FabSwingers.com forum: Disability

By *uriousBristolCpl OP Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Is our profile too long, too honest?

Met a few great Guys but couples proving very elusive

Each to their own and we respect it's not gonna be everyones cuppa but thought we may be more appealing to soft swap cpls

Fully aware that we are not supermodels so maybe it's the face pics that scare folks off

Any feedback very much appreciated

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I like it, very honest and I hope you both have great fun on here.

all the best

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

ps... I am not sure about the password thingy... some like it, I don't ( that doesn't make it wrong tho )

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By *uriousBristolCpl OP Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

"I like it, very honest and I hope you both have great fun on here.

all the best"

Thanks for taking time to peruse

Yeh the passwords a bit lame but just want too try and ensure that folks have actually read it

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"I like it, very honest and I hope you both have great fun on here.

all the best

Thanks for taking time to peruse

Yeh the passwords a bit lame but just want too try and ensure that folks have actually read it

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

I think it's excellent! Honest and upfront, wouldn't put me off at all, maybe a few more pics would help? Just from what I've seen others recommend to people asking the same x

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By *andACouple
over a year ago

glasgow

It looks fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree - I love a well written profile such as yours but maybe one or two pics more would help, but otherwise I cant see any problem with it whatsoever.

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By *uriousBristolCpl OP Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Thanks folks

Lin & xxxxMiss simply STUNNING X

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"Thanks folks

Lin & xxxxMiss simply STUNNING X

Aw, blush... Thank you xx

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By *uriousBristolCpl OP Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

"Thanks folks

Lin & xxxxMiss simply STUNNING X

Aw, blush... Thank you xx "

You're very wecome.

Great legs, ass and lovely pert breasts x

Damn you for not meeting, living so far away and not meeting your age criteria

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

My boobs are fake so I can't take credit for them!! Lol.

Age is negotiable somewhat but it is a long way away!! X

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By *uriousBristolCpl OP Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

"My boobs are fake so I can't take credit for them!! Lol.

Age is negotiable somewhat but it is a long way away!! X "

Hilarious and very honest

Come visit Bristol one day x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it is a very well thought out profile.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is our profile too long, too honest?

Met a few great Guys but couples proving very elusive

Each to their own and we respect it's not gonna be everyones cuppa but thought we may be more appealing to soft swap cpls

Fully aware that we are not supermodels so maybe it's the face pics that scare folks off

Any feedback very much appreciated"

It's a good profile, reads well and is honest! Maybe a few more enticing public pictures!

Good luck to the both of you

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By *uriousBristolCpl OP Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is our profile too long, too honest?

Met a few great Guys but couples proving very elusive

Each to their own and we respect it's not gonna be everyones cuppa but thought we may be more appealing to soft swap cpls

Fully aware that we are not supermodels so maybe it's the face pics that scare folks off

Any feedback very much appreciated"

Our honest opinion? Stand back, put yourself in another couples shoes (or nickers

) and read your profile through carefully.

It's good as profiles go, but there are quite a lot of un-intentional barriers within the wording. To us, it makes us feel as if you would be quite hard to approach and take a LOT of convo to find out if we really would meet.

Well, ya did ask......

and

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By *uriousBristolCpl OP Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

"Is our profile too long, too honest?

Met a few great Guys but couples proving very elusive

Each to their own and we respect it's not gonna be everyones cuppa but thought we may be more appealing to soft swap cpls

Fully aware that we are not supermodels so maybe it's the face pics that scare folks off

Any feedback very much appreciated

It's a good profile, reads well and is honest! Maybe a few more enticing public pictures!

Good luck to the both of you

So all the ladies that have replied are all absolute darlings and like the profile

Leads us to believe it is our face pics putting the frightners on everyone

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By *uriousBristolCpl OP Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

"Is our profile too long, too honest?

Met a few great Guys but couples proving very elusive

Each to their own and we respect it's not gonna be everyones cuppa but thought we may be more appealing to soft swap cpls

Fully aware that we are not supermodels so maybe it's the face pics that scare folks off

Any feedback very much appreciated

Our honest opinion? Stand back, put yourself in another couples shoes (or nickers

) and read your profile through carefully.

Well, ya did ask......

and

Thanks and very interesting

Barriers and hard to approach.

Please could you elaborate? x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a wonderful meet with a chap in a wheelchair a while back. However I was wary, before meeting him, because I had no idea what I could offer him.

I feel a little the same with your profile - you mention he can't receive oral, and you give a hint as to what he could do for a woman, but nothing about what a woman could do for him.

However, apart from that I think your profile is excellent.

Good luck in your search.

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

I think that your profile is well written and honest I see no issue with it.

For us I think having never experienced an interaction of the kind we are talking about it would be uncertainty of how that would work.

We always seek for everyone involved to get the most amount of enjoyment they can when we play and just not sure how that would work.

Face pic's... Maybe but not everyone will feel that same and we can't see them. So maybe try sending with first msg and you know if they keep talking then you can be sure it's not that.

We think your best option by far is a club. We would thoroughly recommend Vanilla Alternatives for the club itself as there are no stairs that we recall. However the hotel attached does have stairs. We think you would be far better off ina friendly club environment where people can engage with you face to face.

Good luck

Xxxx

P.S We would like to see a few more pics aswell. The one you have is very sexy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Profile is fine, would be great some body pics of BOTH. It always help for us.

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By *atasha_DavidCouple
over a year ago

Slough

I think you slightly labour the point about your husbands disability. Whilst appreciating it is significant, you have made its existence plain and if people approach you it should be in that knowledge.

I think you could show a little more of "you" in your profile, what sort of people are you. Compatibility on a social level matters unless you looking for NSA meets, so knowing you have things in common and that there are no deal breakers would encourage people to talk to you.

That is no different to looks of course and couples are often difficult to please both halves of. Have you considered visiting a club, you might find it easier to meet people in their more immediate atmosphere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

think the password is an excellent idear proves they have read your profile ....many dont

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like it, very honest and I hope you both have great fun on here.

all the best

Thanks for taking time to peruse

Yeh the passwords a bit lame but just want too try and ensure that folks have actually read it

People rarely read profiles and I suspect that those who put the password in their message, have cottoned on to the fact that people are doing it and possibly skim the profile; checking the pictures is all some can manage

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont like password thing .. i see one yesterday .. it said mail with password at the top .. I dont like being told what to do . Your profile come across ok and up front about what your looking for here.

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

Your profile is great - very clear and honest, keep on looking and I'm sure you'll have fun, all the best for Christmas too! Z

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford

good profile u sound v nice id meet u if we were closer maybe a couple more pics x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

charles tho a v young looking 69 has a severe arthritic condition-he has also had a heart attack some years ago the drugs for which slow him down sexually

Tina is a very pretty 66 and genuinely kooks in her 40s-we both love sex but feel inhited in going to clubs

yellow

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By *olfcartweaselCouple
over a year ago

Melrose

"I think you slightly labour the point about your husbands disability. Whilst appreciating it is significant, you have made its existence plain and if people approach you it should be in that knowledge.

How many clubs have wheelchair access?

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By *atasha_DavidCouple
over a year ago

Slough

At least two, as already mentioned, Vanilla Alternative and AbFabs, the latter I have personally seen a wheelchair user navigate successfully.

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By *uriousBristolCpl OP Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

How many clubs have wheelchair access?"

Not enough although they are rarely covered by the DDA

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By *uriousBristolCpl OP Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

"At least two, as already mentioned, Vanilla Alternative and AbFabs, the latter I have personally seen a wheelchair user navigate successfully."

Good call but both are 2.5hrs plus from Bristol

Good to see it disscussed and thanks so much to all forr feedback x

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By *mileyBWoman
over a year ago

Northwood

I would normally say that the profile is a little wordy but yours is just fine, it is as wordy as it needs to be but is interesting and obviously covers everything required.

Perhaps not everyone is sure enough about themselves to meet a couple who have limited ability.

I say good for you go for it and I wish you luck and good times.

Meets may be few and far between but when they happen I'm sure it will be with really nice genuine people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is our profile too long, too honest?

Met a few great Guys but couples proving very elusive

Each to their own and we respect it's not gonna be everyones cuppa but thought we may be more appealing to soft swap cpls

Fully aware that we are not supermodels so maybe it's the face pics that scare folks off

Any feedback very much appreciated"

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By *uriousgeekyCouple
over a year ago

Bath

We can't see the profile so can't comment. Blocked?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personly think its a really good profile xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love the profile upfront and honest, but do agree with some of the comments on here, you need afew more pictures and maybe let more of your personality out in the profile ( although not quite sure how you would do that as it is well thoughtful and written ).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is our profile too long, too honest?

Met a few great Guys but couples proving very elusive

Each to their own and we respect it's not gonna be everyones cuppa but thought we may be more appealing to soft swap cpls

Fully aware that we are not supermodels so maybe it's the face pics that scare folks off

Any feedback very much appreciated

Our honest opinion? Stand back, put yourself in another couples shoes (or nickers

) and read your profile through carefully.

Well, ya did ask......

and

Thanks and very interesting

Barriers and hard to approach.

Please could you elaborate? x"

Sorry it's taken me a day or so to get back to you (work! Damn!!). Tbh it's the first half of your profile that we find a little off-putting. It's very 'We' orientated and many of the sentences are littered with demands (we 'expect', etc). We understand that it is easy to write a profile like that as we all get very frustrated with some of the idiots on here, but remember that your profile is your selling tool - and if it isn't selling you first and foremost, it won't work.

We all have 'conditions' under which we swing, and we all have a right to make those conditions clear, but there is a way of saying everything which can be to your advantage - or, too easily, to your disadvantage.

Just think you need to think a bit more about that first half and maybe re-write it as creatively as the last half is...

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By *coobyroo218Couple
over a year ago

Guernsey

I think your profile is ok it tells us exactly what you want.

I think you will struggle with couples though as couples are either full swap or just soft swing, if they are just soft swing then you would probably not get out of what you would like (penetrative sex)i take it from reading your profile that Hubby cannot give this as thats why you say no oral, or am I wrong?? I think this is the only thing wrong with your profile as it does not say exactly what can or cannot happen with hubby.

full swap couples all want to join in the fun.

Finding a couple that will play soft swap with hubby whilst the other plays fully with you might just be too much as to why you are struggling.

This site is like any other, its not easy to find exactly what you want so you have to put the leg work in and go hunting for it yourself, by that I mean you have to send the messages to the couples, and if your messages are anything like your profile (well written) you just never know what might come of it.

Good luck with it all and I hope you find all the fun you will be after.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks fine to us,we have had a few soft swap meets (nat just playing with the lady while partners watch) so there is peeps out there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"charles tho a v young looking 69 has a severe arthritic condition-he has also had a heart attack some years ago the drugs for which slow him down sexually

Tina is a very pretty 66 and genuinely kooks in her 40s-we both love sex but feel inhited in going to clubs

yellow "

would you like to pursue our interest[charles is sex mad but feels v guilty that tina s climaxes have been reduced by 80%-tina is magnificent and nevers hints at any complaint-people say tina is still stunning -please let us know what you both think-is it worth pursuing

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By *ucktruckCouple
over a year ago

derby

Nothing wrong with your profile, its a good read, hope it brings you lots of luck on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Firmly agree with the positive responses,your profile gives clear information so people can contact you or not depending on that information.im no expert but id say you've got it right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is our profile too long, too honest?

Met a few great Guys but couples proving very elusive

Each to their own and we respect it's not gonna be everyones cuppa but thought we may be more appealing to soft swap cpls

Fully aware that we are not supermodels so maybe it's the face pics that scare folks off

Any feedback very much appreciated"

I think its a brilliant and sincere profile. Honest, sincere, appealing and no sign of a rant. Immediately conjures up an image of balanced, pleasant and desirable company. Good luck with your search.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is our profile too long, too honest?

Met a few great Guys but couples proving very elusive

Each to their own and we respect it's not gonna be everyones cuppa but thought we may be more appealing to soft swap cpls

Fully aware that we are not supermodels so maybe it's the face pics that scare folks off

Any feedback very much appreciated"

I think that it is admirable that you are honest, good luck in your search, I wish that more people wrote the truth than some of the bull that is posted to profiles, you always get found out in the end!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How many clubs have wheelchair access?

Not enough although they are rarely covered by the DDA

That's because there are private members clubs and aren't covered by DDE

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meant DEA

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People with disabilities should be catered for in every walk of life and these clubs/venues are disciminating if access is denied because of disability.

Well done for bringing the point of disabilty to a point of interest, There are many disabilites that are visible and many that are not and the DDA does not help or stop discrimination. "Him" has a disability where he would decline food and drinks outside his own home and he is discriminated against because he is outside the recognised criteria of the condition legally and medically.

Maybe a point of consideration of swingers clubs to look at.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like it.

Longish, but everything is separated into paragraphs unlike some profiles which are just one big blob of text. And you've highlighted the important bits to you in capitals.

The password bit may come across as lame to some, and and someone wrote that they don't like being told what to do, but I say stuff them. Every little bit helps in ing out the dreamers, and if someone can't be bothered to read to the bottom of your profile and write one word in the subject box...are they really going to be bothered to make the effort to meet you?

As you pointed out, any meets are potentially complicated by Him being a wheelchair user. I'd say quite a few people don't have much experience of dealing with people in a wheelchair in everyday life let alone in a sexual/swinging situation. As Scarlett Heart and Phoenixcouple mentioned, the uncertainty and wariness of meeting a wheelchair user from having no idea what they can offer and what you can offer them may put people off...

So maybe it would be worthwhile elaborating a bit more?...

You (Her) live with Him everyday so you know what he's capable of and it's normal to you, people on here don't have that opportunity and I think (you'd be surprised) that they'd be surprised of what he's capable of. Though of course it may not be enough for some couples.

It DOESN'T mention Sydney...always a good thing!

Pics...depends if you're looking or you want couples to find you. If you're looking couples to find you, I think more pics would be good to get their attention. If you want to do the looking, no more pics are needed, you can just send them privately with a message. Nothing you can do about the face pics though

avoid harsh lighting and take it of your best side

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had great fun in the past with disabled people, andif I was more local and met your criteria Id love to have met you both

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