FabSwingers.com forum: disibility

By *agicmarc OP Man
over a year ago

tonyrefail

would bring disabled put anyone off and would you put it in your profile for anyone wondering got cerebral palsy affecting left leg basically walk with a limp

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By *itvclaireTV/TS
over a year ago

Birmingham

Personally it wouldn't put me off in the slightest. Entirely up to you if you want to put it on your profile OP. It's your profile after all.

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By *agicmarc OP Man
over a year ago

tonyrefail

yeah totally get that when i was on here with an ex we arranged a meet while away waked into pub tne couple who we were meeting walked pour because of my disibilty even though they were informed of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't make a difference to us. I also have disabilities and issues walking and it's not been a problem for me so far. It shouldn't make a difference to the right people, if it does then they're the wrong people! X

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Shouldn’t matter

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
over a year ago

Portstewart

It shouldn't matter just asking op do you discuss it as part of the conversations you have with possibles prior to a meet or do you have it on your profile. Only asking as if it was sprung on me I'd be upset that information was hidden from me if you understand what I mean

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

It wouldn't put me off but I do think it's something that should be in your profile, or discussed before a meet arranged.

I met someone once with a physical disability that hadn't been mentioned previously, and I felt uncomfortable that it wasn't mentioned before

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shouldn't be a problem, don't think it is necessary to put on profile but if you chat we people that could possibly lead to a meet then it should be mentioned, if they are not comfortable with it then that says more about them than it does you.

Nobody is perfect.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

It wouldn't bother me op,my other half has m.s and uses a stick as he can be a bit unsteady at times.

I think most would be understanding of it,you could always let anyone you speak to know if you don't want to have it on your profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"would bring disabled put anyone off and would you put it in your profile for anyone wondering got cerebral palsy affecting left leg basically walk with a limp "
honesty is key if they don’t like their loss

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By *egoMan
over a year ago

Preston

Some may even have a kink for it. You’re in a very inclusive group.

I’m yet to match with a disabled person, on here.

Saying that, if I did I’d probably get distracted and start designing things to make their life easier.

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By *xonman53Man
over a year ago

Thame

Shouldn't matter if you are disabled... Unless special needs are required... IE if arranging meet that the venue is wheelchair friendly for those unable to walk distance...

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I’ve met with a guy who has Parkinson’s since his 30’s, he told me after we’d played the first time and it doesn’t make any difference to me. I’ve known him about 10 years now.

If people are going to judge you on a limp then are they really the type of people you want to play with? It’s up to you when you disclose it.

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville

"I’ve met with a guy who has Parkinson’s since his 30’s, he told me after we’d played the first time and it doesn’t make any difference to me. I’ve known him about 10 years now.

If people are going to judge you on a limp then are they really the type of people you want to play with? It’s up to you when you disclose it. "

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

Hi ironic today I received a message from a lady on a dating site just saying morning.When I looked at the profile she has been honest enough to say she has a disability and uses a wheelchair and needs help moving about.She talks about wanting someone to help her with everyday tasks or she doesn’t mind having carers. I have replied back just saying Hi how are you but tbh I don’t intend to meet up with her as I wouldn’t feel comfortable in that sort of relationship so I will wish her the best of luck with search and I am just not man enough to handle a relationship with someone with those sort of disabilities I know it’s weak but it’s honest

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By *OXO2018Couple
over a year ago

Norfolk

"would bring disabled put anyone off and would you put it in your profile for anyone wondering got cerebral palsy affecting left leg basically walk with a limp "

I’m a fellow limper, with poor mobility and never had any problems.

Lou.

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

Makes not an iota of difference to me, not even fussed if I'm told before or not. Attraction is more subtle than purely physical or based on ability.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people it matters but their 'too polite' to say... Others it matters and their upfront and honest about it, other it matters and they make an excuse and leave or don't meet etc....

The rest of us don't care and take people for face value and personality and chat etc.... We're all on here for similar things and end of the day not everyone is going to match...

My mate is an amputee and he doesn't tell people on his profile but he let's people know before any meet arranged and he's had no problems...

Big up yourself and your positives, dont worry about the minority concerned about the little things

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

wouldn't make a difference to us,

we both have our... health challenges, who are we to judge?

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By *agicmarc OP Man
over a year ago

tonyrefail

cheers mate it happened before with an ex when on here as a couple arranged a meet at a pub told them about disibilty they were fine until we got to the pub they walked out when asked why they said it was down to my disibility

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rainbow has minor spinal issues, walks wonky but can still wrap her legs around her own head

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By *londebiguyMan
over a year ago

Southport

I wouldn't say it should.

It would not bother me in any way at all.

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By *iranda500Couple
over a year ago

St Albans

There is nothing sexier than confidence I say...

Be yourself, own it, and you will meet the right people to have fun with

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By *agicmarc OP Man
over a year ago

tonyrefail

"There is nothing sexier than confidence I say...

Be yourself, own it, and you will meet the right people to have fun with

Xx"

thanks think it’s down to my disibility that i don’t have much confidence and an super shy in clubs

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By *horehouseprincessWoman
over a year ago

small town near Munich

Wouldnt put me off if I were into someone but I'd like to know about it so I knew what to do or what not

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By *agicmarc OP Man
over a year ago

tonyrefail

"Wouldnt put me off if I were into someone but I'd like to know about it so I knew what to do or what not"

can do anything my disibilty basically walk with a limp x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have absence seizures which last 30 seconds to a minute which happen occasionally, hopefully it won’t put anyone off

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By *otass and scorpioCouple
over a year ago

limerick cork tipperary clare waterford

"would bring disabled put anyone off and would you put it in your profile for anyone wondering got cerebral palsy affecting left leg basically walk with a limp "
my wife has the exact same disability … we had ppl block us because we told them about it … so those kind of people are no loss to us … we have had plenty of fun with ppl who take no notice of it and it had boosted her confidence to no end , the ones who have a problem with it are not ones who you should be playing with anyways !! Best of luck on here buddy !!

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By *agicmarc OP Man
over a year ago

tonyrefail

"would bring disabled put anyone off and would you put it in your profile for anyone wondering got cerebral palsy affecting left leg basically walk with a limp my wife has the exact same disability … we had ppl block us because we told them about it … so those kind of people are no loss to us … we have had plenty of fun with ppl who take no notice of it and it had boosted her confidence to no end , the ones who have a problem with it are not ones who you should be playing with anyways !! Best of luck on here buddy !! "

when i had a couples account here with an ex arranged a meet when away turned up the couple walked passed us leaving then when asked why they says because of my disibilty even though we’d told them before hand x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't be worried at all by a limp, I,ve had a slight limp myself for years ..I never mention it.

Nothings ever been said about it.

Except once I was in the supermarket and I overheard a mother tell her child " that lady can't walk properly"...

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By *hris 62Man
over a year ago

HEREFORD

I know where op is coming from what about the disabilities you can not is ,eg like I have dyslexia, which means my reading and spelling is very bad,,to write this I have to keep popping on to Google and ask how to spell word, I some time been told I text to much, but is the unsure that I pis rigth

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By *ormalguy71Man
over a year ago

Tunbridge Wells

What about invisible disabilites?

I am registered disabled with mental health issues.

Although I do not mention it on my profile if chatting with someone I do tend to mention it. To my knowledge no one has refused to converse or meet me because of it.

The general response is usual curiosity, and after a quick chat about it seem to be ok. I do however feel that if it was on my profile people would judge me, whereas by it not being there they can see what I am like by the messages before I bring it up, if that makes sensse.

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By *hris 62Man
over a year ago

HEREFORD

"What about invisible disabilites?

I am registered disabled with mental health issues.

Although I do not mention it on my profile if chatting with someone I do tend to mention it. To my knowledge no one has refused to converse or meet me because of it.

I understand that people have a go about my spelling,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a spinal cord injury and possible ME. My left leg is a bit knackered so I walk with a stick (and a limp). It wouldn't bother me meeting anyone with disabilities and I'm always honest about mine if a meet is on the cards. We'll be heading out for our first club night on Saturday complete with walking stick. Most people have never had a problem and it doesn't hold me back. Nettie x

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By *ob rodMan
over a year ago

lancaster

Nah doesn’t matter

But would mention it in profile just saves ether person having to mention it

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By *iberatedduoCouple
over a year ago

Ashbourne

"Hi ironic today I received a message from a lady on a dating site just saying morning.When I looked at the profile she has been honest enough to say she has a disability and uses a wheelchair and needs help moving about.She talks about wanting someone to help her with everyday tasks or she doesn’t mind having carers. I have replied back just saying Hi how are you but tbh I don’t intend to meet up with her as I wouldn’t feel comfortable in that sort of relationship so I will wish her the best of luck with search and I am just not man enough to handle a relationship with someone with those sort of disabilities I know it’s weak but it’s honest "

It’s not weak in all honesty, you’ve got to consider what would work for you in a relationship. Personally it’s up to the individual whether to disclose a disability on fab as it’s a personal matter. If on the other hand a disability had an impact on playing then it’s better to be informed. If it doesn’t then there’s no real need.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"would bring disabled put anyone off and would you put it in your profile for anyone wondering got cerebral palsy affecting left leg basically walk with a limp "

I absolutely totally get where you are coming from. I ask myself the same thing all the time. It has quite the impact on my confidence sometimes. Other times not so much. Even though I am disabled and I can’t walk, it doesn’t seem to put people off. And if they do that sounds like a them problem.

Don’t worry about it OP. Some people will be absolutely fine, others not so much. X

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By *hatBeardedChapMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

It's something I've struggled with putting in dating/hookup profiles..while not a visible disability it impacts my life daily (I had major heart surgery for a birth defect they only found during lockdown)

And while I am no longer as bad I still suffer, not to mention the multiple scars on chest and right leg from surgery so very self conscious about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"would bring disabled put anyone off and would you put it in your profile for anyone wondering got cerebral palsy affecting left leg basically walk with a limp

Don’t worry about it OP. Some people will be absolutely fine, others not so much. X "

Love your profile

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

I think if your disability restricts your sexual style in any way you have a duty to mention that beforehand.

It's certainly something you need to talk about with prospective partners before anything physical takes place.

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By *IG G77Man
over a year ago

GATLEY

It can be a difficult conversation to have for a lot of people especially over messages especially when mostly when mentioned people cut conversations and block with no reasoning

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By *agicmarc OP Man
over a year ago

tonyrefail

"would bring disabled put anyone off and would you put it in your profile for anyone wondering got cerebral palsy affecting left leg basically walk with a limp

Don’t worry about it OP. Some people will be absolutely fine, others not so much. X

Love your profile

can’t message you x

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By *ust a little bit moreWoman
over a year ago

kendal

It wouldn't bother me in the slightest. (I'm the mother of a child with grade 4 CP) but some may lack knowledge and understanding about It and worry most probably unnecessarily,

So it would be worth mentioning either in your profile or in messages and chit chat before you meet.

The fact that you are cute massively outweighs anything else

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By *incsladyandscotsmanCouple
over a year ago

North fife

Absolutely not... L has ms so we experience hardship as well as food times.

Everyone deserves to live life and enjoy themselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"would bring disabled put anyone off and would you put it in your profile for anyone wondering got cerebral palsy affecting left leg basically walk with a limp

Don’t worry about it OP. Some people will be absolutely fine, others not so much. X

Love your profile

can’t message you x"

I wasn't referring to you OP

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By *illyjohnyCouple
over a year ago

brighton

Jill has a stoma which is stated on our profile

We are not meeting at the moment any way but if potential meets have read our profile then it shouldn't be a problem ?

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

I really don’t see the issue

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By *rAndMrsLilCouple
over a year ago

Barnsley

We've mentioned in our profile that Mr has Cerebral Palsy, purely because it immediately filters out the people who have a problem with it (assuming they actually read our profile!)

There's nothing more soul destroying than having a great connection with a person/couple only for them to back off when they find out about his disability. This way there's no way we could be accused of trying to hide anything

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By *agicmarc OP Man
over a year ago

tonyrefail

"We've mentioned in our profile that Mr has Cerebral Palsy, purely because it immediately filters out the people who have a problem with it (assuming they actually read our profile!)

yeah i’ve put it in my profile too can’t message you x

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Nope

It is a disability but not one that should effect the ability for another to be able to enjoy themselves with respect is the key

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We've mentioned in our profile that Mr has Cerebral Palsy, purely because it immediately filters out the people who have a problem with it (assuming they actually read our profile!)

yeah i’ve put it in my profile too can’t message you x"

Because they're looking for couples, it says on their profile "not looking for single guys"

This is part of the problem, even when it's in the person's profile people just aren't reading it.

You my friend are the prime example sadly

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By *amantha TSWoman
over a year ago

Swindon

Only time I'm concerned about any disability or illness is if its something that might flare up and I need to be aware of it, or do something to help as any friend would. Otherwise it's just down to good old fashioned attraction!

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By *aresseTV/TS
over a year ago

Liverpool

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By *aresseTV/TS
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Only time I'm concerned about any disability or illness is if its something that might flare up and I need to be aware of it, or do something to help as any friend would. Otherwise it's just down to good old fashioned attraction!"
I think the most important quotation to remember here is “people who matter don’t mind, and people who mind don’t matter“

there are plenty of people who would love to meet you. I’m sure and anyone who is that stupid that a limp would affect them is definitely somebody who you would need to regard as having dodged a bullet if it matters to them that much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Only time I'm concerned about any disability or illness is if its something that might flare up and I need to be aware of it, or do something to help as any friend would. Otherwise it's just down to good old fashioned attraction! I think the most important quotation to remember here is “people who matter don’t mind, and people who mind don’t matter“

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"cheers mate it happened before with an ex when on here as a couple arranged a meet at a pub told them about disibilty they were fine until we got to the pub they walked out when asked why they said it was down to my disibility

That's absolutely fucking awful. What horrible, narrow minded, judgemental people they are. Hope it didn't upset you too much.

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By *agicmarc OP Man
over a year ago

tonyrefail

That's absolutely fucking awful. What horrible, narrow minded, judgemental people they are. Hope it didn't upset you too much."

tbh never wanted to join fab again but decided to after last relationship broke up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We've mentioned in our profile that Mr has Cerebral Palsy, purely because it immediately filters out the people who have a problem with it (assuming they actually read our profile!)

yeah i’ve put it in my profile too can’t message you x

Because they're looking for couples, it says on their profile "not looking for single guys"

This is part of the problem, even when it's in the person's profile people just aren't reading it.

You my friend are the prime example sadly

^ this.

It puts some people off from posting in the forums if they know PM's are going to follow.

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By *ormalfornorfolkMan
over a year ago

Norwich

I’d have no problem with it. There are all sorts of disabilities out there, not all of them physically obvious.

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By *ocial butterfly888Woman
over a year ago

A club near you

"would bring disabled put anyone off and would you put it in your profile for anyone wondering got cerebral palsy affecting left leg basically walk with a limp "

Personally wouldn't bother me. I'd not put it in your profile but mention it in conversation with potential meets.

I've had a stroke. Minimally affected. I always tell my stroke story, it's rather amusing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, not at all for me. Abled or disabled- if I love someone then I love them

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