FabSwingers.com forum: Clubs vs parties

By *ancs married couple OP Couple
over a year ago

Silverdale

Weve been to a few clubs now and, this may sound controversial, but we dont just find them sexy. Even if we met a single or couple the environment just isnt right for us.

I guess we are looking for something more intimate with people we fancy - theres lots of really lovely people in clubs but the majority arent our cup of tea. (Dont mean that in a bad way just preferences that's all)

With that in mind, are parties better or is it the same kind of thing as a club?

Has any other couples experienced this and if so what did you do instead? Thanks all xx

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Me and my other half love clubs but know exactly what you mean. For us clubs are more about getting away from the family, socialising and have a few laughs in a safe place. We're probably not what most would consider great swingers but that's OK because when the right people come along and the chemistry is right we're awesome. We just fuck our way through the club. Although clubs aren't always sexy they're a great place to meet people face to face risk free. You can always arrange to meet in future outside of the club. And to be fair we have had some really hot times in clubs. I think a lot of it is about checking your expectations before hand.

As for parties we've only been to one. It was hosted by very good freinds of ours and I think they got it just right. From my understanding (of what others have said) about parties is often the focus is on the sex and everyone is kind of expect to just get down to it. That's not our style. But our freinds described the party as a part for swingers rather than a swingers party. The focus on having a laugh and a good time rather than the sex. It was a lot fun and relaxed and the sex happened naturally. So if all parties were like that I'd totally do parties. However I understand a lot of parties aren't like that and sometimes a bit grim (for experiences we've been told).

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Weve been to a few clubs now and, this may sound controversial, but we dont just find them sexy. Even if we met a single or couple the environment just isnt right for us.

With that in mind, are parties better or is it the same kind of thing as a club?

Has any other couples experienced this and if so what did you do instead? Thanks all xx

If you want to ensure that everyone present at a party is, as you say, your 'cup of tea', then there's only one possible way to achieve that.

Host your own party where you vet each attendee.

At any club or private party there will always be people who you're not interested in/attracted to. Likewise you won't be to everyone else's taste. Even if you held your own bash the onky way you could guarantee everyone fancied you would be to ask them in advance and only invite them if they said yes.

The 'ideal world' you seek doesn't exist. If you're just looking for physical attraction you may also find the people you like the look of the most are no longer of interest once a few words are exchanged.

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By *orizMan
over a year ago

Redditch

I have to disagree Obi fox.

I host parties and by carefully selecting your guests you can achieve what your looking for. Whilst house parties are in decline post covid as everyone seems to be going to clubs , a good house party always beats a club night. Obviously in my opinion as its what l prefer but then again so do my guests.

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

I have been to a few clubs as well as to a few parties. I am quite an introvert, prefer to listen and watch, at least at first. I do need quite a bit of time to "warm up". I prefer clubs to parties as at the parties, if you don't get on with someone, there isn't much space to "escape" from them. At a club, you can just move to another part, and there are usually more people about than at a party.

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By *ancs married couple OP Couple
over a year ago

Silverdale

Hi all, useful to get different views, thanks xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I far prefer clubs to parties. Maybe i've been unlucky in parties but they have all been awful, gross, dirty house, the people all looked unclean, racist and generally horrible.

At a club it's fairly easy to avoid guys i don't like.

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By *ancs married couple OP Couple
over a year ago

Silverdale

Thanks jinglenell! I guess the best thing to do is organise meets with specific people - then once you've met with and played with a few people invite them all to a party lol x

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By *weet and SpiceCouple
over a year ago

Around the Midlands

We prefer clubs as private parties are more restrictive (we went to one which was not a good experience).

Plus the facilities at clubs are more varied and safer

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By *iscreetfuncpl12Couple
over a year ago

Somerset

We are going to a party, our first, and an all bi affair, next weekend. We have been to clubs and are quite excited to find out what fun private parties bring. The house looks lovely and I am sure there will be no racists present so fingers crossed for an enjoyable night!

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By *ancs married couple OP Couple
over a year ago

Silverdale

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By *arkandlovelyWoman
over a year ago

South Derbyshire

"I far prefer clubs to parties. Maybe i've been unlucky in parties but they have all been awful, gross, dirty house, the people all looked unclean, racist and generally horrible.

At a club it's fairly easy to avoid guys i don't like."

Looked racist or were racist?

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Maybe i've been unlucky in parties but they have all been awful, gross, dirty house, the people all looked unclean, racist and generally horrible.

Do you stay and play ?

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

"Weve been to a few clubs now and, this may sound controversial, but we dont just find them sexy. Even if we met a single or couple the environment just isnt right for us.

With that in mind, are parties better or is it the same kind of thing as a club?

Has any other couples experienced this and if so what did you do instead? Thanks all xx

Well obviously if you are invited to a party there's still potential for there to be no one you like

If you host a party well then you can invite exactly who you want

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

I know what you mean, maybe I'm just not a good fit for clubs but it took me a long time to feel relaxed enough even to play with Mr Fox at our local club! Totally different scenario to one on one x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I far prefer clubs to parties. Maybe i've been unlucky in parties but they have all been awful, gross, dirty house, the people all looked unclean, racist and generally horrible.

At a club it's fairly easy to avoid guys i don't like.

Looked racist or were racist?"

I try not to dismiss r-word accusations out of hand, but that's a weird one. Were guests goosestepping to and from the toilet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love clubs, but love parties more. It’s a pity my mate who used to host then no longer bothers. Haven’t sadly had another invite since

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By *oandjohnCouple
over a year ago

South Wales, will travel to Hereford, Worcestershire and Shropshire

Both can be equally great

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By *arkandlovelyWoman
over a year ago

South Derbyshire

"I far prefer clubs to parties. Maybe i've been unlucky in parties but they have all been awful, gross, dirty house, the people all looked unclean, racist and generally horrible.

At a club it's fairly easy to avoid guys i don't like.

Looked racist or were racist?

I try not to dismiss r-word accusations out of hand, but that's a weird one. Were guests goosestepping to and from the toilet?"

I'm imagining shite tattoos, an England shirt, well-worn cargo shorts and a sunburned bald head.

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

Not sure that you can win

We've been to club play or sx as it's know now

It was a party night and packed out

And we didn't even get a chancer trying his luck

And we've been to a party where they didn't give the guest list out

7 or 8 couples of which 3 were on our block list ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I far prefer clubs to parties. Maybe i've been unlucky in parties but they have all been awful, gross, dirty house, the people all looked unclean, racist and generally horrible.

At a club it's fairly easy to avoid guys i don't like.

Looked racist or were racist?"

Were racist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks jinglenell! I guess the best thing to do is organise meets with specific people - then once you've met with and played with a few people invite them all to a party lol x "

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I far prefer clubs to parties. Maybe i've been unlucky in parties but they have all been awful, gross, dirty house, the people all looked unclean, racist and generally horrible.

At a club it's fairly easy to avoid guys i don't like.

Looked racist or were racist?"

Were racist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe i've been unlucky in parties but they have all been awful, gross, dirty house, the people all looked unclean, racist and generally horrible.

Do you stay and play ?"

No of course not lol

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"I have to disagree Obi fox.

You missed the point.

Unless you're actually the host you have no control over the guest list.

Which you are. So you do.

The OP doesn't host, hence I suggested it.

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By *augthy couple2Couple
over a year ago

bradford

We prefer a good house party that is hosted well

They best ones have a time cut off time where outer garments are removed, this creates a nice atmosphere.

We are available for invites too if you are looking for guests who know how to party

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

We liked club's, D organised a party for my birthday.. Much prefer parties now!!

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