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"Is it something that men expect when messaging via fab when you could potentially meet? We always have a social first bit before that's even arranged some guys push the sex talk. As the female half of the couple I hate it, so try my best to avoid it, obv if we had met for a play a few times then yeah grand But I don't know you yet so it just feels very uncomfortable but I don't actually come out and say it, like I said...I avoid it at all cost, would much rather just have a normal conversation and get to know the person a bit first...does anyone else feel like this? " Can’t say that I do personally, even when I’ve got to know them as it might not be there thing or something they enjoy. I prefer to leave it to them if they want to talk dirty or not. Likewise I only initiate flirty banter (unless I know them well) is when they as for something flirty and imaginative in the first message xx | |||
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"Is it something that men expect when messaging via fab when you could potentially meet? We always have a social first bit before that's even arranged some guys push the sex talk. As the female half of the couple I hate it, so try my best to avoid it, obv if we had met for a play a few times then yeah grand But I don't know you yet so it just feels very uncomfortable but I don't actually come out and say it, like I said...I avoid it at all cost, would much rather just have a normal conversation and get to know the person a bit first...does anyone else feel like this? Can’t say that I do personally, even when I’ve got to know them as it might not be there thing or something they enjoy. I prefer to leave it to them if they want to talk dirty or not. Likewise I only initiate flirty banter (unless I know them well) is when they as for something flirty and imaginative in the first message xx" Yes it's important to gauge people before firing in and assuming that its ok..they need to remebember that its a couple they are approaching..same goes for single ladies, just because we are on here doesn't mean that's instantly what we are looking for. | |||
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"Amazing some can't 'read the room' whether via message or in person!! Example.. In a club, Mr hugs me from behind, then kisses me firmly.. Guy next to us say's "Your girl?!, You came here to swap her, not kiss her.." WTAF!? Mr responds "Well I'm proud to do both, though you won't get either after that comment.." Love him! " I love that he thought he gets to tell you why you were there! | |||
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"Amazing some can't 'read the room' whether via message or in person!! Example.. In a club, Mr hugs me from behind, then kisses me firmly.. Guy next to us say's "Your girl?!, You came here to swap her, not kiss her.." WTAF!? Mr responds "Well I'm proud to do both, though you won't get either after that comment.." Love him! " That's shocking...the attitude from some guys on here has made us want to come off here. | |||
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"Amazing some can't 'read the room' whether via message or in person!! Example.. In a club, Mr hugs me from behind, then kisses me firmly.. Guy next to us say's "Your girl?!, You came here to swap her, not kiss her.." WTAF!? Mr responds "Well I'm proud to do both, though you won't get either after that comment.." Love him! I love that he thought he gets to tell you why you were there! " Wait for the kicker.. The guy was one of the club owners!! My man gets to hug me when he likes thanks very much, especially when he's whispering in my ear that I look hot af | |||
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"Amazing some can't 'read the room' whether via message or in person!! Example.. In a club, Mr hugs me from behind, then kisses me firmly.. Guy next to us say's "Your girl?!, You came here to swap her, not kiss her.." WTAF!? Mr responds "Well I'm proud to do both, though you won't get either after that comment.." Love him! I love that he thought he gets to tell you why you were there! Wait for the kicker.. The guy was one of the club owners!! My man gets to hug me when he likes thanks very much, especially when he's whispering in my ear that I look hot af " Good grief!! Remind us never to go to that club | |||
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" Good grief!! Remind us never to go to that club " Feel he meant it in a humorous way, but regardless instant turn off!! The club was great otherwise and won't say which as the observation was more about what he said than the rest of the night | |||
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"Perhaps I am old school. I am always polite whilst messaging and never indulge in sexual banter until it is clear that the other person is happy to do so " | |||
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"But ironically even when I'm polite I still get ingnored" Flash that smile in your pics, you look great just try and get over that respectful friendly side and I’m sure that would help. | |||
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"Is it something that men expect when messaging via fab when you could potentially meet? We always have a social first bit before that's even arranged some guys push the sex talk. As the female half of the couple I hate it, so try my best to avoid it, obv if we had met for a play a few times then yeah grand But I don't know you yet so it just feels very uncomfortable but I don't actually come out and say it, like I said...I avoid it at all cost, would much rather just have a normal conversation and get to know the person a bit first...does anyone else feel like this? " 9 times out of 10 the guys are just fantasizing and looking for a quick way to get off so trying to get you to talk dirty to them gets them off. Most of them probably wouldn't actually go through with an arranged meet anyway. | |||
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"Is it something that men expect when messaging via fab when you could potentially meet? We always have a social first bit before that's even arranged some guys push the sex talk. As the female half of the couple I hate it, so try my best to avoid it, obv if we had met for a play a few times then yeah grand But I don't know you yet so it just feels very uncomfortable but I don't actually come out and say it, like I said...I avoid it at all cost, would much rather just have a normal conversation and get to know the person a bit first...does anyone else feel like this? 9 times out of 10 the guys are just fantasizing and looking for a quick way to get off so trying to get you to talk dirty to them gets them off. Most of them probably wouldn't actually go through with an arranged meet anyway." It's shocking the amount of men who want this, we don't use fab or any other social media to have back and forth chit chat but they will and do try, it's not like you walk up to so.eone in a bar and instantly tell them what you want to do to them lol...fab isn't any diffrent. | |||
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"No sex talk...doesn't do anything for me.. I much prefer cheekiness & a bit of innuendo...." Yes just normal talk then abit of cheekiness i prefer | |||
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"Wouldn’t dream of talking dirty via txt unless we had met and played so I got to know the person. How can you have sex talk with somebody you don’t know" Exactly. I find it quite vulgar when it's someone we don't know Makes them look desperate lol. | |||
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"No sex talk...doesn't do anything for me.. I much prefer cheekiness & a bit of innuendo...." So you like it in your end, Oh?! (That's all I've got. It's late.) | |||
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"Another thing that really pisses us off is that even when we agree to a social meet with no promises of play, they instantly think there foot is in the door..they message all day every day, almost like they believe they are in a 3 way relationship and they talk about what will happen when we do meet for fun...wow hold your horses big man...wait and see if we all like each other first lol. " I tell them I don't ever do sex chat before I've met them in person for a social. If they persist with sex chat I won't ever meet them. They are disrespectful and that's not the type of person who I want to meet. | |||
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"Is it something that men expect when messaging via fab when you could potentially meet? We always have a social first bit before that's even arranged some guys push the sex talk. As the female half of the couple I hate it, so try my best to avoid it, obv if we had met for a play a few times then yeah grand But I don't know you yet so it just feels very uncomfortable but I don't actually come out and say it, like I said...I avoid it at all cost, would much rather just have a normal conversation and get to know the person a bit first...does anyone else feel like this? 9 times out of 10 the guys are just fantasizing and looking for a quick way to get off so trying to get you to talk dirty to them gets them off. Most of them probably wouldn't actually go through with an arranged meet anyway. It's shocking the amount of men who want this, we don't use fab or any other social media to have back and forth chit chat but they will and do try, it's not like you walk up to so.eone in a bar and instantly tell them what you want to do to them lol...fab isn't any diffrent. " Yeah exactly but the truth is this is why most of the retype of guys are single lol They think they can just talk to women like that soon as they meet then in a pub or club. Even worse when their in the pub with a drink in them lol | |||
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"Another thing that really pisses us off is that even when we agree to a social meet with no promises of play, they instantly think there foot is in the door..they message all day every day, almost like they believe they are in a 3 way relationship and they talk about what will happen when we do meet for fun...wow hold your horses big man...wait and see if we all like each other first lol. I tell them I don't ever do sex chat before I've met them in person for a social. If they persist with sex chat I won't ever meet them. They are disrespectful and that's not the type of person who I want to meet. " That's a good idea, we will start doing that. | |||
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"It’s a big no for me. Would you approach me like that in a pub? I highly doubt it. Same goes for so called “erotica”. Ugh." This is exactly what I said, you don't approach someone on a night out, and I'd imagine even in a stingers club just spouting random sex chat at someone, they would more than likely get a slap. | |||
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"We just see it as the person is looking for wank fodder and has no intention of actually meeting." That's been our experience | |||
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"We just see it as the person is looking for wank fodder and has no intention of actually meeting." | |||
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