FabSwingers.com forum: Yet to have first meet

By *litpleaser OP Man
over a year ago

Oldham

Although I have exchanged messages with a few people ...still waiting..advice and any tips are welcome from you fab people ??

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By *sontopMan
over a year ago

Basildon

Try going to clubs as it’s a good way to meet. It’s very hard to get a meeting unless you’ve been verified keep trying it will happen

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By *litpleaser OP Man
over a year ago

Oldham

Thanks, I understand why people will only meet verified people so probably the best way forward ??

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By *litpleaser OP Man
over a year ago

Oldham

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've only been here 4 months. Most single men wait around a year to get their first meet.

Especially as there are around 100 men to every woman on here.

Seriously, what were your expectations on joining fab?

That all you need do is knock up a quick profile, upload a cock pick and be fighting off the ladies with a shitty stick within hours?

Were you under the illusion that people on fab will shag anyone who asks?

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By *litpleaser OP Man
over a year ago

Oldham

Bloody hell ! I only asked for advice not judging ??

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

"Bloody hell ! I only asked for advice not judging ??"
go to a club if you want to meet people

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By *litpleaser OP Man
over a year ago

Oldham

Thank you...it certainly seems the best way to get the first verification and hopefully lead to more ??

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

"Thank you...it certainly seems the best way to get the first verification and hopefully lead to more ??"

Maybe you need to take things one step at a time. Initially it is worth looking at meeting someone for a social with no other expectations. Just meeting in a cafe or pub for a drink. Then if you get on, you might look at taking things further. You seem to be expecting more and that will put some people off.

Knowing that you are in the older age group on the site, there are about 100 men for every lady on the site and in addition you stating a preference for slim or very slim, I would think your realistic chances of meeting a suitable female is probably slim too.

The quickest and easiest way to meet people, is to attend an organised social or go to a club.

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By *litpleaser OP Man
over a year ago

Oldham

Thank you for your great advice...I would always arrange a social meeting first but perhaps I should mention this in my bio..I will certainly look at changing my preferences too. Thanks for taking the time to reply in a helpful manner. ??

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By * F 2018Couple
over a year ago

shropshire

"Thank you for your great advice...I would always arrange a social meeting first but perhaps I should mention this in my bio..I will certainly look at changing my preferences too. Thanks for taking the time to reply in a helpful manner. ?? "

There are loads of single guys so you have to stand out, different pics maybe, try a club thats a good place to chat to people

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By *litpleaser OP Man
over a year ago

Oldham

Thank you..I'm certainly going to try a club soon...what type of photos would you recommend ?

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By * F 2018Couple
over a year ago

shropshire

"Thank you..I'm certainly going to try a club soon...what type of photos would you recommend ? "

Smartly dressed , always nice to see a smile even if you dont show all the face, NOT more cock pics,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We sometimes view profiles at a cafe or on a train etc.

The first picture of yours we open is a (rather poor quality) cock picture

That would be an instant shut down and move on for us.

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By *litpleaser OP Man
over a year ago

Oldham

Thanks..I've changed my profile to a face pic..why not ? Nothing to hide...also deleted the ( not so great quality photo ) ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have had similar experience of not being able to attract enough attention to my profile. Would love opportunity to meet someone locally !!

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By *cottish guy 555Man
over a year ago

London

Would suggest signing up for the Surrey social if you are looking for someone local.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks..I've changed my profile to a face pic..why not ? Nothing to hide...also deleted the ( not so great quality photo ) ?? "

That was just our opinion.

It’s your profile buddy.

If you get yourself some verifications you’ll be on your way.

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By *litpleaser OP Man
over a year ago

Oldham

Thanks for the advice..nothing ventured nothing gained

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You've only been here 4 months. Most single men wait around a year to get their first meet.

Especially as there are around 100 men to every woman on here.

Seriously, what were your expectations on joining fab?

That all you need do is knock up a quick profile, upload a cock pick and be fighting off the ladies with a shitty stick within hours?

Were you under the illusion that people on fab will shag anyone who asks?"

Yawwwwwwwwn

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By *ot a hot wifeMan
over a year ago

glasgow

"Although I have exchanged messages with a few people ...still waiting..advice and any tips are welcome from you fab people ??"

I have looked at some of the verified profiles of my hotlist and see what they put in and what I like about it trying to take a little bit of inspiration for myself....but I feel the biggest key is get your personality across and have fun with it...enjoy it and it shall come across ...I think.

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By *alleyDaveMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

"Bloody hell ! I only asked for advice not judging ??go to a club if you want to meet people "

That old chestnut

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By *ubcdverykinkyMan
over a year ago

Bourne lincs

It's the same on fabguys as here. A lot of people can do the talk but won't do the walk

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By *aking memoriesMan
over a year ago

Ipswich

I same situation, what about if you don't drive or have access to club? and/or without sounding silly I imagine a club to be full of people who know the scene, done before and/or with partner. Wouldn't I/we feel like the odd one out?

Also i have late onset chronic illness and a tumor, I can still have sex fine, but would need idea of how long I would be out due to medication needs.

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By *aking memoriesMan
over a year ago

Ipswich

My expectations where you go to a pub and pull without having mugshot taken LOL

I cant really do that anymore, thought that what sites like this are for. I met my 1 and only amazing friend on here before joining. Bless her she helped me make profile with pics of us together as she an

. If i want something new, fun/casual said this best option. So here I am! If she lived local it would be easy to meet as would come with me.

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

"I same situation, what about if you don't drive or have access to club? and/or without sounding silly I imagine a club to be full of people who know the scene, done before and/or with partner. Wouldn't I/we feel like the odd one out?

Also i have late onset chronic illness and a tumor, I can still have sex fine, but would need idea of how long I would be out due to medication needs.

Not everyone can go to a club not much you can do then really. Unf fab is over run by single males

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

"Thank you...it certainly seems the best way to get the first verification and hopefully lead to more ??"

Go to a local social event if you want a verification so badly

Please don't be under any illusion that being verified will change the situation

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By *litpleaser OP Man
over a year ago

Oldham

Thanks..I'm not desperate to get a verification..it just seems that quite a few people won't meet people who haven't got any...I'm just looking to move things forward a little bit at a time...great profile by the way...classy and sensual.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As we always say swinging is not the golden ticket to sex.

Too many guys seem to think 'oh swingers - let send a couple of messages and that's all it will take'......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks..I'm not desperate to get a verification..it just seems that quite a few people won't meet people who haven't got any...I'm just looking to move things forward a little bit at a time...great profile by the way...classy and sensual. "

Don't think that just because you have verifications it will make it any easier meeting people from here, yes it will up your chances by a very small fraction but single guys are always going to be the last desirable on here and there is thousands of us to choose from.

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By *litpleaser OP Man
over a year ago

Oldham

Thanks for your reply...I've thought long and hard about whether or not it's for me...I certainly don't want to appear shallow..I want to take this one step at a time and develop a trusting respectful relationship...if I don't feel comfortable I would certainly never meet just anyone...

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By * F 2018Couple
over a year ago

shropshire

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Keep putting out social meets with no expectations make it interesting

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"You've only been here 4 months. Most single men wait around a year to get their first meet.

Especially as there are around 100 men to every woman on here.

Seriously, what were your expectations on joining fab?

That all you need do is knock up a quick profile, upload a cock pick and be fighting off the ladies with a shitty stick within hours?

Were you under the illusion that people on fab will shag anyone who asks?"

The number of men to women doesn't really mean much as it's about due to if someone sees something that they like same goes for how long they've only just joined it's irrelevant if able to grab the attention of someone or they do.

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By *litpleaser OP Man
over a year ago

Oldham

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

sorry to say this but alot of guys never get a meet... its a scene flooded with men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As we always say swinging is not the golden ticket to sex.

Too many guys seem to think 'oh swingers - let send a couple of messages and that's all it will take'......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You've only been here 4 months. Most single men wait around a year to get their first meet.

Especially as there are around 100 men to every woman on here.

Seriously, what were your expectations on joining fab?

That all you need do is knock up a quick profile, upload a cock pick and be fighting off the ladies with a shitty stick within hours?

Were you under the illusion that people on fab will shag anyone who asks?"

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

"sorry to say this but alot of guys never get a meet... its a scene flooded with men "

Yep, I think the statistic is that women and couples would have to sleep with multiple guys a week for them all to get a meet!

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By *ubcdverykinkyMan
over a year ago

Bourne lincs

I think it s because I am sub bi guy and have a 13 inch strap on and can take it all. Seems to put people off.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

Verification is by no means a game changer, people can still struggle to get meets with or without them, but the easiest way to get them is by camming through the chatrooms and asking kindly for someone to verify them

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

The club scene is very clicky, and quite often only reflects Fab in miniature; too many single guys, mostly couples looking for other couples, and precious few single ladies

Statistically speaking; you've more chances of meeting genuine ladies in your local Weatherspoons, than in here (or a club). Just look at Fab as in interesting pastime, an addition to your 'normal' life, don't take it too seriously...

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By *litpleaser OP Man
over a year ago

Oldham

Thanks for your reply...you've confirmed what I was thinking about clubs, probably not for me then. I think I'll stick to Wetherspoons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for your reply...you've confirmed what I was thinking about clubs, probably not for me then. I think I'll stick to Wetherspoons

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OP I have swung for about 20 years on and off, I didn't see it as swinging as the couples, and single women who have approached me, were in social setting once even on the bus home.

So when you said Wetherspoons I think you're being realistic, I have meet couples in a many Weatherspoon's near airports with a motel attached.

When I look at FAB, I see it as an advert for others who make a buck on here, FAB also sell advert space, so if single men stop using this site a lot of revenue would be lost and this site would be affected.

Single men come here on the promise of sex, then find that isn't the case in fact far from it, then complain or feel depressed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd agree with getting to a club or an organised social, I started off on here and actually meeting people face to face is the best way for a single guy. A lot of clubs do have nights for single guys to attend, but I'd check out the Manchester and Chester socials, just search for them in the forum and get yourself to one. Go in with an open mind, without expectation and get to know a few people. Hope that helps and good luck.

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By *eandmrsjones69Couple
over a year ago

Middle England

"Single men come here on the promise of sex, then find that isn't the case in fact far from it, then complain or feel depressed."

Assuming you meant premise??

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By *litpleaser OP Man
over a year ago

Oldham

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By *litpleaser OP Man
over a year ago

Oldham

Thank you , the more I think about it... the more convinced I am about the people looking to make a living on here ...especially the absolutely stunning ladies who are looking to meet anyone between 18 and 99. .really girls give me a little more credit ( no pun intended)

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

"Thank you , the more I think about it... the more convinced I am about the people looking to make a living on here ...especially the absolutely stunning ladies who are looking to meet anyone between 18 and 99. .really girls give me a little more credit ( no pun intended)

Honestly get yourself to a club and socialise with real swingers!

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
over a year ago

South West London

How long did it take to meet someone after you joined the site?? I been here coming up to 7 weeks and still aint met nobody

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How long did it take to meet someone after you joined the site?? I been here coming up to 7 weeks and still aint met nobody"

The first two of my verifications I had already met before joining the site as a single guy, one of the first women I started messaging when I joined I met 3 months later and have been meeting up with her quite a bit ever since and I have only met one other women for a social using Fab as tool to meet, the rest of my verifications are all from meeting people at a club.

I only really use Fab as a way to speak to those who I meet at a club now, I don't bother messaging anyone else unless they message me first.

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