FabSwingers.com forum: Can anyone help me and my profile?

By *unTimeJack28 OP Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Hey everyone, been looking at different posts on the forum and they all have the same sort of idea of what the ideal profile should look like. I have since changed a couple things going by the advice. I just want a second opinion on if it's what women and couples would go for?

Being a single guy on here is proving tough atm and really want to appeal to mature women and couples as I'm exploring my interests rn

Any advice is appreciated

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By *unTimeJack28 OP Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Worth mentioning I gotta put more pics up but don't want to show my face publicly until I can send in a private message

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

It's best to mention why you can't accommodate as that usually points to certain reason that doesn't go down too well.

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By *unTimeJack28 OP Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Okay nice one. I'll do that now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me personally I'd not be keen on the mention of taking photos. No harm in that as such, but especially when you've mentioned taking oral face pics to use on your profile

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By *unfunfun xMan
over a year ago

LONDON

A lot of people don't accommodate for lots of reasons. Doesn't mean there dodgy or fake. This is not a traditional dating site where you can form relationships if that makes any sense.

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By *unTimeJack28 OP Man
over a year ago

Bristol

"For me personally I'd not be keen on the mention of taking photos. No harm in that as such, but especially when you've mentioned taking oral face pics to use on your profile "

I see, you're right actually. Just thought itd be good laying it all out truthfully on the table but I can see how it looks now.

Cheers for that

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By *unTimeJack28 OP Man
over a year ago

Bristol

"A lot of people don't accommodate for lots of reasons. Doesn't mean there dodgy or fake. This is not a traditional dating site where you can form relationships if that makes any sense. "

It makes sense, I'm 50 50 about it personally so I might leave my reasoning up there for now and if I don't see a difference I'll take it off.

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By *iner69erMan
over a year ago

inverness

Just realise that you may never get a meet on here. The woman on here outnumber the guys by a lot. You might get lucky straight away, or you may have to wait years. I've just had one meet in 14 years and a hell of a lot of disappointment, let downs, stabbed in the back, etc from the girls, so just as long as you know that you should be prepared for a long wait.

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By *an1978Woman
over a year ago

GONE/TIMEOUT (No DMs please)

Your profile rubs me up the wrong way, comes across horribly and I'm not sure how to explain.

Sounds as if you have no regard for the lady you want to meet, you want to put in no effort but you want her to turn up and for you to use her body and make her gag on you?

The bit about reasons for not accomodating is good.

Smoking will put a lot off, so use the search function and select people willing to meet smokers, and within a reasonable distance, and make an effort to read the profiles and message accordingly.

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Lots of things in your bio would have me say no thanks but some ladies may like that sort of thing

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By *arkSugarMan
over a year ago

Hereford

This might sound blunt to some but I respect the fact that he put what he wants out their more than waiting to meet someone an then being disappointed we have to remember everyone is different an like different things my only advice is to ensure you make your bio respectful certain terms I would have chosen different words for but again everyone is different an yes women will always have the advantage on here as they select who they want to talk always remember that last thing RESPECT YOURSELF ENOUGH FOR OTHER TO RESPECT YOU

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your profile rubs me up the wrong way, comes across horribly and I'm not sure how to explain.

Sounds as if you have no regard for the lady you want to meet, you want to put in no effort but you want her to turn up and for you to use her body and make her gag on you?

The bit about reasons for not accomodating is good.

Smoking will put a lot off, so use the search function and select people willing to meet smokers, and within a reasonable distance, and make an effort to read the profiles and message accordingly."

It is a true reflection of the OP so that's great, it puts off those who don't want what he is after and just appeals to a narrow audience who may be into providing the types of things he wants.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This might sound blunt to some but I respect the fact that he put what he wants out their more than waiting to meet someone an then being disappointed we have to remember everyone is different an like different things my only advice is to ensure you make your bio respectful certain terms I would have chosen different words for but again everyone is different an yes women will always have the advantage on here as they select who they want to talk always remember that last thing RESPECT YOURSELF ENOUGH FOR OTHER TO RESPECT YOU "

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

I actually think it's an excellent profile. You have set your age range and state what you are looking for, why you can't accommodate, when you are looking to meet and people get a clear idea of what to expect if they met you.

It's not something that would interest me, and that's fine, as you only want to get together with ladies that are compatible.

Would ladies want one off sex and invite a stranger into their home late at night ? Perhaps think about whether you would be prepared to meet for a social in a public place first and if so, add that to your profile. But that's the only possible negative that i see.

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By *iscreetfuncpl12Couple
over a year ago

Somerset

It’s honest which is important. I would rather people were honest than endlessly tweaking their profile on the advice of others to get meets. A profile should reflect the person or couple, not the collective wisdom of FAB as to what is most likely to work. Profiles are our filters. If someone is incapable of writing one that’s a good filter in itself. For the avoidance of doubt, this one is not for us, but I am sure it will appeal to someone.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Your profile is fine the way it is. It says exactly what you want from here and will let anyone who reads it know if they are into the same things. Do not change it to something you are not. I personally prefer to see profiles that let me make an informed decision on whether or not I would want to interact with the person.

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By *moothGrooveWoman
over a year ago

Durham

Personally, I don't like it. It's all very me, myself and I. But if you do and you feel it reflects you then it's important that you leave it. Your profile should be what you want it to say not what you think others might want to read.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s honest which is important. I would rather people were honest than endlessly tweaking their profile on the advice of others to get meets. A profile should reflect the person or couple, not the collective wisdom of FAB as to what is most likely to work. Profiles are our filters. If someone is incapable of writing one that’s a good filter in itself. For the avoidance of doubt, this one is not for us, but I am sure it will appeal to someone."

Best answer yet on the hoards of threads on here on this subject .. this should be a 'sticky' or a 'fab rule' ..

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Your profile is like everyone's - it's perfect - and will appeal to those that are looking for what you offer and want.

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By *unTimeJack28 OP Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Thanks so much for the advice everyone, really appreciate all the comments and I'm happy to see that a few of you feel it's good as it is. Was worried for a while about it, gonna stay true to myself and hope for the best I guess

again really appreciate everyone's input

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A comment on your status message:

Straight up looking to face fuck a woman or a decent dressed up slut tonight... Whos gonna let me?

If you find someone, they're not "letting" you, they'll be wanting that too. I'd think. Now I'm questioning myself. As you were.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Status updates like your current one will guarantee continued success!

Keep up the good work.

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