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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So I’ve had a few bad experiences recently. Good ones too. I’ve revised my profile. Hoping to make it more clear what I’m about and looking for. Lots of views but reduced volume of messages. Is it too aggressive? All opinions in re writes welcome x

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By *evilWoman16Woman
over a year ago

Neath,united kingdom


"So I’ve had a few bad experiences recently. Good ones too. I’ve revised my profile. Hoping to make it more clear what I’m about and looking for. Lots of views but reduced volume of messages. Is it too aggressive? All opinions in re writes welcome x"

I personally think it's well written,polite whilst getting your point. I'm actually going to re look at mine and take some points from yours.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So I’ve had a few bad experiences recently. Good ones too. I’ve revised my profile. Hoping to make it more clear what I’m about and looking for. Lots of views but reduced volume of messages. Is it too aggressive? All opinions in re writes welcome x

I personally think it's well written,polite whilst getting your point. I'm actually going to re look at mine and take some points from yours."

Glad you found it useful

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"So I’ve had a few bad experiences recently. Good ones too. I’ve revised my profile. Hoping to make it more clear what I’m about and looking for. Lots of views but reduced volume of messages. Is it too aggressive? All opinions in re writes welcome x"

It looks OK to me, although it doesn't really seem to say what you're looking for.

Personally, I'd like to see a couple of pictures, ideally something which gives an indication of body type and personality... no need for nudity just an indication.

Cal

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By *irky_coupleCouple
over a year ago

kirky

Not aggressive at all. Sets out what you are looking for and what you aren't. If you were closer we'd message you especially as you have stated you don't shave. We have that also so find it refreshing to see someone else have it on their profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not aggressive at all. Sets out what you are looking for and what you aren't. If you were closer we'd message you especially as you have stated you don't shave. We have that also so find it refreshing to see someone else have it on their profile."

It just irritates me and it feels odd. I’m sure half don’t read that and it’s a bit of a surprise. It’s shaved mostly around and trimmed in the delicate areas. Plus I’m ginger, I think it’s cute

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By *irky_coupleCouple
over a year ago

kirky


"Not aggressive at all. Sets out what you are looking for and what you aren't. If you were closer we'd message you especially as you have stated you don't shave. We have that also so find it refreshing to see someone else have it on their profile.

It just irritates me and it feels odd. I’m sure half don’t read that and it’s a bit of a surprise. It’s shaved mostly around and trimmed in the delicate areas. Plus I’m ginger, I think it’s cute "

Will have to take your word on that

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"So I’ve had a few bad experiences recently. Good ones too. I’ve revised my profile. Hoping to make it more clear what I’m about and looking for. Lots of views but reduced volume of messages. Is it too aggressive? All opinions in re writes welcome x

I personally think it's well written,polite whilst getting your point. I'm actually going to re look at mine and take some points from yours.

Glad you found it useful "

Some men probably be intimidated by your profile or they read it and they didn't think they be right for you. I use my bio as filters but tbh doesn't stop men from messaging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I’ve had a few bad experiences recently. Good ones too. I’ve revised my profile. Hoping to make it more clear what I’m about and looking for. Lots of views but reduced volume of messages. Is it too aggressive? All opinions in re writes welcome x"

It's a great profile! It's not aggressive, just straight to the point!

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

Your profile is great and straight to the point. Very much like mine, so I can understand what do you mean by asking that question.

I also got very few messages and it’s because:

A) people don’t bother reading

B) and if they do they realise I’m not after a quickie and I look like handful so they don’t bother.

I agree with the way you worded the profile, it great and tells me about who you are. If someone genuinely wants to get to know you, they will.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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Will have to take your word on that "

Shame you’re so far away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have read through your profile and found it clear and concise.

It makes it clear what you are looking for.

Hopefully the reduced messages just means the idiots have read it and realise they arent for you so arent wasting your time by messaging.

I dont get any messages lately. I enjoy the quiet, mostly, means I can browse the forums without constantly checking messages so just spend more time here with us nutters

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By *hoenix_1Man
over a year ago

richmond

If i lived 50 miles closer and was 20 years young I would be messaging you

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By *ischiefManaged69Couple
over a year ago

Preston


"So I’ve had a few bad experiences recently. Good ones too. I’ve revised my profile. Hoping to make it more clear what I’m about and looking for. Lots of views but reduced volume of messages. Is it too aggressive? All opinions in re writes welcome x"

Hi OP.

Sperry to hear you've had some bad experiences recently, just about everyone has the odd one, it's just par for the course with getting to know people remotely.

We think your profile is clear, well written and covers a few points that are deal breakers for lots of folk.

You seem like our kinda gal!

T&T

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"So I’ve had a few bad experiences recently. Good ones too. I’ve revised my profile. Hoping to make it more clear what I’m about and looking for. Lots of views but reduced volume of messages. Is it too aggressive? All opinions in re writes welcome x"
your profile isn't abrupt at all but friends only pics

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By *oupleOfFilthyWeirdosCouple
over a year ago

Merthyr Tydfil

Looks good to us, sets out all of what you need to know (broadly speaking) from a fab profile. Possibly a few public photos wouldn't go a miss

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By *aretobareCouple
over a year ago

Central Portugal

Given the awful experience mentioned in your profile we think it is more than reasonable to take as many precautions as possible. For us what you experienced would be mortifying but if D was still single it would also be terrifying. We think your profile is honest, straightforward and not aggressive in any way xx

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire


"So I’ve had a few bad experiences recently. Good ones too. I’ve revised my profile. Hoping to make it more clear what I’m about and looking for. Lots of views but reduced volume of messages. Is it too aggressive? All opinions in re writes welcome x"

It isn't aggressive

It says a lot but then nothing at the same time..

Perhaps it could be condensed

I'm sure some of it would come up in conversation rather than the need to explain/list every little thing ?

It'd be nice to have a few photos available, there's a whole body beside your face

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

Good profile. My only comments would be add a few public photos and don’t discount people who live further away. Quality people are prepared to travel for quality meetings xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Good profile. My only comments would be add a few public photos and don’t discount people who live further away. Quality people are prepared to travel for quality meetings xxx"

That’s fair enough. Just more seeking a regular and that’s more difficult with distance x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Looks good to us, sets out all of what you need to know (broadly speaking) from a fab profile. Possibly a few public photos wouldn't go a miss "

I’ve unlocked one. It shows my figure better x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So I’ve had a few bad experiences recently. Good ones too. I’ve revised my profile. Hoping to make it more clear what I’m about and looking for. Lots of views but reduced volume of messages. Is it too aggressive? All opinions in re writes welcome xyour profile isn't abrupt at all but friends only pics "

Sorted

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By *anilla-sinCouple
over a year ago

lancs


"So I’ve had a few bad experiences recently. Good ones too. I’ve revised my profile. Hoping to make it more clear what I’m about and looking for. Lots of views but reduced volume of messages. Is it too aggressive? All opinions in re writes welcome x"

really well written, thoughtful, and honest.. we'd not be put off. fancy a shag?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No aggression whatsoever OP.

You come across as a confident woman who knows what you want from Fab.

From my experience of having a solo profile this doesn’t sit well with some and they seem to feel the need to challenge that confidence.

I’ve been taken aback by some of the messages I’ve received and at times have questioned whether it’s worth keeping my profile.

Quick shake of my tail feathers and I’m ok again.

Keep being you OP x

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By *ocopops1962Man
over a year ago

Glasgow / Lindon

I think it’s a lovely warm profile , well written and very clear - there is no aggression in it at all , in fact I think it’s generous in detail - after all it is supposed to be the kick off point for correspondence and there is plenty there to chat about x

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

I think it’s good

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I think there is a danger when you give information away about what your into and like. People will tell you what they think you want to hear to try and bed you. For example you say something like I like to take it slowly, nothing rough etc. That guy who would normally message I will come round and complete ruin your anus will not think oh she doesn't sound for me I'll leave it. No, he'll just modify his approach and disingenuously tell you he wants exactly the same thing as you.

Personally I think a strategy of ambiguity in what your looking for is a helpful filter of it own. Let the wrong people hang themselves in the first few messages by keeping your hand close to your chest and letting them play their hand first. Likewise it gives a chance for the right people to shine without influence or promt from your bio.

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By *andymank8Man
over a year ago

Reigate

Your profile isnt aggressive at all. Polite, clear and respectful.

Wil you meet married guys from loving but sexless marriages?

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

Personally it’s great just trimmed how I like it and ginger to top it off but I’m way to far away to even put myself in the running ( not that I will have a chance) it’s well written and to the point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think there is a danger when you give information away about what your into and like. People will tell you what they think you want to hear to try and bed you. For example you say something like I like to take it slowly, nothing rough etc. That guy who would normally message I will come round and complete ruin your anus will not think oh she doesn't sound for me I'll leave it. No, he'll just modify his approach and disingenuously tell you he wants exactly the same thing as you.

Personally I think a strategy of ambiguity in what your looking for is a helpful filter of it own. Let the wrong people hang themselves in the first few messages by keeping your hand close to your chest and letting them play their hand first. Likewise it gives a chance for the right people to shine without influence or promt from your bio."

Excellent point, I agree that developing a consensual relationship ( on what ever level) is best done slowly and by gentle experimentation, not everyone has a specific goal or fetish to satisfy and by implying you have may result in some less than satisfactory encounters.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

One of the best profiles I've ever seen! - Xeno

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think there is a danger when you give information away about what your into and like. People will tell you what they think you want to hear to try and bed you. For example you say something like I like to take it slowly, nothing rough etc. That guy who would normally message I will come round and complete ruin your anus will not think oh she doesn't sound for me I'll leave it. No, he'll just modify his approach and disingenuously tell you he wants exactly the same thing as you.

Personally I think a strategy of ambiguity in what your looking for is a helpful filter of it own. Let the wrong people hang themselves in the first few messages by keeping your hand close to your chest and letting them play their hand first. Likewise it gives a chance for the right people to shine without influence or promt from your bio."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think there is a danger when you give information away about what your into and like. People will tell you what they think you want to hear to try and bed you. For example you say something like I like to take it slowly, nothing rough etc. That guy who would normally message I will come round and complete ruin your anus will not think oh she doesn't sound for me I'll leave it. No, he'll just modify his approach and disingenuously tell you he wants exactly the same thing as you.

Personally I think a strategy of ambiguity in what your looking for is a helpful filter of it own. Let the wrong people hang themselves in the first few messages by keeping your hand close to your chest and letting them play their hand first. Likewise it gives a chance for the right people to shine without influence or promt from your bio."

As someone with something similar on their profile I can confirm that regardless of what your profile says you will still recieve vile, vulgar and aggressive messages for men because those type of men either don't read your profile or have read it and just don't care

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's nice how honest you are OP

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think it's nice how honest you are OP "

Thank you lovely but some really good points have been raised. I think some will ready and tailor their response to get what they want regardless of what I’ve said x

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