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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

fairly new to this as a single. Played at clubs but now looking for outside meets. How can I get my profile more attractive to fabbers?

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Hi op

Welcome to the site and forums. Their is loads of helpful advice and guidance in the forums from previous folk whom asked similar as yourself advice left by fellow users it's a useful tool if you care to browse just type in search profile help advice loads to go through but all very useful that you're able to assist yourself

Good luck pal

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

How can a person within 50 weeks jump from being,25 to 32 how many weeks In a year

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Uh oh! Curse of the green arrow

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"Uh oh! Curse of the green arrow "

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By *alleyDaveMan
over a year ago

Sheffield


"fairly new to this as a single. Played at clubs but now looking for outside meets. How can I get my profile more attractive to fabbers?"

As a male who has been on here for nearly six months, with not even a sniff of a meet, my advice is you may be in for a long wait, or maybe even an endless wait.

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"Uh oh! Curse of the green arrow "

OP... you've been caught out!

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"Uh oh! Curse of the green arrow

OP... you've been caught out!"

I've watched far too much columbo

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"fairly new to this as a single. Played at clubs but now looking for outside meets. How can I get my profile more attractive to fabbers?"

Change your public photos? Bio reads fine though. How active are you on fab? And how do you message people?

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"How can a person within 50 weeks jump from being,25 to 32 how many weeks In a year "

Surely you can't change your age on here as it's same profile. Op did make improvements and now has verifications. Surprised going to clubs, he didn't ask for verifications from the people he met?

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"How can a person within 50 weeks jump from being,25 to 32 how many weeks In a year

Surely you can't change your age on here as it's same profile. Op did make improvements and now has verifications. Surprised going to clubs, he didn't ask for verifications from the people he met?"

The OP didn't change his age on his profile. He just posted a thread about being a much younger lad!!

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"How can a person within 50 weeks jump from being,25 to 32 how many weeks In a year

Surely you can't change your age on here as it's same profile. Op did make improvements and now has verifications. Surprised going to clubs, he didn't ask for verifications from the people he met?

The OP didn't change his age on his profile. He just posted a thread about being a much younger lad!!"

Oh I didn't really see that. Just answering his question on here. Just wondered what others were saying about him.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"How can a person within 50 weeks jump from being,25 to 32 how many weeks In a year

Surely you can't change your age on here as it's same profile. Op did make improvements and now has verifications. Surprised going to clubs, he didn't ask for verifications from the people he met?

The OP didn't change his age on his profile. He just posted a thread about being a much younger lad!!

Oh I didn't really see that. Just answering his question on here. Just wondered what others were saying about him. "

Green arrow says it all. Mind you I had to look twice

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"How can a person within 50 weeks jump from being,25 to 32 how many weeks In a year

Surely you can't change your age on here as it's same profile. Op did make improvements and now has verifications. Surprised going to clubs, he didn't ask for verifications from the people he met?

The OP didn't change his age on his profile. He just posted a thread about being a much younger lad!!

Oh I didn't really see that. Just answering his question on here. Just wondered what others were saying about him.

Green arrow says it all. Mind you I had to look twice "

I still don't see the issue even when I did the green arrow. OP, you're just using forum to help you find someone. That's all I see

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"How can a person within 50 weeks jump from being,25 to 32 how many weeks In a year

Surely you can't change your age on here as it's same profile. Op did make improvements and now has verifications. Surprised going to clubs, he didn't ask for verifications from the people he met?

The OP didn't change his age on his profile. He just posted a thread about being a much younger lad!!

Oh I didn't really see that. Just answering his question on here. Just wondered what others were saying about him.

Green arrow says it all. Mind you I had to look twice "

Got to love a trier!

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

Busted lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is absolutely a place for single men in the lifestyle world.

We think that single males who can approach like gentlemen will be more likely to have success.

Quick and easy sex is not what this is typically about. Can it be? Of course it can, but the odds are really stacked against hookup sex for a single man.

Excel at communication and do not be pushy or creepy. Be genuine. Be interesting. But most importantly be curious about both members of the couple and get to know them.

Finally understand that those who are consensually non-monogamous are IN a relationship and that must be respected.

The problem for a huge majority of single men on here is that they don't understand any of the above.

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside


"How can a person within 50 weeks jump from being,25 to 32 how many weeks In a year

Surely you can't change your age on here as it's same profile. Op did make improvements and now has verifications. Surprised going to clubs, he didn't ask for verifications from the people he met?

The OP didn't change his age on his profile. He just posted a thread about being a much younger lad!!

Oh I didn't really see that. Just answering his question on here. Just wondered what others were saying about him.

Green arrow says it all. Mind you I had to look twice "

I'm looking at FAB on my phone, where's the green arrow

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside


"There is absolutely a place for single men in the lifestyle world.

We think that single males who can approach like gentlemen will be more likely to have success.

Quick and easy sex is not what this is typically about. Can it be? Of course it can, but the odds are really stacked against hookup sex for a single man.

Excel at communication and do not be pushy or creepy. Be genuine. Be interesting. But most importantly be curious about both members of the couple and get to know them.

Finally understand that those who are consensually non-monogamous are IN a relationship and that must be respected.

The problem for a huge majority of single men on here is that they don't understand any of the above."

We've just returned from a holiday in PDI and attended a FAB social in a swingers meet up bar, couples and singles.

We enjoy the company of couples and single guys and there at the bar we're 3 single guys all sitting saying nothing.

I approached them and said "hi, I'm Liz, I'm with Paul sitting over there chatting with a couple, are you single guys or with someone, on your hols like us" etc etc.

I got a muted, muttered hello and the conversation ground to a halt.

So it was a "lovely to meet you, come and join us if you want", not a peep, maybe it's me.

Guys, you have to make some effort, if you are shy practice at home in the mirror, have a crib sheet but make an effort.

The other end of the scale is a guy we met in the stone circles, great chatter and then sex on the beach...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is absolutely a place for single men in the lifestyle world.

We think that single males who can approach like gentlemen will be more likely to have success.

Quick and easy sex is not what this is typically about. Can it be? Of course it can, but the odds are really stacked against hookup sex for a single man.

Excel at communication and do not be pushy or creepy. Be genuine. Be interesting. But most importantly be curious about both members of the couple and get to know them.

Finally understand that those who are consensually non-monogamous are IN a relationship and that must be respected.

The problem for a huge majority of single men on here is that they don't understand any of the above.

We've just returned from a holiday in PDI and attended a FAB social in a swingers meet up bar, couples and singles.

We enjoy the company of couples and single guys and there at the bar we're 3 single guys all sitting saying nothing.

I approached them and said "hi, I'm Liz, I'm with Paul sitting over there chatting with a couple, are you single guys or with someone, on your hols like us" etc etc.

I got a muted, muttered hello and the conversation ground to a halt.

So it was a "lovely to meet you, come and join us if you want", not a peep, maybe it's me.

Guys, you have to make some effort, if you are shy practice at home in the mirror, have a crib sheet but make an effort.

The other end of the scale is a guy we met in the stone circles, great chatter and then sex on the beach... "

We missed out on that social as we flew home on the 21st .... we had a fab time in GC overall though

It is very much how guys approach things that is the key to success with swinger couples. We much prefer face to face meeting at social rather than via this site. Expectations are easier ot manage and you get a vide from people pretty very quickly in social situations.

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside


"There is absolutely a place for single men in the lifestyle world.

We think that single males who can approach like gentlemen will be more likely to have success.

Quick and easy sex is not what this is typically about. Can it be? Of course it can, but the odds are really stacked against hookup sex for a single man.

Excel at communication and do not be pushy or creepy. Be genuine. Be interesting. But most importantly be curious about both members of the couple and get to know them.

Finally understand that those who are consensually non-monogamous are IN a relationship and that must be respected.

The problem for a huge majority of single men on here is that they don't understand any of the above.

We've just returned from a holiday in PDI and attended a FAB social in a swingers meet up bar, couples and singles.

We enjoy the company of couples and single guys and there at the bar we're 3 single guys all sitting saying nothing.

I approached them and said "hi, I'm Liz, I'm with Paul sitting over there chatting with a couple, are you single guys or with someone, on your hols like us" etc etc.

I got a muted, muttered hello and the conversation ground to a halt.

So it was a "lovely to meet you, come and join us if you want", not a peep, maybe it's me.

Guys, you have to make some effort, if you are shy practice at home in the mirror, have a crib sheet but make an effort.

The other end of the scale is a guy we met in the stone circles, great chatter and then sex on the beach...

We missed out on that social as we flew home on the 21st .... we had a fab time in GC overall though

It is very much how guys approach things that is the key to success with swinger couples. We much prefer face to face meeting at social rather than via this site. Expectations are easier ot manage and you get a vide from people pretty very quickly in social situations.

"

It was a great night.

Met some lovely people there and in Fuertuventura.

Until next year....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is absolutely a place for single men in the lifestyle world.

We think that single males who can approach like gentlemen will be more likely to have success.

Quick and easy sex is not what this is typically about. Can it be? Of course it can, but the odds are really stacked against hookup sex for a single man.

Excel at communication and do not be pushy or creepy. Be genuine. Be interesting. But most importantly be curious about both members of the couple and get to know them.

Finally understand that those who are consensually non-monogamous are IN a relationship and that must be respected.

The problem for a huge majority of single men on here is that they don't understand any of the above.

We've just returned from a holiday in PDI and attended a FAB social in a swingers meet up bar, couples and singles.

We enjoy the company of couples and single guys and there at the bar we're 3 single guys all sitting saying nothing.

I approached them and said "hi, I'm Liz, I'm with Paul sitting over there chatting with a couple, are you single guys or with someone, on your hols like us" etc etc.

I got a muted, muttered hello and the conversation ground to a halt.

So it was a "lovely to meet you, come and join us if you want", not a peep, maybe it's me.

Guys, you have to make some effort, if you are shy practice at home in the mirror, have a crib sheet but make an effort.

The other end of the scale is a guy we met in the stone circles, great chatter and then sex on the beach...

We missed out on that social as we flew home on the 21st .... we had a fab time in GC overall though

It is very much how guys approach things that is the key to success with swinger couples. We much prefer face to face meeting at social rather than via this site. Expectations are easier ot manage and you get a vide from people pretty very quickly in social situations.

It was a great night.

Met some lovely people there and in Fuertuventura.

Until next year....

"

Likewise looking forward to going back too - we love GC.

Glad is was a great night

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"fairly new to this as a single. Played at clubs but now looking for outside meets. How can I get my profile more attractive to fabbers?"

You can’t you have lied about your age

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By *ilverfox for youMan
over a year ago

Hull

thought it was just me , as a more mature guy . ! thought the girls go for younger . just live in hope like the rest of us

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Op just be you, honest the way you'd expect someone else to be towards you it's a lovely starting point

I wish you well

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