FabSwingers.com forum: Not one meet in 2 years

By *onyp69 OP Man
over a year ago

middlesbrough/leeds

Hi all so Iv been here for a long time and not had so much as one single meet yet. I’m absolutely lost as to why this might be. Any help would be great thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have a reasonable profile so I think it’s just the numbers game and possibly the lack of verifications as you’ve pointed out.

Purely from our perspective we’d suggest that you look very serious in all of your pictures so perhaps a couple smiling and having some fun? Also maybe cut some of the personal details from the bio as it seems quite long.

Good luck.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Profile looks good, just message people who would be interested in you, read their profiles and message accordingly, there's so many men on here you have to stand out.

As for the no verifications you mention that a lot it's easy to get verified pop along to a local social (meets & requests forum section) there's lots in Leeds, York etc or a club.

Mrs

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

I would try clubs and socials x

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

The only tbing I can think to change on your profile is that you say your a sex addict because you can go all night. High sex drive is probably more your thing.. as sex addict is something totally different.

Look for local socials or club events. X join in the forums x

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By *pank the MonkeyCouple
over a year ago

Fylde Coast

"I would try clubs and socials x"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone who has ever waited 7hrs by the side of a motorway for vehicle recorvery will be put off by the idea all of that was because you were shagging around

Otherwise it seems fine. xx

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Get rid of the warning notice

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

Your profile is OK, although quite repetitious, so read it through and tweak it a bit. Remove the warning at the end which is nonsense.

Check your photos. You have the same photo in the beach in 2018 and you re use it as 2022. That makes me uncomfortable as you might have changed in the 4 years. ( just delete the old one and nobody will know....keep it between us)

Would you really meet people in their 90s? If not, alter your age range.

The fact that you work long hours and have your kids on your days off, makes it sound like meets would be difficult to arrange, so perhaps you need to know when you have free time and put on your status you are free on x day or what afternoon and you'd like to meet someone for a cuppa.

Get verified in the cam rooms, go to a social or a club. Going to a club on your own isn't daunting. Phone up the club and ask what to expect.

Finally only message people you feel you are compatible with and send a decent personal message showing that you know what they are looking for.

Good luck.

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

It's a ratio game.

Though your profile is good you may want to remove that disclaimer nonsense as it's useless and even it's for a different a site.

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By *tew2009Man
over a year ago

wakefield

You need to lower your expectations. Very few people meet on here, far too many fake profiles and timewasters. If you expect nothing then you won't be disappointed lol.

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By *ysonfuryMan
over a year ago

Stockport

It can be hard, I would recommend either a cam or a club to get your first verie. Couples and single ladies have so much choice. If you message be polite and make sure you have read their profile.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

2 years is not a long time for a guy ... buy we all know why guys find it difficult and thats down to the sheer number of them ... many many guys never get a meet ...nobody owes them a meet .... and lets not forget attraction / connection .... it really is a scene where there is not ill repeat not someone for everyone ..its impossible

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By *hampagneAfterpartyCouple
over a year ago

Fist impressions: you look a bit unhappy in your pics. Try smiling! It will make a big difference.

Second: pics with mess, clutter, toilets, etc in the back ground will put some people off. A lot of people are put off if they think your house isn’t clean and tidy then maybe neither are you.

Third: your write up is a bit negative in places and would be more appealing to more people if it was lighter, more happy and positive. Some will also be put off by the spelling and grammar too.

It’s a nightmare for guys on here but Hope that helps a bit. As others have said, get to a club, any club and get some good verifications

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi all so Iv been here for a long time and not had so much as one single meet yet. I’m absolutely lost as to why this might be. Any help would be great thanks "

Yes as you say the numbers game

Your a good looking guy with all the attributes etc and you don’t communicate like a dyslexic ape or worse

It’s just nuts now, back in the heady days of the past, fab and other sites would provide nice meets with nice ladies and couples all the time if you were something like and could hold a decent conversation.

It’s not a great deal better for couples now and it is very hot and miss now .

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

it is a nightmare for guys on here or any other parts of the scene ...simply put id hate to be a single guy on here ...so us women do know this ..but also its hard for us women to find guys whom we are attracted to for fun 99% of men do nothing for me on here and i like a verity of types most ruin it with what they say via messages ... on my couples profile we could put a meet sighn up and get anything from 50 to a few hundread messages and often not one will catch our attention and we consider ourselve regular players on this scene

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By *ancelot1633Man
over a year ago

weybridge

Clubs, clubs, clubs. So much easier to meet people face to face and chat and see if there is any mutual attraction. Setting up sucessful meets on here is a very long game indeed and I suspect almost as hard for couples and singles fems as it is for the rest of us. Best of luck, have fun, stay safe

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

OP. From my perspective as a Single Male who has been on here for many years, let me offer some advice.

FAB is and always has been difficult to use. Pre-Covid, it couldctake any Single Guy up to a year just to get started & noticed. Now, it takes even longer.

You are up against 100's of other Males all seeking the same aim so you have to stand out against them!

That means "selling yourself" just as you would in a Job CV! Show what you can offer to someone and equally,,what you'd expect from others.

Your profile is littered with countless spelling, grammar and punctuation errors; to some, that is off-putting. So too, is your use of 'text' language & collectively, it can count against you with some people.

You say you can accommodate, but then contradict it by mentioning about the kids which take up your time + your work shift pattern, AND you are soon planning to move home! All of that will with some, create the thought of "when CAN he meet???

Don't describe yourself as a Sex Addict; that phrase can often have negative viewpoints and influences.

The advice so far is sound, in particular, you should attend Clubs and Socials. They're a good route to meet others & earn Verifications / approvals.

But at those, do remember to talk to others attending; it helps enormously!

You'll need masses of patience & perseverance and a thick skin when faced with with rejections.

But it does work. Good Luck.

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By *ancelot1633Man
over a year ago

weybridge

"Hi all so Iv been here for a long time and not had so much as one single meet yet. I’m absolutely lost as to why this might be. Any help would be great thanks

Yes as you say the numbers game

Your a good looking guy with all the attributes etc and you don’t communicate like a dyslexic ape or worse

It’s not a great deal better for couples now and it is very hot and miss now ."

It certainly is a numbers game, but then so is the lottery. Better to go to the casino where everyone is after a similar

thing.

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

Have a read through your own profile, take out the sex addict bit it is rather off putting.

Use proper words and not text speak and check your spelling. I'm not just being picky, these small things do put people off.

Also remove the warning at the end, it's totally pointless and not needed.

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By *rStamina99Man
over a year ago

Carrigaline

Totally get your frustration.

Not sure how many fake profiles are here, or maybe its my approach?

I tried the polite introduction, ive tried the funny introduction, Ive tried dirty introduction, I included pictures. The level of response is diabolical. If i was in sales id be fired months ago ha ha ha.

Is my profile wrong?

What the best approach besides giving up ha ha?

Honest feedback welcome.

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

"Totally get your frustration.

Not sure how many fake profiles are here, or maybe its my approach?

Is my profile wrong?

What the best approach besides giving up ha ha?

Honest feedback welcome."

It's poor form to jump on someone else's thread but in response the totally pointless warning at the end of your bio is longer than the info about yourself.

Also why post a blurred face picture?

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By *k8888GLWWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Hello OP. As a single lady on here thought I'd look at your profile from the perspective of someone getting a message from you.

The first thing is, and this is just my impressions. You have to many pictures, it's not FB.

Secondly as others have said the grammar and spelling

Then you have your daily/weekly routine, these are things that are best discussed via 1 to 1 chats.

The length of your profile, I get that you want to show you are genuine but if you messaged me I'd of given up half way through it. It's just a big wall of text, it's off putting to people, use paragraphs. Less is more. Keep to salient points.

Best of luck

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

Mr here, been there! Personally wouldn't rely on the site at all now. Even as a couple we find it has been hard to get good meets purely from fab..

We second, third and.. the Socials and clubs!

Reference your profile though I would personally blur your company's details from the pictures though

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

"Hi all so Iv been here for a long time and not had so much as one single meet yet. I’m absolutely lost as to why this might be. Any help would be great thanks "

Some good advice has already been given, such as checking your spelling and grammar and posting pics where you look less serious and more friendly.

You might like to also consider checking your profile for inconsistencies. For example, you say that you are in the process of moving and can't accomodate, then further down it says you can accomodate. Also, on one line you say 'I work long hours and on my time off I spend it with my two kids as a rule.' then the very next line you say 'I have three kids 2 boys and a girl'. You would be surprised by how things that may appear trivial get raised into red flags on here. People could very well question if you can't be truthful about how many kids you have, what else might you be untruthful about?

Good luck

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By *ikesEmBigMan
over a year ago

Herts

"Hi all so Iv been here for a long time and not had so much as one single meet yet. I’m absolutely lost as to why this might be. Any help would be great thanks "

At a guess, the people you fancy, don't fancy you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can only sell yourself so much with a profile, nothing will ever beat meeting people face to face and showing them what you are truly like 90% of my meets have all come from going to a club, so for me personally I'd say social events and clubs are the way forward

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi all so Iv been here for a long time and not had so much as one single meet yet. I’m absolutely lost as to why this might be. Any help would be great thanks "

Start wearing womens clothing, get a beer gut and somewhere in your profile mention 420

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gey go a club. Newcastle and Leeds are not far from you and both have a few clubs.

Quest and pandoras in Leeds are great and clubf near Newcastle.

Loads of people on fab stick to clubs, because he's so hard finding the right people and organising meets is a pain.

Club and you will never look back

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By *mmaAndrewCouple
over a year ago

Canterbury

The first line of your profile includes the word 'varifie'. Its 'verify'.

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By *nob and KnockersCouple
over a year ago

Ashford

As others have said clubs and socials, get to know other people in the scene and your pick up verifications x

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By *rStamina99Man
over a year ago

Carrigaline

Appreciate the feedback, thank you.

I'll remove the warning as recommended.

Picture is blurred as I have no idea who's on here, when I send a message I include a face pic too. Maybe I need to reconsider the blurring.

Thank you again.

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

"Appreciate the feedback, thank you.

I'll remove the warning as recommended.

Picture is blurred as I have no idea who's on here, when I send a message I include a face pic too. Maybe I need to reconsider the blurring.

Thank you again. "

Keep your friend pics either friends only or private and chose who you send them to, a blurred face pic on your main profile is pretty pointless.

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