FabSwingers.com forum: Domination

By *rickblast OP Man
over a year ago

co antrim

Hiya, not sure if this is the correct area to ask but will do so anyway! I have a meeting with a lady next week and she want to be dominated. I’m not a natural dom and I’m looking some pointers to help me out if possible ! Any help would be appreciated

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I think it would be a good idea to chat to her, ask her what kind of thing she's interested in trying, has she done this sort of thing before etc.

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

Even with an experienced Dom and sub there should always be an honest and open discussion before hand. You need to chat about likes and wants, dislikes and limits.

This type of play needs a lot of trust and the need for consent is crucial.

Nobody should be going into this without good communication on both sides.

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By *rickblast OP Man
over a year ago

co antrim

Ok. Maybe phrased my post incorrectly as it’s more an attitude that I’m

Looking help with

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton

"Even with an experienced Dom and sub there should always be an honest and open discussion before hand. You need to chat about likes and wants, dislikes and limits.

This type of play needs a lot of trust and the need for consent is crucial.

Nobody should be going into this without good communication on both sides. "

This.

Although I dislike the term "naturally dominant" there is only so much attitude you can fake. In any case experienced submissives can sense if you have the wrong attitude for them. The media lie and stereotype is that one size strong silent dominant fits all, is not true. You have to be right for her, and that involves as a first step communication. She may not actually want a dominant but wants someone to top her (you can Google the difference), then attitude is not required.

Good luck.

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By *amnaughtybutniceWoman
over a year ago

tf1

Why are you trying to be something you’re not.

A lot of men think they are dom or pretend to be but it’s really obvious when you aren’t.

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

"Why are you trying to be something you’re not.

A lot of men think they are dom or pretend to be but it’s really obvious when you aren’t.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Does she know you're not a Dom OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The 'attitude' you want is called confidence. Confidence only comes from learning and knowing what your bottom wants and doesn't want.

Walking into a scene with no previous discussion or knowledge is asking for things to go wrong.

Research and discussion are what you need to do in order to be safe.

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By *nSearchOf12Couple
over a year ago

London

OP, the only person who can possibly tell you what she wants is yiur prospective play partner.

"Dominant" means something different to pretty much everyone.

Speak to her - not us!

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By *eastXMan
over a year ago

London

I absolutely agree with this comment! If you are not a Dom, just tell her, and be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sub here

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over a year ago

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By *inx and NymphCouple
over a year ago

bristol

"Why are you trying to be something you’re not.

A lot of men think they are dom or pretend to be but it’s really obvious when you aren’t.

This

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By *ubcdverykinkyMan
over a year ago

Bourne lincs

Wish I could find a Dom mistress xx in the Bourne lincs area want me to use for ur pleasure on a reg basis

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

"Sub here"

And your answer to the question is?

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

"Wish I could find a Dom mistress xx in the Bourne lincs area want me to use for ur pleasure on a reg basis "

Maybe start your own thread instead of hijacking someone else's?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be you Op, if that's not a Dom, don't pretend to be ast will show.

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

"Hiya, not sure if this is the correct area to ask but will do so anyway! I have a meeting with a lady next week and she want to be dominated. I’m not a natural dom and I’m looking some pointers to help me out if possible ! Any help would be appreciated "

Please please talk to this lady

I can't imagine anything on your profile has given her an impression of you being dominant so it can only have been you chatting... If you have bigged yourself up stop now.. be honest with her

Find out exactly what she wants

If that's not you own it .

Nothing worse than a meeting that's a total let down

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