FabSwingers.com forum: What Are You Looking For?

By *aughtydante OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham City Center

What is your actually looking for on Fab? Yes i know sex is part of it lol.

Are you looking for quick meets with strangers?

Find new friends interested in the lifestyle?

Fulfil a certain fantasy ?

Have you found what your looking for? Or still looking?

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By *rettyflamingoWoman
over a year ago

Where the flamboyance of flamingos live

I always hate the question, what are looking for ? Drives me mad, to ask that just demonstrates to me a lack of not understanding swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All of the above

haha

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Interesting club nights.

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By *aughtydante OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham City Center

"I always hate the question, what are looking for ? Drives me mad, to ask that just demonstrates to me a lack of not understanding swinging. "

From my personal experience you cant categories "swinging" as one thing. Its like saying 'porn' is "porn".. many different search terms or fantasies available.

Now i maybe wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always hate the question, what are looking for ? Drives me mad, to ask that just demonstrates to me a lack of not understanding swinging.

From my personal experience you cant categories "swinging" as one thing. Its like saying 'porn' is "porn".. many different search terms or fantasies available.

Now i maybe wrong. "

Think you’re right, we ask people what they’re looking for and if we don’t fit the bill or not our thing we move on, everyone’s different

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By *nribanMan
over a year ago

Sligo

I'm separated, soon to be divorced. I have a lot of fantasies that I hope to satisfy in the coming years.

One though, is being watched by a woman, or women, while I pleasure myself.

Just the thought of strangers watching me is so erotic for me.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Level headed bunch of people whom become friends to be able to not only enjoy the social side of things but also sexually

A circle is always a great thing to have

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Friends with benefits

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By *ourotherMan
over a year ago

Hereford

A female friend that loves this lifestyle as much as me.

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By *weetkitten65Woman
over a year ago

Halifax

Stimulating conversation, lots of laughs & a connection..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In all honesty I live in hope of one day meeting someone who likes who I am and would like to explore more of the swinging world together.

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By *odg123Man
over a year ago

southampton

A relationship in this lifestyle

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

Find new friends and hopefully a relationship within this lifestyle.

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By *tephanjMan
over a year ago

Kettering

At present I'm just looking for friends who I can chat with, as due to health issues I'm not able to meet anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have my profile hidden at the moment as I’m not actively looking, but when I’m looking I’m after MM couples (actual couples, not two straight mates). I also come on the forums looking for club recommendations etc.

The poster above saying if you need to ask you dint “understand swinging” is incorrect. Not everyone is after the same thing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a bit of everything im single so if the right person came along all good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely nothing ! I am never looking. I use fab to see what events are on then I keep in touch with people I've met from there. That's it.

The thing I find weird is people are actually annoyed at this haha

"Why are you on here then? "

I also find the forums good fun

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I'm definitely not after quick meets with strangers ,

Im mainly here for the forums ,to keep in touch with those I know & go to a social or 2.

I'd never rule out meeting ,but there would have to be a good connection and real attraction .

I have all this in my profile just in case anyone does read lol.

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Friends for fun in and out of the bedroom. Not just sex

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By *hris885Man
over a year ago

drogheda

Swingers clubs that allow single males

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By *weetsmellingtreatsWoman
over a year ago

Gloucester

I was looking to fulfil some fantasies and I’ve done that and now I’m open to whatever life throws my way but that won’t involve monogamous relationships.

I’m single and it would take someone incredibly special to change that.

I want sex with multiple men at the same time regularly x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

when people ask that I say...... read our profile bio

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By *lirtyAndFunCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

A few FWBs would be lovely

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By *iss pleasuringWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near

When I'm asked on here. Then perhaps they've not read my profile. Simples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"More meets "
yes me too!

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By *hakezulaWoman
over a year ago

Perris

Agreed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In for the experience, whichever form that is…

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By *ubcdverykinkyMan
over a year ago

Bourne lincs

A Dom mistress xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down

Realistically,I am looking for nothing, because at 66 I am statistically too much of an outlier to be successful, the median age on this website probably being at least 20-25 years younger than my current chronological age.

It is now principally a means of keeping me in touch with the attitudes of younger people who may share my predelictions, in the contemporary sexual milieu.

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By *ilva69Man
over a year ago

stockport

"Realistically,I am looking for nothing, because at 66 I am statistically too much of an outlier to be successful, the median age on this website probably being at least 20-25 years younger than my current chronological age.

It is now principally a means of keeping me in touch with the attitudes of younger people who may share my predelictions, in the contemporary sexual milieu."

I turn 60 in a few months, I still have an incredible appetite for sex. I realise and accept at my age it’s not going to be as regular as I would like on here. There are couples interested in older gents and I’ve been fortunate to have played with a few. So to sum it up as far as myself I’ll stay on fab as long as I crave sex if only once in a while physically. Forums and chat I can live with in the mean time.

Good luck and keep fabbing x

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By *otshot14Woman
over a year ago

nuneaton

I find it easier to find what I'm looking for on here,as I'm so busy with work.

I've filled some of my fantasy from being on here.

I no what I like and don't,I like the meeting at clubs.

So for me it works.

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By *iner69erMan
over a year ago

inverness

Just looking for a meet. Doesn't look likely though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not trying; not worth the angst. Just perving, fabbing, etc.

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By *ubcdverykinkyMan
over a year ago

Bourne lincs

Am looking for a Dom mistress xx to use me on a reg basis for ur pleasure over a yr been looking

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By *aughty Couple ABCCouple
over a year ago

West Bromwich

"I always hate the question, what are looking for ? Drives me mad, to ask that just demonstrates to me a lack of not understanding swinging. "

I agree (female of the couple here) I tend to not want to talk to them if they ask this

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"I always hate the question, what are looking for ? Drives me mad, to ask that just demonstrates to me a lack of not understanding swinging.

I agree (female of the couple here) I tend to not want to talk to them if they ask this

If it is the opening line then I agree but it is often a question I will ask once the convo has started flowing because I will always need to know whether hubby just wants to join in or watch, etc. It all depends on when it is asked.

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By *illloganMan
over a year ago

Essex

I came here looking for nothing in particular , if anything comes my way that spikes my intrigue then I may go for it, I may not.

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By *onderWomanWlvWoman
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

Are you looking for quick meets with strangers?

In theory this is hot, in reality I gave up on it after only a couple of months. I didn't enjoy the sex that much, too many men just wanted a living fleshlight / free sex worker rather than a mutual partner, and also the risk to my personal safety was simply too high.

Find new friends interested in the lifestyle?

DEFINITELY THIS

Fulfil a certain fantasy ?

Nah, most of my fantasies require a certain level of trust, so I only do those with my partners or people I've known a while.

Have you found what your looking for? Or still looking?

Definitely still looking. I want excitement, mutual enjoyment, mental stimulation, playful exploration, with people who don't think penetration is the be all and end all of sexual fun.

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By *lumPuddingCouple
over a year ago

Doncaster

I think it can be compared to shopping…

Sometimes people go shopping for something specific. Sometimes it’s more general shopping to see what there is. Then there’s the window shoppers who are only browsing and maybe getting ideas. Impulse buys can also be fun!

Swinging has a place for all and sometimes when someone has something specific there after they can find it odd to hear that someone else doesn’t.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One offs whenever I'm horny.

That's literally it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would love to find a 60 plus lady for companionship days out mainly meals and theatre but hey I may be in the wrong place ??

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By *revie179Man
over a year ago

near Loughborough

I would like to meet someone I can take out do nice thing with and be very kinky with but it’s hard to find on fabs

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Friends with benefits"

Exactly this, with a smidge of not feeling like a number on a hitlist.....

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By *ickdasterdly51Man
over a year ago

Lingfield

Firstly friendly people with similar interests to me, mainly based around sex. Then to find a couple nearby who I can call friends, have a social time with and finish with a bit of adult fun. Ultimately I'd like my wife to feel comfortable enough to join us socially and in my dreams join us in the bedroom.

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By *exanthemMan
over a year ago

North

Find a friend or FWB, one who likes everything In life without being judgemental, dance, cook, travel together to see places, make videos, vanilla and sex both, most important someone who carries less baggage.

Swinging is an expensive affair, considering the childcare, travel and club(s) membership and fee on the door etc. it takes too much of your life for a very little return, better to have FWB.

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

Primarily to fulfill a fantasy, mmf with a bi couple. But tbh anything else would also be good

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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago

Near Wells

When asked that question, which I don't really like. My go to answer is " to be fucked and suck cock"

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

Nice, clean, genuine, trustworthy folk....Ooops wrong site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I enjoy the banter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like a good phone chat x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably a guy that we can have a laugh with, that’s also well hung and fucks like a freight train

haha.

Or is that asking too much?

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By *ilfCrumpet9Man
over a year ago

Wirral

Looking for someone genuine and regular. No luck so far so still looking

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By *urvyBi-84Man
over a year ago

Lancs

Interesting question and the wide variety of answers shows how diverse the swinging community can be!

Personally I use Fab to speak to some friends that I’ve made, keep up with events and keep in touch with people I’ve met at socials or clubs. Occasionally I will reach out to new people on here to chat with a view to meeting socially to see if we click, or to see about arranging a club meet.

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By *ebootCouple
over a year ago

Telford

Ideally a small group of friends that we can connect with socially and sexually on a regularly basis.

After a loooong time we’re still looking

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By *ightNWet69Woman
over a year ago

dark side of the moon

"Swingers clubs that allow single males "

Don't they all unless it's a couples night?

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By *yresMan
over a year ago

Midland town

Meeting a mature couples or singles with some interesting things to say and do, enjoying a chat and a good laugh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just chats and banter some friends to talk to on lonley evenings

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By *omRachCouple
over a year ago

Wirral

A regular (preferably bi but not essential) playmate for my wife, one who is happy for me to watch and at times indulge me in a cuckold role.

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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

I am looking for someone to get naughty with, both inside and outside of the bedroom

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

Someone/Anyone we can have a good natter/laugh with aswell as some sexy fun and sometimes just meet up and chill out together as sometimes that's just nice as everyone seems in such a rush to get our knickers off or into our knickers ?? and just very nice to take a breathe,relax and see what happens ?? ....shooting for the stars we know ( as even the ones who agree 90% when meeting them it more than obvious they were lying to get a meet ) xxx

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

Quite frankly asking me this question in a first message would indicate that that person didn’t read my profile.

It’s all there.

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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago

Welling

"What is your actually looking for on Fab? Yes i know sex is part of it lol.

Find new friends interested in the lifestyle?

Fulfil a certain fantasy ?

Have you found what your looking for? Or still looking?"

All above on the way to the goal. the goal is to find single lady for regular mischief with potential for more who fancy bi guy and openminded to join me on the journey. Like to read happy ending stories on the site where two naughty minds got together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have stopped looking. I have lost the patience for the long winded messaging before the inevitable ghosting. When anything happens it is spontaneous and down to being in the right place at the right time.

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By *lFuegoVivoMan
over a year ago

nunyaaa

To discover more about who I am to be honest

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

It's amazing when you stop looking and it finds you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ya could always try reading a profile for a clue.

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By *weetkitten65Woman
over a year ago

Halifax

"I am looking for someone to get naughty with, both inside and outside of the bedroom

What naughty things outside the bedroom?...

Knock on people's houses & run away?...

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Interesting people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am looking for that

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By *ubcdverykinkyMan
over a year ago

Bourne lincs

Be nice to find gen people. Not just looking at pics and talk. It's a waste of time putting pics on. I want gen meetings.

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By *issKissBangBang69Couple
over a year ago

Fareham/Bournemouth

"Ideally a small group of friends that we can connect with socially and sexually on a regularly basis.

After a loooong time we’re still looking

It’s the same for us. Likeminded Friends first everything else is a bonus. X

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

I'm looking for actual conversation

Leading to a meeting of minds and making a conection that would lead to pleasure and reaching shared goals .

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By *uck-RogersMan
over a year ago

Oakhill

"Find new friends and hopefully a relationship within this lifestyle."
Oh dam I don't have a tractor.

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By *lice AgainTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

A number of things off my list.

But mainly a discrete, reliable, local person with a cock who wants to bang me.

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"Find new friends and hopefully a relationship within this lifestyle.Oh dam I don't have a tractor."

Are you that mp caught looking at tractors i mean porn in the Commons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our reasons-

M recently came out to F as bi and F wants to explore this together as a couple in a mmf with Bi men.

What we are looking for is Experienced confident bi guys to play with guy while she watches and then both play with girl when joins in.

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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

"I am looking for someone to get naughty with, both inside and outside of the bedroom

What naughty things outside the bedroom?...

Knock on people's houses & run away?...

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No, but there are few naughty things one can do, outside like, to name few, walk around kissing, sitting on a bench getting to know eachother better

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

"Ya could always try reading a profile for a clue. "

No one does that..

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By *otwifedundeeWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

Married but also with a bf (swinging partner) is what I’d love to have

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've stopped taking this site seriously. I'd love to meet a mid 30s early 40s woman and see how we get on.. being open to a range of arrangements or relationships FB / fwb / whatever works for us both. I'm very attracted to sexually adventurous women and hoped I'd find that here, but it's not worth the agro actually chasing on here, so I just browse mostly.

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By *nob and KnockersCouple
over a year ago

Ashford

We want to find some decent men and to build up a select few to have as regulars.

We are finding it hard to do as we are fussy on what we are after and want locals so it can be regular x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sensual kink

folk who are not shy about their kinks, fetishes and sexual desires

compatibility makes for better meets

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By *aggy40Man
over a year ago

Nuneaton

A cpl who like a mature guy!!

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

I am looking for people who:

- I find attractive

- are is into sex as I am, and

- are willing to have some of it with me.

Pretty much everything around that is negotiable. I'm pretty flexible. Makes me useful for helping other people fulfil their desires!

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By *MrandMrsRedxCouple
over a year ago

Wiltshire

Females and couples for fun, friendship and fucking!

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By *unniebee1970Woman
over a year ago

The Hive

Fellas in the mood.

Couples with their own dildo.

Friends who offer benefits. X

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By *ilfCrumpet9Man
over a year ago

Wirral

Someone local to me, genuine, looking for something similar to me. More regular rather than a one off.

I hope and wait

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are pretty clear on our profile what we are looking for.

Getting to know people on a similar wavelength for friendship, maybe fun if we click. We'd love to have friends in the lifestyle to spend time with, even without the sex bit.

So far we've got to know some lovely people...

But - sometimes we just want a fuck, and will post about that if we fancy it

Mrs

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By *and12Couple
over a year ago

flint

Fun x

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By *GermanInLondonMan
over a year ago

London /Liverpool/Manchester/Leeds

Would love to get to know new people.

If getting on then a social and take it from there I guess.

Not too many expectations. I will take it slowly (was a long term on/off lurker but now want to get involved more).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi just joined and this has been useful, thanks everyone.

So what am I looking for? Still not sure. I know I need something other than the vanilla and at the moment I don't want the pressure of being a couple. So connecting to like minded people/friends. People I can chat about the scene so I can learn more and meet more people. I am sick of false dating/kink sites that drag out messages and try to grab more money from me with absolutely nothing back. So hopefully this is a real site, seems so. Hopefully I can make that connection with one or two lovely people.

My only concern is age as at 57 I seem either to old or too young??. So I think I will need to explore events and clubs and put my big boy pants on and pluck up the courage to go on my own and start to talk to strangers. Any advice as the best way to meet people here will be gratefully received. Thanks x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi just joined and this has been useful, thanks everyone.

Try local socials or join in in the forums.

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

connections

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is your actually looking for on Fab? Yes i know sex is part of it lol.

Are you looking for quick meets with strangers?

Find new friends interested in the lifestyle?

Fulfil a certain fantasy ?

Have you found what your looking for? Or still looking?"

In our case we want to explore my bi (fem) side, share with my husband, fulfill a few dirty fantasies, explore and develop our bdsm kink, meet people likeminded, enjoy the lifestyle and perhaps finding some girl/couple we could connect with properly…

I suppose what many of us are looking for in here.

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