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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I honestly don't have an issue in fellas messaging me. At all, cos at the end of the day we are all on here for one reason, some fun. So it doesn't bother me other guys sharing experiences, thoughts or any other thing. But for others to message you and say they want some bum fun, and message you with pics of themselves going what do you think? I'm in limbo what to do.

What are your views on it? Do you have them on or off? Cos i tend to fluxuate when i start getting inundated with messages and think ah fuck this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We turn them on and off. Some days we get an insane amount of messages and some only a few. Mrs sure is ruthless to some rude ones.

We just have our fun with the replies or block if it's some extreme stupidity. Some men have this machismo in their messages like they are Zeus.

We really don't mind chatting to single males but as soon as there is any friendliness displayed. They instantly assume that she is spreading her legs for and waiting to jump on their dicks.

Some such attractive males talk like they live in the cave man era. Woman, you mine! We go fuck!

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Only one view it's nice to know I've not been alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could just set your message filters so they can’t message you.

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By *glyBettyTV/TS
over a year ago

Sitting on the table

On every dating app there is always a small percentage of men trying to suck a penis.

And I do mean EVERY app, gay, straight, lesbian, trans, jedi....as sure as there are pic collectors & timewasters on every app, there is always a small but hardy community of speculative cocksuckers of the male persuasion.

It's just an occupational hazard at this point.

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By *leasureseekers123Couple
over a year ago

Heathrow


"I honestly don't have an issue in fellas messaging me. At all, cos at the end of the day we are all on here for one reason, some fun. So it doesn't bother me other guys sharing experiences, thoughts or any other thing. But for others to message you and say they want some bum fun, and message you with pics of themselves going what do you think? I'm in limbo what to do.

What are your views on it? Do you have them on or off? Cos i tend to fluxuate when i start getting inundated with messages and think ah fuck this "

Just as an FYI one of the most incorrect statements routinely posted on this forum is “ we’re all here for the same thing, some fun.”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont mind men message me but put a bit of effort in it instead of hi how are you ffs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it bothers you, filter them out.

If it doesn’t, leave it as is.

There’s not really a middle ground for this conundrum.

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By *ralextacyMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

As above, no issues with anyone messaging me. Just send a good message to get one back x

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

Well as a man I'm happy to receive any messages how I respond depends on the message and whether they've plainly bothered to read my profile

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"You could just set your message filters so they can’t message you. "

Could but shouldn't need to. Couples have single accounts where the guy might be looking for someone to join him and her

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"We turn them on and off. Some days we get an insane amount of messages and some only a few. Mrs sure is ruthless to some rude ones.

We just have our fun with the replies or block if it's some extreme stupidity. Some men have this machismo in their messages like they are Zeus.

We really don't mind chatting to single males but as soon as there is any friendliness displayed. They instantly assume that she is spreading her legs for and waiting to jump on their dicks.

Some such attractive males talk like they live in the cave man era. Woman, you mine! We go fuck! "

I totally agree in the crud messages where they think I just sleep with them just because I am on fab like a free call gal. Yuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If only they would realise that when they do this they simply come across as Delusional & Desperate.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

No need to apply filters if you don't want to.

It takes literal seconds to block and delete if you get a message you're not happy with and that stops all future contact from them.

Simples.

A

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By *e and him 2021Couple
over a year ago

stoke on trent

We don’t really mind but some guys don’t help the other good one we don’t tar them all with the same brush, we just use the block button. We’ve a few things to try and hopefully a good one will pop up and we can have fun but when it’s just dick shot or messages to say they just want a fuck it’s a straight block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You could just set your message filters so they can’t message you.

Could but shouldn't need to. Couples have single accounts where the guy might be looking for someone to join him and her "

The OP isn’t a couple from what I can see.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You could just set your message filters so they can’t message you.

Could but shouldn't need to. Couples have single accounts where the guy might be looking for someone to join him and her "

Well if that happens they can either message from the couple's account or the partners account, not to hard

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By *ilfCrumpet9Man
over a year ago

North West

I don't mind either or we can are on here for fun

Get messages from both sexes the more the merrier

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"You could just set your message filters so they can’t message you.

Could but shouldn't need to. Couples have single accounts where the guy might be looking for someone to join him and her

The OP isn’t a couple from what I can see. "

I know, wasn't meaning him but as other users whom have single accounts but as well as a couple's one

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

The respectful messages don't bother me, I'll happily chat to makes, the ones sending their cock and asking to meet are a bit annoying I mean there's a huge notice pops up when males try to message to say this couple isn't interested in single males so it's just a waste of their and my time.

Mrs

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"You could just set your message filters so they can’t message you. "

This ^^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a person who genuinely enjoys interacting with people I don't mind getting messages from any sex. I've gotten quite the handful of messages from guys, while some have been good conversationalists others simply shoot some variation of "I want your cuck in either of my holes".

I understand how it feels to get ignored so sometimes I simply decline offers or redirect the conversation. Although these days I'm of the school that simply deletes the messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You could just set your message filters so they can’t message you.

Could but shouldn't need to. Couples have single accounts where the guy might be looking for someone to join him and her

The OP isn’t a couple from what I can see.

I know, wasn't meaning him but as other users whom have single accounts but as well as a couple's one "

Good point well made

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m a straight older man, I don’t mind talking to anyone but when they know I’m straight why say things like I want your cock, I just block them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always find that a clear message if your not interested is to simply delete their message without replying.

If you reply a simple ‘I’m not interested in meeting guys but happy to chat’ is good.

I think blocking should be reserved for those who are rude or pestering

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By *fter dinner delightCouple
over a year ago

bury st edmunds/london

I get a few asking to meet for blow jobs I reply kindly and say no.

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