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By *orl1971 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

We had a meet with a single guy just night. Good verifications and very well endowed guy.

Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex. When it comes time to move on the guy just put on a condom and start penetration. He did nothing to warm her up. No oral, no fingers, very little kissing.

Wife was not anywhere near ready for penetration and he had a big penis. So ….. she stopped the session, threw him out the hotel room saying bringing a big penis was not enough! She doesn’t take any shit

Was a first for us. Anyone else had this happen?

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Yes very disappointing

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By *enninemarkMan
over a year ago

huddersfield/manchester

I just don't understand people like that. I love foreplay, and for me, the horniest thing ever is seeing a woman enjoying and getting pleasure from what I'm doing. I love fingering, licking, stroking. At least as mush as fucking if not more!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just don't understand people like that. I love foreplay, and for me, the horniest thing ever is seeing a woman enjoying and getting pleasure from what I'm doing. I love fingering, licking, stroking. At least as mush as fucking if not more!"

Agreed! Plus it helps the evening last longer.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

I'm not surprised at all.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

It sounds like you had a predefined order of play

Maybe be a bit more go with the flow to stop it happening in the future

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By *orl1971 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"It sounds like you had a predefined order of play

Maybe be a bit more go with the flow to stop it happening in the future "

We do go with the flow.

Surely you need to be warmed up enough to take what was a huge penis. It’s 2023 and surely guys should know about foreplay especially if you’re vwe. Have had bigger penises but the guys were much more skilled at getting the lady prepared.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"It sounds like you had a predefined order of play

Maybe be a bit more go with the flow to stop it happening in the future

We do go with the flow.

Surely you need to be warmed up enough to take what was a huge penis. It’s 2023 and surely guys should know about foreplay especially if you’re vwe. Have had bigger penises but the guys were much more skilled at getting the lady prepared.

"

If she got straight to sucking his cock he perhaps thought it was all about him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anal is foreplay right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not surprised at all."

Me neither, how dare he not give this "lovely" couple what they're entitled to.

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"It sounds like you had a predefined order of play

Maybe be a bit more go with the flow to stop it happening in the future

We do go with the flow.

Surely you need to be warmed up enough to take what was a huge penis. It’s 2023 and surely guys should know about foreplay especially if you’re vwe. Have had bigger penises but the guys were much more skilled at getting the lady prepared.

"

100% this. In my experience if a lady has good sex then I have good sex. Luckily I love oral and making sure she is in the mood is always the right way to start.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


"I'm not surprised at all.

Me neither, how dare he not give this "lovely" couple what they're entitled to."

Really? That's your take on it?

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

How confident and self assured of her!

Honestly some men really do think we are just on this planet to service them. Zero effort required on their part.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not surprised at all.

Me neither, how dare he not give this "lovely" couple what they're entitled to."

Wow

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

Sadly, from my experience, men who are above average (or who believe they are above average) tend to rely on their cocks way too much. Fingers? What's that??? Performing oral on the lady? Yuck! Nah, I'll just shove my big (sometimes in my own opinion) knob inside her and see what happens.

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford


"I'm not surprised at all.

Me neither, how dare he not give this "lovely" couple what they're entitled to."

??? I think you got a totally wrong end of the stick here. I wonder how you'd feel if someone tried shoving even just a small knob up your arse without warming you up first??? I know pussy is different to arse, more moist and stretchy, but we still need foreplay. I'd chuck that idiot out, too, if he tried to enter me when I wasn't ready.

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By *urboTongue21Man
over a year ago

Walsall

The guy seems to be totally selfish or self obsessed.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I think I'd need to know both sides of the story and how things were communicated before I publicly slated someone I didn't even know

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By *iss SinWoman
over a year ago

portchester

This a bit mean seeing as he’s on here and could see it

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By *orl1971 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I'm not surprised at all.

Me neither, how dare he not give this "lovely" couple what they're entitled to."

We sensed a bit of sarcasm perhaps there.

There are two questions here

1. Should a man ensure that a woman is warmed up before inserting his penis ?

2. If a man hasn’t warmed up a woman and seems intent on just inserting his penis then does the woman have the right to stop things ?

Is a woman ‘entitled’ to have at least an ‘adaquate’ encounter or should she just grin and bear it whilst the guy, who has been warmed up, has his way with her ?

Seems different people will have different opinions which is fine.

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By *orl1971 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"This a bit mean seeing as he’s on here and could see it "

Pretty sure he is not a forum regular. We didn’t name him and also he was there so it probably felt meaner in person.

Suppose the forums are for sharing experiences so maybe some other guy will read this and up his game and some won’t. He was a nice guy and very apologetic but women need to be more assertive when it’s just not working out. Or maybe we’re just bad people .

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"How confident and self assured of her!

Honestly some men really do think we are just on this planet to service them. Zero effort required on their part. "

I don't think throwing someone out sounds confident or self assured

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"We had a meet with a single guy just night. Good verifications and very well endowed guy.

Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex. When it comes time to move on the guy just put on a condom and start penetration. He did nothing to warm her up. No oral, no fingers, very little kissing.

Wife was not anywhere near ready for penetration and he had a big penis. So ….. she stopped the session, threw him out the hotel room saying bringing a big penis was not enough! She doesn’t take any shit

Was a first for us. Anyone else had this happen?"
has this been discussed before that foreplay would be wanted.. as its not a given. As I don't want any I make it quite clear what I'm after.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We had a meet with a single guy just night. Good verifications and very well endowed guy.

Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex. When it comes time to move on the guy just put on a condom and start penetration. He did nothing to warm her up. No oral, no fingers, very little kissing.

Wife was not anywhere near ready for penetration and he had a big penis. So ….. she stopped the session, threw him out the hotel room saying bringing a big penis was not enough! She doesn’t take any shit

Was a first for us. Anyone else had this happen?"

Did he want oral sex from her or did she just assume he did?

Did she ask him for oral in return or just throw him out with no communication?

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"We had a meet with a single guy just night. Good verifications and very well endowed guy.

Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex. When it comes time to move on the guy just put on a condom and start penetration. He did nothing to warm her up. No oral, no fingers, very little kissing.

Wife was not anywhere near ready for penetration and he had a big penis. So ….. she stopped the session, threw him out the hotel room saying bringing a big penis was not enough! She doesn’t take any shit

Was a first for us. Anyone else had this happen?

Did he want oral sex from her or did she just assume he did?

Did she ask him for oral in return or just throw him out with no communication?

"
this is actually a good point. Did the wife kiss and do foreplay before giving the bj.... as perhaps if not it was assumed that it was a straight to it.

The op could have said to the guy to slow down..... made it clear without throwing him out that it was not time to go for full sex

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By *orl1971 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Sounds like from the last few messages we should arrange who gives what and when. We’ve never had to give these instructions before. The first thing to touch pussy was his cock as he tried to penetrate. It was sore and his solution was just to keep adding lube. It was too sore to continue like that so we ended the session and asked him to leave. Do you really have to ask someone to warm you up before penetrating? Maybe you do.

Next time we meet we’ll be sure to have a written contract outlining exactly what happens and when with the responsibilities on each party. We’ve never had to do that before but seems that we need to spell things out. Our mistake

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds


"Sounds like from the last few messages we should arrange who gives what and when. We’ve never had to give these instructions before. The first thing to touch pussy was his cock as he tried to penetrate. It was sore and his solution was just to keep adding lube. It was too sore to continue like that so we ended the session and asked him to leave. Do you really have to ask someone to warm you up before penetrating? Maybe you do.

Next time we meet we’ll be sure to have a written contract outlining exactly what happens and when with the responsibilities on each party. We’ve never had to do that before but seems that we need to spell things out. Our mistake "

You definitely shouldn't have to discuss foreplay, I'd have kicked them out too!

Mrs

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

If a meet isn't working out, you have every right to end it, regardless of the reasons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We had a meet with a single guy just night. Good verifications and very well endowed guy.

Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex. When it comes time to move on the guy just put on a condom and start penetration. He did nothing to warm her up. No oral, no fingers, very little kissing.

Wife was not anywhere near ready for penetration and he had a big penis. So ….. she stopped the session, threw him out the hotel room saying bringing a big penis was not enough! She doesn’t take any shit

Was a first for us. Anyone else had this happen?"

Wow! I admire and respect you for that! Well done!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it happens all the time to me . I find when chatting to someone about foreplay etc they agree to it but when I meet then nothing happens I don't get touched at all and wen I do get fucked it's all quick then they are out the door. Hence now I don't believe anyone who says it to me now. Saying that I had the best meet when I first joined and he was pretty good on all the foreplay and making sure I was wet enough.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"Sounds like from the last few messages we should arrange who gives what and when. We’ve never had to give these instructions before. The first thing to touch pussy was his cock as he tried to penetrate. It was sore and his solution was just to keep adding lube. It was too sore to continue like that so we ended the session and asked him to leave. Do you really have to ask someone to warm you up before penetrating? Maybe you do.

Next time we meet we’ll be sure to have a written contract outlining exactly what happens and when with the responsibilities on each party. We’ve never had to do that before but seems that we need to spell things out. Our mistake "
a little defensive but we are all here for different things. I personally if I didn't want fucking at that point would have taken control and told him to work for it.

It's not about having it all laid out but foreplay is never a given. And I have seen many couples just want a guy to get straight to it.

To be honest if a guy wanted to keep adding lube I'd not have fucked him either but then I would have already been in the mood sucking his cock but that's just me.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"If a meet isn't working out, you have every right to end it, regardless of the reasons "

I did exactly this, with a couple I met a few years ago. All the wife wanted was for me to just stick my cock in her pussy, fuck her, then leave. There was no foreplay at all, she doesn’t kiss others, and doesn’t suck cock. It just wasn’t working for me, so I thanked them for their time, and left.

It was a lesson for me, so now I ask before meets, about limits and expectations etc

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By *antra MassageMan
over a year ago

South Side.

The art of seduction is lost on some guys.

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By *orl1971 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Sounds like from the last few messages we should arrange who gives what and when. We’ve never had to give these instructions before. The first thing to touch pussy was his cock as he tried to penetrate. It was sore and his solution was just to keep adding lube. It was too sore to continue like that so we ended the session and asked him to leave. Do you really have to ask someone to warm you up before penetrating? Maybe you do.

Next time we meet we’ll be sure to have a written contract outlining exactly what happens and when with the responsibilities on each party. We’ve never had to do that before but seems that we need to spell things out. Our mistake a little defensive but we are all here for different things. I personally if I didn't want fucking at that point would have taken control and told him to work for it.

It's not about having it all laid out but foreplay is never a given. And I have seen many couples just want a guy to get straight to it.

To be honest if a guy wanted to keep adding lube I'd not have fucked him either but then I would have already been in the mood sucking his cock but that's just me. "

We probably just got frustrated. He had not even touched down there to check any level of arousal. When penetration started we expected he should have noticed and paused to perform some sort of warm up. Seemed oblivious to this though so was thinking how much worse this would get. At that point you need to decide if it’s worth going on. It would be easier just to continue but didn’t seem worth it as the mood had gone.

Probably a lesson learned for all involved.

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By *orl1971 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"If a meet isn't working out, you have every right to end it, regardless of the reasons

I did exactly this, with a couple I met a few years ago. All the wife wanted was for me to just stick my cock in her pussy, fuck her, then leave. There was no foreplay at all, she doesn’t kiss others, and doesn’t suck cock. It just wasn’t working for me, so I thanked them for their time, and left.

It was a lesson for me, so now I ask before meets, about limits and expectations etc

"

Yes guys should be able to end a meet too. We’ve never had to ask before as it seems quite clinical. We prefer to explore and try what works and what people like rather than saying “Kiss for 5 mins, I’ll stroke your penis for 2 mins, you’ll take off my clothes , etc” . The good thing about the forums is you learn something new every day .

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West


"We had a meet with a single guy just night. Good verifications and very well endowed guy.

Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex. When it comes time to move on the guy just put on a condom and start penetration. He did nothing to warm her up. No oral, no fingers, very little kissing.

Wife was not anywhere near ready for penetration and he had a big penis. So ….. she stopped the session, threw him out the hotel room saying bringing a big penis was not enough! She doesn’t take any shit

Was a first for us. Anyone else had this happen?"

You ended a meet that wasn’t for you. Nothing wrong with that on any part and good she has the confidence to do so.

No big deal, just not compatible . The chance you take meeting online.

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By *antra MassageMan
over a year ago

South Side.

I have long discussion at the beginning of the meet, before any play starts. Its a friendly chat about my boundaries, and theirs. It clears the air about assumptions, and consent. It leads to a happy meet, and I think, also might reassure an anxious husband that im going to treat his wife with tenderness and respect.

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By *erry bull1Man
over a year ago

doncaster

I always make sure the lady is ready with lots of oral and finger play

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By *dysseusukMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

No excuses as i love the foreplay. Love to go down for hours! Maybe though the guy is a one-time wonder, and was so worked up from the bj, that he thought he was going to shoot his load anyway, so thought he better get it in there to avoid any disappointment! Poor judgement either way!!!

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By *llaandGCouple
over a year ago

London


"Anal is foreplay right? "

Ella and I would say it can be.....

G

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By *imbob2021Man
over a year ago

Sleaford

Tut tut a single guy not performing as required by swinging law, maybe some communication issues? Maybe telling him what you want? Maybe he got the wrong end of the stick? Always 3 sides to a swinging story, your side, his side and the truth....

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull


"It sounds like you had a predefined order of play

Maybe be a bit more go with the flow to stop it happening in the future "

I would say foreplay for both parties is essential and expected. Surely a guy shouldn't just expect to receive oral then sex with no effort on his part.

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By *ebootCouple
over a year ago

Telford


"I'm not surprised at all.

Me neither, how dare he not give this "lovely" couple what they're entitled to.

We sensed a bit of sarcasm perhaps there.

There are two questions here

1. Should a man ensure that a woman is warmed up before inserting his penis ?

2. If a man hasn’t warmed up a woman and seems intent on just inserting his penis then does the woman have the right to stop things ?

Is a woman ‘entitled’ to have at least an ‘adaquate’ encounter or should she just grin and bear it whilst the guy, who has been warmed up, has his way with her ?

Seems different people will have different opinions which is fine. "

2. Anyone has the right to stop anything without any justification whatsoever.

And it’s certainly not about being entitled to anything - what’s important is everyone involved is happy and comfortable, and if any participant isn’t, then they have the right to pull out.

Pardon the pun…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He obviously thought his big dick was enough but to be fair you can see the same type of thing with a lot of people. I have this one good quality so nothing else matters. How many of us have spoken to a really attractive person only to learn the chat is dry as hell or thay hilarious person who for some reason doesn't shower enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sounds like from the last few messages we should arrange who gives what and when. We’ve never had to give these instructions before. The first thing to touch pussy was his cock as he tried to penetrate. It was sore and his solution was just to keep adding lube. It was too sore to continue like that so we ended the session and asked him to leave. Do you really have to ask someone to warm you up before penetrating? Maybe you do.

Next time we meet we’ll be sure to have a written contract outlining exactly what happens and when with the responsibilities on each party. We’ve never had to do that before but seems that we need to spell things out. Our mistake

a little defensive but we are all here for different things. I personally if I didn't want fucking at that point would have taken control and told him to work for it.

It's not about having it all laid out but foreplay is never a given. And I have seen many couples just want a guy to get straight to it.

To be honest if a guy wanted to keep adding lube I'd not have fucked him either but then I would have already been in the mood sucking his cock but that's just me.

We probably just got frustrated. He had not even touched down there to check any level of arousal. When penetration started we expected he should have noticed and paused to perform some sort of warm up. Seemed oblivious to this though so was thinking how much worse this would get. At that point you need to decide if it’s worth going on. It would be easier just to continue but didn’t seem worth it as the mood had gone.

Probably a lesson learned for all involved. "

Did you communicate with him at all? You sound quite childish if your response is to have a written contract before you start. Sex is for adults.

Why should he 'notice' anything? Is the woman unable to speak?

Some women would be turned on after 15 minutes of sucking cock and just want to be fucked.

Hopefully he doesn't let this experience put him off meeting couples. Some couples communicate and don't treat men like just a cock.

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By *orl1971 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Sounds like from the last few messages we should arrange who gives what and when. We’ve never had to give these instructions before. The first thing to touch pussy was his cock as he tried to penetrate. It was sore and his solution was just to keep adding lube. It was too sore to continue like that so we ended the session and asked him to leave. Do you really have to ask someone to warm you up before penetrating? Maybe you do.

Next time we meet we’ll be sure to have a written contract outlining exactly what happens and when with the responsibilities on each party. We’ve never had to do that before but seems that we need to spell things out. Our mistake

a little defensive but we are all here for different things. I personally if I didn't want fucking at that point would have taken control and told him to work for it.

It's not about having it all laid out but foreplay is never a given. And I have seen many couples just want a guy to get straight to it.

To be honest if a guy wanted to keep adding lube I'd not have fucked him either but then I would have already been in the mood sucking his cock but that's just me.

We probably just got frustrated. He had not even touched down there to check any level of arousal. When penetration started we expected he should have noticed and paused to perform some sort of warm up. Seemed oblivious to this though so was thinking how much worse this would get. At that point you need to decide if it’s worth going on. It would be easier just to continue but didn’t seem worth it as the mood had gone.

Probably a lesson learned for all involved.

Did you communicate with him at all? You sound quite childish if your response is to have a written contract before you start. Sex is for adults.

Why should he 'notice' anything? Is the woman unable to speak?

Some women would be turned on after 15 minutes of sucking cock and just want to be fucked.

Hopefully he doesn't let this experience put him off meeting couples. Some couples communicate and don't treat men like just a cock. "

Our response about a contract was a joke. We won’t really be getting anyone to sign a contract

We did have a social before and communicated what we’d doing on the night. However this did not go down to the ‘please give some foreplay’ discussion. We didn’t think we needed to and have never needed to in the past ten years of meets. We live and learn.

The guy will be fine. He’s a good looking, nice, confident guy with a special asset and lots of meets under his belt. This is just a blip for him and maybe it was an off night for him.

Obviously we’ve divided opinion like often happens in Fab but don’t think anyone should have to ask for foreplay. You might stop foreplay and say ‘fuck me now’ but our default position would be kissing, foreplay both ways then penetration unless someone tells us otherwise. Even if it’s a hot quickie you want to check the woman is warmed up. Maybe we’re old fashioned though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like another classic case of all the gear no idea, and just goes to show verifications don't always tell the truth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's the fuss all about a woman is there to be shagged end of.

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By *iss SinWoman
over a year ago

portchester


"What's the fuss all about a woman is there to be shagged end of."

I know you are just on a wind up

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By *.DerriereWoman
over a year ago

London

This is why I wish the system wasn't 'verifications' only, but also had a little button to tick for positive/negative/neutral.

So instead of showing 15 verifications in the summary, it says 1 negative, 5 neutral, 10 positive.

Having said that..this sounds like no discussion took place beforehand at all, which is something that I would never go into.

And of course anybody can call time, no questions asked, no discussion, immediate stop, end, at any point.

... You ensure that this has been discussed and clarified beforehand as well right ..?

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By *nonymous95-2Woman
over a year ago

Northwich

I think you have every right to stop a meet. Anyone does.

I have found a lot of meets to be similar and I get why she stopped. If not warmed up, it will really hurt so I agree with what she did. It's suppose to be mutual please.

However, it could also be a case of a misunderstanding and think maybe a quick question from both sides could ask the question.

I do get it, I would have done the same.

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
over a year ago

South West London

I love foreplay, the kissing, sucking on tits, fingering etc

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By *SCouple81Couple
over a year ago

Between Edinburgh and Scottish Borders

There are always 2 sides to every story. However communication is the key and maybe more things should be discussed before.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just sounds like a bit of trial and error - communication.

If I saw a guy getting a condom and getting lube I would say I wasn’t ready … as that’s kind of a sign things are about to move on … but anyone can stop at any time for any reason

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


"We had a meet with a single guy just night. Good verifications and very well endowed guy.

Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex. When it comes time to move on the guy just put on a condom and start penetration. He did nothing to warm her up. No oral, no fingers, very little kissing.

Wife was not anywhere near ready for penetration and he had a big penis. So ….. she stopped the session, threw him out the hotel room saying bringing a big penis was not enough! She doesn’t take any shit

Was a first for us. Anyone else had this happen?

Did he want oral sex from her or did she just assume he did?

Did she ask him for oral in return or just throw him out with no communication?

this is actually a good point. Did the wife kiss and do foreplay before giving the bj.... as perhaps if not it was assumed that it was a straight to it.

The op could have said to the guy to slow down..... made it clear without throwing him out that it was not time to go for full sex "
. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to work out if a woman is ready for penetration or not.

If anything I would say it should be the other way round, if the woman wants you to slam it in dry they should communicate that beforehand.

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By *1876Man
over a year ago

Dudley


"We had a meet with a single guy just night. Good verifications and very well endowed guy.

Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex. When it comes time to move on the guy just put on a condom and start penetration. He did nothing to warm her up. No oral, no fingers, very little kissing.

Wife was not anywhere near ready for penetration and he had a big penis. So ….. she stopped the session, threw him out the hotel room saying bringing a big penis was not enough! She doesn’t take any shit

Was a first for us. Anyone else had this happen?

Did he want oral sex from her or did she just assume he did?

Did she ask him for oral in return or just throw him out with no communication?

this is actually a good point. Did the wife kiss and do foreplay before giving the bj.... as perhaps if not it was assumed that it was a straight to it.

The op could have said to the guy to slow down..... made it clear without throwing him out that it was not time to go for full sex . It doesn't take a rocket scientist to work out if a woman is ready for penetration or not.

If anything I would say it should be the other way round, if the woman wants you to slam it in dry they should communicate that beforehand."

Unfortunately, there are some very selfish guys (and gals) out there.

For some of us, mutual foreplay and pleasure are the whole point...leading up to whatever progresses naturally

Equally as unfortunate is the fact that we never know what someone on a meet is going to be like until it comes to "the crunch".

They'll give it all the usual BS on here, but then prove their true nature once in the bedroom.

Having a huge cock is nothing if the guy doesn't have consideration, respect or an ounce of decency.

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By *I TwoCouple
over a year ago

PDI 12-26th Nov 24

Unfortunately single guys are sometimes single for a reasonb!

Still, at least he showed up and managed to get an erection, most don't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everybody has the right to end a meet at any point, for any reason

I'm think, in this situation, Mrs A wouldn't have ended it, she would have suggested something else first.

Like, how about you eat me first, be sure I'm ready for you.

As an example.

It's easy to misread a situation, easy to run away with yourself, with nerves and excitement playing their part.

Communication is key.

We would also likely to have discussed previous to meeting, what we are seeking and what they seek.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not surprised at all.

Me neither, how dare he not give this "lovely" couple what they're entitled to.

??? I think you got a totally wrong end of the stick here. I wonder how you'd feel if someone tried shoving even just a small knob up your arse without warming you up first??? I know pussy is different to arse, more moist and stretchy, but we still need foreplay. I'd chuck that idiot out, too, if he tried to enter me when I wasn't ready. "

How is that ever going to happen, I'm not gay

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By *arry monk40Man
over a year ago

Telford

What a waste I love to eat pussy for hours then a long snog

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By *ess n BenCouple
over a year ago

Didcot


"It sounds like you had a predefined order of play

Maybe be a bit more go with the flow to stop it happening in the future

We do go with the flow.

Surely you need to be warmed up enough to take what was a huge penis. It’s 2023 and surely guys should know about foreplay especially if you’re vwe. Have had bigger penises but the guys were much more skilled at getting the lady prepared.

"

100% this, Jess would have done exactly the same thing

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By *otSoPetiteMortWoman
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

Yep. I think a lot of Men think we get wet just from giving them head and don't bother trying to warm us up.

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By *1876Man
over a year ago

Dudley


"Yep. I think a lot of Men think we get wet just from giving them head and don't bother trying to warm us up. "

Those guys are merely selfish or ignorant of other people's feelings or needs

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By *awpleasureMan
over a year ago

Sutton Coldfield

Unless stated beforehand in messages that the lady only wants to suck then bend over for cock, then it should be assumed that pleasure is mutual and the man should engage in foreplay.

If the lady got straight to her knees when he first arrived, he may have thought all she wants is my cock but what he should have said when the sucking stopped is, do you want this deep inside you now? The lady could have replied, not yet I want your tongue first.

Perhaps the lack of communication from both sides was what was wrong. Would need to hear his side of the story to get the full picture. here

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By *elpful and caringMan
over a year ago

Scarborough

I was very fortunate to have a wonderful, erotic and highly pleasurable meet recently with a beautiful women in her 40’s.

She commented about how I attentive to her needs and then said you are a much better lover than young men who watch too much porn and just want sex.

I appreciate it is only anecdotal but I thought I would share anyway.

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I had a similar experience then he asked why I didn’t want to meet again! Some guys just don’t get it.

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By *osey WalesMan
over a year ago

Surrey

As far as I am concerned, that is very selfish sex.

Couldnt imagine ever doing that. All this fuck and go stuff isnt for me either though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We had a meet with a single guy just night. Good verifications and very well endowed guy.

Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex. When it comes time to move on the guy just put on a condom and start penetration. He did nothing to warm her up. No oral, no fingers, very little kissing.

Wife was not anywhere near ready for penetration and he had a big penis. So ….. she stopped the session, threw him out the hotel room saying bringing a big penis was not enough! She doesn’t take any shit

Was a first for us. Anyone else had this happen?"

A single guy? That will be why

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We had a meet with a single guy just night. Good verifications and very well endowed guy.

Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex. When it comes time to move on the guy just put on a condom and start penetration. He did nothing to warm her up. No oral, no fingers, very little kissing.

Wife was not anywhere near ready for penetration and he had a big penis. So ….. she stopped the session, threw him out the hotel room saying bringing a big penis was not enough! She doesn’t take any shit

Was a first for us. Anyone else had this happen?"

How did he react to that?

KJ

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unless stated beforehand in messages that the lady only wants to suck then bend over for cock, then it should be assumed that pleasure is mutual and the man should engage in foreplay.

If the lady got straight to her knees when he first arrived, he may have thought all she wants is my cock but what he should have said when the sucking stopped is, do you want this deep inside you now? The lady could have replied, not yet I want your tongue first.

Perhaps the lack of communication from both sides was what was wrong. Would need to hear his side of the story to get the full picture. here "

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By *edVelveteenCouple
over a year ago

Heaven in the Midlands

It all comes down to the prepping. Did you discuss previously with him how you expected/wanted the evening to progress? I'm

a "wham bam, thank you man" kinda girl so that would suit me and then I can choose second meetings depending on what mood I'm in and what they offer.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

When he started to put on the condom couldnt you or your wife have pointed out that she would like some foreplay ?

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By *unbipleasure84Man
over a year ago

around you

Mmm shame I love to make a woman wet and lick her pussy badly make her have orgasm not 1 2 or 3 before I go forward doing something else just love to lick and give orgasm my pleasure xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very disappointing, a meet should be mutual enjoyment for all parties. I went meet sometime unless they are well to give and receive lots of foreplay. I'm in no rush to get to penatration.. I'd have done exactly the same, and good on you. A big cock realistically means we need ever more foreplay. Mxx

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By *oulkissMan
over a year ago

Croydon


"A single guy? That will be why "

Hey, don't tar us all with that brush.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I find that you have to guide and communicate differently with some partners, compared to others. It's not rocket science that you're teaching but we are each different and our expectations and needs on any given day, will vary.

And there's the old adage about some people expecting a free alternative to a sex worker here.

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By *ourotherMan
over a year ago

Hereford

Better communication needed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We had a meet with a single guy just night. Good verifications and very well endowed guy.

Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex. When it comes time to move on the guy just put on a condom and start penetration. He did nothing to warm her up. No oral, no fingers, very little kissing.

Wife was not anywhere near ready for penetration and he had a big penis. So ….. she stopped the session, threw him out the hotel room saying bringing a big penis was not enough! She doesn’t take any shit

Was a first for us. Anyone else had this happen?"

Yes we've had the same, almost identical situation as you guys, obviously idiots like him are just meeting couples or single females as a matter of course, almost routine and regimental, no thought for the lady at all as was the case with you guys, it's just something to kill a couple of hours for him one evening if he's got nothing to do?

The hotel room door has been opened by us to kick dickheads like him out too, you did the right thing, and hopefully your next meet will be much more successful?

And they wonder why single guys get slated all the time, when idiots like him ruin it for the decent ones?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just pre-empt it and get yourself going. Think of it like a dildo but made of flesh. Nothing him off and having two cocks just for yourself didn't turn you on at all? Really?

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By *iberatedduoCouple
over a year ago

Ashbourne


"It sounds like you had a predefined order of play

Maybe be a bit more go with the flow to stop it happening in the future

We do go with the flow.

Surely you need to be warmed up enough to take what was a huge penis. It’s 2023 and surely guys should know about foreplay especially if you’re vwe. Have had bigger penises but the guys were much more skilled at getting the lady prepared.

Have you ever thought of using some lube.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The key is communication. Assumptions don't make for good sex in my experience. Assuming all women need "warming up" is another assumption. Everyone is different it's a compatibility issue. Guys not a mind reader

I hate foreplay , seriously it bores me not everyone is the same. If you are meeting for sex talking about foreplay is a good idea

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By *iberatedduoCouple
over a year ago

Ashbourne


"The key is communication. Assumptions don't make for good sex in my experience. Assuming all women need "warming up" is another assumption. Everyone is different it's a compatibility issue. Guys not a mind reader

I hate foreplay , seriously it bores me not everyone is the same. If you are meeting for sex talking about foreplay is a good idea "

You’re right it does get tedious after a while

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By *orl1971 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"We had a meet with a single guy just night. Good verifications and very well endowed guy.

Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex. When it comes time to move on the guy just put on a condom and start penetration. He did nothing to warm her up. No oral, no fingers, very little kissing.

Wife was not anywhere near ready for penetration and he had a big penis. So ….. she stopped the session, threw him out the hotel room saying bringing a big penis was not enough! She doesn’t take any shit

Was a first for us. Anyone else had this happen?

How did he react to that?

KJ"

He said it was a first for him in terms of being stopped. He did take it ok though. He was not a bad person.

Reflecting on it from a few days out it was perhaps that the guy just came across as selfish and unwilling or too lazy to do anything which did not involve his pleasure. Think that provoked a response of “if you can’t be bothered giving pleasure then it’s going to be a bad night so let’s end it”.

We’ve never met a guy who has never given foreplay in response to receiving it. Lesson learned for both sides though. We’ll probably not meet single guys again because we doubt that would happen with the male from a couple, you’d hope, so we’ll stick to couples in future to avoid these sort of situations happening .

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By *ilkyslut4uWoman
over a year ago

.

I’ve met loads of guys who are big and think that is enough. NO IT SO ISN'T!!!

So you are completely right to throw him out. I generally don’t meet vwe now because of it.

Also most vwe guys are really cocky (no pun intended) and arrogant.

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By *heSchwingersCouple
over a year ago

Essex

He was probably sh*tting himself. Im always a proponent of asking for what you want and setting the scene for people before they even get there. x

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By *rDxxMan
over a year ago

Blackpool

Wtfffff ,foreplay most important part , big disappointment, I get more excited pleasuring the woman orally than receiving oral tbh

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By *mooth8Man
over a year ago

s hertfordshire

call me old fashioned, but its never been about sticking it straight in for me. i am a little uncomfortable when a lady just dives straight in for the bj, i like touching and caressing before getting to the other bits.

i totally respect the no kissing rule some people have although i find that a big part of foreplay. for me it works both ways, neither party is there to be "used"

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By *empusMan
over a year ago

Poole

Fair play, don’t blame you for chucking him out.

What an idiot though, just looked at your pics and you look absolutely stunning, you have a very sexy and tempting body.

I would happily spend hours warming you up xxx

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By *hantelle-La-SlutTV/TS
over a year ago

South Birmingham

Sounds like a selfish prick to me, all he wanted was his pleasure and nothing else, you were right to chuck him out.

One of the reason i refuse to meet men who only want a BJ they get all of the pleasure and give nothing back.

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over a year ago

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By *ovetoedgeMan
over a year ago

Dunstable

I can never get enough foreplay, can't beat going down on a nice soft pushy and hearing the lady enjoy it, till she's had enough and is ready for the full sex.

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By *REEPALESTINEMan
over a year ago

derby

This thread has been a funny read tbf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not surprised at all.

Me neither, how dare he not give this "lovely" couple what they're entitled to.

We sensed a bit of sarcasm perhaps there.

There are two questions here

1. Should a man ensure that a woman is warmed up before inserting his penis ?

2. If a man hasn’t warmed up a woman and seems intent on just inserting his penis then does the woman have the right to stop things ?

Is a woman ‘entitled’ to have at least an ‘adaquate’ encounter or should she just grin and bear it whilst the guy, who has been warmed up, has his way with her ?

Seems different people will have different opinions which is fine. "

Only made worse when they don't talk or ask permission

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By *1876Man
over a year ago

Dudley


"I can never get enough foreplay, can't beat going down on a nice soft pushy and hearing the lady enjoy it, till she's had enough and is ready for the full sex. "

I'd rather neither side was pushy

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By *heFabtasticsCouple
over a year ago

brentwood

Did he utter the immortal words…….brace yourself I’m coming in dry?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good on you honey I don’t blame you… sounds like he was only their for himself , it’s downright rude and utterly selfish ,

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By *orl1971 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"call me old fashioned, but its never been about sticking it straight in for me. i am a little uncomfortable when a lady just dives straight in for the bj, i like touching and caressing before getting to the other bits.

i totally respect the no kissing rule some people have although i find that a big part of foreplay. for me it works both ways, neither party is there to be "used"

"

Maybe we have been giving the wrong impression.

There was a bit of kissing, but not a lot, and touching, but he didn’t touch. Then he laid back in a ‘check out this big boy’ fashion and prompting oral sex. It just came across as all about him. The most effort he put in was putting on the condom. Just felt strange and lazy or at least inexperienced by him but he did have a few veris from meets so should have some experience. A first for us. In Fab you’re always learning though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need to discuss all expectations and limits before a meet

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By *awpleasureMan
over a year ago

Sutton Coldfield


"We had a meet with a single guy just night. Good verifications and very well endowed guy.

Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex. When it comes time to move on the guy just put on a condom and start penetration. He did nothing to warm her up. No oral, no fingers, very little kissing.

Wife was not anywhere near ready for penetration and he had a big penis. So ….. she stopped the session, threw him out the hotel room saying bringing a big penis was not enough! She doesn’t take any shit

Was a first for us. Anyone else had this happen?

How did he react to that?

KJ

He said it was a first for him in terms of being stopped. He did take it ok though. He was not a bad person.

Reflecting on it from a few days out it was perhaps that the guy just came across as selfish and unwilling or too lazy to do anything which did not involve his pleasure. Think that provoked a response of “if you can’t be bothered giving pleasure then it’s going to be a bad night so let’s end it”.

We’ve never met a guy who has never given foreplay in response to receiving it. Lesson learned for both sides though. We’ll probably not meet single guys again because we doubt that would happen with the male from a couple, you’d hope, so we’ll stick to couples in future to avoid these sort of situations happening .

"

One bad experience with this guy has put you off all single men in the future?

What happens when you get a bad experience from a couple?

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By *londebiguyMan
over a year ago

Southport


"We had a meet with a single guy just night. Good verifications and very well endowed guy.

Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex. When it comes time to move on the guy just put on a condom and start penetration. He did nothing to warm her up. No oral, no fingers, very little kissing.

Wife was not anywhere near ready for penetration and he had a big penis. So ….. she stopped the session, threw him out the hotel room saying bringing a big penis was not enough! She doesn’t take any shit

Was a first for us. Anyone else had this happen?"

He had no idea at all.

Forplay and sensuality is absolutely the best part.

Selfish springs to mind.

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By *ovetoedgeMan
over a year ago

Dunstable


"I can never get enough foreplay, can't beat going down on a nice soft pushy and hearing the lady enjoy it, till she's had enough and is ready for the full sex.

I'd rather neither side was pushy "

Lol, predictive text again. Non pushy pussy is best!

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester


"If a meet isn't working out, you have every right to end it, regardless of the reasons "

Bang on . I have upped and left meets before over dumb behaviour / treatment

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By *orl1971 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"We had a meet with a single guy just night. Good verifications and very well endowed guy.

Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex. When it comes time to move on the guy just put on a condom and start penetration. He did nothing to warm her up. No oral, no fingers, very little kissing.

Wife was not anywhere near ready for penetration and he had a big penis. So ….. she stopped the session, threw him out the hotel room saying bringing a big penis was not enough! She doesn’t take any shit

Was a first for us. Anyone else had this happen?

How did he react to that?

KJ

He said it was a first for him in terms of being stopped. He did take it ok though. He was not a bad person.

Reflecting on it from a few days out it was perhaps that the guy just came across as selfish and unwilling or too lazy to do anything which did not involve his pleasure. Think that provoked a response of “if you can’t be bothered giving pleasure then it’s going to be a bad night so let’s end it”.

We’ve never met a guy who has never given foreplay in response to receiving it. Lesson learned for both sides though. We’ll probably not meet single guys again because we doubt that would happen with the male from a couple, you’d hope, so we’ll stick to couples in future to avoid these sort of situations happening .

One bad experience with this guy has put you off all single men in the future?

What happens when you get a bad experience from a couple?

"

It’s not our first bad experience with a single guy

One guy could hardly stand as he was so d*unk

Another, who we trusted, attempted to force the taking of popp$rs during a solo meet.

Add this one meet and we decided maybe couples are more our thing. Or at least we’ll give up single guys for a while.

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath


"call me old fashioned, but its never been about sticking it straight in for me. i am a little uncomfortable when a lady just dives straight in for the bj, i like touching and caressing before getting to the other bits.

i totally respect the no kissing rule some people have although i find that a big part of foreplay. for me it works both ways, neither party is there to be "used"

Maybe we have been giving the wrong impression.

There was a bit of kissing, but not a lot, and touching, but he didn’t touch. Then he laid back in a ‘check out this big boy’ fashion and prompting oral sex. It just came across as all about him. The most effort he put in was putting on the condom. Just felt strange and lazy or at least inexperienced by him but he did have a few veris from meets so should have some experience. A first for us. In Fab you’re always learning though "

Ah Yeah. Single guys often have forgotten how to have good sex. So far I've never had to give an instructional to a man in a couple.

I got to clubs enough to know that Single guys are like some sort of wild animal that has to be tamed and reined in and it doesn't matter how old they are. I'm telling guys in their 40s and 50s to slow down even rubbing my clit.

I don't know if they are just used to jerking off frantically and feverishly that they do the same thing to women's body parts. Good thing I'm assertive when it comes to my genitals.

Mate my clitoris does not need to be rubbed out like an eraser. lol!

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath


"We had a meet with a single guy just night. Good verifications and very well endowed guy.

Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex. When it comes time to move on the guy just put on a condom and start penetration. He did nothing to warm her up. No oral, no fingers, very little kissing.

Wife was not anywhere near ready for penetration and he had a big penis. So ….. she stopped the session, threw him out the hotel room saying bringing a big penis was not enough! She doesn’t take any shit

Was a first for us. Anyone else had this happen?

How did he react to that?

KJ

He said it was a first for him in terms of being stopped. He did take it ok though. He was not a bad person.

Reflecting on it from a few days out it was perhaps that the guy just came across as selfish and unwilling or too lazy to do anything which did not involve his pleasure. Think that provoked a response of “if you can’t be bothered giving pleasure then it’s going to be a bad night so let’s end it”.

We’ve never met a guy who has never given foreplay in response to receiving it. Lesson learned for both sides though. We’ll probably not meet single guys again because we doubt that would happen with the male from a couple, you’d hope, so we’ll stick to couples in future to avoid these sort of situations happening .

One bad experience with this guy has put you off all single men in the future?

What happens when you get a bad experience from a couple?

It’s not our first bad experience with a single guy

One guy could hardly stand as he was so d*unk

Another, who we trusted, attempted to force the taking of popp$rs during a solo meet.

Add this one meet and we decided maybe couples are more our thing. Or at least we’ll give up single guys for a while.

"

hugs. see my procedure for mostly single guys. Their nerves do get the better of them. I try to be patient because I need patience as well.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"We had a meet with a single guy just night. Good verifications and very well endowed guy.

Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex. When it comes time to move on the guy just put on a condom and start penetration. He did nothing to warm her up. No oral, no fingers, very little kissing.

Wife was not anywhere near ready for penetration and he had a big penis. So ….. she stopped the session, threw him out the hotel room saying bringing a big penis was not enough! She doesn’t take any shit

Was a first for us. Anyone else had this happen?

How did he react to that?

KJ

He said it was a first for him in terms of being stopped. He did take it ok though. He was not a bad person.

Reflecting on it from a few days out it was perhaps that the guy just came across as selfish and unwilling or too lazy to do anything which did not involve his pleasure. Think that provoked a response of “if you can’t be bothered giving pleasure then it’s going to be a bad night so let’s end it”.

We’ve never met a guy who has never given foreplay in response to receiving it. Lesson learned for both sides though. We’ll probably not meet single guys again because we doubt that would happen with the male from a couple, you’d hope, so we’ll stick to couples in future to avoid these sort of situations happening .

One bad experience with this guy has put you off all single men in the future?

What happens when you get a bad experience from a couple?

It’s not our first bad experience with a single guy

One guy could hardly stand as he was so d*unk

Another, who we trusted, attempted to force the taking of popp$rs during a solo meet.

Add this one meet and we decided maybe couples are more our thing. Or at least we’ll give up single guys for a while.

"

What makes you confident in being able to avoid all this with a guy from a couple?

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By *orl1971 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"We had a meet with a single guy just night. Good verifications and very well endowed guy.

Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex. When it comes time to move on the guy just put on a condom and start penetration. He did nothing to warm her up. No oral, no fingers, very little kissing.

Wife was not anywhere near ready for penetration and he had a big penis. So ….. she stopped the session, threw him out the hotel room saying bringing a big penis was not enough! She doesn’t take any shit

Was a first for us. Anyone else had this happen?

How did he react to that?

KJ

He said it was a first for him in terms of being stopped. He did take it ok though. He was not a bad person.

Reflecting on it from a few days out it was perhaps that the guy just came across as selfish and unwilling or too lazy to do anything which did not involve his pleasure. Think that provoked a response of “if you can’t be bothered giving pleasure then it’s going to be a bad night so let’s end it”.

We’ve never met a guy who has never given foreplay in response to receiving it. Lesson learned for both sides though. We’ll probably not meet single guys again because we doubt that would happen with the male from a couple, you’d hope, so we’ll stick to couples in future to avoid these sort of situations happening .

One bad experience with this guy has put you off all single men in the future?

What happens when you get a bad experience from a couple?

It’s not our first bad experience with a single guy

One guy could hardly stand as he was so d*unk

Another, who we trusted, attempted to force the taking of popp$rs during a solo meet.

Add this one meet and we decided maybe couples are more our thing. Or at least we’ll give up single guys for a while.

What makes you confident in being able to avoid all this with a guy from a couple?"

We’re definitely not sure we would but we’ve had much less issues with couples.

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By *1876Man
over a year ago

Dudley


"I can never get enough foreplay, can't beat going down on a nice soft pushy and hearing the lady enjoy it, till she's had enough and is ready for the full sex.

I'd rather neither side was pushy

Lol, predictive text again. Non pushy pussy is best!"

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By *awpleasureMan
over a year ago

Sutton Coldfield


"We had a meet with a single guy just night. Good verifications and very well endowed guy.

Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex. When it comes time to move on the guy just put on a condom and start penetration. He did nothing to warm her up. No oral, no fingers, very little kissing.

Wife was not anywhere near ready for penetration and he had a big penis. So ….. she stopped the session, threw him out the hotel room saying bringing a big penis was not enough! She doesn’t take any shit

Was a first for us. Anyone else had this happen?

How did he react to that?

KJ

He said it was a first for him in terms of being stopped. He did take it ok though. He was not a bad person.

Reflecting on it from a few days out it was perhaps that the guy just came across as selfish and unwilling or too lazy to do anything which did not involve his pleasure. Think that provoked a response of “if you can’t be bothered giving pleasure then it’s going to be a bad night so let’s end it”.

We’ve never met a guy who has never given foreplay in response to receiving it. Lesson learned for both sides though. We’ll probably not meet single guys again because we doubt that would happen with the male from a couple, you’d hope, so we’ll stick to couples in future to avoid these sort of situations happening .

One bad experience with this guy has put you off all single men in the future?

What happens when you get a bad experience from a couple?

It’s not our first bad experience with a single guy

One guy could hardly stand as he was so d*unk

Another, who we trusted, attempted to force the taking of popp$rs during a solo meet.

Add this one meet and we decided maybe couples are more our thing. Or at least we’ll give up single guys for a while.

"

Most of us on here will have a few bad experiences and yes at the same time you say never again but if communication is good and parameters are set from the off these should separate the wheat from the chaff.

Always be the odd one. Great meets are not guaranteed. Get back on the horse at first opportunity. Don't hang up your saddle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like it if a bloke fucks me before foreplay, I am already excited and wet from getting ready in my stockings...

If you are calling a single guy to come and give you what you want OP, then tell him beforehand what your requirements are. Don't come on the forum and start a thread about him that he could see. You sucked his cock, got him excited, then threw him out when he didn't perform the way you expected him to.

Try more communication before you meet up with men in the future ..Fab single men are not here to provide a service to you and they are not mind readers either.

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By *queakyclean69erCouple
over a year ago

Torquay / Fleet


"We had a meet with a single guy just night. Good verifications and very well endowed guy.

Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex. When it comes time to move on the guy just put on a condom and start penetration. He did nothing to warm her up. No oral, no fingers, very little kissing.

Wife was not anywhere near ready for penetration and he had a big penis. So ….. she stopped the session, threw him out the hotel room saying bringing a big penis was not enough! She doesn’t take any shit

Was a first for us. Anyone else had this happen?"

We’ve found a percentage of guys with big C##ks tend to have big egos as well

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By *illybob12Man
over a year ago

Sunderland

I’d lick her clout for hours

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By *94meeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"Anal is foreplay right? "

Haha...if she insists!

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"

Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex. "

I'm impressed he managed not to cum after 15 minutes of awesome oral

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By *rlandoMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire


"We had a meet with a single guy just night. Good verifications and very well endowed guy.

Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex. When it comes time to move on the guy just put on a condom and start penetration. He did nothing to warm her up. No oral, no fingers, very little kissing.

Wife was not anywhere near ready for penetration and he had a big penis. So ….. she stopped the session, threw him out the hotel room saying bringing a big penis was not enough! She doesn’t take any shit

Was a first for us. Anyone else had this happen?"

This whole thing sounds vague ?? Did anyone ever speak to each other?

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By *anted by NightMan
over a year ago

Shangri-La


"I like it if a bloke fucks me before foreplay, I am already excited and wet from getting ready in my stockings...

If you are calling a single guy to come and give you what you want OP, then tell him beforehand what your requirements are. Don't come on the forum and start a thread about him that he could see. You sucked his cock, got him excited, then threw him out when he didn't perform the way you expected him to.

Try more communication before you meet up with men in the future ..Fab single men are not here to provide a service to you and they are not mind readers either.

"

This

There are always two sides to the story. Some women don’t like to give oral, Does that mean we men are entitled to get one on every meet or go public that we didn’t get one?

How hard is it to discuss and agree beforehand and respect other people’s boundaries

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By *omDateMan
over a year ago

Newton Abbot


"

There are two questions here

1. Should a man ensure that a woman is warmed up before inserting his penis ?

"

It depends on the situation, however.. I find that blowing on the coals makes the fire far hotter and, pleasure given is usually received back with interest.


"

2. If a man hasn’t warmed up a woman and seems intent on just inserting his penis then does the woman have the right to stop things ?

"

Again, depends on the situation. There are times where a raw, 'grab her and fuck her' is more than enough to open the floodgates.. in this case though it seems like the bloke with the big dick turned out to be.. a big dick.

That doesn't alter the root question though. 'should the woman have the right to stop it if she is not happy'... answer there is the same as 'does the bloke have the right to stop it if he isn't happy' which is a yes on both counts.. a happy and consenting partner is the sexiest and biggest turn on going.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s a learning curve. My wife and I played for 15 years. The good, the bad and the ugly all happened. You gotta break eggs to make an omelette. Kiss a few frogs to… you get the idea. Essentially you didn’t like his style and I’m pretty sure he didn’t like your’s either. Move on and be more explicit next time and focus on the intellect rather than the big cock? Just a thought? Although from personal experience if you want your type with the big cock… he is out there you just have to search and this virtually free forum for perverts is almost certainly not the right place to find him. We used to have a method of joining the best site paying the full fees (not always cheap) and filtering out everyone who had a free account.

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By *mooth8Man
over a year ago

s hertfordshire


"

Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex.

I'm impressed he managed not to cum after 15 minutes of awesome oral"

lol yep ones impression of awesome isnt everyones

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By *mooth8Man
over a year ago

s hertfordshire


"We had a meet with a single guy just night. Good verifications and very well endowed guy.

Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex. When it comes time to move on the guy just put on a condom and start penetration. He did nothing to warm her up. No oral, no fingers, very little kissing.

Wife was not anywhere near ready for penetration and he had a big penis. So ….. she stopped the session, threw him out the hotel room saying bringing a big penis was not enough! She doesn’t take any shit "

sorry to say but that comment says more about you than it does the guy you "used"

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By *edVelveteenCouple
over a year ago

Heaven in the Midlands


"I like it if a bloke fucks me before foreplay, I am already excited and wet from getting ready in my stockings...

If you are calling a single guy to come and give you what you want OP, then tell him beforehand what your requirements are. Don't come on the forum and start a thread about him that he could see. You sucked his cock, got him excited, then threw him out when he didn't perform the way you expected him to.

Try more communication before you meet up with men in the future ..Fab single men are not here to provide a service to you and they are not mind readers either.

"

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside


"We had a meet with a single guy just night. Good verifications and very well endowed guy.

Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex. When it comes time to move on the guy just put on a condom and start penetration. He did nothing to warm her up. No oral, no fingers, very little kissing.

Wife was not anywhere near ready for penetration and he had a big penis. So ….. she stopped the session, threw him out the hotel room saying bringing a big penis was not enough! She doesn’t take any shit

Was a first for us. Anyone else had this happen?"

Happened to us a few times.

Some just watch too much porn and think its a real reflection of sexual prowess.

Sad really.

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath


"I like it if a bloke fucks me before foreplay, I am already excited and wet from getting ready in my stockings...

If you are calling a single guy to come and give you what you want OP, then tell him beforehand what your requirements are. Don't come on the forum and start a thread about him that he could see. You sucked his cock, got him excited, then threw him out when he didn't perform the way you expected him to.

Try more communication before you meet up with men in the future ..Fab single men are not here to provide a service to you and they are not mind readers either.

"

True. a lot of women get fully aroused already without the man touching them. However, communication is key. If I want/need more foreplay, I tend to tell them thatI want more foreplay and that doesn't cause problems for me.

I have to do this with anal a lot because a lot of guys ( on and off FAb) think "hey it's just going to slip in if it's lubed up." My tight ass (pun intended. I'm an uptight tense person) needs fingers and toys before any anal.

I blame porn. The majority of the videos are the woman sucks cock and then is so aroused she wants cock in her pussy or ass straight away.....no lube/no foreplay shown. Lol!

This is what the majority of men ( who watch porn) are watching so unfortunately this is how their brain thinks it goes even if their logic knows it's not. The subconscious overrides it. Not saying porn is bad but I'm fairly strict with what I let into my subconcious. I tend to watch amateur, BDSM and mature couples who use a variety of play techniques and toys and their videos' focuses are not always a big dick going in a hole.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The man had to read the room. Selfish bastard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We had a meet with a single guy just night. Good verifications and very well endowed guy.

Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex. When it comes time to move on the guy just put on a condom and start penetration. He did nothing to warm her up. No oral, no fingers, very little kissing.

Wife was not anywhere near ready for penetration and he had a big penis. So ….. she stopped the session, threw him out the hotel room saying bringing a big penis was not enough! She doesn’t take any shit

Was a first for us. Anyone else had this happen?"

Yep, happened last Monday to us, the session wasstopped too, very very poor

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By *mooth8Man
over a year ago

s hertfordshire

shame the the guy cant give us his side of the story

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By *ot_so_newbiesCouple
over a year ago

Lancs

We never specify on a meet if foreplay is to be part of it. We always play first before the guy arrives so Miss is ready for oral or penetration.

Fully agree though if the meet doesn’t feel right for you then you are fully intended to ask the person to leave. This is also true of the single guy isn’t feeling it, he can choose to leave also.

Unfortunately fab meets are all about the good, the bad and the ugly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like it if a bloke fucks me before foreplay, I am already excited and wet from getting ready in my stockings...

If you are calling a single guy to come and give you what you want OP, then tell him beforehand what your requirements are. Don't come on the forum and start a thread about him that he could see. You sucked his cock, got him excited, then threw him out when he didn't perform the way you expected him to.

Try more communication before you meet up with men in the future ..Fab single men are not here to provide a service to you and they are not mind readers either.

This

There are always two sides to the story. Some women don’t like to give oral, Does that mean we men are entitled to get one on every meet or go public that we didn’t get one?

How hard is it to discuss and agree beforehand and respect other people’s boundaries "

Might find single guys will avoid the op for fear of being ripped to bits on here.

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By *abrina59TV/TS
over a year ago

moved to cuckold land

Id always chat before meet of likes /dislikes & foreplay would def be one of likes both giving & receiving

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By *igtone2310Man
over a year ago

Beverley

I cringe when i read these threads, you can feel when a woman wants you inside her, i watch the cams and see women playing on their own and most of the guys are slap your pussy stick 4 fingers in, i think if those things worked for her that's what she would be doing, sit back a little and learn from the ladies xx

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By *ondoner27Man
over a year ago

london


"We had a meet with a single guy just night. Good verifications and very well endowed guy.

Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex. When it comes time to move on the guy just put on a condom and start penetration. He did nothing to warm her up. No oral, no fingers, very little kissing.

Wife was not anywhere near ready for penetration and he had a big penis. So ….. she stopped the session, threw him out the hotel room saying bringing a big penis was not enough! She doesn’t take any shit

Was a first for us. Anyone else had this happen?"

Massive respect to your wife for stopping the session.

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By *inkForLifeCouple
over a year ago

North Shields

Unless you'd discussed requirements before hand, I don't see anything wrong here, his assumption was not aligned to yours, but your assumption that the guy would want to play with you is just as invalid as his assumption that he could fuck you after getting oral.

Mrs only meets for sucking cock and pure penetrative sex. No touching, feeling, kissing, oral on her etc. This is made undoubtedly clear before she meets.

Surely the problem here is lack of communication, and a rather large assumption on your behalf.

To berate the guy seems very unfair when all that happened was that your two assumptions didn't align.

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By *aan31Man
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Maybe also don't rely on him and perhaps tell him what she wants

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By *aan31Man
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Well said! Seems the OP is quick to blame someone else

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By *nwrap4funMan
over a year ago

Ireland


"We had a meet with a single guy just night. Good verifications and very well endowed guy.

Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex. When it comes time to move on the guy just put on a condom and start penetration. He did nothing to warm her up. No oral, no fingers, very little kissing.

Wife was not anywhere near ready for penetration and he had a big penis. So ….. she stopped the session, threw him out the hotel room saying bringing a big penis was not enough! She doesn’t take any shit

Was a first for us. Anyone else had this happen?"

I had this recently with a lady. I have to admit, I really like to give oral and I was hoping to give this lady plenty.

Unfortunately, that wasn't to be. It was condom on with some lube and off she went.

I have to admit, I was disappointed with no foreplay and when it was over, she just left. Needless to say, I can guarantee I won't want a repeat.

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By *iss pleasuringWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near


"This a bit mean seeing as he’s on here and could see it

Pretty sure he is not a forum regular. We didn’t name him and also he was there so it probably felt meaner in person.

Suppose the forums are for sharing experiences so maybe some other guy will read this and up his game and some won’t. He was a nice guy and very apologetic but women need to be more assertive when it’s just not working out. Or maybe we’re just bad people . "

I completely agree woth your first post OP. I would of done the same. Seriously though that's just not fair. A similar time for me atackub and I was sucking 2 guys and when I said come on guys my turn for some oral they both shrugged theor shoulders. That was the tine I said fook that and stopped all play

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By *inkForLifeCouple
over a year ago

North Shields


"A similar time for me atackub and I was sucking 2 guys and when I said come on guys my turn for some oral they both shrugged theor shoulders. That was the tine I said fook that and stopped all play "

So what if this was reversed? If a guy had been licking you, but you were dead against giving oral? Are you wrong for having a boundaries and limits? Should you just ignore your own limits because its "selfish"?

If you aren't willing to do what you're doing without expecting something in return, unless you've previously specifically agreed it, then you're just being entitled.

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By *iss pleasuringWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near


"A similar time for me atackub and I was sucking 2 guys and when I said come on guys my turn for some oral they both shrugged theor shoulders. That was the tine I said fook that and stopped all play

So what if this was reversed? If a guy had been licking you, but you were dead against giving oral? Are you wrong for having a boundaries and limits? Should you just ignore your own limits because its "selfish"?

If you aren't willing to do what you're doing without expecting something in return, unless you've previously specifically agreed it, then you're just being entitled."

Not saying its right or wrong.

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By *iss pleasuringWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near


"A similar time for me atackub and I was sucking 2 guys and when I said come on guys my turn for some oral they both shrugged theor shoulders. That was the tine I said fook that and stopped all play

So what if this was reversed? If a guy had been licking you, but you were dead against giving oral? Are you wrong for having a boundaries and limits? Should you just ignore your own limits because its "selfish"?

If you aren't willing to do what you're doing without expecting something in return, unless you've previously specifically agreed it, then you're just being entitled.

Not saying its right or wrong.

"

Probably deflated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of people seem to be missing the point that communication is key in anything involving another person or people. It's easy enough to tell someone what you want or how you want it. And before hand is probably better too. Both OP and the guy obviously has different expectations and little or no communication. Neither deserve abuse! Let's just learn from the experience.

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By *onnie 90Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"We had a meet with a single guy just night. Good verifications and very well endowed guy.

Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex. When it comes time to move on the guy just put on a condom and start penetration. He did nothing to warm her up. No oral, no fingers, very little kissing.

Wife was not anywhere near ready for penetration and he had a big penis. So ….. she stopped the session, threw him out the hotel room saying bringing a big penis was not enough! She doesn’t take any shit

Was a first for us. Anyone else had this happen?"

Didn't you know that a big penis guarantees mind blowing sex? They need not bother with foreplay of any description because they know their large member removes the necessity for such trivialities. You will still worship them.

Of course that's all rubbish. But that's the mindset of some males on here. Good on her for showing him the door. He deserved nothing less.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

communication is key i alway tell my potential meets that foreplay is key kissing is key without them theres no fucking and it works for me those who want a quick pump dont bother ..

theres alot of anti big cock guys at the mo too ive noticed now i like whatever is brought to the meet after all fun is fun but ive never met a guy with a big cock who did not know what to do with it and have fun ..maybe its the way i pick my meets and make sure they are suited to what i want as well as what they want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I'm not I'm serious a woman is only good for one thing

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"No I'm not I'm serious a woman is only good for one thing "

You're not what?

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

OP I read the post again and it just confused me, you got to a hotel, clothes off and he got a great BJ first.

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I'm so confused, it wouldn't even occur to me not to be licking and fingering your pussy while my pants were still on. Wouldn't even crack my belt open until you had cum at least once.

If you don't cum, I don't either. Respect the lady.

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray


"It sounds like you had a predefined order of play

Maybe be a bit more go with the flow to stop it happening in the future "

I'm not sure how you came to that conclusion!

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray


"I'm not surprised at all.

Me neither, how dare he not give this "lovely" couple what they're entitled to."

Although it was a pretty shit thing to do to her but nobody is entitled on here.

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray


"How confident and self assured of her!

Honestly some men really do think we are just on this planet to service them. Zero effort required on their part.

I don't think throwing someone out sounds confident or self assured "

It is, she knows what she wants and she wasn't given it, in response to that she threw him out..thats pretty confident to me, allt of people would just accept it to save face!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP I read the post again and it just confused me, you got to a hotel, clothes off and he got a great BJ first.

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I'm so confused, it wouldn't even occur to me not to be licking and fingering your pussy while my pants were still on. Wouldn't even crack my belt open until you had cum at least once.

If you don't cum, I don't either. Respect the lady."

What if she's not into CMNF? What if she doesn't want to cum on a meet?

Sounds disrespectful and quite arrogant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of people seem to be missing the point that communication is key in anything involving another person or people. It's easy enough to tell someone what you want or how you want it. And before hand is probably better too. Both OP and the guy obviously has different expectations and little or no communication. Neither deserve abuse! Let's just learn from the experience. "

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By *haron StonerTV/TS
over a year ago

Haywards Heath

Bet he forgot the hearts n flowers and a cute card as well...

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By *haron StonerTV/TS
over a year ago

Haywards Heath

Maybe...

he jus didn't fancy your missus.

And if you knew he had a big cock before the meet, why didn't she use a dildo to open herself up with?

I always do, and if I'm poking somebody, I like to stuff it in before it gets big, great stretching them out like that!

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"OP I read the post again and it just confused me, you got to a hotel, clothes off and he got a great BJ first.

.

I'm so confused, it wouldn't even occur to me not to be licking and fingering your pussy while my pants were still on. Wouldn't even crack my belt open until you had cum at least once.

If you don't cum, I don't either. Respect the lady.

What if she's not into CMNF? What if she doesn't want to cum on a meet?

Sounds disrespectful and quite arrogant. "

She already stated her position on the matter. Fairly certain if I was in that position if they wanted my clothes off it would come up in conversation, talking first is key.

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By *orl1971 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Lots of people have talked about communication but we’ve never had to give anyone a blow by blow account, no pun intended, of how a sexual encounter should be planned out.

If we wanted something less vanilla like ‘tie me up first’ then we definitely get it would be better to discuss but for ‘vanilla’ sex everyone, until now, has done some form of foreplay. Could be fingers or mouth whatever they preferred.

In sex a lot of communication is non-verbal. A woman can easily notice a guy has an erection and a guy can easily check if a woman is wet. These are the basics and if you have to explain these then you worry about the skill of the person you are about to have sex with. Communication is great to have but some basics we took as read from previous experience.

Obviously we were wrong to do that. However if someone can’t pick up the basics then you wonder if they require step by step instruction or whether they just can’t be bothered with giving foreplay.

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By *_revMan
over a year ago

Birkenhead

For me it is all about ensuring the lady enjoys the attention. After all it is her body, which needs to be teased, lucked, sucked and worshipped before being fucked

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

As has already been said, communication is key. I always have a conversation prior to any physical contact about likes/dislikes, boundaries and expectations, it helps ensure we are looking for the same things.

There are occasions where I'd be happy to give a bj and then have a "fuck and go", but that would always be agreed beforehand.

It sounds like the OPs and their meet had different expectations from the outset but hadn't communicated this effectively beforehand.

Ultimately though, either party is absolutely allowed to end a meet at any point if they are not happy with how it is going.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

This seems one of those threads that you can't win. Any other day you would get reactions of selfish , should have made sure the woman was turned on / we women need to be savoured etc etc type of comments but now it seems to be you did wrong for expecting a bit of foreplay.

To the question, yes if a meet isn't working out anyone should be able to say so at any point. To the play, when we used to meet we had men who said the right things of what we were all looking for before the meet that didn't happen on it but I don't think we ever said you have to get me wet before you stick it in, we would have assumed the man would know that already. If I wanted it dry I would have probably mentioned that though

I am not sure I would have thrown him out, maybe just mentioned I wasn't ready as a hint then see what happens after that, then thrown him out if it happened again.

It must be nerve racking for men to join a couple in their sex life, maybe he was nervous? Maybe this is how he likes sex ? Maybe he pretended not to be selfish but was? Who knows which but either way you didn't match up. It happens.

For me, there is no right and wrong way, you just didn't match each other. It happens.

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By *iss pleasuringWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near


"This seems one of those threads that you can't win. Any other day you would get reactions of selfish , should have made sure the woman was turned on / we women need to be savoured etc etc type of comments but now it seems to be you did wrong for expecting a bit of foreplay.

To the question, yes if a meet isn't working out anyone should be able to say so at any point. To the play, when we used to meet we had men who said the right things of what we were all looking for before the meet that didn't happen on it but I don't think we ever said you have to get me wet before you stick it in, we would have assumed the man would know that already. If I wanted it dry I would have probably mentioned that though

I am not sure I would have thrown him out, maybe just mentioned I wasn't ready as a hint then see what happens after that, then thrown him out if it happened again.

It must be nerve racking for men to join a couple in their sex life, maybe he was nervous? Maybe this is how he likes sex ? Maybe he pretended not to be selfish but was? Who knows which but either way you didn't match up. It happens.

For me, there is no right and wrong way, you just didn't match each other. It happens."

What you said 100pc

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By *REEPALESTINEMan
over a year ago

derby

You guys let him walk out with balls full of spunk, poor guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP I read the post again and it just confused me, you got to a hotel, clothes off and he got a great BJ first.

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I'm so confused, it wouldn't even occur to me not to be licking and fingering your pussy while my pants were still on. Wouldn't even crack my belt open until you had cum at least once.

If you don't cum, I don't either. Respect the lady.

What if she's not into CMNF? What if she doesn't want to cum on a meet?

Sounds disrespectful and quite arrogant.

She already stated her position on the matter. Fairly certain if I was in that position if they wanted my clothes off it would come up in conversation, talking first is key. "

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By *iss pleasuringWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near


"You guys let him walk out with balls full of spunk, poor guy "

No one is a professional at pounding a pussy aka hammer drill or pussy licking as all us biological ladies like different strokes.

And as for leaving a guy balls full. That's a lot of bollcks

This lady likes to ensure he comes . Bit unfortunately a majority of guys take it home

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"You guys let him walk out with balls full of spunk, poor guy

No one is a professional at pounding a pussy aka hammer drill or pussy licking as all us biological ladies like different strokes.

And as for leaving a guy balls full. That's a lot of bollocks

This lady likes to ensure he comes . But unfortunately a majority of guys take it home "

Glad I'm not the only one this has happened to

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By *unner6969Man
over a year ago

Bucks/London/Oxford

I’ve had it with a (younger) woman before - didn’t seem to want foreplay at all, it was as if she wasn’t expecting it.

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By *iss pleasuringWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near


"I’ve had it with a (younger) woman before - didn’t seem to want foreplay at all, it was as if she wasn’t expecting it."

Them younger woman are independent and strong, so they say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me it is all about ensuring the lady enjoys the attention. After all it is her body, which needs to be teased, lucked, sucked and worshipped before being fucked

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Can't think of anything worse. All women are different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve had it with a (younger) woman before - didn’t seem to want foreplay at all, it was as if she wasn’t expecting it.

Them younger woman are independent and strong, so they say "

I hate foreplay and I'm old

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"I’ve had it with a (younger) woman before - didn’t seem to want foreplay at all, it was as if she wasn’t expecting it.

Them younger woman are independent and strong, so they say

I hate foreplay and I'm old "

All about communication, my default position is to give lots of foreplay and oral, but if you said "don't bother with that nonsense, stick your cock in me and fuck me hard"

Message received, what the lady wants the lady gets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me it is all about ensuring the lady enjoys the attention. After all it is her body, which needs to be teased, lucked, sucked and worshipped before being fucked

Can't think of anything worse. All women are different

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Quite. I'm not a fan of lots of oral on a first meet, or until I know someone well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ffs i love giving pleasure lots oral kissing teasing 4play massive part of the fun for me, hearing and see a partner in pleasure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Average here but foreplay is my speciality if you'd consider me I'd love to do hours of foreplay

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By *astandFeistyCouple
over a year ago

Bournemouth

You ended a meet that wasn't working for you. That is obviously anyone's prerogative.

However, why are you here solely blaming the guy, it takes 2 or more to tango.

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By *anted by NightMan
over a year ago

Shangri-La


"You ended a meet that wasn't working for you. That is obviously anyone's prerogative.

However, why are you here solely blaming the guy, it takes 2 or more to tango. "

Exactly

No one should be put under pressure to perform sexual act who they aren’t comfortable with. That includes foreplay.

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By *airyboxMan
over a year ago

sheffield


"We had a meet with a single guy just night. Good verifications and very well endowed guy.

Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex. When it comes time to move on the guy just put on a condom and start penetration. He did nothing to warm her up. No oral, no fingers, very little kissing.

Wife was not anywhere near ready for penetration and he had a big penis. So ….. she stopped the session, threw him out the hotel room saying bringing a big penis was not enough! She doesn’t take any shit

Was a first for us. Anyone else had this happen?"

Absolutely not on. If someone’s wife is good enough to give you some pretty awesome oral then the very least you can do is return the favour and make sure she is well lubricated to take your love rocket…you both did the exact right thing. Goodbye end of night

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By *herryEatersCouple
over a year ago

East Cheshire


"We had a meet with a single guy just night. Good verifications and very well endowed guy.

Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex. When it comes time to move on the guy just put on a condom and start penetration. He did nothing to warm her up. No oral, no fingers, very little kissing.

Wife was not anywhere near ready for penetration and he had a big penis. So ….. she stopped the session, threw him out the hotel room saying bringing a big penis was not enough! She doesn’t take any shit

Was a first for us. Anyone else had this happen?"

Yes several times, mostly men having no consideration for the lady at all, or simply very selfish...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wife was not anywhere near ready for penetration and he had a big penis. So ….. she stopped the session, threw her teddy out the pram saying bringing a big penis was putting her husband to shame!" 

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By *abasaurus RexMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

Why not just slow things down and communicate? You’re obviously not obliged to, just seems a shame to end the meet when asking for what was needed/wanted could have kept everyone happy.

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