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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What’s the best way to approach people on this site?

Obviously everyone is completely different and certain things work for certain people.

But are there any universal DON’Ts with sending your first message, other than the classic ‘hey wuu2’.

I find approaching people on text so overwhelming and often will fuck myself over with the giant cock known as ‘awkwardness’

Very much the opposite with face 2 face.

Appreciate any advice and support x

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Hi op

Always read a profile and make sure you're what they might be looking for ..

Try and refer to something in their profile & be polite .

People are different in what they like & don't & many will tell you what they don't want in their text.

Respect age limits too

Good luck.

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By *attoo manMan
over a year ago

Rhyl

Most messages will not even get to be read. Most women will get hundreds of messages per day.But never give up. I like to read there profile first and then message them and send a wink and if they do get to read it and lie it they will let you know. But just saying hi will never do it..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hi op

Always read a profile and make sure you're what they might be looking for ..

Try and refer to something in their profile & be polite .

People are different in what they like & don't & many will tell you what they don't want in their text.

Respect age limits too

Good luck. "

Thank you kindly, that’s good advice for sure.

What throws me off is profiles that don’t scream much of anything, and whether I’m writing too much / not enough

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Most messages will not even get to be read. Most women will get hundreds of messages per day.But never give up. I like to read there profile first and then message them and send a wink and if they do get to read it and lie it they will let you know. But just saying hi will never do it.. "

Oh I can only imagine the horrors that lurk in their inboxes haha.

How many sentences do you usually send ? I feels like I write way too much sometimes haha or does that vary from person to person too ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's really tough. But as people have said, try to personalize messages to peoples profiles. Also, cam rooms can help to. Providing you have a cam on.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Hi op

Always read a profile and make sure you're what they might be looking for ..

Try and refer to something in their profile & be polite .

People are different in what they like & don't & many will tell you what they don't want in their text.

Respect age limits too

Good luck.

Thank you kindly, that’s good advice for sure.

What throws me off is profiles that don’t scream much of anything, and whether I’m writing too much / not enough "

As said above, refer to something you've read in the profile - definitely better than making reference to a photo you've seen. There's only so many comments of 'nice tits' or 'cracking arse' a guy can take. I'm assuming they meant me anyway.

Some, like us, won't even read a message until they've viewed a profile so it's important that yours catches the eye as a ground breakingly brilliant opening message will be a complete waste of time if the reader gets all excited and then immediately put off from a profile. I've seen some shockers over the years. Yours wouldn't fall into that category at all, but it's important to always remember that no matter how witty, entertaining, devastatingly handsome and well hung us men think we are (and of course may well be).....that the person we're contacting may not think so.

Just be you. That's all that anyone can do to boost their chances.

A

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"What’s the best way to approach people on this site?

Obviously everyone is completely different and certain things work for certain people.

But are there any universal DON’Ts with sending your first message, other than the classic ‘hey wuu2’.

I find approaching people on text so overwhelming and often will fuck myself over with the giant cock known as ‘awkwardness’

Very much the opposite with face 2 face.

Appreciate any advice and support x "
Trust me on this, the best way is to wait for them to message you, dont beat yourself up about your messages to them be patient

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I really don't think there's any universal do and don'ts and people tolerances are different. I prefer winks first. I hate sex pics. I like seeing face and cock pics. But the next woman might want complete opposite to me.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"What’s the best way to approach people on this site?

Obviously everyone is completely different and certain things work for certain people.

But are there any universal DON’Ts with sending your first message, other than the classic ‘hey wuu2’.

I find approaching people on text so overwhelming and often will fuck myself over with the giant cock known as ‘awkwardness’

Very much the opposite with face 2 face.

Appreciate any advice and support x Trust me on this, the best way is to wait for them to message you, dont beat yourself up about your messages to them be patient "

I rarely message men first. Don't have time. Too busy reading and deleting unwanted messages

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Some women block men from messaging and will message first. I won't do that myself and actually expect men, if genuinely interested, message first. But prefer after we both winked at eachother

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By *ilkchocolate87Man
over a year ago

sw london

Due to the amount of messages women get I feel it’s 90% down to timing if your message is considered. You may have the perfect message but if you can’t get past the 100 others it’s gonna be tough.

I find anything from here is a bonus to other sites

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By *oupleSouthEast69Couple
over a year ago

brighton

When I was looking to solo meet the things that would get a reply from me were -

Being local

Having verifications

Having a good pfp. A nice naked torso would usually get my attention.

No dick pics in the message!!

Writing something relevant to my interests

And also - getting me at the right moment, which is not something anyone can control and is totally down to chance!!

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By *ick NG10Man
over a year ago

long eaton

I have the same problem most go unread, but as others have said i think women here get that many msgs its impossible to open them all. Not sure my profile is the best either im useless at that stuff being new to this.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As said above, refer to something you've read in the profile - definitely better than making reference to a photo you've seen. There's only so many comments of 'nice tits' or 'cracking arse' a guy can take. I'm assuming they meant me anyway.

Some, like us, won't even read a message until they've viewed a profile so it's important that yours catches the eye as a ground breakingly brilliant opening message will be a complete waste of time if the reader gets all excited and then immediately put off from a profile. I've seen some shockers over the years. Yours wouldn't fall into that category at all, but it's important to always remember that no matter how witty, entertaining, devastatingly handsome and well hung us men think we are (and of course may well be).....that the person we're contacting may not think so.

Just be you. That's all that anyone can do to boost their chances.

A"

This has been incredibly insightful. I can’t thank you enough!

I’m glad that my profile is up to standard, I put a lot of effort to try and capture my personality rather than my Johnson xD

I honestly think I just need to let loose with my opening messages

X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Trust me on this, the best way is to wait for them to message you, dont beat yourself up about your messages to them be patient "

Ah yes. Patience always seems to be the centre of most solutions haha. Thank you friend! X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I really don't think there's any universal do and don'ts and people tolerances are different. I prefer winks first. I hate sex pics. I like seeing face and cock pics. But the next woman might want complete opposite to me."

I never really thought to use the wink function! Might start incorporating it when I approach people in the future x

Thank you!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just wanted to say thank you all for posting some really awesome advice. It’s given me some more perspective on how this community works and I just really appreciate how helpful and nice everyone can be xx

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