FabSwingers.com forum: Looking for Female Advice.

By *oodegg OP Man
over a year ago

Devon

I know it's not a normal place to ask for relationship advice but I also know there's lots of females who read these so why not.

Was seeing an amazing woman for 18 months she was quite full on early on but worked really well did so much nice stuff for me was amazing.

In 18 months not a cross word.

We have one disagreement about not seeing each other enough.

She's very busy i was frustrated.

I'd go 50/50 on fault. Both lots on and stressed

Next thing I know she ends it on valentines.

I left didn't call or text ran into her yesterday had a 2 min polite chat.

I text her that night said it was nice to see her.

She was saying she was looking bad wasn't expecting to see me I left it with you looked amazing.

She said thanks.

Left it there what do I do now if I want her back?

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell her?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Send her a message saying you're sorry it ended and you'd like to talk about getting back together. If she says no accept that.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask her why she ended it.

If she doesn't give you a straight answer, chalk it up to experience and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mate you are 37, surely you know enough about relationships that you don’t need to ask for advice on a swinging site?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Basically most relationship advice can be summed up in two words.

'talk'

'leave'

Hopefully option one prevents options two occuring

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By *oodegg OP Man
over a year ago

Devon

Obviously I don't. .Why

Be like that ?

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By *ir-spunk-alotMan
over a year ago

Southern England

Maybe tell her how you feel. If she don't feel the same then build a bridge and get over it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Send her a message saying you're sorry it ended and you'd like to talk about getting back together. If she says no accept that.

Good luck"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell her. If she says no you’ve lost nothing.

You lose 100% of the chances you don’t take.

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Just send a message asking if you could meet up to chat ,see what comes from that.

If you get a no or no reply,leave it & try & move on ,I know easier said than done.good luck.

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By *amnaughtybutniceWoman
over a year ago

tf1

I disagree. If she had changed her mind and wanted to get back together she has your no she would have called you at some point in last month.

Lick your wounds and move on

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Basically most relationship advice can be summed up in two words.

'talk'

'leave'

Hopefully option one prevents options two occuring"

I agree with this, either test her back and explain how you feel or leave it.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell her you miss her and would like to make another go of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mate you are 37, surely you know enough about relationships that you don’t need to ask for advice on a swinging site? "

^^This!! Jesus wept. It’s not rocket science is it?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I disagree. If she had changed her mind and wanted to get back together she has your no she would have called you at some point in last month.

Lick your wounds and move on"

This.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

"Send her a message saying you're sorry it ended and you'd like to talk about getting back together. If she says no accept that.

Good luck

This

I would be honest and straightforward about your intentions and accept it if she has emotionally moved on.

You may never know exactly why, but you need to accept that you might not both want the same things for each other now.

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By *uga40Man
over a year ago

Hemel Hempstead

Just tell her you want her back and if she says no then take it as that and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell her how you feel and ask if she’s open to it

If she’s not then use that information to help you move on for good. It hurts much more to hold on that it does to let go, I promise

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By *haron StonerTV/TS
over a year ago

Haywards Heath

Lokk dude. She doesn't want you back... Ever.

Get over her and don't waste your time.

Break up on valentines? Shows you just how much thought she put in to fucking you over.

Don't be a noodle, stop whining and get back out there.

She couldn't stand the test of time, you were lucky.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Blimey, some of you haven’t been troubled much by the notions of empathy or understanding in your lives, eh?

Some great answers also. I hope you get the answer you need and can move forward, OP.

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

"I disagree. If she had changed her mind and wanted to get back together she has your no she would have called you at some point in last month.

Lick your wounds and move on"

Not necessarily

If both parties are the type to overthink an outcome no one messages

Better for the OP to bite the bullet

Send a message ask maybe about a coffee or drink

That at least gives her an opportunity to express yes no friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry, so you had an argument, she ends it and then you just went radio silent?

If that’s the case, I’d apologise, explain your reasons and see if you can work through it.

Mrs

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray

This is the true meaning of some people just jave no idea how to communicate face to face with each other, I blame technology for some of that, its very easy to sit and type something that can come across the completely wrong. The only way you will be able to make yourself clear is to talk to her face to face, this also gives her the chance to be honest and open with you. Your adults so use what you were given and taught, the art of conversation.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

You said she ended it.

Just accept that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Blimey, some of you haven’t been troubled much by the notions of empathy or understanding in your lives, eh?

Some great answers also. I hope you get the answer you need and can move forward, OP."

Yup, brutal here. Better to ask & risk regretting it than walk away but always wonder. Find out where you stand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree, talk to her

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

If it was such an amazing relationship for 18 months, as you said, it wouldn’t end up after one disagreement. Sometimes we ignore red flags for our own convenience. She has moved on, leave her alone or just try to talk but don’t be pushy. You have nothing to lose anyway.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

You do nothing obviously she doesn't want you back read the signs

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By * F 2018Couple
over a year ago

shropshire

"Ask her why she ended it.

If she doesn't give you a straight answer, chalk it up to experience and move on."

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By * F 2018Couple
over a year ago

shropshire

"Mate you are 37, surely you know enough about relationships that you don’t need to ask for advice on a swinging site? "

Bit harsh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *esparate danMan
over a year ago

glasgow

The disagreement was about not seeing each other enough. It made you frustrated.

Why would things be any different if she did let you back?

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By *ob and DeeWoman
over a year ago

crook

i woudnt even bother.move on.dont waste any more time on her.

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By *narmitageTV/TS
over a year ago

Staines

Well, you did say that you were frustrated about her being too busy. Find someone who is not that busy...

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Join the dots not a crosswords lacks passion too busy lacks passion passion walk away

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By *ewCoupleHXCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Just call her or ask for a coffee and take it from there.

Don't think that this is over, she may feel the same as you but would be thinking that you have moved on.

You don't want to bump into each other ten years later and then find out that you both wanted the same thing ten years ago.

Life is simple, don't complicate it.

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By *inx and NymphCouple
over a year ago

bristol

"I disagree. If she had changed her mind and wanted to get back together she has your no she would have called you at some point in last month.

Lick your wounds and move on"

This…. Also she’s more likely to miss you if you’re not hitting up her phone. So either way , it’s better you make the decision to move on. If there is something there for her, she will let you know.

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