FabSwingers.com forum: Solo play clash

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We are looking for advice from the experienced community.

Have any couples gone down the path where one person wants to explore solo play, and the other half of the couple doesnt?

How did you process it if so? What discussions were had? Was there a compromised reached or did the "no" half the couple need the final call on the issue?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

It's not something either of us wants to do but we have agreed that when it comes to swinging the no vote always carries it.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

You need to understand and work on why one if you wants to play solo.

You need communication, trist, boundaries etc.

You may want to consider some form of counselling.

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

I’m not a part of a swinging couple anymore but when I was, it was the first sign of relationship difficulties.

Hope it’s not that serious in your case but it’s worth checking at the very core.

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By *moothGrooveWoman
over a year ago

Durham

Some positive input.... My husband and I started out doing everything together, then as I grew in confidence I decided I'd quite like to try some solo adventures. My husband wasn't interested, but fully supported and encouraged me.

We're not in need of counselling, we don't have any relationship issues. In fact, we've been together 21 years and have never been happier

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By *oupleSouthEast69Couple
over a year ago

brighton

The No always gets the final say in anything in our relationship. I can't see how you can have a good relationship if one person is going along with things to keep the other happy. If we aren't both 100% we don't do it.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"We are looking for advice from the experienced community.

Have any couples gone down the path where one person wants to explore solo play, and the other half of the couple doesnt?

How did you process it if so? What discussions were had? Was there a compromised reached or did the "no" half the couple need the final call on the issue?"
Of course that is common here....... Namely in all most every incidence the guy wants to carry on the woman does not if she ever did!! So the guy tries to run a couples profile with no success or has to go to a singles profile saying he has a wife who gives permission with no success again or starts a singles profile not mentioning the wife and has no success again. Its a tough world on fab

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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago

Durham

I don’t see how there’s a compromise here, tbh? If one person has a boundary that they’re only ok with same room swap or soft swing or whatever, this is not something you can negotiate or compromise on. You either accept it or end your relationship.

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray

Not something we will ever want to try, but if one of us is not happy with something then that's the final decision, we wouldn't want to risk our relationship over the heads of swinging.

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

You can’t really compromise on some things if one of us isn’t 100 percent on something then we don’t do it.

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By *oly Fuck Sticks BatmanCouple
over a year ago

here & there

For us same sex meets are fine for solo play as it’s something the other cannot offer when in the mood for it, if it’s the opposite sex or couples then a conversation goes - are you ok if I meet x,y,z? Then the answer to that conversation is final.

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"For us same sex meets are fine for solo play as it’s something the other cannot offer when in the mood for it, if it’s the opposite sex or couples then a conversation goes - are you ok if I meet x,y,z? Then the answer to that conversation is final.

Can't speak for anyone else, but if offered the chance I wouldn't be able to keep my hands off both of you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some positive input.... My husband and I started out doing everything together, then as I grew in confidence I decided I'd quite like to try some solo adventures. My husband wasn't interested, but fully supported and encouraged me.

We're not in need of counselling, we don't have any relationship issues. In fact, we've been together 21 years and have never been happier

This very evening this actually came up in convo. I'd like us to have some time sharing experiences together only and over time as our confidence grows I'd love it ifnwe we're able to have fun on our own but still share the experiences with each other through pics and vids

Mrs

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By *unInTheSun80sCouple
over a year ago

Costa Del Sol

"It's not something either of us wants to do but we have agreed that when it comes to swinging the no vote always carries it. "

Love the simplicity of this answer, the simple common sense and the pineapple golden rule... no is no!!,

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By *lirtyAndFunCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

Not sure if it's the same situation but I play solo, V has no interest in being involved, he just likes to see me having a good time with others.

It was his idea to join Fab & try this.

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