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"One of your verifications is from a man. A lot of people will be put off by that especially as your profile states that your straight. " Yes, although it shouldn’t matter, this does. If you’re bi. Just say you’re bi! You’ll meet people who are definitely more into you! | |||
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"It shouldn't matter bit it does as people think your not being upfront. Just a question if your not bi why would you meet a man on a sex site? No you can't remove it unless they leave or you leave ." Doesn’t matter if the guy leaves, it still stays in the summary. You can choose not to display the summery. | |||
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"You can still show the ones you wanna show " yeah I just figured that out haha | |||
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"Don’t worry I understood what you meant. Thanks. Any other advice?" I’d say loose the cock pic, the other two are good and see if you could add more to your bio! | |||
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"Don’t worry I understood what you meant. Thanks. Any other advice? I’d say loose the cock pic, the other two are good and see if you could add more to your bio! " Don't take any notice of anyone who tells you what pictures to post or not post - post those that you think best shows what you're like and what you like.....and, by the way, quite a few of us women like cock pics on a profile. | |||
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"I don't get any responses either but I put it down to no one wanting anything to do with a guy of my age." It's probably not that | |||
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"I don't get any responses either but I put it down to no one wanting anything to do with a guy of my age. It's probably not that" Nope not your age | |||
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"I don't get any responses either but I put it down to no one wanting anything to do with a guy of my age. It's probably not that Nope not your age " I agree  | |||
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"I don't get any responses either but I put it down to no one wanting anything to do with a guy of my age. It's probably not that Nope not your age " To some it's age as we physically cannot message them, but to others it's just what we look like, profile pics or just bio. To the OP, it's just life mate whatever you show or write will appeal to some and not to other. Organised socials are a brilliant idea as people will probably varify you as being a real person, which is a genuine stubbling block. | |||
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"There is nothing exciting about your profile it’s similar to the thousands of others on here " anything you could think of that I can add to it? I’ve looked at other type of profiles that seem to get meets in their profile when they have a very simple bio and less pics | |||
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"I’ve been on here for a while and I’ve only had 1 proper meet since I started about 6-7 months ago (I don’t fully count it cos it didn’t go as well as I had wished). I’m not sure what I’m missing or why I don’t get replies at all anymore. I’d like to think I’ve got a nice profile but maybe I’m wrong. Any advice?" | |||
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"There is nothing exciting about your profile it’s similar to the thousands of others on here anything you could think of that I can add to it? I’ve looked at other type of profiles that seem to get meets in their profile when they have a very simple bio and less pics " Hi op Theirs plenty of helpful advice among the pile of threads from previous folk whom asked similar as yourself it's a helpful tool search for profile/help advice this way you'll be able to create something that fits entirely around you as an individual down to what you desire and your purpose for being here Good luck  | |||
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"Don’t worry I understood what you meant. Thanks. Any other advice? I’d say loose the cock pic, the other two are good and see if you could add more to your bio! Don't take any notice of anyone who tells you what pictures to post or not post - post those that you think best shows what you're like and what you like.....and, by the way, quite a few of us women like cock pics on a profile. " 100% this | |||
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"I’ve been on here for a while and I’ve only had 1 proper meet since I started about 6-7 months ago (I don’t fully count it cos it didn’t go as well as I had wished). I’m not sure what I’m missing or why I don’t get replies at all anymore. I’d like to think I’ve got a nice profile but maybe I’m wrong. Any advice?" The odds are stacked against single guys on here mate to start with. I'm guess around 80% of members on here are single men. Then out of that probably another 80% of the singles guys are gym warriors with chiseled bodies,pecs and six packs,whoalk tend to have loads of verifications and meets. So for the remaining 20% of us single guys with dad bods and wobbly bits and man boobs, it is always going to be nigh on impossible to get a reply to a message, let alone a meet. | |||
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"I’ve been on here for a while and I’ve only had 1 proper meet since I started about 6-7 months ago (I don’t fully count it cos it didn’t go as well as I had wished). I’m not sure what I’m missing or why I don’t get replies at all anymore. I’d like to think I’ve got a nice profile but maybe I’m wrong. Any advice? The odds are stacked against single guys on here mate to start with. I'm guess around 80% of members on here are single men. Then out of that probably another 80% of the singles guys are gym warriors with chiseled bodies,pecs and six packs,whoalk tend to have loads of verifications and meets. So for the remaining 20% of us single guys with dad bods and wobbly bits and man boobs, it is always going to be nigh on impossible to get a reply to a message, let alone a meet. " How many times? Most people aren't looking for gym buffs, some of us actively look for the opposite | |||
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"I’ve been on here for a while and I’ve only had 1 proper meet since I started about 6-7 months ago (I don’t fully count it cos it didn’t go as well as I had wished). I’m not sure what I’m missing or why I don’t get replies at all anymore. I’d like to think I’ve got a nice profile but maybe I’m wrong. Any advice? The odds are stacked against single guys on here mate to start with. I'm guess around 80% of members on here are single men. Then out of that probably another 80% of the singles guys are gym warriors with chiseled bodies,pecs and six packs,whoalk tend to have loads of verifications and meets. So for the remaining 20% of us single guys with dad bods and wobbly bits and man boobs, it is always going to be nigh on impossible to get a reply to a message, let alone a meet. " If you think 80% of the men on here have chiseled bodies you’ve not seen many men’s profiles, haha. I’m a big guy with all kinds of wobbly bits and body confidence issues. I put myself out there anyway. I put pictures of myself on my profile, I wrote an honest bio and I go out to clubs to meet people. Guess what, I’ve had meets and veris from a few different people now. Some were sex, some just socials. I have a list of friends I speak to regularly. You get out of swinging what you put in, it’s not about who looks chiseled vs fat. | |||
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"I’ve been on here for a while and I’ve only had 1 proper meet since I started about 6-7 months ago (I don’t fully count it cos it didn’t go as well as I had wished). I’m not sure what I’m missing or why I don’t get replies at all anymore. I’d like to think I’ve got a nice profile but maybe I’m wrong. Any advice? The odds are stacked against single guys on here mate to start with. I'm guess around 80% of members on here are single men. Then out of that probably another 80% of the singles guys are gym warriors with chiseled bodies,pecs and six packs,whoalk tend to have loads of verifications and meets. So for the remaining 20% of us single guys with dad bods and wobbly bits and man boobs, it is always going to be nigh on impossible to get a reply to a message, let alone a meet. If you think 80% of the men on here have chiseled bodies you’ve not seen many men’s profiles, haha. I’m a big guy with all kinds of wobbly bits and body confidence issues. I put myself out there anyway. I put pictures of myself on my profile, I wrote an honest bio and I go out to clubs to meet people. Guess what, I’ve had meets and veris from a few different people now. Some were sex, some just socials. I have a list of friends I speak to regularly. You get out of swinging what you put in, it’s not about who looks chiseled vs fat. " Shh bro your total proof he's chatting shit lol. Its because you have made an effort to embrace and become a valued part of the swinging scene both online and importantly offline in the real world of clubs, socials events etc. Most men coming here for what they hope is an easy fuck (after failing on tinder and similar) are almost always going to be very disappointed. KJ | |||
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"I’ve been on here for a while and I’ve only had 1 proper meet since I started about 6-7 months ago (I don’t fully count it cos it didn’t go as well as I had wished). I’m not sure what I’m missing or why I don’t get replies at all anymore. I’d like to think I’ve got a nice profile but maybe I’m wrong. Any advice? The odds are stacked against single guys on here mate to start with. I'm guess around 80% of members on here are single men. Then out of that probably another 80% of the singles guys are gym warriors with chiseled bodies,pecs and six packs,whoalk tend to have loads of verifications and meets. So for the remaining 20% of us single guys with dad bods and wobbly bits and man boobs, it is always going to be nigh on impossible to get a reply to a message, let alone a meet. If you think 80% of the men on here have chiseled bodies you’ve not seen many men’s profiles, haha. I’m a big guy with all kinds of wobbly bits and body confidence issues. I put myself out there anyway. I put pictures of myself on my profile, I wrote an honest bio and I go out to clubs to meet people. Guess what, I’ve had meets and veris from a few different people now. Some were sex, some just socials. I have a list of friends I speak to regularly. You get out of swinging what you put in, it’s not about who looks chiseled vs fat. Shh bro your total proof he's chatting shit lol. Its because you have made an effort to embrace and become a valued part of the swinging scene both online and importantly offline in the real world of clubs, socials events etc. Most men coming here for what they hope is an easy fuck (after failing on tinder and similar) are almost always going to be very disappointed. KJ" Not everyone has the ability to go to clubs /socials etc. There arnt any in my area since La Chambre closed, and not owning a vehicle makes it impossible to travel a long distance to a club. Also, as it says in my profile I'm hoping to make sone friends on here as well as having some fun. | |||
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"Not everyone has the ability to go to clubs /socials etc. There arnt any in my area since La Chambre closed, and not owning a vehicle makes it impossible to travel a long distance to a club. Also, as it says in my profile I'm hoping to make sone friends on here as well as having some fun. " I can't fully agree with that. And clubs are also a great place to make friends, I had the luck several times to make friends there, not only one-off sex. Why is that a problem if you don't own a vehicle? I don't even have a driving licence, and tho I'm lucky being a Londoner and having many clubs here, sometimes I still travel just to try some novelty. If you want to have fun, you must be up for some adventures!  And I'm not a rich guy to pay 100-mile cab rides home, but if I travel as a single man, I don't mind going out of my comfort zone for a bit of adventure. A cheap hotel makes it for a few hours, or I can even watch some Youtube videos at the station if I have a couple of hours to kill until the first train. Obviously, if I travel with a partner, I would not ask her to do it with me, then we need a proper hotel. But as a single guy? Come on, a little inconvenience just makes the adventure more memorable, haha!  | |||
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"I’ve been on here for a while and I’ve only had 1 proper meet since I started about 6-7 months ago (I don’t fully count it cos it didn’t go as well as I had wished). I’m not sure what I’m missing or why I don’t get replies at all anymore. I’d like to think I’ve got a nice profile but maybe I’m wrong. Any advice? The odds are stacked against single guys on here mate to start with. I'm guess around 80% of members on here are single men. Then out of that probably another 80% of the singles guys are gym warriors with chiseled bodies,pecs and six packs,whoalk tend to have loads of verifications and meets. So for the remaining 20% of us single guys with dad bods and wobbly bits and man boobs, it is always going to be nigh on impossible to get a reply to a message, let alone a meet. If you think 80% of the men on here have chiseled bodies you’ve not seen many men’s profiles, haha. I’m a big guy with all kinds of wobbly bits and body confidence issues. I put myself out there anyway. I put pictures of myself on my profile, I wrote an honest bio and I go out to clubs to meet people. Guess what, I’ve had meets and veris from a few different people now. Some were sex, some just socials. I have a list of friends I speak to regularly. You get out of swinging what you put in, it’s not about who looks chiseled vs fat. Shh bro your total proof he's chatting shit lol. Its because you have made an effort to embrace and become a valued part of the swinging scene both online and importantly offline in the real world of clubs, socials events etc. Most men coming here for what they hope is an easy fuck (after failing on tinder and similar) are almost always going to be very disappointed. KJ Not everyone has the ability to go to clubs /socials etc. There arnt any in my area since La Chambre closed, and not owning a vehicle makes it impossible to travel a long distance to a club. Also, as it says in my profile I'm hoping to make sone friends on here as well as having some fun. " Your closer to clubs than we are. Many people visit clubs who don't drive e.g you can get a train bus and some clubs offer overnight rooms or crash facilities. We know many regular swinging clubbers who travel further than you would need to by public transport and stay over. Its an adventure if you have the right mindset. Also I believe there are also group social events that are held in your area as well. Putting all that aside though it's your skewered and factually incorrect outlook that is the biggest barrier you face. Almost all the most successful single male swingers we know have dad bods and are far from gym fit. Like the successful chap I quoted said you get out what your put in he is a bigger guy but he positive personality comes across on the forums and it's great to see him doing well and reaping the rewards. ATM all your putting in is negativity which will guarantee that you'll get nowhere. There's nothing as unsexy as woe is me. KJ | |||
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"My advice to all of my fellow single men: only use this page for getting info, reading reviews about clubs, and get a hint that what sort of crowd visits each club - as it can be different club by club. If you want to have fun, go and visit a club. If you have some basic social skills and you are capable of a proper chat, your chances are 1000x better in a club than here. This page is simply terrible for single guys if you want to arrange meets. I tried it right after Covid, when cocktail bars reopened but swinger clubs didn't yet, and the amount of rejection I faced or being simply ignored was madness. Thank God I had previous experience in clubs, and also on "regular" dating apps like Tinder and others, so I knew that I can be successful in flirting with girls. Otherwise, if this site was my first try to flirt, my self-esteem would have gone for sure... At least 100x more men here than women, which makes it a very unlevel playing field. It is, what it is. Go, try a club, 100 times better!" Hmmm……the club scene only reflects the swinging scene in general; mostly couples and single males, with the occasional one or two single females….. 
OP; clubs can be fun, and you can meet some nice people in them, but don’t let anyone make you think it’s any easier or less competitive as a single guy in a club, to using Fab. Having been to several myself (although none in the South), I would never recommend clubs to a mate…..
Fab is about patience, and slimming down your options to those you like the look of, but actually have a potential match with. Don’t be a cat among the pigeons, or message people with a scattergun, think about who/what you’re actually hoping to meet, set your search filter to represent that, then block anyone within those criteria you aren’t a match for, and go from there.
There’s no limit to the number of messages you can send in here in a day, but when there’s only 2 or 3 ladies in a club the night you go, and none of them are your cup of tea, your free membership in here looks like amazing value, compared to what it cost you to visit that club for one evening….. | |||
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"I’ve been on here for a while and I’ve only had 1 proper meet since I started about 6-7 months ago (I don’t fully count it cos it didn’t go as well as I had wished). I’m not sure what I’m missing or why I don’t get replies at all anymore. I’d like to think I’ve got a nice profile but maybe I’m wrong. Any advice? The odds are stacked against single guys on here mate to start with. I'm guess around 80% of members on here are single men. Then out of that probably another 80% of the singles guys are gym warriors with chiseled bodies,pecs and six packs,whoalk tend to have loads of verifications and meets. So for the remaining 20% of us single guys with dad bods and wobbly bits and man boobs, it is always going to be nigh on impossible to get a reply to a message, let alone a meet. " I know a fair few single guys with dad bods and man boobs on here who do amazingly well. The reason why they do well is instead of using their appearance and insecurities as an excuse for failure, they go to clubs, they attend social events, they make an effort to get involved in the swinging scene. They get known for all the right reasons. So instead of whining that no one wants to meet them, they get involved in events and socialise, which leads to more party invites than they can possibly find time to attend. | |||
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"Hmmm……the club scene only reflects the swinging scene in general; mostly couples and single males, with the occasional one or two single females…..
OP; clubs can be fun, and you can meet some nice people in them, but don’t let anyone make you think it’s any easier or less competitive as a single guy in a club, to using Fab. Having been to several myself (although none in the South), I would never recommend clubs to a mate…..
Fab is about patience, and slimming down your options to those you like the look of, but actually have a potential match with. Don’t be a cat among the pigeons, or message people with a scattergun, think about who/what you’re actually hoping to meet, set your search filter to represent that, then block anyone within those criteria you aren’t a match for, and go from there.
There’s no limit to the number of messages you can send in here in a day, but when there’s only 2 or 3 ladies in a club the night you go, and none of them are your cup of tea, your free membership in here looks like amazing value, compared to what it cost you to visit that club for one evening….. "Must argue this, but nothing personal, only do it coz I think it can be helpful for other guys.  And I can accept that you might have different experiences. Though due to my experiences (100+ visits in 10+ clubs vs close to a hundred - properly written, not one-liner - sent messages here), I find clubs way easier and better field!
There are clubs and parties, where the number of single guys is limited, and the girl/boy ratio is not worse than 40-60, including the male half of the couples! Compare it to the 1-100 here...
And even on those, where unlimited single guys are allowed, it's much easier to stand out from the "wanking lot" if you dress properly, approach others and communicate in a relaxed, respectful manner.
True, here you can send unlimited messages. The only question is, how do you handle the constant rejection and how will it affect your self-esteem, and worst case your general attitude toward girls and flirting in the long go? I genuinely think it can be a real danger for some guys on this page, especially if they are not super confident in default.
I am a confident guy, and I can deal with rejection, that's part of the game. I'm very active on regular dating apps and going out to "normal" clubs and cocktail bars too, even like to approach the girls I find attractive in a coffee shop - and of course, I'm not everyone's cup of tea. But compared to my "real life" experiences, the rejection ratio here was unbelievable.
Of course, it also makes a difference, how do you "set your standards", when you chose the girls/couples you want to contact here? Luckily, beauty is a very subjective matter but let's face it if your "taste" is similar to the majority of guys, you will face crazy competition. Those girls and couples receive literally hundreds of messages every day here. Put it in the perspective of a sports competition for a second: how hard is it to win a race out of over a hundred opponents?
But here is the danger: you won't feel the size of the competition, as you will focus on the girls. You will only notice that almost no one finds you attractive enough to show some interest. And for a man, who is not confident enough, this can be dangerous, and worst case can lead to misogyny or becoming an "incel".
I can regularly see desperate "what's wrong with me" posts from guys here, who probably would be way more successful on regular dating apps, than some of those girls who refuse them on this page... But it's nothing to blame the girls, this is the law of market, supply and demand.
To cut the long story short, for single men, if you want to flirt/meet/befriend/find a sex partner, both swinger clubs or regular dating apps are a way better option than this site. So don't get scared, it's nothing wrong with you, it's only about the numbers. | |||
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"I’ve been on here for a while and I’ve only had 1 proper meet since I started about 6-7 months ago (I don’t fully count it cos it didn’t go as well as I had wished). I’m not sure what I’m missing or why I don’t get replies at all anymore. I’d like to think I’ve got a nice profile but maybe I’m wrong. Any advice? The odds are stacked against single guys on here mate to start with. I'm guess around 80% of members on here are single men. Then out of that probably another 80% of the singles guys are gym warriors with chiseled bodies,pecs and six packs,whoalk tend to have loads of verifications and meets. So for the remaining 20% of us single guys with dad bods and wobbly bits and man boobs, it is always going to be nigh on impossible to get a reply to a message, let alone a meet. I know a fair few single guys with dad bods and man boobs on here who do amazingly well. The reason why they do well is instead of using their appearance and insecurities as an excuse for failure, they go to clubs, they attend social events, they make an effort to get involved in the swinging scene. They get known for all the right reasons. So instead of whining that no one wants to meet them, they get involved in events and socialise, which leads to more party invites than they can possibly find time to attend." I welcome your feedback, and I'm grateful for it, but I used to attend socials and events at La Chambre in Sheffield for a number of years before it closed, and I found that is was the same as I find it on here, ie,those with the chiseled gym bods were the ones who who attracted the attention of the couples and single ladies, not us with the dad bods. Yes, I can see where you are coming from with regards to single guys getting out the to clubs and socials, but from my experience it's exactly the same as it is on swinging websites. To be clear, I'm not body sensitive. I have what I have, I've never been within 109 yards of a gym in my life,and never will, and I have a belly and man boobs, but I'm totally happy in my skin, even though I accept it puts me at a massive disadvantage on sites like Fab. | |||
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"So I welcome your feedback, and I'm grateful for it, but I used to attend socials and events at La Chambre in Sheffield for a number of years before it closed, and I found that is was the same as I find it on here, ie,those with the chiseled gym bods were the ones who who attracted the attention of the couples and single ladies, not us with the dad bods. Yes, I can see where you are coming from with regards to single guys getting out the to clubs and socials, but from my experience it's exactly the same as it is on swinging websites. To be clear, I'm not body sensitive. I have what I have, I've never been within 109 yards of a gym in my life,and never will, and I have a belly and man boobs, but I'm totally happy in my skin, even though I accept it puts me at a massive disadvantage on sites like Fab. " That may have been your experience at that particular club, but it hasn’t been mine in any of the clubs I’ve visited. I don’t feel as if I’m at a massive disadvantage on the site either because of the way I look. Women who are attracted to slim, ‘chiseled’ men aren’t going to be attracted to me so I don’t focus on them. Why would I? That doesn’t put me at a disadvantage, it’s just what they are attracted to. Plenty of other women are attracted to guys like me so I talk to them instead. I never have any expectations and I’ve met several people that way. You say travel is impossible, does that include meeting for socials with people? If so that could be a problem as a lot of people - singles and couples - will want to meet socially somewhere neutral before meeting for sex. | |||
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"I’ve been on here for a while and I’ve only had 1 proper meet since I started about 6-7 months ago (I don’t fully count it cos it didn’t go as well as I had wished). I’m not sure what I’m missing or why I don’t get replies at all anymore. I’d like to think I’ve got a nice profile but maybe I’m wrong. Any advice?" maybe it's your age 26 a lot of people here old enough to be your parents or grandparents  | |||
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"I don't get any responses either but I put it down to no one wanting anything to do with a guy of my age." There's at least three things that'd stopnus replying before we even got to your age. (Bry) | |||
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"One of the main things on Fab is the % of men vs ladies and couples." It's not. It's the %age of men that make zero effort compared to those that put some in. When nine out of ten messages have no profile pic, no pics or details on their profile and consist of "how's u", "want to meet now", "Ur sexy" or "mmmmmmmmm" it means most won't get read or replied to. (Bry) | |||
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"One of the main things on Fab is the % of men vs ladies and couples. It's not. It's the %age of men that make zero effort compared to those that put some in. When nine out of ten messages have no profile pic, no pics or details on their profile and consist of "how's u", "want to meet now", "Ur sexy" or "mmmmmmmmm" it means most won't get read or replied to. (Bry)" It's not true like this. For sure, you get plenty of idiots with messages like this, but even if only one man out of 10 writes proper emails, the attractive girls and couples will still receive dozens of well-written messages every single day. Unless they are absolute nymphomaniacs and have nothing else to do in life than shagging, 99% of those well-written messages still won't go anywhere. That is the truth, and to be honest, saying anything else just makes it worst for those guys who have a proper attitude to this site, but coz of the lack of success they think something is wrong with them... | |||
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"One of the main things on Fab is the % of men vs ladies and couples. It's not. It's the %age of men that make zero effort compared to those that put some in. When nine out of ten messages have no profile pic, no pics or details on their profile and consist of "how's u", "want to meet now", "Ur sexy" or "mmmmmmmmm" it means most won't get read or replied to. (Bry) It's not true like this. For sure, you get plenty of idiots with messages like this, but even if only one man out of 10 writes proper emails, the attractive girls and couples will still receive dozens of well-written messages every single day. Unless they are absolute nymphomaniacs and have nothing else to do in life than shagging, 99% of those well-written messages still won't go anywhere. That is the truth, and to be honest, saying anything else just makes it worst for those guys who have a proper attitude to this site, but coz of the lack of success they think something is wrong with them..." | |||
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" I welcome your feedback, and I'm grateful for it, but I used to attend socials and events at La Chambre in Sheffield for a number of years before it closed, and I found that is was the same as I find it on here, ie,those with the chiseled gym bods were the ones who who attracted the attention of the couples and single ladies, not us with the dad bods. Yes, I can see where you are coming from with regards to single guys getting out the to clubs and socials, but from my experience it's exactly the same as it is on swinging websites. To be clear, I'm not body sensitive. I have what I have, I've never been within 109 yards of a gym in my life,and never will, and I have a belly and man boobs, but I'm totally happy in my skin, even though I accept it puts me at a massive disadvantage on sites like Fab. " If you are happy in your skin, then it's great, but tbh due to your comments here it doesn't seem like that. Depend's what sort of girls you find attractive, if "Big Beautiful Women" is your thing, I don't think that your man boobs would be a blocker, but if you prefer fit girls yourself, don't be surprised if they have preferences too. Trust me, gyms are not that terrible places, but you don't even need to go there, you can also do plenty of exercises in your own house, or use those public gym-parks. I usually go to these parks, they are 24/7, 100% free and just great! I really don't want to lecture anyone here, but if my story helps even one man even just a little bit, then it is worth it. I changed my lifestyle a lot around 4 years ago. Cut back my drinking habits from the daily 2-3 beers to drinking only socially when I'm at a party. Changed the 3 kebab shop meals a day to proper food, fish, lean chicken, rice and veg, I buy it in the Aldi and make it myself in 30 min... Cheap, fast, healthier. And I do exercises 3-4 times a week, sometimes at home, sometimes at those gym parks. I noticed the results after around half a year, my body changed a lot, I became way more energetic in general, and yes, I have more success in swinger clubs, or in regular nights out too. My self-confidence has been boosted a lot, which I benefit not only in my sex life but in work and general social life too. If you like to enjoy quality, in life, nothing comes for free, you must put some effort in it, but it is worth it! | |||
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"One of the main things on Fab is the % of men vs ladies and couples. It's not. It's the %age of men that make zero effort compared to those that put some in. When nine out of ten messages have no profile pic, no pics or details on their profile and consist of "how's u", "want to meet now", "Ur sexy" or "mmmmmmmmm" it means most won't get read or replied to. (Bry) It's not true like this. For sure, you get plenty of idiots with messages like this, but even if only one man out of 10 writes proper emails, the attractive girls and couples will still receive dozens of well-written messages every single day. Unless they are absolute nymphomaniacs and have nothing else to do in life than shagging, 99% of those well-written messages still won't go anywhere. That is the truth, and to be honest, saying anything else just makes it worst for those guys who have a proper attitude to this site, but coz of the lack of success they think something is wrong with them... "Great replies as opened up my comment in more detail | |||
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"One of your verifications is from a man. A lot of people will be put off by that especially as your profile states that your straight. " Busted! | |||
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"Its the same for any man here no matter how good you look or what your pictures look like. Men outnumber the womwn and the womwn on.here are and can afford to be extremely picky. " I kind of disagree. There may be more men than woman. I really don’t know the percentages but that doesn’t make us extremely picky. If there were only 10 men here and none were my type I wouldn’t meet them. And to add if you speak to some woman here they have been turned down or had messages not replied to by men. | |||
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" And to add if you speak to some woman here they have been turned down or had messages not replied to by men. " Yep! I’ve had MM couples either not reply or stop replying when I sent a face pic  MM couples on here are soooooo rare, it was disappointing
I’ve also had men straight up send me abuse when I’ve explained what I’m into/looking for. | |||
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MM couples on here are soooooo rare, it was disappointing
I’ve also had men straight up send me abuse when I’ve explained what I’m into/looking for.
Shame you're not nearer, I have a bi friend who'd love a woman to join us
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"I really don’t know the percentages but that doesn’t make us extremely picky. And to add if you speak to some woman here they have been turned down or had messages not replied to by men. " I think being "extremely picky" is normal, both for men and women. Why the hell should I have sex with someone I don't even find attractive? It's funny why it sounds strange at all that sometimes women get rejected too by men. The fact that it feels like an unusual thing, says a lot about this website and the "supply-demand" here. | |||
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"I would welcome any feedback on why I might not be having any success. I appreciate being old and married doesn't help!!" No photos and bio isn’t great | |||
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"I really don’t know the percentages but that doesn’t make us extremely picky. And to add if you speak to some woman here they have been turned down or had messages not replied to by men. I think being "extremely picky" is normal, both for men and women. Why the hell should I have sex with someone I don't even find attractive? It's funny why it sounds strange at all that sometimes women get rejected too by men. The fact that it feels like an unusual thing, says a lot about this website and the "supply-demand" here. " | |||
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"I’ve been on here for a while and I’ve only had 1 proper meet since I started about 6-7 months ago (I don’t fully count it cos it didn’t go as well as I had wished). I’m not sure what I’m missing or why I don’t get replies at all anymore. I’d like to think I’ve got a nice profile but maybe I’m wrong. Any advice?" Honestly. I was looking at your profile and wondered what was wrong, until I read the bit in your bio about looking for a woman/couple who wants to please dick. It screams someone who is selfish, and I would delete a message just based on that. Obviously there are women who are solely here to please, but there are also a lot more men to choose from. So I would maybe reword the bio, tell potential meets what you can offer them, rather than what you want, if that makes sense. | |||
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"I would welcome any feedback on why I might not be having any success. I appreciate being old and married doesn't help!!" It is considered poor forum ettiquette to hijack someone elses thread. You should really start your own | |||
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"My advice to all of my fellow single men: only use this page for getting info, reading reviews about clubs, and get a hint that what sort of crowd visits each club - as it can be different club by club. Well said that man so true , and its the eay it is on here just a bear pit but then again some people do win the lottery! If you want to have fun, go and visit a club. If you have some basic social skills and you are capable of a proper chat, your chances are 1000x better in a club than here. This page is simply terrible for single guys if you want to arrange meets. I tried it right after Covid, when cocktail bars reopened but swinger clubs didn't yet, and the amount of rejection I faced or being simply ignored was madness. Thank God I had previous experience in clubs, and also on "regular" dating apps like Tinder and others, so I knew that I can be successful in flirting with girls. Otherwise, if this site was my first try to flirt, my self-esteem would have gone for sure... At least 100x more men here than women, which makes it a very unlevel playing field. It is, what it is. Go, try a club, 100 times better!" | |||
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"Mate , it’s the single man thing, it’s the same for most of us, I wouldn’t worry that your doing anything wrong coz your not, just way it is buddy I’ve been on here for a while and I’ve only had 1 proper meet since I started about 6-7 months ago (I don’t fully count it cos it didn’t go as well as I had wished). I’m not sure what I’m missing or why I don’t get replies at all anymore. I’d like to think I’ve got a nice profile but maybe I’m wrong. Any advice?" I Duno if that's totally true. Trust me, there's always things people do without realising it. For me, your profile lacks photos but it's ok if you send them directly to me (vice versa). But what i find most off putting is certain terms you used. You wouldn't at all be type to want to respond. But hey, we all look for different things. Some people might think your profile is amazing and say yes to you.good luck op | |||
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"I would welcome any feedback on why I might not be having any success. I appreciate being old and married doesn't help!! It is considered poor forum ettiquette to hijack someone elses thread. You should really start your own" Ha, I noticed there's a trend of poor etiquette and noone discusses that. Usually that's what kills possible meets. | |||
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"I would welcome any feedback on why I might not be having any success. I appreciate being old and married doesn't help!! It is considered poor forum ettiquette to hijack someone elses thread. You should really start your own Ha, I noticed there's a trend of poor etiquette and noone discusses that. Usually that's what kills possible meets. " I usually find that putting my face pics in my public photos is what kills any possible meets. | |||
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