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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So I've been here a few months now and think I've understood why I'm here and that's mainly for chat/online fun. I've had my fill of single guys and couples who get very pushy about meets but I realised that actually I don't need the meets, I like teasing and talking to like minded people on here and if from that a meet happens, then great but I've decided to approach things differently from now on, and I feel like such a weight has been lifted

However I have a feeling that some people on here think that a site like this isn't the place for cybering, but let me open it to the floor; what do you think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cyberings ok, meets are not for all, whatever your comfy with

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

you choose how you want to use the site... if others don't share the same expectations, let them enjoy theirs

have fun

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I think this site is whatever you want it for, whether its just teasing and flirting (as long as the other party is aware of this) to full on orgies.

I am taking a break to work out what I want from the site, due to having a few disappointments lately. As long as no-one is getting hurt I reckon all is alllowed.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I agree with the others, use the site exactly how you want to and enjoy doing so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree with the others, use the site exactly how you want to and enjoy doing so "

agrees with the rest use site as you wish and for what you are comfy with have fun whatever you do xxxxCat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I've been here a few months now and think I've understood why I'm here and that's mainly for chat/online fun. I've had my fill of single guys and couples who get very pushy about meets but I realised that actually I don't need the meets, I like teasing and talking to like minded people on here and if from that a meet happens, then great but I've decided to approach things differently from now on, and I feel like such a weight has been lifted

However I have a feeling that some people on here think that a site like this isn't the place for cybering, but let me open it to the floor; what do you think?"

That's exactly how I use the site, when I first joined all those moons ago I got so stressed trying to please and not offend everyone. So much better when you find your own way of doing things xxx you'll have a ball now you know what you want and more importantly, what you don't want

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By *exki11enWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

At least you're honest about that being all you're after....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meeting in person is not for everyone.

So long as one is being honest and upfront about it, and does not string people along and give them false hopes about chatting would lead to a meet, then I do not believe it is an issue with cybering only.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So I've been here a few months now and think I've understood why I'm here and that's mainly for chat/online fun. I've had my fill of single guys and couples who get very pushy about meets but I realised that actually I don't need the meets, I like teasing and talking to like minded people on here and if from that a meet happens, then great but I've decided to approach things differently from now on, and I feel like such a weight has been lifted

However I have a feeling that some people on here think that a site like this isn't the place for cybering, but let me open it to the floor; what do you think?

That's exactly how I use the site, when I first joined all those moons ago I got so stressed trying to please and not offend everyone. So much better when you find your own way of doing things xxx you'll have a ball now you know what you want and more importantly, what you don't want "

Thanks this makes me feel better!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Meeting in person is not for everyone.

So long as one is being honest and upfront about it, and does not string people along and give them false hopes about chatting would lead to a meet, then I do not believe it is an issue with cybering only.

"

Glad to see that people think I'm being upfront, it was worrying me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't let others worry you about the way you use FAB to seek fun. Just block if they do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love coming on here to chat and love reading the forums, I've mentioned before that i wish there was a privacy/incognito setting that you could use like on hotmail, that way i can chat in peace to who i want and just browse the forums without people messaging me because i'm online and then thinking i'm ignorant as i don't reply

When i want to meet then i go looking for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

never be forced into something your not happy with.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I love coming on here to chat and love reading the forums, I've mentioned before that i wish there was a privacy/incognito setting that you could use like on hotmail, that way i can chat in peace to who i want and just browse the forums without people messaging me because i'm online and then thinking i'm ignorant as i don't reply When i want to meet then i go looking for it "

I think this too, when I'm ready for a proper meet, then I'll do the approaching I think!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

a lot of problems on here are caused by some users thinking that the site has to be used the way they think it should be and no other.

We chat to several people both here and on another site who we know we're only ever likely to meet socially if at all and it's great.

On here as in life don't let anyone else tell you how you should be living it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I've been here a few months now and think I've understood why I'm here and that's mainly for chat/online fun. I've had my fill of single guys and couples who get very pushy about meets but I realised that actually I don't need the meets, I like teasing and talking to like minded people on here and if from that a meet happens, then great but I've decided to approach things differently from now on, and I feel like such a weight has been lifted

However I have a feeling that some people on here think that a site like this isn't the place for cybering, but let me open it to the floor; what do you think?

That's exactly how I use the site, when I first joined all those moons ago I got so stressed trying to please and not offend everyone. So much better when you find your own way of doing things xxx you'll have a ball now you know what you want and more importantly, what you don't want "

Id watch this one tho I was a shy lad before I met her haha xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I've been here a few months now and think I've understood why I'm here and that's mainly for chat/online fun. I've had my fill of single guys and couples who get very pushy about meets but I realised that actually I don't need the meets, I like teasing and talking to like minded people on here and if from that a meet happens, then great but I've decided to approach things differently from now on, and I feel like such a weight has been lifted

However I have a feeling that some people on here think that a site like this isn't the place for cybering, but let me open it to the floor; what do you think?

That's exactly how I use the site, when I first joined all those moons ago I got so stressed trying to please and not offend everyone. So much better when you find your own way of doing things xxx you'll have a ball now you know what you want and more importantly, what you don't want

Id watch this one tho I was a shy lad before I met her haha xxx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love coming on here to chat and love reading the forums, I've mentioned before that i wish there was a privacy/incognito setting that you could use like on hotmail, that way i can chat in peace to who i want and just browse the forums without people messaging me because i'm online and then thinking i'm ignorant as i don't reply When i want to meet then i go looking for it

I think this too, when I'm ready for a proper meet, then I'll do the approaching I think! "

Hey we only said we would buy you a drink lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hey we only said we would buy you a drink lol "

I don't mean you two

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like to meet but think the site should be al things for all people and its a little small minded for some to try and limit the fun of others.

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By *luespartanMan
over a year ago

crawley

L

feel free to flirt with me as I have just lost a good flirt friend on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"L

feel free to flirt with me as I have just lost a good flirt friend on here"

Your profile is hidden

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The day someone sets down rules about how anyone has to behave/interact on here will be the day I pack my bags and give up!

Until then - do as you wish, enjoy what you enjoy - and don't let anyone push you in any other direction to suit their motives for being here.

And if your motives change - so what? It's your profile, your life and your fun - keep that in mind and you'll never go wrong!

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"L

feel free to flirt with me as I have just lost a good flirt friend on here

Your profile is hidden "

Great minds.... X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The site is here to do whatever you are happy with.

Most people find their niche and that's the way it should be

Use the site in the way that YOU choose and to those who aren't happy with your choice, tell them to go fuck themselves - that oughta do it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"L

feel free to flirt with me as I have just lost a good flirt friend on here

Your profile is hidden

Great minds.... X "

Who is the great mind?!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The day someone sets down rules about how anyone has to behave/interact on here will be the day I pack my bags and give up!

Until then - do as you wish, enjoy what you enjoy - and don't let anyone push you in any other direction to suit their motives for being here.

And if your motives change - so what? It's your profile, your life and your fun - keep that in mind and you'll never go wrong! "

Thank you, wise words x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I've been here a few months now and think I've understood why I'm here and that's mainly for chat/online fun. I've had my fill of single guys and couples who get very pushy about meets but I realised that actually I don't need the meets, I like teasing and talking to like minded people on here and if from that a meet happens, then great but I've decided to approach things differently from now on, and I feel like such a weight has been lifted

However I have a feeling that some people on here think that a site like this isn't the place for cybering, but let me open it to the floor; what do you think?"

Everyone uses the site in their own way. The problem is when people start to convince themselves that everyone else should be using it 'their way' too.

You have found the way which has suited you up to now, suits you for the foreseeable future and that's fine - and you seem to be quite upfront and honest about it. As time goes on and you remain using the site, how you use it may change... but it's still the same site....

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

3 times over the Xmas weekend I was told I shouldnt be here because I dont wish to meet. I was told I should join a social website despite saying I enjoyed the forums. I have always paid my way and they were all free members. I agree we all find a niche to fit into. I'm happy with mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"3 times over the Xmas weekend I was told I shouldnt be here because I dont wish to meet. I was told I should join a social website despite saying I enjoyed the forums. I have always paid my way and they were all free members. I agree we all find a niche to fit into. I'm happy with mine. "

These people who are so into what everyone else is doing must be very bored lol just smile and carry on doing your thing

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"L

feel free to flirt with me as I have just lost a good flirt friend on here

Your profile is hidden

Great minds.... X

Who is the great mind?!!"

We both went to go have a look at his profile.. Lol. Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"L

feel free to flirt with me as I have just lost a good flirt friend on here

Your profile is hidden

Great minds.... X

Who is the great mind?!!

We both went to go have a look at his profile.. Lol. Xx "

I knew we'd be friends

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By *av1970Man
over a year ago

Tattershall

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By *av1970Man
over a year ago

Tattershall

As long as you're honest and up front with people from the start then no problem. If they don't like it then their loss. I enjoy the 1-2-1 chat and exploring fantasies with people through chat before a meet and if they don't like that then tough.

Haha probably why I've only been to socials so far but hehho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd rather meet. If I wanted an unfulfilling tease + wank I'd go watch porn.

However teasing with someone online where you both intend to meet after a build up is okay. Adds to the occasion when it happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Female half here.

I like the teasing and chatting side also. But the people involved are aware. We do meet occasionally but it is after we have chatted with people for a while. Luckly we haven't had anytime wasters. Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd rather meet. If I wanted an unfulfilling tease + wank I'd go watch porn.

However teasing with someone online where you both intend to meet after a build up is okay. Adds to the occasion when it happens."

It's only unfulfilling if you're expecting more though isn't it?

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By *wing66Couple
over a year ago

Burton-upon-trent

We use the site mainly to chat now days, and if people wanna meet we do it at clubs as it won't be wasting our time if they are a no show.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are honest in your profile and therefore it's up to you how you use the site - enjoy !

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By *luespartanMan
over a year ago

crawley

I find this place a great site to chat , yes Im sure theres a lot more available but isnt that the same everywhere in life

So Ill be here to chat ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we use the site for the same thing, we like cam fun, we have met other couples but its just for a laugh an a drink, we might take a few pics messin about xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont think people who don't want to meet should be here. You just dilute the userbase.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont think people who don't want to meet should be here. You just dilute the userbase.

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so your saying that even though we pay towards site support every 2 months because we arnt playing we should just delete our profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i stopped meeting a while ago but i still attend the big socials and i love the forums and i love here.

just as you dont want to meet doesnt mean you cant be on here

use the site for what you wish x

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By *arry2013Man
over a year ago

London

The site is really what you wish make it-chat, meet, social, etc. The key is to let peeps know up-front. Then no-one can complain reasonably.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its ok to use the site however you feel suits you, but cant help feeling the replies you have been given would have been a lot different had you been a couple or even a single male. but thats a different topic !!!

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By *o-jCouple
over a year ago

Outskirts of Notts


"So I've been here a few months now and think I've understood why I'm here and that's mainly for chat/online fun. I've had my fill of single guys and couples who get very pushy about meets but I realised that actually I don't need the meets, I like teasing and talking to like minded people on here and if from that a meet happens, then great but I've decided to approach things differently from now on, and I feel like such a weight has been lifted

However I have a feeling that some people on here think that a site like this isn't the place for cybering, but let me open it to the floor; what do you think?"

Did my first ever cybering yesterday and loved it .

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