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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok, so to skip out on the details i am a usually submissive female and next week i will be Dominating a usually Dominant man, although he is very comfortable being a switch!

We have tried this once, and according to him-he loved it, and i enjoyed it as well although it made me realise i couldnt live without being sub!

So my question to you is, as someone who enjoys being Dominated, any hints and tips?

Or as a Dominant person, the same question!

Thanks!

Ps. i have a whole week, but i have a hotel room for just over 24 hours!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some ideas... You could ask him what his fantasy would be, then work on that. Don't do exactly the same thing, keep him guessing.

Do to him what you would like done to you.

Does he like being used? Abused? Restrained? Does he like to watch.... Blindfold him!

Watch some fem dom porn for some ideas.

If he is usually in charge.... Tease him. Make him nearly cum then stop for a while. Then start again...

Cuff his hands behind him when he's naked. Make him stand there while you play with his cock and look into his eyes with a fierce glint in your eye... As you tell him he's yours to do whatever you want with....

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some ideas... You could ask him what his fantasy would be, then work on that. Don't do exactly the same thing, keep him guessing.

Do to him what you would like done to you.

Does he like being used? Abused? Restrained? Does he like to watch.... Blindfold him!

Watch some fem dom porn for some ideas.

If he is usually in charge.... Tease him. Make him nearly cum then stop for a while. Then start again...

Cuff his hands behind him when he's naked. Make him stand there while you play with his cock and look into his eyes with a fierce glint in your eye... As you tell him he's yours to do whatever you want with....

"

Good ideas! He loves being teased, and i think anything thats really wrong, you know, things that he, as a Dominant man shouldnt like.

Im thinking blindfold, restrained and headphones while i play with someone else...man or woman i havent decided yet

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

I would speak to him and find out which bits of last time really pushed his buttons.

Definitely re-enforce the power switch multiple times. I personally wouldn't do as you said because don't you want him too see and hear all those things his Dominant side is telling him he shouldn't like?

Lastly... Before you play sit down for a bit on your own and picture your own perfect Dominant, masterful in everyway, the one that would have you weak at the knee's in seconds, then be that person. If you are naturally submissive you cannot be a Dominant but you can put on a damn good act for a few hours at least.

Get a riding crop and wave it around a bit. Even if you don't go for the full on spanking with it you can still play with his mind and give off very Domme vibes.

Stroking with a crop, with the implied threat of a spanking can be just as effective as an actual spanking.

Restraint is always a winner but if you have played before you'll know that with restraint you'll also need a healthy dose of common sense and caution.

Good luck!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would speak to him and find out which bits of last time really pushed his buttons.

Definitely re-enforce the power switch multiple times. I personally wouldn't do as you said because don't you want him too see and hear all those things his Dominant side is telling him he shouldn't like?

Lastly... Before you play sit down for a bit on your own and picture your own perfect Dominant, masterful in everyway, the one that would have you weak at the knee's in seconds, then be that person. If you are naturally submissive you cannot be a Dominant but you can put on a damn good act for a few hours at least.

Get a riding crop and wave it around a bit. Even if you don't go for the full on spanking with it you can still play with his mind and give off very Domme vibes.

Stroking with a crop, with the implied threat of a spanking can be just as effective as an actual spanking.

Restraint is always a winner but if you have played before you'll know that with restraint you'll also need a healthy dose of common sense and caution.

Good luck!!!"

Thanks yes, we have had some good chats already, especially before our first dabble into switching.

I think you hit the nail on the head-as a naturally submissive person i could never be a "real Domme" but my experiences could help me put on a good performance for a short while!

Dont worry, i know my way around a safe knot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've switched and only given myself to someone I know and trust.

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By *ovetobenakedMan
over a year ago

stotfold


"Some ideas... You could ask him what his fantasy would be, then work on that. Don't do exactly the same thing, keep him guessing.

Do to him what you would like done to you.

Does he like being used? Abused? Restrained? Does he like to watch.... Blindfold him!

Watch some fem dom porn for some ideas.

If he is usually in charge.... Tease him. Make him nearly cum then stop for a while. Then start again...

Cuff his hands behind him when he's naked. Make him stand there while you play with his cock and look into his eyes with a fierce glint in your eye... As you tell him he's yours to do whatever you want with....

"
wow i so want to try this i must find a dom woman is on my to do list

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By *each csMan
over a year ago

SALFORD

sensory deprivation and wax

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Forget blindfold, go straight to hood instead - much better.

For a relative newcomer, nipple clamps and the durex sensation rubs (cool/hot etc) work well.

I'm sure my Mistress would be able to give much more advice as and when she reads this

D xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Forget blindfold, go straight to hood instead - much better.

For a relative newcomer, nipple clamps and the durex sensation rubs (cool/hot etc) work well.

I'm sure my Mistress would be able to give much more advice as and when she reads this

D xx"

Thanks D,

What really does it for me (as being a little bit nervous/scared really intensifies things for me) is being blindfolded and then hearing the bells on the end of the nipple clamps jangling as he gets them out. Wearing the clamps dont particularly do a lot for me but knowing that theyre coming and that its going to sting-that REALLY turns me on!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely agree with you. The anticipation, the nerves, the OMG moment when the cold jangling steel touches a nipple, or the pin wheel runs up an arm.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As in I meant he was a relative newcomer (to being sub), not you, obviously!

From a male perspective, I particularly enjoy having my cock and balls bound with bondage rope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I couldn't dominate my dominant but only for me if a man could switch he isn't dominant enough for me

however as your dominant is obviously happy to be dominated then think of it from this point. Your still technically submitting to him by doing as he has asked. I only mention this as sometimes I know submissive people asked to dominate do sometimes struggle about how it would affect them.

Sounds like it's more of a playful tie and tease session he is after. I have dominated guys but always get the giggles. I used a crop all over one guy. And brought it down over him and used it all over him.

Cali

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire


"Sounds like it's more of a playful tie and tease session he is after. I have dominated guys but always get the giggles.

Cali"

That would be so amusing to watch! There is something about a submissive playing the big bad Dominant that makes me smile. God knows why but it does.

Only I'd have to watch it with someone else because its just not in my make-up to me submissive lol.

Mrs P being Dominant would not work because I can't even picture someone being submissive to her. Seeing her act the big bad Dominant would be like a comedy act in itself lol.

We really gotta get out more in the fetish scene!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I couldn't dominate my dominant but only for me if a man could switch he isn't dominant enough for me

however as your dominant is obviously happy to be dominated then think of it from this point. Your still technically submitting to him by doing as he has asked. I only mention this as sometimes I know submissive people asked to dominate do sometimes struggle about how it would affect them.

Sounds like it's more of a playful tie and tease session he is after. I have dominated guys but always get the giggles. I used a crop all over one guy. And brought it down over him and used it all over him.

Cali"

I know exactly what you mean, i was really worried about how it would affect my feelings about him as my Dominant, but seeing as we dont lead it 24/7 yet, i think its been good for us to explore and reaffirmed in both of us that we are both definately happy in our roles.

Im treating it as a small break, a role play rather than anything else, but that doesnt mean i cant try to do my best wish me luck!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You seem, like us, absolutely happy in your chosen roles and its a lovely thing to read.

Some people can't quite get why or how we can be so different in our everyday life compared to how we are at home (again, like you its not 24/7)and its refreshing to see someone understands us perfectly

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire


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Some people can't quite get why or how we can be so different in our everyday life compared to how we are at home (again, like you its not 24/7)and its refreshing to see someone understands us perfectly"

Gave up trying to explain that one years ago lol. We are what we are and it works very well for us

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