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By *ancs married couple OP Couple
over a year ago

Silverdale

We are hopefully meeting a Male to join us for out 1st mfm in Scotland in Jan 23.

For those of you that have had hotel meets how does it normally work when the Male turns up?

Also has anyone had a situation where the Male turns up but you dont like them?

Any advice is welcome xx

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By *onballer9Man
over a year ago

west midlands

"We are hopefully meeting a Male to join us for out 1st mfm in Scotland in Jan 23.

For those of you that have had hotel meets how does it normally work when the Male turns up?

Also has anyone had a situation where the Male turns up but you dont like them?

Any advice is welcome xx "
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If you don’t like them in person you should let them know, when I normally meet couples at hotels we normally meet in the bar and then take it from there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meet in the bar. Don’t tell them your room number until you know you want to go further.

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By *oobaaMan
over a year ago

South Shields

I ve met couples in hotels before and always play by their rules.

If they want to meet in the bar or car park or somewhere nuterel beforehand then thats fine by me.

By the time its got to the point we are agreeing to meet, we have exchanged pics and phone calls so probably know what to expect.

Only problem I had was a couple who said they would leave the key card on the rear window of their car and accidently left their bank card by mistake

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

"We are hopefully meeting a Male to join us for out 1st mfm in Scotland in Jan 23.

For those of you that have had hotel meets how does it normally work when the Male turns up?

Also has anyone had a situation where the Male turns up but you dont like them?

Any advice is welcome xx "

This is why I do a social first

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By *exleypeteMan
over a year ago

bexleyheath

Alway get a drink first

Works both ways

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By *leasureseekers123Couple
over a year ago

Heathrow

Mr P (and sometimes both of us) normally meet the guy in the hotel bar. Have to say we met a guy once and both thought that he might not be for us. We decided to go ahead and it turned into one of our best ever meets- so it can be really difficult to make a decision just from a quick drink in a bar. But it works for us.

Some people prefer a whole social evening first. That doesn’t work for us but you should always do what’s best for you.

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside

"We are hopefully meeting a Male to join us for out 1st mfm in Scotland in Jan 23.

For those of you that have had hotel meets how does it normally work when the Male turns up?

Also has anyone had a situation where the Male turns up but you dont like them?

Any advice is welcome xx "

Meet in the bar first. Be honest and tell them sexual contact is not guaranteed don't get swept along into something you may regret.

It's probably best to start closer to home, meet a guy for a social drink initially, if all goes well arrange a future hotel or club meet.

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By *ischiefManaged69Couple
over a year ago

Preston

"We are hopefully meeting a Male to join us for out 1st mfm in Scotland in Jan 23.

For those of you that have had hotel meets how does it normally work when the Male turns up?

Also has anyone had a situation where the Male turns up but you dont like them?

Any advice is welcome xx "

Hej there!

Definitely meet in a bar first unless part of your scenario is anonymity, or you don't mind what they're like!

Well worth a quick intro video first so you know what they look and sound like, saves disappointment at the time which can be a big mood killer if you're excited about the meet.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

Would say if you haven’t met at all before then maybe a drink in a bar first

Safe for both parties

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By *imply_SensualMan
over a year ago

Widnes

Meet in the bar first, but also have a plan B if you dont like him (or vice versa) when you do meet in person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As most have said, meet for a drink in the bar first. Be clear that meeting for the drink doesn’t guarantee and invite back to the room. He should be accepting of that, if not you’re better off not meeting.

Mike

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By *ancs married couple OP Couple
over a year ago

Silverdale

That's all really useful, thanks guys x

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

We meet in the bar, have a couple of drinks and if all ok invite them up, if not just say no sorry not for us and go back and have some fun ourselves

Mrs

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By *luemanblueMan
over a year ago

Livingston

"We are hopefully meeting a Male to join us for out 1st mfm in Scotland in Jan 23.

For those of you that have had hotel meets how does it normally work when the Male turns up?

Also has anyone had a situation where the Male turns up but you dont like them? Hi I've done both meet in the bar first. If it's not for you be honest. Let him know before hand so no surprises . Hope that helps. Paul

Any advice is welcome xx "

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"We are hopefully meeting a Male to join us for out 1st mfm in Scotland in Jan 23.

For those of you that have had hotel meets how does it normally work when the Male turns up?

Also has anyone had a situation where the Male turns up but you dont like them?

Any advice is welcome xx "

Definitely meet them for a social or two before you do the hotel session.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meet in the bar first. Mainly because it’s a sexy exciting way to meet flirt and get to know each other. And then there’s that sexy moment when one of you says….’shall we take these drinks upstairs!’

And, yes, of course, it’s an easier place to say no thank you if you don’t feel that chemistry

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By *unner6969Man
over a year ago

Bicester

"Meet in the bar first. Mainly because it’s a sexy exciting way to meet flirt and get to know each other. And then there’s that sexy moment when one of you says….’shall we take these drinks upstairs!’

And, yes, of course, it’s an easier place to say no thank you if you don’t feel that chemistry "

Yes, this - spontaneity can be fun too - but might not always work out as planned. “Straight to room” has worked out brilliantly and awfully for me in the past.

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By *inkForLifeCouple
over a year ago

North Shields

"We are hopefully meeting a Male to join us for out 1st mfm in Scotland in Jan 23.

For those of you that have had hotel meets how does it normally work when the Male turns up?

Also has anyone had a situation where the Male turns up but you dont like them?

Any advice is welcome xx "

There's a few options.

You can make it clear that it's a social and if either don't like each other it's not going to happen.

You can tell them that you're going to the lift, if you want to play you'll text them and they can join you. That removes the incredibly difficult conversation in person.

You can meet in the bar and unless its terrible just go with the flow and put it down to experience.

Or the same in the room.

Personally, we don't like socials, we find they set expectations and form too much of a bond.

We much rather prefer to take the risk, following a video call.

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By *ub-seekerMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

May be wise to try to find someone and get to know them a bit beforehand. Then you’ll have a better idea whether they’re suitable for you.

As for when they turn up, they should really be playing by your rules and be happy to take things at the pace you want.

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

"Meet in the bar. Don’t tell them your room number until you know you want to go further. "

100% this ^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wet in a pub or bar have a drink or two have a chat then invite them back

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By *orthernJayMan
over a year ago

Lancaster

Absolutely this!!

As part of a five year strong couple, we met every single guy we played with in a hotel bar first; we actually lived in a hotel together for two years and still met potential play mates downstairs in the bar, some of them without ever knowing we lived on the top floor!

It never failed, if the vibe wasn’t there we had options to leave, so did they, we could stay and just have drinks and so could they.

As some have said, go with what’s best for you and that won’t be wrong for a decent guy who wants to spend time with you.

As an aside, it’s also a red flag confirmed, if a single guy or couple for that matter won’t meet you in a bar, or agree and then don’t turn up then you’ve saved wasting your time; that happened to us countless times and we lost nothing. Had a drink, moved on!

Be safe!

And, yes, of course, it’s an easier place to say no thank you if you don’t feel that chemistry "

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By *tead88Man
over a year ago

nine elms

"Meet in the bar. Don’t tell them your room number until you know you want to go further. "

Genuinely good advice

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By *ancs married couple OP Couple
over a year ago

Silverdale

This is all really useful thanks fabbers! Our preference wouldnt be to have a social before hand but appriciate that increases the risk. Hmm a few things to think about, thanks again! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are hopefully meeting a Male to join us for out 1st mfm in Scotland in Jan 23.

For those of you that have had hotel meets how does it normally work when the Male turns up?

Also has anyone had a situation where the Male turns up but you dont like them?

Any advice is welcome xx "

Charlie usually goes to meet the guy in the car park and then brings them up to the room. Some meets are better than others but we’ve never not liked them so far.

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

"We are hopefully meeting a Male to join us for out 1st mfm in Scotland in Jan 23.

For those of you that have had hotel meets how does it normally work when the Male turns up?

Also has anyone had a situation where the Male turns up but you dont like them?

Any advice is welcome xx "

I would look at it this way. You are inviting the guy into your relationship. He should respect that. That should not mean he is your toy to do as you please. All 3 of you want this to be an enjoyable experience.

You need to get to know the guy you are meeting online and swap pictures. That should avoid the I don't like you when he turns up at the hotel.

What happens when you meet is up to all 3 of you. Have conversations about what you do and do not like sexually. Then you only do what you all like. If the guy tries to do something that is a sexual no for you end the meet. Talk about what you as a couple want from the meet. Ask the guy what he wants from the meet. Make sure you are compatible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meet them at the bar deffo, if not all good then have a drink and say no thx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To the first question, just meet in the bar, have a drink, flirt, chat and then when you feel settled all head off to the room together.

Front it out, either no one will notice or else they won’t care.

Second question, couldn’t you just have a social first?

However if you’re not feeling it then just walk away as politely as possible.

What else can you do?

Don’t take one for the team.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meet in a bar beforehand.

Ideally have a separate social and then arrange to meet at a later date if it all goes well.

It all depends on how long you’ve been chatting and what your chemistry is like…

I’ve met couples straight at their hotel/house without a social, as we’ve built a rapport before. - I think sometimes you just know you want to and it will be fine, you just get that instinct/feeling. (I know meeting someone in person can be different).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have organised numerous hotel meets in the past. All are different. The no shows, the ghosting, the d*unk, the liars, the braggers, the non performers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have organised numerous hotel meets in the past. All are different. The no shows, the ghosting, the d*unk, the liars, the braggers, the non performers.

You say they’re all different but the common theme is negative by the sound of it.

Perhaps you should revisit your selection process?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always choose a hotel with a public bar area. We have a couple of hotels we enjoy for this situation. Always meet in the bar for a quick drink, then straight up to the room. I'm not one for prolonged idol chat, I want the attention and fucked by 2 men not chat about Christmas & the financial crisis.

Our male visitor always gets a nice hug and kiss on his arrival and we both try to make him as comfortable as possible. A friendly attitude goes a long way

Mrs C

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

bedford

We only meet with her f/b in hotels unless we are on holiday , then we Wouk meet others , we always meet in bar for a drink first with anyone we are meeting , as these days you need door keys to operate lifts , if she meeting her f/b alone they sometimes have different rooms , as it is normally on work based trips , they will meet in room

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

I’ve always been 100% sure on meeting a guy as I chat with them for a very long time before meeting so always just come to the hotel room, with couples as it’s a four way thing and there’s never as much chat beforehand we have met in the bar for a cheeky drink first to make sure everyone’s happy.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"We are hopefully meeting a Male to join us for out 1st mfm in Scotland in Jan 23.

For those of you that have had hotel meets how does it normally work when the Male turns up?

Also has anyone had a situation where the Male turns up but you dont like them?

Any advice is welcome xx "

Arrange to meet in the bar for drinks, and see how things go from there. Let your ‘date’ know that you do have a room booked, but there is no guarantee of any play if the two of you aren’t feeling it.

He may not feel comfortable with you two either, so be prepared for him to turn you down also….

If the chat flows, and there’s lots of smiles and twinkly eyes, you’ll know

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By *xiled BikerMan
over a year ago

Beverley

My favourite MO was to meet couple in bar and beforehand agree that a spare keycard would be left on table and if the lady picked up the keycard we went upstairs, if not then we had a drink and parted friends.

Adds a little excitement but gives everybody an option out.

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By *ustyMayfair85Woman
over a year ago

Mayfair/Travelling

I would have a quick social meet before even getting a hotel room.

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By *urious is the VoyeurMan
over a year ago

Rickmansworth

Going to keep an eye on this, as it happens I am also in a hotel in Scotland on that night

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