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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Having been on here a while and had quite a few private meets.iv got. involved with a lady who wants to be on as a couple.but because i dont tell her about them,shes says im a lier and has fallen out with me.surely i can meet who i want and keep it private.what do you all think....

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

there are some desperate to be a couple, on both sides. although agreeing boundaries is key before hooking up as honesty is important

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

dont understand why she needs to know everyone that u meet with. Seems a wee bit odd.. I wud just move on and forget about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

some people can be like this

and again boundries does she want to be a couple as in couple or just fuck buds?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I dont know what to think.if it was other way round id say good for her. Yes i liked the idea of a couple as buddys ..when weve been out as a couple were great....where does one draw the line though....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

only you can decide this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like this post could be in the "is this a swinging site or a dating site" thread lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Having been on here a while and had quite a few private meets.iv got. involved with a lady who wants to be on as a couple.but because i dont tell her about them,shes says im a lier and has fallen out with me.surely i can meet who i want and keep it private.what do you all think...."

You don't say what your involvement is with the lady, maybe she would like there to be more to it.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"Having been on here a while and had quite a few private meets.iv got. involved with a lady who wants to be on as a couple.but because i dont tell her about them,shes says im a lier and has fallen out with me.surely i can meet who i want and keep it private.what do you all think...."

I have an fb on here (I introduced him to the site) but we are both free to meet others and we both talk openly about it. Suits us both. I think what you are experiencing is someone who has developed feelings who just cannot handle it. There is a danger there of someone getting hurt. I would handle it carefully. She hasn't done anything horrible but have feelings towards you - so be honest and open. But at the end of the day - she has to deal with these feelings.

Maybe she is just protecting herself by cutting contact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having been on here a while and had quite a few private meets.iv got. involved with a lady who wants to be on as a couple.but because i dont tell her about them,shes says im a lier and has fallen out with me.surely i can meet who i want and keep it private.what do you all think...."

All depends by what you mean involved. Just friends with benefits or something more? Does she know where you both stand relationship-wise? Are you both interpreting the agreement on where you stand the same way?

I was in a relationship with a girl I met off this site for 6 months. She wanted to be in an open relationship and I agreed as long as we were honest with each other. She didn't understand why I got upset when in the 5th month I found out that she had been seeing her neighbour for about a month (after saying the whole time she wasn't interested in anyone else, I checked now and then as I occasionally saw a couple I had met before meeting her and wanted to check that she was Ok with it and she didn't want to find someone to play with, she declined any group meets - 3 was 1 too many) and had told her mum and gran that she had 2 boyfriends...apparently she had been honest with me as she hadn't lied...?! It fell apart with her saying an open relationship wasn't for me and me arguing I was OK with one but she wasn't being honest. She still thinks she's the most honest person around, maybe she is but I'd question it.

Two interpretations of an honest open relationship!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks all for your feedback.i dont think iv done owt wrong. But she says i lied by not telling her.if we were on as a couple it would be different if we arranged to meet as a couple but not yet.

Ps. Its still ongoing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kind of depends what the situation was between you when you met the others. If you were both still in the NSA fun stage and had not mentioned any kind of commitment to each other then in my eyes you were still free to meet others, as after all this is a swinging site for NSA fun with as many partners as you choose to have!

If you had agreed to be FB's/a couple where you discussed you're other meets and maybe only met together then I can see her point as although you may not be in a 'typical' relationship, there has been a conversation about how you meet in the future.

Reading between the lines though, it comes across to me as the first scenario where there was no agreement to play together or with each other knowing so to me she is being a bit unfair to you. This may make me unpopular, but do you want to play in a couple with someone who is already questioning how you play before any kind of arrangement to play together has been discussed...I could be wrong (and I hope I am) but to me this could be a disaster waiting to happen if you aren't both on the same page about what you want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont know what to think.if it was other way round id say good for her. Yes i liked the idea of a couple as buddys ..when weve been out as a couple were great....where does one draw the line though...."

Been out as a couple? Such as having dates and social time together? That to me is over stepping the nsa mark

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont know what to think.if it was other way round id say good for her. Yes i liked the idea of a couple as buddys ..when weve been out as a couple were great....where does one draw the line though...."

Sounds like something for jeremy kyle show

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks again everyone. Advise is taken onboard. Lifes too short to fall out over it (at my age) so were just being more open about meets........regards,and happy swinging......David

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