FabSwingers.com forum: Having no joy at all is it my profile

By *iamond dave OP Man
over a year ago

Oldham

Been on here a while now had 2 meets early stages but seem to be getting nowhere obviously im going wrong somewhere

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

There are no guarantees. Having realistic expectations is essential, as is investing the appropriate efforts wisely, if a single man.

People look at profiles, so focusing effort there is the typical advice for men who always struggle. You have to sell you - instead of warning about anything and everything with more words than explain and sell you - a swinger likely has to visit socials and clubs, to get to know people, etc.

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By *iamond dave OP Man
over a year ago

Oldham

Thankyou really appreciate it

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

10 word profile.

Could be part of your problem.

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By *iamond dave OP Man
over a year ago

Oldham

Thankyou for the advice ill get that sorted

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
over a year ago

Portstewart

Honestly your bio is severely lacking and the whole study part is complete bs and worthless

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By *eandmrsjones69Couple
over a year ago

Middle England

When you say 'getting nowhere' what do you mean? As already said what are you're expectations. Should people be queuing up to meet you?

Surely you must realise there are so many men looking to meet up. What makes you stand out amongst all the other guys? Improving your profile might help but don't count on it.

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By *iamond dave OP Man
over a year ago

Oldham

Thankyou for your honesty and straight up answer

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By *iamond dave OP Man
over a year ago

Oldham

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

"Been on here a while now had 2 meets early stages but seem to be getting nowhere obviously im going wrong somewhere "

I would suggest that your profile needs a bit of adjustment.

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

Yes it’s rubbish

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By *iamond dave OP Man
over a year ago

Oldham

"Been on here a while now had 2 meets early stages but seem to be getting nowhere obviously im going wrong somewhere

I would suggest that your profile needs a bit of adjustment. "
thankyou really appreciated

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By *iamond dave OP Man
over a year ago

Oldham

"Yes it’s rubbish "
thanks i appreciate your honest opinion its what i needed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get rid of the swearing pic

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By *iamond dave OP Man
over a year ago

Oldham

Thanks for your helpful responses i really appreciate it

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By *iamond dave OP Man
over a year ago

Oldham

"Get rid of the swearing pic"
will do thanks for pointing that out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very generic profile.

Given that men outnumber women on fab by around 100 to 1, you really need to stand out. Have a USP. Something special to catch someones attention.

And as most of those you message will check out your profile before even considering opening your message (though you'll likely know nothing about is as most browse in

mode) if your profile doesn't grab their interest, why should they bother to read what you've sent them, let alone reply?

A lot of guys come on the forum after a short time being here, complaining about a lack of 'success' thinking that there's some magic silver bullet or something to getting meets.

Spoiler alert! - There isn't.

What works for one person might not work for someone else.

At the end of the day, not everyone you fancy is going to fancy you back - and vice versa.

Unfortunately, most guys join fab on the assumption that there are desperate horny women just gagging for it who will fuck anyone - which couldn't be futher from the truth.

Realign your expectations.

Effort in - rewards out

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By *iamond dave OP Man
over a year ago

Oldham

"Very generic profile.

Given that men outnumber women on fab by around 100 to 1, you really need to stand out. Have a USP. Something special to catch someones attention.

And as most of those you message will check out your profile before even considering opening your message (though you'll likely know nothing about is as most browse in

mode) if your profile doesn't grab their interest, why should they bother to read what you've sent them, let alone reply?

A lot of guys come on the forum after a short time being here, complaining about a lack of 'success' thinking that there's some magic silver bullet or something to getting meets.

Spoiler alert! - There isn't.

What works for one person might not work for someone else.

At the end of the day, not everyone you fancy is going to fancy you back - and vice versa.

Unfortunately, most guys join fab on the assumption that there are desperate horny women just gagging for it who will fuck anyone - which couldn't be futher from the truth.

Realign your expectations.

Effort in - rewards out"
thankyou i was just after a bit of advice just like your post thankyou i really appreciate it. I really need to settle my nerves and start going to some club events to experience the atmosphere and the vibe get to know people and gain more of a understanding i just panic at going on my own.

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By *utonguy2023Man
over a year ago

luton

Join the club pointess on here

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By *eterandJaneadventuresCouple
over a year ago

Sutton

Trim down your likes, to things you have done and enjoy , your bio need to reflect a bit more , on what you seek, enjoy and offer .

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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

Maybe try using a higher factor sunscreen.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Expand within your bio even a scenario which you'd like to try. Since you are a site supporter fill ya boots taking random photos smartly dressed or even a bit of kink

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By *iamond dave OP Man
over a year ago

Oldham

"Trim down your likes, to things you have done and enjoy , your bio need to reflect a bit more , on what you seek, enjoy and offer . "
thankyou for the advice i will do

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

The blurb at the bottom needs to tell me something additional to the set answers above, not just repeat it

Photos are meh

Start by getting out to local social events while waiting for club membership if your chosen one has a waiting list

Your profile is your shop window and while I am not your target ordinance I wouldn't stop there's nothing that stands out

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By *S chanel demarTV/TS
over a year ago

peterborough

"Honestly your bio is severely lacking and the whole study part is complete bs and worthless "

Now don't beat around the Bush....

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
over a year ago

Portstewart

"Honestly your bio is severely lacking and the whole study part is complete bs and worthless

Now don't beat around the Bush....

Honesty is the only way we know

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By *hat Guy with the RopesMan
over a year ago

Kingston upon Hull

Just let them know your a fireman.

You go up ladders and down knickers!

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