile to save people wasting their own time and ours. This site is like being in a bar, lots of people that won’t float your boat and occasionally a couple that do. I definitely shouldn’t be made to feel guilty for saying generally speaking certain races don’t do anything for me. That’s a preference and outlines consent. Why would you want to chat with those that aren’t into your race? If we saw another couple that state they’re into a race that isn’t us we simply don’t approach and move on. Because we aren’t what they’re looking for doesn’t mean we should be upset by it. Racial preference is exactly the same as age preference or sexuality preference. This site is not like being in a bar. If you were to walk into a bar with a label saying you don't like a race of people the establishment are most likely to ask you to leave. However, if you are approached in a bar by people not of your liking you can sit somewhere else or leave or inform the management. I have certain preferences but none that are offensive to other races or sections of society. But, I prefer men older than 40 because I have children in their 30s and it would just feel weird! I really dislike reading comments in regards to race. No Blacks, no Asians, no whites. We are no longer in the 1960s. All very offensive. I ignore the message or block if they continue to be insistent. " Rewriting due to typo- You’re missing the point of the site. Most are not here to make friends they’re here to explore sexuality or sexual scenarios which brings physical appearance into it. If you’re not attracted to someone you certainly shouldn’t need to feel guilty for that no matter the reason. Your preferences are your preferences. Having race preferences is no different. | |||
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"It's called - preference. Should I feel discriminated against when people say they prefer BBC. No - they know what they like and lets me know they will not be interested in me. Preference is about stating what you like. Aka “prefer”. It’s not about stating what and who you dislike. It’s also not normal to discount entire ethnic groups consisting of millions of people you’ve never seen or met. There’s definitely something deeper going on there. Personally I don’t care if someone is or isn’t attracted to whatever ethnic group, as long as they acknowledge they have some kind of deep rooted prejudice." This! There's literally nothing else to be said. | |||
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"Why does this forum allow its members to publicly state that they don’t want to interact with a person of colour. Why should a coloured person feel discriminated for the colour of their skin. You have all these clubs and events would it ever say no blacks or no browns? No because we are in modern times so why does this forum allow for members to have on their page and things like, white only no black or Asians. As an Asian I find it horrible that this day and age I am still made to feel ashamed for the colour of my skin. Members on here shouldn’t be allowed to write white only no Asians or blacks. Op aren't you discriminating against guys as you say women only? What about people over 61? Why should they be excluded? Or is it only you allowed preferences?
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"I’ve learnt my lesson not to argue with imbeciles, Ignore the post and if the Forum Mods want to delete this post by all means go ahead. Ignorance is bliss as they say. Happy Fabbing Everyone " | |||
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"I’ve learnt my lesson not to argue with imbeciles, Ignore the post and if the Forum Mods want to delete this post by all means go ahead. Ignorance is bliss as they say. Happy Fabbing Everyone " and look what people do here , you talk about racial preference which is a valid observation in swingers club, but people start comparing it with Gender, Sexual identity, and chicken, lamb etc etc. most of the people here does not even know what un conscious bias is. That is why you have interracial events and BMFC events specially designed to fulfil black men fetish arranged by these swingers club and promoted here. There is no harm in accepting that fetish but don’t funcking justify is with political correctness of preference. There are events organised and published here, by one of the ex porn star couple, stating that it’s only for white couple. So, I start ignoring all this BS around preference in swinging world, as plenty of sex is available outside of this lifestyle. So don’t bother mate. Ignorance is really a bliss, I realised hard way after getting into some dark side of this fantasy world. | |||
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"Preference and racism are two very different things. We prefer to choose some things over other things we prefer chicken or beef over lamb so are we being discriminatory against lamb no not at all the world is a hard enough place to live in without all the added hoops we put in it for each other. Personally we think that if we are attracted to someone we will message them and see if we don't find someone attractive we won't message them so op you need to maybe think about your reasoning behind you being here as it sounds like you have some deeper things you need to deal with before you can continue your journey through the lifestyle " Best reply so far | |||
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"I’ve learnt my lesson not to argue with imbeciles, Ignore the post and if the Forum Mods want to delete this post by all means go ahead. Ignorance is bliss as they say. Happy Fabbing Everyone and look what people do here , you talk about racial preference which is a valid observation in swingers club, but people start comparing it with Gender, Sexual identity, and chicken, lamb etc etc. most of the people here does not even know what un conscious bias is. That is why you have interracial events and BMFC events specially designed to fulfil black men fetish arranged by these swingers club and promoted here. There is no harm in accepting that fetish but don’t funcking justify is with political correctness of preference. There are events organised and published here, by one of the ex porn star couple, stating that it’s only for white couple. So, I start ignoring all this BS around preference in swinging world, as plenty of sex is available outside of this lifestyle. So don’t bother mate. Ignorance is really a bliss, I realised hard way after getting into some dark side of this fantasy world. "Chicken and Lamb gotta be one of my favourites
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"I’ve learnt my lesson not to argue with imbeciles, Ignore the post and if the Forum Mods want to delete this post by all means go ahead. Ignorance is bliss as they say. Happy Fabbing Everyone and look what people do here , you talk about racial preference which is a valid observation in swingers club, but people start comparing it with Gender, Sexual identity, and chicken, lamb etc etc. most of the people here does not even know what un conscious bias is. That is why you have interracial events and BMFC events specially designed to fulfil black men fetish arranged by these swingers club and promoted here. There is no harm in accepting that fetish but don’t funcking justify is with political correctness of preference. There are events organised and published here, by one of the ex porn star couple, stating that it’s only for white couple. So, I start ignoring all this BS around preference in swinging world, as plenty of sex is available outside of this lifestyle. So don’t bother mate. Ignorance is really a bliss, I realised hard way after getting into some dark side of this fantasy world.
Chicken and Lamb gotta be one of my favourites
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"I get what you mean, sometimes the wording and general attitude just reeks of being a bit of a closer racist. However at the same time, a lot of people are here for hook-ups and not friends/relationships, and people DO have preferences with this stuff. I mean how many profiles are only looking for hung men, or curvy/skinny women? The Bi double-standard with men is pretty crazy too, bi women are adored but bi men generally shunned…. If we ban any mentions of race, then the same argument could be made for body shape, weight, hair and beards, height and more. I think the site allowing most things lets you make the choice yourself. Even as a white dude that these couples would ‘accept’ I’ve avoided certain profiles due to their wording/vibe. " I don't think the OP was bemoaning the mention of race, more how the preference is expressed | |||
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"I’ve learnt my lesson not to argue with imbeciles, Ignore the post and if the Forum Mods want to delete this post by all means go ahead. Ignorance is bliss as they say. Happy Fabbing Everyone and look what people do here , you talk about racial preference which is a valid observation in swingers club, but people start comparing it with Gender, Sexual identity, and chicken, lamb etc etc. most of the people here does not even know what un conscious bias is. That is why you have interracial events and BMFC events specially designed to fulfil black men fetish arranged by these swingers club and promoted here. There is no harm in accepting that fetish but don’t funcking justify is with political correctness of preference. There are events organised and published here, by one of the ex porn star couple, stating that it’s only for white couple. So, I start ignoring all this BS around preference in swinging world, as plenty of sex is available outside of this lifestyle. So don’t bother mate. Ignorance is really a bliss, I realised hard way after getting into some dark side of this fantasy world.
Chicken and Lamb gotta be one of my favourites
Sorry to say OP you will continue to be insulted until the end of the thread unless they take down the post down. They shouldn't allow these types of posts because they always end up going the same way. The OP will always be attacked. I hope the rest of your fab experience is better. All the best.
The OP isn't being attacked though. Disagreeing with an opinion isn't attacking someone.
Having a preference isn't being a racist.
Of course, how that preference is expressed could be."Attack is not the only event that triggers such kind of discussions Racial, body type, and language preferences can promote un conscious bias in a few ways: Stereotyping: When we make assumptions about individuals based on their race, body type, or language preference, we are stereotyping them. These stereotypes can lead us to form un conscious biases, where we make assumptions about an individual's abilities or characteristics based on their race, body type, or language preference. Confirmation Bias: Once we have formed a stereotype about an individual, we tend to look for evidence to confirm our beliefs. This can lead to confirmation bias, where we focus on information that confirms our biases and ignore information that contradicts them. Implicit Association: Our brains naturally categorize information, and this can lead to implicit biases, where we associate certain characteristics with particular racial groups, body types, or language preferences. For example, we may un consciously associate athleticism with individuals who are tall and muscular, or intelligence with individuals who speak English as their first language. Overall, these biases can lead to discriminatory behaviors, as individuals may be treated unfairly based on their race, body type, or language preference, even if the person discriminating against them is not aware of their biases. It is important to recognize and challenge these biases to promote a more inclusive and equitable society. | |||
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"I’ve learnt my lesson not to argue with imbeciles, Ignore the post and if the Forum Mods want to delete this post by all means go ahead. Ignorance is bliss as they say. Happy Fabbing Everyone and look what people do here , you talk about racial preference which is a valid observation in swingers club, but people start comparing it with Gender, Sexual identity, and chicken, lamb etc etc. most of the people here does not even know what un conscious bias is. That is why you have interracial events and BMFC events specially designed to fulfil black men fetish arranged by these swingers club and promoted here. There is no harm in accepting that fetish but don’t funcking justify is with political correctness of preference. There are events organised and published here, by one of the ex porn star couple, stating that it’s only for white couple. So, I start ignoring all this BS around preference in swinging world, as plenty of sex is available outside of this lifestyle. So don’t bother mate. Ignorance is really a bliss, I realised hard way after getting into some dark side of this fantasy world.
Chicken and Lamb gotta be one of my favourites
Sorry to say OP you will continue to be insulted until the end of the thread unless they take down the post down. They shouldn't allow these types of posts because they always end up going the same way. The OP will always be attacked. I hope the rest of your fab experience is better. All the best.
The OP isn't being attacked though. Disagreeing with an opinion isn't attacking someone.
Having a preference isn't being a racist.
Of course, how that preference is expressed could be.
Attack is not the only event that triggers such kind of discussions
Racial, body type, and language preferences can promote un conscious bias in a few ways:
Stereotyping: When we make assumptions about individuals based on their race, body type, or language preference, we are stereotyping them. These stereotypes can lead us to form un conscious biases, where we make assumptions about an individual's abilities or characteristics based on their race, body type, or language preference.
Confirmation Bias: Once we have formed a stereotype about an individual, we tend to look for evidence to confirm our beliefs. This can lead to confirmation bias, where we focus on information that confirms our biases and ignore information that contradicts them.
Implicit Association: Our brains naturally categorize information, and this can lead to implicit biases, where we associate certain characteristics with particular racial groups, body types, or language preferences. For example, we may un consciously associate athleticism with individuals who are tall and muscular, or intelligence with individuals who speak English as their first language.
Overall, these biases can lead to discriminatory behaviors, as individuals may be treated unfairly based on their race, body type, or language preference, even if the person discriminating against them is not aware of their biases. It is important to recognize and challenge these biases to promote a more inclusive and equitable society."...it'll never change | |||
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"I’ve learnt my lesson not to argue with imbeciles, Ignore the post and if the Forum Mods want to delete this post by all means go ahead. Ignorance is bliss as they say. Happy Fabbing Everyone and look what people do here , you talk about racial preference which is a valid observation in swingers club, but people start comparing it with Gender, Sexual identity, and chicken, lamb etc etc. most of the people here does not even know what un conscious bias is. That is why you have interracial events and BMFC events specially designed to fulfil black men fetish arranged by these swingers club and promoted here. There is no harm in accepting that fetish but don’t funcking justify is with political correctness of preference. There are events organised and published here, by one of the ex porn star couple, stating that it’s only for white couple. So, I start ignoring all this BS around preference in swinging world, as plenty of sex is available outside of this lifestyle. So don’t bother mate. Ignorance is really a bliss, I realised hard way after getting into some dark side of this fantasy world.
Chicken and Lamb gotta be one of my favourites
Sorry to say OP you will continue to be insulted until the end of the thread unless they take down the post down. They shouldn't allow these types of posts because they always end up going the same way. The OP will always be attacked. I hope the rest of your fab experience is better. All the best.
The OP isn't being attacked though. Disagreeing with an opinion isn't attacking someone.
Having a preference isn't being a racist.
Of course, how that preference is expressed could be.
Attack is not the only event that triggers such kind of discussions
Racial, body type, and language preferences can promote un conscious bias in a few ways:
Stereotyping: When we make assumptions about individuals based on their race, body type, or language preference, we are stereotyping them. These stereotypes can lead us to form un conscious biases, where we make assumptions about an individual's abilities or characteristics based on their race, body type, or language preference.
Confirmation Bias: Once we have formed a stereotype about an individual, we tend to look for evidence to confirm our beliefs. This can lead to confirmation bias, where we focus on information that confirms our biases and ignore information that contradicts them.
Implicit Association: Our brains naturally categorize information, and this can lead to implicit biases, where we associate certain characteristics with particular racial groups, body types, or language preferences. For example, we may un consciously associate athleticism with individuals who are tall and muscular, or intelligence with individuals who speak English as their first language.
Overall, these biases can lead to discriminatory behaviors, as individuals may be treated unfairly based on their race, body type, or language preference, even if the person discriminating against them is not aware of their biases. It is important to recognize and challenge these biases to promote a more inclusive and equitable society."It would only be biases if was any form of interaction and directed people have a choice which is a god given one to be able to choose if another may feel offended by something they see isn't it up to them to educate themselves and understand the purpose of something rather than pointing the finger because they aren't happy and has been done in a none judgemental way as it is their own choice we can't be forced into doing something that is/isn't going to make everyone happy | |||
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"I do agree in this swinging world, there is no point debating about Racial preferences. Racism is very much here in the disguise of “Preferences”. "
I'm relieved I've found my people on the scene, ain't got time for ignorance. | |||
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"I’ve learnt my lesson not to argue with imbeciles, Ignore the post and if the Forum Mods want to delete this post by all means go ahead. Ignorance is bliss as they say. Happy Fabbing Everyone and look what people do here , you talk about racial preference which is a valid observation in swingers club, but people start comparing it with Gender, Sexual identity, and chicken, lamb etc etc. most of the people here does not even know what un conscious bias is. That is why you have interracial events and BMFC events specially designed to fulfil black men fetish arranged by these swingers club and promoted here. There is no harm in accepting that fetish but don’t funcking justify is with political correctness of preference. There are events organised and published here, by one of the ex porn star couple, stating that it’s only for white couple. So, I start ignoring all this BS around preference in swinging world, as plenty of sex is available outside of this lifestyle. So don’t bother mate. Ignorance is really a bliss, I realised hard way after getting into some dark side of this fantasy world.
Chicken and Lamb gotta be one of my favourites
Sorry to say OP you will continue to be insulted until the end of the thread unless they take down the post down. They shouldn't allow these types of posts because they always end up going the same way. The OP will always be attacked. I hope the rest of your fab experience is better. All the best.
The OP isn't being attacked though. Disagreeing with an opinion isn't attacking someone.
Having a preference isn't being a racist.
Of course, how that preference is expressed could be.
Attack is not the only event that triggers such kind of discussions
Racial, body type, and language preferences can promote un conscious bias in a few ways:
Stereotyping: When we make assumptions about individuals based on their race, body type, or language preference, we are stereotyping them. These stereotypes can lead us to form un conscious biases, where we make assumptions about an individual's abilities or characteristics based on their race, body type, or language preference.
Confirmation Bias: Once we have formed a stereotype about an individual, we tend to look for evidence to confirm our beliefs. This can lead to confirmation bias, where we focus on information that confirms our biases and ignore information that contradicts them.
Implicit Association: Our brains naturally categorize information, and this can lead to implicit biases, where we associate certain characteristics with particular racial groups, body types, or language preferences. For example, we may un consciously associate athleticism with individuals who are tall and muscular, or intelligence with individuals who speak English as their first language.
Overall, these biases can lead to discriminatory behaviors, as individuals may be treated unfairly based on their race, body type, or language preference, even if the person discriminating against them is not aware of their biases. It is important to recognize and challenge these biases to promote a more inclusive and equitable society. ...it'll never change"I don't think it will either. | |||
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" I don't think it will either. " We can't stop trying though | |||
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