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By *rFoxAndXeno OP   Couple
over a year ago

Weymouth

A bit of perspective for you fellas - we may not post about it as much as you so therefore it seems a non existent phenomenon.

I promise we get ignored too!!

By other couples, women, and GASP yes men too!! Have been given the cold shoulder by many blokes.

There seems to be this idea that MF couples can have anybody they like....not true, other people have preferences and turns off just like us, and yes it stings when we get brushed off but it's just life!

It's no reflection on you or how attractive you are, fellas

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By *ain and sortedMan
over a year ago

Old Harlow Essex

I think it's all about the timing,of contact, everyone's lives are so consumed with other issues, work, family, vanillia social life etc, if you catch someone's eye in a pub or club it's more spontaneous, swinging much the same, hence why I find clubs much more effective way of meeting like minds, example one time I messaged a lady who was attending the same club night got brushed off, however when I arrived, she approached me with a nice hello and we ended up having a great night, as I get older im understanding people's behaviour more. I'm just a normal gent who likes fun with like minds x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A simple no thanks reply would go down well though

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"A simple no thanks reply would go down well though"

But a no reply after reading says everything unless you prefer a delete as well

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"A simple no thanks reply would go down well though"

The problem is that a response can lead to a less pleasant message.

The FAQs also state that no response = no / not interested.

Nita

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A simple no thanks reply would go down well though"

If you had hundreds of messages waiting to be read would you reply to every single one and then a percentage giving you shit back or still pushing.

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By *lowhands7Man
over a year ago

South Leicestershire


"A bit of perspective for you fellas - we may not post about it as much as you so therefore it seems a non existent phenomenon.

I promise we get ignored too!!

Thank you for taking the time to post this, it's restores my faith in the fact that there are genuine people out there!!

Actually, to back up another point made on this thread, it's all about timing, I have met some fantastic people on here, they are no all ignorant or time wasters!

By other couples, women, and GASP yes men too!! Have been given the cold shoulder by many blokes.

There seems to be this idea that MF couples can have anybody they like....not true, other people have preferences and turns off just like us, and yes it stings when we get brushed off but it's just life!

It's no reflection on you or how attractive you are, fellas "

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By *heBlowinsCouple
over a year ago

West Cork


"A simple no thanks reply would go down well though

If you had hundreds of messages waiting to be read would you reply to every single one and then a percentage giving you shit back or still pushing."

Thissss ^^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd assume the receiver could just block instead of ignore/reply/delete.

Saves abuse/repeat messages on their end and gives a crystal clear answer to the sender.

Some people don't reply because they're busy and might intend to later, when they've thought of a witty comeback.

TL:DR Please block if not interested.

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By *ilthyRacersCouple
over a year ago

Coventry


"A simple no thanks reply would go down well though"

Replying with a no thanks also means that if a couple, or woman, choose to block single men that guy will be exempt from the block because they system sees that as previous conversation.

It would render the block filter pretty useless.

S

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By *rFoxAndXeno OP   Couple
over a year ago

Weymouth


"A simple no thanks reply would go down well though"

For our own egos yes, but we respect that the people who ignore our messages have every right to do so!

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By *rFoxAndXeno OP   Couple
over a year ago

Weymouth


"A simple no thanks reply would go down well though

But a no reply after reading says everything unless you prefer a delete as well "

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter


"A simple no thanks reply would go down well though

If you had hundreds of messages waiting to be read would you reply to every single one and then a percentage giving you shit back or still pushing."

So true!

Another problem with the majority of single guys is that they take any non rejection reply as a sign of interest or invite to meet. We've had one today where we just friendly talked about a club, two messages later they are asking to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

HI Funny when people complain To much fake profile,time waisted , photoshop. IM single and real my picture not fake. i send 20 messages daily and not one replay.Im disappointed

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By *lwaysonmymind!Man
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

Your right!!

I am surprised

But at the same time I’m not. I think men’s perspective’s on this issue is that we see a lot of woman that are complaining about time wasting but genuine single men like myself are putting effort into messaging, reviewing their profile regularly, participating in forums and yet still, not even a simple no thank you.

I suppose we are all going to have our good and bad points about fab. The one thing I love about it though is we can talk to each other about it.

Happy fabbing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great statement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A simple no thanks reply would go down well though"

Couples can get flooded with mail. Hundreds etc

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

Having had a couples profile I can assure you it's bloody hard work ,

Trying to meet people via fab is a high risk activity for anyone ..go to socials or clubs ...

This removes the online nutters ..

In the real world it's very different ,with it's own challenges ..as a couple trying to find another couple we both liked physically , could hold a engaging conversation and we're charming ...near impossible.

We found the quality of guys , not in couples but chatting to single guys in clubs much better. There is just a lot more choice and a lot of nice guys.

So any single guys that are struggling on here get out and talk to folk and if your sociable and presentable you will do well

Also don't make this weird dimension your main dating route sending countless pointless messages ...you'll just get down .the ratios are obviously horrendous ..get out and chat up people in the real world , there are tonnes of single ladies out there.

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

Personally I prefer a delete. Then I can put them on my block list as not to waste my or their time

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By *rFoxAndXeno OP   Couple
over a year ago

Weymouth

I think my main point has been missed somewhat. Single guys aren't the only ones who get ignored

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Couples profile isn't easy, 3/4 way attraction is hard and often you do find it and the other party aren't interested.

Not just men that have a tough time of it.

As said above too if we replied to every man with a no thanks (even though there's a huge warning pops up when they message to say this couple isn't looking for men) then when we block males these ones can still message and do repeatedly it's annoying!

However I do reply to the nice ones that acknowledge we're not looking for men.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having had a couples profile I can assure you it's bloody hard work ,

Trying to meet people via fab is a high risk activity for anyone ..go to socials or clubs ...

This removes the online nutters ..

In the real world it's very different ,with it's own challenges ..as a couple trying to find another couple we both liked physically , could hold a engaging conversation and we're charming ...near impossible.

We found the quality of guys , not in couples but chatting to single guys in clubs much better. There is just a lot more choice and a lot of nice guys.

So any single guys that are struggling on here get out and talk to folk and if your sociable and presentable you will do well

Also don't make this weird dimension your main dating route sending countless pointless messages ...you'll just get down .the ratios are obviously horrendous ..get out and chat up people in the real world , there are tonnes of single ladies out there.

"

Yes sir. In a sense attending clubs cuts out all of this bullshit that we deal with on Fab. Also less screen time so that's a benefit.

Think we're just putting up a status the day before we go. If people who we've chatted or hotlisted are there, great. Lets really have a chat and see if we are good. Cut out the back and forth non sense of what we were up to today on messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think my main point has been missed somewhat. Single guys aren't the only ones who get ignored "

I got you!

Fwiw I proactively seek out MM couples on here (actual couples not two straight mates) as they’re vanishingly rare, and so far I have a 100% rejection rate

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham


"A bit of perspective for you fellas - we may not post about it as much as you so therefore it seems a non existent phenomenon.

I promise we get ignored too!!

By other couples, women, and GASP yes men too!! Have been given the cold shoulder by many blokes.

There seems to be this idea that MF couples can have anybody they like....not true, other people have preferences and turns off just like us, and yes it stings when we get brushed off but it's just life!

It's no reflection on you or how attractive you are, fellas "

I think the odds are better for couples than single guys though.

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By *rFoxAndXeno OP   Couple
over a year ago

Weymouth


"A bit of perspective for you fellas - we may not post about it as much as you so therefore it seems a non existent phenomenon.

I promise we get ignored too!!

By other couples, women, and GASP yes men too!! Have been given the cold shoulder by many blokes.

There seems to be this idea that MF couples can have anybody they like....not true, other people have preferences and turns off just like us, and yes it stings when we get brushed off but it's just life!

It's no reflection on you or how attractive you are, fellas

I think the odds are better for couples than single guys though."

Oh absolutely, if only because the numbers are tipped in our favour!

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