FabSwingers.com forum: A little plea for advise from all the lovely ladies

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hello ladies.

I am well aware that you get flooded with messages from gents every day which could lead to missing out messages from genuine, decent guys.

Could you give me some advise how to stand out and catch some attention with a message please. Higly appreciated x

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

I don’t think you need any help

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for the reply. Why is that if may ask ?

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

"Thanks for the reply. Why is that if may ask ?"

You seem to be doing fine. Only thing is I would maybe put a few paragraphs in your bio make it easier to read.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Appreciate that lovely lady

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

"Hello ladies.

I am well aware that you get flooded with messages from gents every day which could lead to missing out messages from genuine, decent guys.

Could you give me some advise how to stand out and catch some attention with a message please. Higly appreciated x"

Your verifications show you are doing ok. You have played with a few. Don't know why you are asking for advice. Some guys been on here years and not met anyone. You are doing good mate.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Sure i met some but it seems that most messages i send dont get opened. Thank you for the reply x

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

"Sure i met some but it seems that most messages i send dont get opened. Thank you for the reply x"

I think that’s the norm for a lot of single men. Don’t take it personally

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What would intrigue you to open a message before other messages ?

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

"Sure i met some but it seems that most messages i send dont get opened. Thank you for the reply x"

This is the same for us when we message women!

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

"What would intrigue you to open a message before other messages ?"

Humour a nice picture and more than a couple of words

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

A profile has to interest me before I will even open a message and I don't get many messages on here.There is no magic formula for a first message for me to want to reply to anyone on here. It is all about whether I like their profile or not really.

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

Don't depend on messages. Focus on getting your profile top notch and then get out and about to events and meet people face to face.

Have plenty of patience and it should start to happen for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You seem to be doing well, so keep doing what you're doing. Believe me, you're doing better than most men here

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

"Sure i met some but it seems that most messages i send dont get opened. Thank you for the reply x"

A lot of women will look at your profile before they even look at your message. If they are not interested the message stays unread or gets deleted.

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By *alleyDaveMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

"Hello ladies.

I am well aware that you get flooded with messages from gents every day which could lead to missing out messages from genuine, decent guys.

Could you give me some advise how to stand out and catch some attention with a message please. Higly appreciated x"

You have five meet verifications in your first five weeks on here mate. Many of us on here have been here for months and years and havnt even had one meet. As for messages, I've not had a reply to any of the messages I've sent in the six months I've been on Fab.

Id live to know your secret mate.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I really appreciate all your replies and wish us all to find what we desire on here xxx

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"Sure i met some but it seems that most messages i send dont get opened. Thank you for the reply x"

It's because you're not for everyone on fab. I hardly get a response from men i like but still meet men. Just a numbers game. Out of the number that interests you, probably only one or two will be a good match as many factors determine whether you guys will meet. I had loads of men who i thought could be a possibility but their messages, photos, sometimes verifications or lack of them and location puts me off. But I am fussy. Think most single women on here are fussy because we get inundated with choice. If we didn't have much choice and you were in the group of small number of men here, I'm sure you would get more success. But as others said, 5 verification in less than a year is impressive.

I couldn't read your bio as there's no paragraph and it just looked too exhausting to read. For me, you needed to be fairly close, great manners as in I liked what you written in your first message and send me good photos of your body and face for me to reply you.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"Sure i met some but it seems that most messages i send dont get opened. Thank you for the reply x

A lot of women will look at your profile before they even look at your message. If they are not interested the message stays unread or gets deleted. "

Tbf I hardly look at profiles. If they had a username and location and sent me a message that didn't intrigued me. I just wouldn't bother looking at their profile and delete message unread. It's the quickest way to filter the millions of messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sure i met some but it seems that most messages i send dont get opened. Thank you for the reply x"

Too many men message every woman online. So any good messages will get lost in the crap.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A profile has to interest me before I will even open a message and I don't get many messages on here.There is no magic formula for a first message for me to want to reply to anyone on here. It is all about whether I like their profile or not really. "

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray

"Hello ladies.

I am well aware that you get flooded with messages from gents every day which could lead to missing out messages from genuine, decent guys.

Could you give me some advise how to stand out and catch some attention with a message please. Higly appreciated x"

I think most single guys would be looking at your profile asking themselves what are they doing wrong, alot of guys been on here for years and still had no meets. Youv been on 5 weeks and have a good few verifications. Not bad if you ask me!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That makes a lot of sense.

highly appreciated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The big chunk of text would make me click off instantly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The big chunk of text would make me click off instantly."

See now this amuses me and interests me . Iv spent a week changing my account to have more detail as i was told my small profile bio reflected lack of effort

But then had a few message and say i cba reading all ur blurb hahahaa u realy cant win lololol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The big chunk of text would make me click off instantly.

See now this amuses me and interests me . Iv spent a week changing my account to have more detail as i was told my small profile bio reflected lack of effort

But then had a few message and say i cba reading all ur blurb hahahaa u realy cant win lololol xx"

There's a difference between having paragraphs and it just being a massive wall of text though.

Some people don't want to read long profiles and some do.

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester

"The big chunk of text would make me click off instantly."

I agree with the others. It’s not the content, it just needs spaces!

Maybe a couple more photos, we always look at the profile first before reading the message

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks again for all the helpful advises x

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Look ok to me but I would like to see more photos

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's the person and right approach that interests, not particularly the message. Keep it away from sex, if you can.

The profile will be viewed, before the message. Invest 99%of your efforts in to this, including having a range of photos. It's the only way we can get to know if we may be interested

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

"The big chunk of text would make me click off instantly.

See now this amuses me and interests me . Iv spent a week changing my account to have more detail as i was told my small profile bio reflected lack of effort

But then had a few message and say i cba reading all ur blurb hahahaa u realy cant win lololol xx"

You won't satisfy everyone. Though having paragraphs, with spaces between them, will be more satisfying to view

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

The only thing I'd say op are maybe more public pics on your profile and the squirting bit puts me off ,but I'm easy put off lol.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I really love each and every reply and highly appreciate all your effort and time trying to give some advise on this matter. Good night everyone. Few hours sleep before the last work day and then......11 days off

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By *alleyDaveMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

"Hello ladies.

I am well aware that you get flooded with messages from gents every day which could lead to missing out messages from genuine, decent guys.

Could you give me some advise how to stand out and catch some attention with a message please. Higly appreciated x

My thoughts exactly.

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By *edgirlWoman
over a year ago

Berkhamsted

"See now this amuses me and interests me . Iv spent a week changing my account to have more detail as i was told my small profile bio reflected lack of effort

But then had a few message and say i cba reading all ur blurb hahahaa u realy cant win lololol xx"

Ignore the ones that say CBA. They're either interested or not lol. For me, a detailed profile is a trillion times better than an empty one.

Probably lots of people ignore mine for being too long. If they're not interested in what I have to say then I'm not interested in them lol!

I'd definitely say stick with what u have now x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had this chat and had a lot of good tips a week or two ago

Look for the lounge thread, 'First messages what do fabbers write?'

or copy and paste this link when you are logged in

https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/1390780

if that works here

Anyone is more likely to miss out on getting messages at all if they set their age groups too strictly.

95% of my messages get read eventually but some may have been part of a bulk delete as well

If you are getting meets that does count as WINS though

"Hello ladies.

I am well aware that you get flooded with messages from gents every day which could lead to missing out messages from genuine, decent guys.

Could you give me some advise how to stand out and catch some attention with a message please. Higly appreciated x"

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By *oubledongWoman
over a year ago

Headington, Oxford

Everyone is different, but for me, but the following go in the bin unread.

Txt speak

Blank profiles

Men that can’t read

Multiple messages from the same person that clearly couldn’t wait for me to see their 1st message before bombarding me with more.

That reduces my mailbox by about 80%. Then it just depends on what kind of mood I am in and what I am interested in that day. Sometimes I feel like picking somebody for a potential meeting, sometimes just look to see who is interested in me, with no real intention to arrange anything.

The main advice I would give is be patient. Sometimes I can read a message but be tired of replying, but haven’t deleted the message as I might go back later for a closer look. Sometimes I might reply a few weeks later when I have time to look more closely. But if that person has sent more messages pestering or worse complaining about the lack of reply, the in the bin it goes.

Harsh I know, but even a golden oldie like me has no shortage of invitations, so it is fiercely competitive to stand out. Anyone that can hold a reasonably sane conversation and has read my profile at least gets their message read.

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