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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi Liz here, so we want to indulge in me being a hotwife, hubby watching me with another man. I want to but the thought gets me so nervous, and I'm very body conscious .

Apart from alcohol lol any tips to help me.

Tia x

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By *ebwizMan
over a year ago

Clevedon

Only advice is dont use alcohol as a reason to relax, my wife tried that route and its not really a fix. In the end she decided the reality was different to fantasy and quit the scene. Better sober then you're fully aware and make proper decisions.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Good advice thankyou

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely don’t use alcohol.

The first time my wife had a hot wife meet she just decided one afternoon to just pick the guy she’d been talking to and went to his house for the afternoon. She’d been flirting for ages but never plucked the courage to take the plunge. Overthinking resulting in hesitation. She just asked me to take her round to his and leave her with him.

Maybe something similar might work for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your body looks amazing, be proud of what you have x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thankyou

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Maybe just wait until you feel a bit more relaxed about the idea

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By *illloganMan
over a year ago

Essex

Body conscious?

Honestly, your body is unreal.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thankyou

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From my experience, it usually works best if the three of you have a coffee and chat together, get to know a bit about each other.

Then you and the guy head to the bedroom. The hubby enters 10 to 15 minutes later, by then neither of you will even notice him..

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By *amrachCouple
over a year ago

Ruthin

You look lovely hun.

The first time is a bit nerve wracking but like the previous note said, have a chat first and you’ll find that getting to know the guy a bit will relax you.

One glass of wine won’t hurt lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi, you have nothing to worry about you have an amazing body, absolutely stunning. My advice would be to vid chat with the guy with your husband first, then start being naughty on cam when you feel comfortable. After a few cam sessions together arrange a meet, but the more safe and comfortable you feel the more you will enjoy the experience. I remember my first bi experience with a partner, we did the cam thing first and it really helped both of us relax. Hope that helps x

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By *omRachCouple
over a year ago

Wirral

Have just seen your pics, you look absolutely fantastic, you have nothing to worry about and I'm sure nearly every red blooded male would find you desirable.

Is it just your body consciousness that concerns you - or is there also other things affecting your decision?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take your time

There is no rush

Just take it at face value

You are here for that reason and the guy you meet is here for the same

Perhaps meet a guy with decent veries first.

And of course ,never feel obligated to do Anything!

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By *issitCouple
over a year ago

Banbury

We always meet for supper of a coffee first, see what chemistry is there. It can take quite a few coffees to find a Prince but it’s awesome when you do! There are some cracking guys on here who completely get the dynamic of hot wife. Just go at your pace and relax. My husband loves watching me flirt with a guy, start there and see what happens. X enjoy x

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By *ixenandStag121Couple
over a year ago

Alloa

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By *ixenandStag121Couple
over a year ago

Alloa

We were in the same situation, Vixen with another man, me watching. Both of us really nervous, but we did it and we both loved it!

We've never looked back since that first time.

Nerves are inevitable every single time, but enjoy them, embrace them!

For what it's worth I would recommend it!

Stag

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By *REEPALESTINEMan
over a year ago

derby

Talk through any awkwardness and don’t remain silent if you feel comfortable at any point

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By *tagvixencoupleCouple
over a year ago

wincanton

My wife gets very nervous and anxious before a meet, but once there and the fun begins she’s perfectly fine, it’s only natural so just go with it, I’m sure you’ll be fine

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By *oldAndBoundlessMan
over a year ago

Bradford


"Hi Liz here, so we want to indulge in me being a hotwife, hubby watching me with another man. I want to but the thought gets me so nervous, and I'm very body conscious .

Apart from alcohol lol any tips to help me.

Tia x"

From just looking at your photos you don’t have any body issues to worry about in my opinion, I’d suggest just using pure desire as your drug of choice and live in the moment! I’d be more than happy to help you guys out with your fantasy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was in the same situation, i found getting to know the person first and building a good connection really helped too, try not to over think things (easier said then done sometimes)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks everyone "

You'll be amazing! You have an amazing body and they'll be worshipped every inch

X

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By *hestercplCouple
over a year ago

chester

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Following this. Any advice welcome.

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By *ot a hot wifeMan
over a year ago

glasgow

I volunteer as tribute ha ha

Trying anything for the first time will be nervous remember your first time even having sex and look at how much you enjoy it now.... I think having a coffee with the 3 of you and getting to know each other a little might help.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

nerves is normal and nerves is a good thing it keeps you alert ...

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By *heelerMan
over a year ago

Northants


"Only advice is dont use alcohol as a reason to relax, my wife tried that route and its not really a fix. In the end she decided the reality was different to fantasy and quit the scene. Better sober then you're fully aware and make proper decisions. "

Relax the guy will be as nervous if not more then you .

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By *ancs married coupleCouple
over a year ago

Silverdale

My wife doesn't drink (so no booze for nerves!) and whilst we havnt had a hotwife/ mfm experience yet we role played meeting in a hotel bar, going back to the hotel room etc. We both stayed in character for the entire time and it was brilliant - very sexy, felt naughty but in a very safe environment. Shes feeling much more confident now so maybe try a role play with your partner. I'm sure we will still be nervous the first time but its certainly helped. Good luck x

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By *omRachCouple
over a year ago

Wirral


"Only advice is dont use alcohol as a reason to relax, my wife tried that route and its not really a fix. In the end she decided the reality was different to fantasy and quit the scene. Better sober then you're fully aware and make proper decisions.

Relax the guy will be as nervous if not more then you ."

I can echo the above comments, on our very 1st FAB meet Rach was extremely nervous and took in a little drop of Dutch Courage to help in that department. Once started though she found that she didn't need it and since then has never touched a drop prior to a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As the user is now UNLOS either that itch was scratched or it didn’t go well.

A story with no conclusion is a sad thing.

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By *eteranSwingersCouple
over a year ago

Costa del Sol, Spain

Remember, they are likely more nervous than you as there is two of you guys and one of them.

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