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By *luebellRacer OP   Couple
over a year ago

Shropshire

So over the past 2 years, I have developed a disability which affects my mobility.

We have been very quiet over this time due to this, but I just wanted to share a really positive experience.

Went to a club for the first time since , Club Play in Blackpool actually. I took my stick, as hypermobility and pleaser heels could be quite a combo! My stick is from Neowalk, so is super snazzy, glittery rainbow and lights up. The response was great! Everyone loved the stick, was a great talking point and definitely didn't deter anyone, as we ended up in a massive orgy with an audience by the end of the night!

So, don't be afraid! We're all diverse and amazing nothing should be a barrier to awesome, sexy times!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Brilliant!! Love this. Glad you had a great time.

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By *ickyfinnCouple
over a year ago

navan

Excellent to read that

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By *amesBeelzebubMan
over a year ago

norwich

Good for you

You look incredible. A stick doesn't take anything away from you.

Christina Applegate now has a stick and has MS but I think she's gorgeous

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By *OXO2018Couple
over a year ago

Norfolk

Welcome to the club

I’ve been disabled since birth and swinging 10 years

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By *rOralMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Noiiceee! Happy for you!

I know is possible, been there done that; although sometimes is harder to get a meet and start connecting with the right people ‘cause most wouldn’t dare to even try if you know what I mean, but once that uncertanty (from others) fades away, is totally achievable

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By *etro manMan
over a year ago

manchester

Club play Blackpool is a good meeting place been lots of times and met fun people next time you see me say hi

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

taunton somerset

great to hear this swinging is for all ..

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By *luebellRacer OP   Couple
over a year ago

Shropshire


"Noiiceee! Happy for you!

I know is possible, been there done that; although sometimes is harder to get a meet and start connecting with the right people ‘cause most wouldn’t dare to even try if you know what I mean, but once that uncertanty (from others) fades away, is totally achievable "

Yeah definitely get what you mean. We tend to only do club meets anyway. I'm fine, as long as you don't want me to walk miles or do tonnes of stairs!

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By *kultraCouple
over a year ago

chesterfield


"Noiiceee! Happy for you!

I know is possible, been there done that; although sometimes is harder to get a meet and start connecting with the right people ‘cause most wouldn’t dare to even try if you know what I mean, but once that uncertanty (from others) fades away, is totally achievable "

If only I lived closer. Definitely wouldn’t put me off, that smile of yours makes me melt

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By *achel SmythTV/TS
over a year ago

Farnborough

You look a stunning couple … it is about people, not what they can or cannot do.

Lovely to hear such a positive story xxx

R xc

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By *urvyBi-84Man
over a year ago

Lancs


"So over the past 2 years, I have developed a disability which affects my mobility.

We have been very quiet over this time due to this, but I just wanted to share a really positive experience.

Went to a club for the first time since , Club Play in Blackpool actually. I took my stick, as hypermobility and pleaser heels could be quite a combo! My stick is from Neowalk, so is super snazzy, glittery rainbow and lights up. The response was great! Everyone loved the stick, was a great talking point and definitely didn't deter anyone, as we ended up in a massive orgy with an audience by the end of the night!

So, don't be afraid! We're all diverse and amazing nothing should be a barrier to awesome, sexy times! "

Great to see you had such an awesome experience My partner also has hypermobility and a purple Neowalk stick, and comes to Club Play with me occasionally (although usually to socialise rather than play). Everyone was really welcoming to her too, it’s a great place

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By *rOralMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"Noiiceee! Happy for you!

I know is possible, been there done that; although sometimes is harder to get a meet and start connecting with the right people ‘cause most wouldn’t dare to even try if you know what I mean, but once that uncertanty (from others) fades away, is totally achievable

If only I lived closer. Definitely wouldn’t put me off, that smile of yours makes me melt "

Never say never

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By *luebellRacer OP   Couple
over a year ago

Shropshire


"Noiiceee! Happy for you!

I know is possible, been there done that; although sometimes is harder to get a meet and start connecting with the right people ‘cause most wouldn’t dare to even try if you know what I mean, but once that uncertanty (from others) fades away, is totally achievable

If only I lived closer. Definitely wouldn’t put me off, that smile of yours makes me melt

Never say never "

Petition for a UK visit!!!!

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By *kultraCouple
over a year ago

chesterfield


"Noiiceee! Happy for you!

I know is possible, been there done that; although sometimes is harder to get a meet and start connecting with the right people ‘cause most wouldn’t dare to even try if you know what I mean, but once that uncertanty (from others) fades away, is totally achievable

If only I lived closer. Definitely wouldn’t put me off, that smile of yours makes me melt

Never say never

Petition for a UK visit!!!!

"

I’ll sign it

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

I happen to be deaf I find it actually puts women off more.timws the I care to count

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By *rOralMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"Noiiceee! Happy for you!

I know is possible, been there done that; although sometimes is harder to get a meet and start connecting with the right people ‘cause most wouldn’t dare to even try if you know what I mean, but once that uncertanty (from others) fades away, is totally achievable

If only I lived closer. Definitely wouldn’t put me off, that smile of yours makes me melt

Never say never

Petition for a UK visit!!!!

I’ll sign it "

*** Starts packing ***

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By *luebellRacer OP   Couple
over a year ago

Shropshire


"Noiiceee! Happy for you!

I know is possible, been there done that; although sometimes is harder to get a meet and start connecting with the right people ‘cause most wouldn’t dare to even try if you know what I mean, but once that uncertanty (from others) fades away, is totally achievable

If only I lived closer. Definitely wouldn’t put me off, that smile of yours makes me melt

Never say never

Petition for a UK visit!!!!

I’ll sign it

*** Starts packing *** "

***Waits impatiently***

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Aww great post op

My other half has ms & back problems and has taken a back seat for a while .

I'm glad you've got back into it and had such a positive experience.

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By *randmrs17Couple
over a year ago

Wigan

Glad you had a great experience! Husband is an ambulatory wheelchair user but has found the club scene to be inclusive and accommodating… as well as a lot of fun!

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By *utdooryoneMan
over a year ago

Over there

What a great post.

Glad you had a fab time.

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By *ischiefManaged69Couple
over a year ago

Preston


"So over the past 2 years, I have developed a disability which affects my mobility.

We have been very quiet over this time due to this, but I just wanted to share a really positive experience.

Went to a club for the first time since , Club Play in Blackpool actually. I took my stick, as hypermobility and pleaser heels could be quite a combo! My stick is from Neowalk, so is super snazzy, glittery rainbow and lights up. The response was great! Everyone loved the stick, was a great talking point and definitely didn't deter anyone, as we ended up in a massive orgy with an audience by the end of the night!

So, don't be afraid! We're all diverse and amazing nothing should be a barrier to awesome, sexy times! "

What an awesome and positive post. Having the right will and attitude can overcome a lot of obstacles. Glad you had a great time, we'll keep an eye out for the flashing stick!

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside

In Cap D'Agde this summer a disabled French guy in a wheelchair was having more fun than most of us.

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By *ornishkink69Man
over a year ago

penzance

Own who you are.

You are incredibly sexy x

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By *luebellRacer OP   Couple
over a year ago

Shropshire


"Own who you are.

You are incredibly sexy x"

Thank you

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By *unthum62Man
over a year ago

Benidorm

We are who we are. So pleased the op enjoyed a positive experience with people who were accepting and understanding and saw past the physical issues.

I enjoyed 3 wonderful years with a girl who was mostly confined to a wheelchair and believe me, sexy is not about the physical.

Where there is a will, there is a way. Well, lots of ways actually, but thats another story.

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By *he force is strongeCouple
over a year ago

Doncaster

We know a few people with disabilities that go to Quest and they always have lots of fun.

We always go more for personality,if we get on and have a connection nothing else really matters.

You guys have an amazing profile and pics and you look stunning xx

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By *etro manMan
over a year ago

manchester

Good friendly people and nice place to meet up bi party check and have fun

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By *_the_impalerMan
over a year ago

canterbury

I think the people who are inclusive and can converse with others are the one that we really have fun with. So glad that club is so positive and nobody should not feel comfortable in a club.

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By *londebiguyMan
over a year ago

Southport

Excellent stuff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So over the past 2 years, I have developed a disability which affects my mobility.

We have been very quiet over this time due to this, but I just wanted to share a really positive experience.

Went to a club for the first time since , Club Play in Blackpool actually. I took my stick, as hypermobility and pleaser heels could be quite a combo! My stick is from Neowalk, so is super snazzy, glittery rainbow and lights up. The response was great! Everyone loved the stick, was a great talking point and definitely didn't deter anyone, as we ended up in a massive orgy with an audience by the end of the night!

So, don't be afraid! We're all diverse and amazing nothing should be a barrier to awesome, sexy times! "

Well done to you for being brave enough to do what you did.

I suffer from hypermobility and also have a medial meniscus tear in my knee (awaiting surgery) and have recently started using a crutch, so know how you feel.

Don't know about you, but it leaves me feeling a little vulnerable.

I'm so pleased you had a great night, and it goes to show what a great community we have.

Great pics by the way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So over the past 2 years, I have developed a disability which affects my mobility.

We have been very quiet over this time due to this, but I just wanted to share a really positive experience.

Went to a club for the first time since , Club Play in Blackpool actually. I took my stick, as hypermobility and pleaser heels could be quite a combo! My stick is from Neowalk, so is super snazzy, glittery rainbow and lights up. The response was great! Everyone loved the stick, was a great talking point and definitely didn't deter anyone, as we ended up in a massive orgy with an audience by the end of the night!

So, don't be afraid! We're all diverse and amazing nothing should be a barrier to awesome, sexy times! "

Well done to you for being brave enough to do what you did.

I suffer from hypermobility and also have a medial meniscus tear in my knee (awaiting surgery) and have recently started using a crutch, so know how you feel.

Don't know about you, but it leaves me feeling a little vulnerable.

I'm so pleased you had a great night, and it goes to show what a great community we have.

Great pics by the way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well done I've a disability of sorts got diagnosed with Cronic leukaemia about this time last year so just you enjoy life I am

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By *izaandstuCouple
over a year ago

Wigan

My partner feels the same she had her leg amputated below the knee and is worried about nobody wanting to play now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My partner feels the same she had her leg amputated below the knee and is worried about nobody wanting to play now"

I can’t begin to imagine the confidence knock that must have been and what she’s had to cope with but I really hope her confidence comes back. There certainly are those of us out there who wouldn’t be bothered in the slightest about it. Sending positive vibes for you both x

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

So glad you posted this.

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By *agicmarcMan
over a year ago

tonyrefail


"So over the past 2 years, I have developed a disability which affects my mobility.

We have been very quiet over this time due to this, but I just wanted to share a really positive experience.

Went to a club for the first time since , Club Play in Blackpool actually. I took my stick, as hypermobility and pleaser heels could be quite a combo! My stick is from Neowalk, so is super snazzy, glittery rainbow and lights up. The response was great! Everyone loved the stick, was a great talking point and definitely didn't deter anyone, as we ended up in a massive orgy with an audience by the end of the night!

So, don't be afraid! We're all diverse and amazing nothing should be a barrier to awesome, sexy times! "

this makes me happy as i have cerebral palsy and get nervous about my disibilty i’m off to club play next month

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By *eepgliderMan
over a year ago

Chacewater

At club friend and I used to go to, selectively there was a concentration of disabled people there because of the facilities. For instance some can have sex when in water, in the swimming pool, if they have a disability which has them in a wheelchair.

We were proud of the inclusivity.

It felt good to be part of something where many folk were happy.

I had sex with ladies who would otherwise have been classified as having a tough time. One, gyrating divinely, suddenly asked me in a matter of fact voice "Is there anything you wouldn't fuck??!". The answers is yes - but someone vivacious and keen to "do it" isn't one of them, even if they have just had surgery for cancer and lost all their hair, etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love love love this! Mad respect

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By *cottish guy 555Man
over a year ago

London

I accompany a lady friend with a disability to various clubs and events. I myself have some health issues. It is lovely to read of your continuing journey in the lifestyle and overcoming such obstacles and of the welcoming and inclusive nature of swingers

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire


"So over the past 2 years, I have developed a disability which affects my mobility.

We have been very quiet over this time due to this, but I just wanted to share a really positive experience.

Went to a club for the first time since , Club Play in Blackpool actually. I took my stick, as hypermobility and pleaser heels could be quite a combo! My stick is from Neowalk, so is super snazzy, glittery rainbow and lights up. The response was great! Everyone loved the stick, was a great talking point and definitely didn't deter anyone, as we ended up in a massive orgy with an audience by the end of the night!

So, don't be afraid! We're all diverse and amazing nothing should be a barrier to awesome, sexy times! "

Just wonderful to read, thankyou for posting. x

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)


"So over the past 2 years, I have developed a disability which affects my mobility.

We have been very quiet over this time due to this, but I just wanted to share a really positive experience.

Went to a club for the first time since , Club Play in Blackpool actually. I took my stick, as hypermobility and pleaser heels could be quite a combo! My stick is from Neowalk, so is super snazzy, glittery rainbow and lights up. The response was great! Everyone loved the stick, was a great talking point and definitely didn't deter anyone, as we ended up in a massive orgy with an audience by the end of the night!

So, don't be afraid! We're all diverse and amazing nothing should be a barrier to awesome, sexy times! "

I'm saving up for a neowalk they are so pretty...

So glad you were welcome

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley


"I happen to be deaf I find it actually puts women off more.timws the I care to count "

That’s a shame. I have a few friends with hearing impairments and wear hearing aids. I’ve never had an issue with it as long as I’m aware of it and know that I need to face them or stand on a particular side. I’m also aware when we’re in a group that it can be difficult to hear everything that’s being said. The club I go to has quiet areas and makes it easier to chat.

I hope anyone reading your comment will be more understanding.

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By *izaandstuCouple
over a year ago

Wigan

Thankyou everyone for the kind messages it means a lot xx

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By *tokedaytimeguyMan
over a year ago

stoke

I have a physical disability/birth defect. I make no mention of it on my profile. Should I? If I do ever get a reply to a message I do bring it up immediately. I walk with a pronounced limp and have bodily scarring from various surgery’s. This does make me hugely self conscious and kind of rules clubs out for me. In life I’m literally the most confident flirty guy going but when it come to my body. Well thats a different story.

I’ve recently come out of a 15 year relationship and my disability did have a baring on that. My high sex drive did too to be fair and I’ll always be grateful that she was honest about this.

I have had one meet through fab. It went well. Or I thought it did. She’s some actress if she didn’t enjoy herself and we did seem to get on like a house on fire too. However even though discussing the fact we were both looking for a regular fwb the contact has stopped. Obviously in my mind my disability/body had a bearing on that?!? Am I being over sensitive? Probably!

Anyway the responses in this thread from able bodied posters really are a tonic and great to see. So I guess I should just plough on and think of myself as just one of the single guys toiling on fab.

Happy Easter guys!

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By *ysonfuryMan
over a year ago

Stockport

Loving this thread and all the positivity from everyone

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By *eforfuncplCouple
over a year ago

Morecambe

Brilliant stories x

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By *tokedaytimeguyMan
over a year ago

stoke

Doesn’t always go so well. I made a lovely contact in the site. Explained my situation and boom. Ghosted. I get it. Some people will have an issue. Different strokes and all that

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By *andy57TV/TS
over a year ago

york

Having become heavily disabled over the last 4 years and had 3 major life changing operations I have managed to dip my toe back into the water and got a meet a couple of weeks ago fortunately I was honest and upfront and the guy understood we ended up have a great meet and both were satisfied in more ways than one lol

So I think the best is to ve honest and if it's an issue move one because if someone genuinely understands and is happy to accept you the way you are happy days

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By *linyMan
over a year ago

Manchester/London

This makes me very happy to hear!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love this for you! I have a disability that has left me using a wheelchair now. It took a while for me to accept the way I was not the same as what I am now, but I’m over it. I must admit I miss going to clubs, but it’s just not feasible for me anymore. But anyway, I’m so glad you enjoyed yourself. Keep on going.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My wife is a smoking hot 20 out of 10 Brazilian below knee amputee whos also a highly graded muay thai fighter.

Shes the stuff winners are made of for sure

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By *uriously_CandidWoman
over a year ago

Warrington

This thread has made me smile and given me a little confidence boost that my own disability won’t affect my place here. Thank you x

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By *olf and RedCouple
over a year ago

Nr Cardiff or at Chams Darlaston

This is such a lovely positive thread. I’m saving up for a neowalk now for when I have a flare up.

I worry about holding others up on stairs etc in a club, but I find clubs are very inclusive. Jacuzzis especially are a real help, allowing positions that not everyone can get in without the weightlessness of the water.

Red

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)


"This is such a lovely positive thread. I’m saving up for a neowalk now for when I have a flare up.

I worry about holding others up on stairs etc in a club, but I find clubs are very inclusive. Jacuzzis especially are a real help, allowing positions that not everyone can get in without the weightlessness of the water.

Red "

I'm saving for one but I have a posh wedding coming up this summer, I'm thinking I'm going to splurge to match my outfit

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By *orthampton jamesMan
over a year ago

Northampton

What about someone with a stoma bag?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What about someone with a stoma bag?"

Why not?

Glad people have had a positive experience...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So over the past 2 years, I have developed a disability which affects my mobility.

We have been very quiet over this time due to this, but I just wanted to share a really positive experience.

Went to a club for the first time since , Club Play in Blackpool actually. I took my stick, as hypermobility and pleaser heels could be quite a combo! My stick is from Neowalk, so is super snazzy, glittery rainbow and lights up. The response was great! Everyone loved the stick, was a great talking point and definitely didn't deter anyone, as we ended up in a massive orgy with an audience by the end of the night!

So, don't be afraid! We're all diverse and amazing nothing should be a barrier to awesome, sexy times! "

Fantastic I'm glad you're playing and not letting life stop you

I have ms and too struggle with mobility issues and if I'm honest I worry too much about what people think and it effects meetings.. I draw strength from this thread xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My partner feels the same she had her leg amputated below the knee and is worried about nobody wanting to play now"

Never let a missing appendage get you down. You are still you, though you may feel a little different at first just get out there and do what you enjoy. My late wife lost both her legs very high above the knee, yes it got her down for a year but with a bit of coaching from yours truly she was soon out and about loving life. My partner at the moment is missing an arm due to a bike accident, she is the life and sole of the party. Just remember you are a wife a mother and a lover, never let anything change that.

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By *riendly BiMan
over a year ago

h

I’m in the same boat as you OP. I walk with a stick and have limited mobility due to having a back operation that was unsuccessful. I’ve found that when I mentioned it some just say that they are not interested because I might not be able to “perform”

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By *otfun999Man
over a year ago

a

Excellent to see positive posts here. OP don't let nothing stop you and that goes for everyone else to. Have fun and enjoy everyone

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By *kultraCouple
over a year ago

chesterfield

Since reading this post I’ve braved going to a club for the first time ever. I usually use a stick and mobility scooter so thought I’d never be able to but we went to Pandora in Leeds and I found I coped pretty well and we had great fun with some great people.

I’d like to thank you for posting this

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By *ase4122Man
over a year ago

Lancashire


"So over the past 2 years, I have developed a disability which affects my mobility.

We have been very quiet over this time due to this, but I just wanted to share a really positive experience.

Went to a club for the first time since , Club Play in Blackpool actually. I took my stick, as hypermobility and pleaser heels could be quite a combo! My stick is from Neowalk, so is super snazzy, glittery rainbow and lights up. The response was great! Everyone loved the stick, was a great talking point and definitely didn't deter anyone, as we ended up in a massive orgy with an audience by the end of the night!

So, don't be afraid! We're all diverse and amazing nothing should be a barrier to awesome, sexy times! "

I have arthritis in my spine and neck and mobility can be an issue too. Fair play for doing what you've done, well done you

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By *luebellRacer OP   Couple
over a year ago

Shropshire


"Since reading this post I’ve braved going to a club for the first time ever. I usually use a stick and mobility scooter so thought I’d never be able to but we went to Pandora in Leeds and I found I coped pretty well and we had great fun with some great people.

I’d like to thank you for posting this"

Yay! That's amazing! we're going there in October, so great to hear good things.

Glad you had an amazing time

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By *avrick180Man
over a year ago

Pontypool

No one should ever be ashamed of a disability or even have to hide it so glad to see and read so many of you on here open up about it makes me think about mine disability and to be more open about it thanks everyone

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By *rLibertineMan
over a year ago

North Suffolk

a positive and inclusive post as swinging should be!

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By *r-8-BBCMan
over a year ago

LONDON


"So over the past 2 years, I have developed a disability which affects my mobility.

We have been very quiet over this time due to this, but I just wanted to share a really positive experience.

Went to a club for the first time since , Club Play in Blackpool actually. I took my stick, as hypermobility and pleaser heels could be quite a combo! My stick is from Neowalk, so is super snazzy, glittery rainbow and lights up. The response was great! Everyone loved the stick, was a great talking point and definitely didn't deter anyone, as we ended up in a massive orgy with an audience by the end of the night!

So, don't be afraid! We're all diverse and amazing nothing should be a barrier to awesome, sexy times! "

I've to clubs and seen a man with one leg getting busy with ladies

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By *ice_couple2012Couple
over a year ago

Leicester


"I love this for you! I have a disability that has left me using a wheelchair now. It took a while for me to accept the way I was not the same as what I am now, but I’m over it. I must admit I miss going to clubs, but it’s just not feasible for me anymore. But anyway, I’m so glad you enjoyed yourself. Keep on going. "

I have seen wheelchair users at our local club (Liberty Elite in Leicestershire) and they seemed to be having a great time. The club have ramps that can be set up to ensure that ppl can access all the ground floor areas of the club.

It's great to hear all of the positive stories in this thread from ppl with disabilities

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By *IG G77Man
over a year ago

GATLEY

I have cerebral palsy from birth good to hear great stories puts my faith back in the site reading this

Be good to hear from anyone interested in building friendship

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By *permdonorMan
over a year ago

driffield

Fair play to you swinging is for everyone no exceptions xx

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By *kultraCouple
over a year ago

chesterfield


"I have cerebral palsy from birth good to hear great stories puts my faith back in the site reading this

Be good to hear from anyone interested in building friendship "

We are actually in talks with a couple who’s male counterpart has cerebral palsy, it doesn’t bother us at all x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good for you

i love it

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By *heonixrising500Man
over a year ago

Barnsley

A disability should not stop people enjoying pleasure

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By *kultraCouple
over a year ago

chesterfield


"A disability should not stop people enjoying pleasure "

Absolutely. Mine put me off for a long time due to chronic pain. I was always scared that others wouldn’t know about my pain and lethargy so eventually I explained my condition in my profile and we’ve actually had great feedback to say it’s a lovely honest profile and that people appreciate that genuine feel it has. I was scared all that time for no reason

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By *IG G77Man
over a year ago

GATLEY

It's nice to get some nice comments I'd love to find new friends to explore new adventures together in good company my condition I've always been concerned how people see me with my cp

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By *ouAndKisses.Woman
over a year ago

Crewe

Good for you. Don't let disability stop you having fun.

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By *IG G77Man
over a year ago

GATLEY


"Good for you. Don't let disability stop you having fun. "

Thankyou Lou good to hear from you maybe I could tuck you in sometime ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thank you all for sharing your experiences it’s put my mind at ease considerably.

I am new to fab and the swinging lifestyle I have disabilities which fluctuate and hence effect my ability to do things.

I am scared of disappointing people.

Going to my first club on Saturday xxx

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

That's brilliant it's great to hear positive stories, hope you had a amazing night.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This sounds fantastic as I worry plenty through my disabilities, must say this gives confidence to try a club has anyone got advice for going to CJs in Glasgow as a first timer,

Thanks in advance.

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By *olbornsubguyMan
over a year ago

london

Great to see the positivity in this thread. I’ve had a few people with varied disabilities make use of my “no tops refused” guarantee. I’ve been lucky enough to meet some awesome sexy people as a result. Never let your disability hold you back.

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By *rinthiaMan
over a year ago

dundee


"So over the past 2 years, I have developed a disability which affects my mobility.

We have been very quiet over this time due to this, but I just wanted to share a really positive experience.

Went to a club for the first time since , Club Play in Blackpool actually. I took my stick, as hypermobility and pleaser heels could be quite a combo! My stick is from Neowalk, so is super snazzy, glittery rainbow and lights up. The response was great! Everyone loved the stick, was a great talking point and definitely didn't deter anyone, as we ended up in a massive orgy with an audience by the end of the night!

So, don't be afraid! We're all diverse and amazing nothing should be a barrier to awesome, sexy times! "

Personal I think the way you have tackled this issue is spot on, but to be honest it shouldn’t even be a thing .

Anyone who has a problem should really take a hard look at themselves and ask why.

We would love to get to know you better, we’re drawn to confident, positive ,bubbly people and you are certainly that.

Keep doing what you’re doing……

Hope our paths cross one day !

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By *achel SmythTV/TS
over a year ago

Farnborough

I have twice met with ladies who have a disability, one of whom I didn’t know beforehand… but was actually obvious when I realised … both times it was no problem.

We had to perhaps do things in a slightly different way, but it was no issue, we still had an amazing sensual and erotic time… but more importantly we had a lovely connection, so why did it matter.

Easy for me to say, but be confident for who you are xx if people can’t see past something that’s different - perhaps they weren’t worth meeting in the first place xxx

R xx

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

Just to add to the positivity in the last few weeks I've been at parties where at one a lady had a stick and some mobility issues and at another a man had a prosthetic leg. In both cases they had lots of fun and it really made no difference and was barely noticed.

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By *heelz69Man
over a year ago

Manchester

I'm disabled I try not to let it stop me I still enjoy sex and most things naughty, but I can't really go to clubs but I can accommodate, still my profile just gets passed by 99% of the time, I just wish people would give me a chance to chat to me before passing by, if we chat and I'm not your thing then enough but you never know it could be great adventure

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By *rixie_BlondeWoman
over a year ago

London (She/Her)


"What about someone with a stoma bag?"

I don’t have a stoma but I do have medical kit on my tummy. I try to make sure it’s visible in my photos, and when I get talking with someone I check they’ve seen it and tell them what it is/answer questions.

Some people are squeamish, that’s just how it is. I’d rather they found out they were frightened of my tummy BEFORE I got naked with them haha

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By *straeus and AthenaCouple
over a year ago

Canterbury

I (Athena) had a permanent stoma just over a year ago and it's not stopped us! Were very open about it in pictures and on our profile and tend to bring it up early in conversation in clubs.

Without it I would be dead and it's a permanent fixture now so I embrace having it! It certainly hasn't stopped us getting attention in clubs!

Love who you are and if anyone has a problem with your disability remember that is a "them" problem, not a you problem!

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By *ootballFlowerCouple
over a year ago

Ollerton

When we started on the scene neither of us had a disability, unfortunately Football now has to use a wheelchair due to losing most of his mobility due to illness.

It wont stop us swinging but it has meant we have stopped attending our favourite club as it isnt accessible.

We are trying to get going again after spending a while out adapting to a change of pace, but we are now looking to host in our home.

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By *teph BitchTV/TS
over a year ago

Manchester

Thanks for the info. I'm disabled too and know what some people think of disability and what a person can/can't do. Fun time usually means a door shut in my face and told to fxxx xxf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is a fabulous post as my good lady has MS and walking at times can be an issue. However, so far it has not affected our sex or fun play.

We are all able in some description and can enjoy the fun of swinging.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

taunton somerset

swinging is for all ....

however i once turned a guy down no attraction what so ever who then spent days trying to guilt me with things like oh its because im in a chair and if i had legs that worked you would have said yes ermm no if you had legs i would off deffo said no so just as it is that anyone can swing its also a fact that anyone can get rejected....

i have no problems with people who have disabilities but those few need to stop with the verble after being told no not interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like I previously mentioned I have ms prior to my diagnosis I met a lush lady from fab who had a stoma she never meut until our meeting and I never even noticed as she had such stunning lingerie on I assumed her that she was stunning and she relaxed and we had fun for a few years she married and stopped playing I was so happy she found her man x

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