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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've been meeting on here a lot lately and the spark isn't there for me like it used to be.

What do you do when you're not 'feeling it' anymore or when you're not finding what you're looking for?

Take a break?

Ride it out until the feeling returns?

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By *cottish guy 555Man
over a year ago

London

Probably best to take a break and think about what you want to do. Figure out what would make you happiest.

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By *hiregirl76Woman
over a year ago

Scotland

I'm feeling the same. If it wasn't for the forums I'd be long gone.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Switch off and use the site for other purposes.

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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago

west midlands

I get like this OP, when I'm just not feeling it on here I usually have a fab break just hide my profile for a while keep away from fab totally.

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By *ebwizMan
over a year ago

Clevedon

Usually hide my profile. Been on here for yrs, but currently questioning why im still here, seems to have lost some of the allure and constantly endless messaging in conversations that end up as a waste of everyone's time. Full of fantasists im finding.

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By *heSilverFox1701Man
over a year ago

Near Sleaford

Maybe the answer is to talk to more men? Surely you get hundreds of messages? TALK to the guys you’ll find one who floats your boat.

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By *urora1912Woman
over a year ago

Norfolk East anglia

Feeling the same lately, not got the same excitement it used to have

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By *lmostInseparableCouple
over a year ago

Alfreton

To get other people excited and open, you need to be excited and open. So many on here are cautious and evasive which means the person you talk to will be cautious and evasive. Not exactly mood setting, more like a blind date sympathy fuck. Eww.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I go through stages where I'm just not feeling it, tbh kinda get immune to photos etc after a while, sometimes we hide the profile others I just browse the forums and ignore messages until I'm feeling it again, real life requires more attention at times and fab isn't high on the priorities.

Mrs

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"I've been meeting on here a lot lately and the spark isn't there for me like it used to be.

What do you do when you're not 'feeling it' anymore or when you're not finding what you're looking for?

Take a break?

Ride it out until the feeling returns?

"
hide your profile take a break

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

We hide our profile every now and again, little break does us good

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham


"I've been meeting on here a lot lately and the spark isn't there for me like it used to be.

What do you do when you're not 'feeling it' anymore or when you're not finding what you're looking for?

Take a break?

Ride it out until the feeling returns?

"

I am feeling the same too many messages unanswered, or ghosted, so after my membership runs out I won't be renewing my sire supporters and will just use the forum.

It's not worth ghe wasted energy looking for someone on here

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I've been hidden for a couple of weeks ,I mainly use forum and chat to people I know nowadays .

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside

We delete our mobile app and just log in from time to time.

Once we get back to real face to face meets, all seems to right itself.

Just using social media will drive you mad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe the answer is to talk to more men? Surely you get hundreds of messages? TALK to the guys you’ll find one who floats your boat."

Doesn't quite work like that unfortunately

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By * F 2018Couple
over a year ago

shropshire


"I've been meeting on here a lot lately and the spark isn't there for me like it used to be.

What do you do when you're not 'feeling it' anymore or when you're not finding what you're looking for?

Take a break?

Ride it out until the feeling returns?

"
Yes best take a break, we are finding that at the moment and especially since covid..some that we knew have left altogether..

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire


"I've been meeting on here a lot lately and the spark isn't there for me like it used to be.

What do you do when you're not 'feeling it' anymore or when you're not finding what you're looking for?

Take a break?

Ride it out until the feeling returns?

"

Hide the profile and go out to reconnect with other interests

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sometimes feel like that, I take a break. Usually one of us will stay active and chatting whilst the other continues to engage. I tend to just avoid the inbox and reading statuses when im not in the head space for it and stick with the forums

Mrs

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By *ecky124TV/TS
over a year ago

Middlewich


"Usually hide my profile. Been on here for yrs, but currently questioning why im still here, seems to have lost some of the allure and constantly endless messaging in conversations that end up as a waste of everyone's time. Full of fantasists im finding. "
I have to agree with you loads of time wasters now on here should have a name and shame list

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same feeling recently joined another site only been on for 2 weeks already chatting to 2 females and 5 couples arrange meet with 2 of them there's no dramas no endless messages and no pre conditions like is your cock 25 inches!!

So refreshing

Alas this site is losing its charm no one replys to your messages

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By *aked_magicMan
over a year ago

the gutter looking at the stars (S.Australia)

been a member for years and i always say that Fab comes in waves, with clear peaks and troughs. You go through periods where every time you log in its fun and exciting, great chats new people etc. This inevitably then gets followed by a period of logging in and just thinking "urgggghh". As others have said, take a break give it some down time and come back later if you miss it.

For the record im in a bit of an "urrggghhh" period but im sure it will pass eventually

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By *igcummer95Man
over a year ago

Hartlepool

I'm new to this and haven't managed to arrange a meet yet, anyone got any tips of how I go about getting myself out there and finding some genuine people who will give me the chance?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm new to this and haven't managed to arrange a meet yet, anyone got any tips of how I go about getting myself out there and finding some genuine people who will give me the chance?"

May aswell give up mate.

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By *igcummer95Man
over a year ago

Hartlepool

How come?

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By *olf and RedCouple
over a year ago

Nr Cardiff or at Chams Darlaston


"I'm new to this and haven't managed to arrange a meet yet, anyone got any tips of how I go about getting myself out there and finding some genuine people who will give me the chance?"

Try going to a large organised social in your area. It’s a good way to meet a few people at the same time. You can get verified and it’s a great starting point.

Red

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By *cottish guy 555Man
over a year ago

London

I agree with the suggestion of attending a social. Have been to a few since the beginning of the year which has already led to some fun and making new friends. Seeing one of the lovely ladies who I've met at socials tonight

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By *haron StonerTV/TS
over a year ago

Haywards Heath

Nothing works, I've fucked so much pussy, I don't care anymore what they're like.

I'm on a new exploration of getting fucked with all that gorgeous cock and really feeling it.

So maybe a new direction for you?

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By *igcummer95Man
over a year ago

Hartlepool

Thanks for that, I will try that and hopefully that works

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By *ubcdverykinkyMan
over a year ago

Bourne lincs

Tired of putting pics on tired of the talk. Don't matter what I say nothing gen on here

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By *uggy 555Man
over a year ago

Swansea Valley

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By *uggy 555Man
over a year ago

Swansea Valley

Don't give up just take a break.

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"I've been meeting on here a lot lately and the spark isn't there for me like it used to be.

What do you do when you're not 'feeling it' anymore or when you're not finding what you're looking for?

Take a break?

Ride it out until the feeling returns?

"

Take a complete break, go out and do other things. If Fab isn’t doing it for you then find do something that does. Set yourself a time limit and come back after that point, maybe you will get your mojo back.

Fab is just a website, it really shouldn’t be a big part of your life.

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Sometimes your libido takes a nose dive. Other factors such as stress, hormones, etc can also affect your sex drive.

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

I truly believe that taking a full break is a good idea occasionally. I just hide my profile and don’t log in when I feel meh.

I also suggest having your message filters on most of the time. Put some effort into finding the profiles you wish to engage with and make the first contact. Rejection really doesn’t feel anywhere near as awful as the constant drivel you have to put up with otherwise!!

Occasionally I open a filter for a day or two. I might find the occasional gem amongst the dross, but it definitely reminds me that I mostly prefer not dealing with the dross

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