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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What lessons can anyone help with

Any red flags to beware of when looking for the third male ?

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

A maths deficiency

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By *heauldadventurerMan
over a year ago

City Centre

Best experience I had was a guy we just picked up in bar

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By *rummy2020Man
over a year ago

Birmingham


"A maths deficiency "

That’s a brilliant spot

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Haha explain

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Was you d*unk how was it good ? Message privately if you wish

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By *rummy2020Man
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Haha explain"

Read back what you put chap. A third male ….

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By *imply DeeWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

Do you mean you’re in a couple and looking for a third, them being male?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Look for verifications by other couples.

Lots of guys fantasies can become an embarrassing reality when the cards are down.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How do you mean ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you mean ? "

You should use the “reply + quote” button so people know who you’re talking to.

Assuming it’s us…

Some guys find they can’t get it up once they’re in a real situation with a couple.

It can be a challenging dynamic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you mean ?

You should use the “reply + quote” button so people know who you’re talking to.

Assuming it’s us…

Some guys find they can’t get it up once they’re in a real situation with a couple.

It can be a challenging dynamic. "

They could always do oral, kissing and fingers?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you mean ?

You should use the “reply + quote” button so people know who you’re talking to.

Assuming it’s us…

Some guys find they can’t get it up once they’re in a real situation with a couple.

It can be a challenging dynamic.

They could always do oral, kissing and fingers? "

May as well invite another woman then?

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By *os Amantes 22Couple
over a year ago

sexy lane

We are also planning our first mmf in a club in January but found guys in clubs to be pushy in the past

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By *a_fun_30_coupleCouple
over a year ago

Durham


"How do you mean ?

You should use the “reply + quote” button so people know who you’re talking to.

Assuming it’s us…

Some guys find they can’t get it up once they’re in a real situation with a couple.

It can be a challenging dynamic. "

Or they get it up initially but can’t maintain it.

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By *hippy57Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford

From experience I found it better to invite a older guy to join me and my first wife

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By *tarkersandcrutchCouple
over a year ago

TELFORD

Social meet first.

See if you all feel relaxed.

See what everyone is expecting, having fun and feeling relaxed and safe with someone is the key.

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By *evonrobMan
over a year ago

Kingsbridge


"How do you mean ?

You should use the “reply + quote” button so people know who you’re talking to.

Assuming it’s us…

Some guys find they can’t get it up once they’re in a real situation with a couple.

It can be a challenging dynamic. "

Bet they have fun trying though!!!

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By *etro manMan
over a year ago

manchester

Club meeting are usually good places been to a few and meet fun friendly people and single and couples a few hotel meeting I was at home got a message could I get the Manchester at 10/30pm yes few drinks back to there hotel I watched them he watched me/her she watched me/him and left in the morning

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Club meeting are usually good places been to a few and meet fun friendly people and single and couples a few hotel meeting I was at home got a message could I get the Manchester at 10/30pm yes few drinks back to there hotel I watched them he watched me/her she watched me/him and left in the morning "

That sounds so fun

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Social meet first.

See if you all feel relaxed.

See what everyone is expecting, having fun and feeling relaxed and safe with someone is the key. "

This definitely makes sense has to be chemistry

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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago

Welling

Go to a club. Best place to chat and get to know and make right choice.

If club isn’t an option - read verifications. Make sure they are coming from verified couples itself.

Don’t go for your first 3some with someone who hasn’t been in that situation. I did that mistake with one of my female fwb. She wanted her first mmf and they guy was new to it as well. Ended up with two nervous people in the room and unfortunately that didn’t make it for her. Took me 2 trips to clubs to get her back on track )

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By *iss pleasuringWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near

Social.or club meet

Club is usually my choice then if a no show or they ain't what you expected then the day isn't totally shot

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Social.or club meet

Club is usually my choice then if a no show or they ain't what you expected then the day isn't totally shot"

That does seem fair

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Go to a club. Best place to chat and get to know and make right choice.

If club isn’t an option - read verifications. Make sure they are coming from verified couples itself.

Don’t go for your first 3some with someone who hasn’t been in that situation. I did that mistake with one of my female fwb. She wanted her first mmf and they guy was new to it as well. Ended up with two nervous people in the room and unfortunately that didn’t make it for her. Took me 2 trips to clubs to get her back on track )"

Yeah deffo gotta be with the right people

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Aw I can't find 2 men to mfm. Lucky you only needing one. Communication is the key and mutual respect for eachother

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Go to a club. Best place to chat and get to know and make right choice.

If club isn’t an option - read verifications. Make sure they are coming from verified couples itself.

Don’t go for your first 3some with someone who hasn’t been in that situation. I did that mistake with one of my female fwb. She wanted her first mmf and they guy was new to it as well. Ended up with two nervous people in the room and unfortunately that didn’t make it for her. Took me 2 trips to clubs to get her back on track )

Yeah deffo gotta be with the right people"

I never done it before so i know i need two experienced men

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Aw I can't find 2 men to mfm. Lucky you only needing one. Communication is the key and mutual respect for eachother "

Sure you will

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By *wingercumnudistMan
over a year ago

Hemsworth

We were the same, my wife went in the bar first. She caught the eye of a stranger. When I joined her he came across, asked if we would like a drink. Hour later we were in his room. Naked and she sagged both of us for about 3 hours.

Great night.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We were the same, my wife went in the bar first. She caught the eye of a stranger. When I joined her he came across, asked if we would like a drink. Hour later we were in his room. Naked and she sagged both of us for about 3 hours.

Great night. "

Love that

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By *heekshaMan
over a year ago

Scotland, All Over sometimes .


"A maths deficiency "

Xxoo

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By *heelerMan
over a year ago

Northants


"How do you mean ?

You should use the “reply + quote” button so people know who you’re talking to.

Assuming it’s us…

Some guys find they can’t get it up once they’re in a real situation with a couple.

It can be a challenging dynamic.

They could always do oral, kissing and fingers?

May as well invite another woman then? "

That would be even better ffm

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How do you mean ?

You should use the “reply + quote” button so people know who you’re talking to.

Assuming it’s us…

Some guys find they can’t get it up once they’re in a real situation with a couple.

It can be a challenging dynamic.

They could always do oral, kissing and fingers?

May as well invite another woman then?

Done ffm they are fun

That would be even better ffm"

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

Definitely recommend a club visit or an organised social event. We weren't looking to meet guys initially. We happened to get chatting to one guy in a club who charmed the pants off us both

Some people (men especially) don't come across well online but will shine face to face. The guy we met had the most dreary profile and we'd certainly have skipped him if he'd approached us online.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Definitely recommend a club visit or an organised social event. We weren't looking to meet guys initially. We happened to get chatting to one guy in a club who charmed the pants off us both

Some people (men especially) don't come across well online but will shine face to face. The guy we met had the most dreary profile and we'd certainly have skipped him if he'd approached us online. "

Sound advice I think

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By *eatcrusadersCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

We are not quite sure about meeting a guy online, but hope to meet a nice one in a club. Unfortunately we are yet to find a nice one as the clubs have either been pretty quiet when we went there or just full of pushy or strange guys.

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By *erts_CD71Man
over a year ago

Nottingham hotel

I did a social first before we went back to their place. Meet face to face. Check boundaries, and expectations.

Once we were happy there was some flirting. Getting the lady to swap seats and come over next to me. Allowing her man to see me touch her, kiss her etc while in public.

Then once we were all horny that's when we went to their house and got dirty.

Eased in with no pressure.

Since then usually straight to hotel meets or house invites. But still establish boundaries for St over a drink etc.

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By *hoenix_1Man
over a year ago

richmond


"What lessons can anyone help with

Any red flags to beware of when looking for the third male ? "

that would be a MMM

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By *lowhands7Man
over a year ago

South Leicestershire / Burton on Trent


"What lessons can anyone help with

Any red flags to beware of when looking for the third male ? "

Normally reliability!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of the best sexual dynamics.... amazing

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By *reamers13Couple
over a year ago

Lancashire


"What lessons can anyone help with

Any red flags to beware of when looking for the third male ? "

We’ve had a couple of really good meets with guys, chatted for quite a while and then met up in a hotel. Not really a big fan of socials and chitchat but the guys seemed more than happy to just get down to some dirty fucking, as were we. The guys we met were very relaxed and non-pushy, think that’s a definite green flag for us.

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By *etro manMan
over a year ago

manchester

The good thing about clubs clean safe and people watching is fun exciting and helpful i have met a few couples club or there hotel text me and chat about what you’re looking forward too if and when we meet Manchester Blackpool n west soon

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