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By *agicfingers007 OP   Man
over a year ago

Torquay

So how many times does a partner get away with it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So how many times does a partner get away with it?"

They get away with it as many times as they can until they get caught.

One and done.

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By *agicfingers007 OP   Man
over a year ago

Torquay

Thanks for your input. I know I'm no super model but honesty is the name of the game!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me,

but it’s once for me and you’re done

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

For me it depends on the context. If a partner felt there were problems in our relationship and didn't or wouldn't talk to me about them but chose cheating instead I'd walk away, it would mean that our relationship had failed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It sometimes depends upon the level of control that the cheater has over the other person.

Cheats often have self obsessed and narcissistic personalities which can manifest in other forms of piss poor behaviour towards others such as verbal and physical abuse and the classic gas lighting “I only did it because you don’t give me what I need”

What goes around comes around though hopefully.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As many times as it’s tolerated by their other half.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

They'd only need to cheat once for me & it would be the end .

Some cheats will get away with it multiple times if their partner doesn't catch on,or turns a blind eye though.

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By *ayleedsMan
over a year ago

Leeds

Find it amusing tho that on hear guys who are in a relationship and effectively cheering get blasted but female who do same just get away with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Find it amusing tho that on hear guys who are in a relationship and effectively cheering get blasted but female who do same just get away with it "

Evidence?

Cheats are cheats.

Only twats cheer someone else’s misery.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit


"Find it amusing tho that on hear guys who are in a relationship and effectively cheering get blasted but female who do same just get away with it "

They don't get ripped into as much that's true ,but thats because many men won't slate them in a forum cos they're less likely to get a shag.

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By *ose and her beastCouple
over a year ago

Watford

Zero

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

They don't... But I am no longer willing to get into a monogamous relationship so it no longer matrers

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By *ory_xWoman
over a year ago

42 Wallaby Way Syndey

One and done. I wont put up with it.

We have the agreement of meeting others in the club. If we met others outside of a club it would be cheating.

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By *amierebelMan
over a year ago

nae danger.

Shouldn't be allowed even once but I'm man enough admit I personally accepted it 3x it's all about circumstances would walking away affect more than you and your partner at that time etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Find it amusing tho that on hear guys who are in a relationship and effectively cheering get blasted but female who do same just get away with it

Evidence?

Cheats are cheats.

Only twats cheer someone else’s misery. "

I've seen a number of threads over the years on the fab forums where female cheaters have been treated exactly the same as male cheaters.

However when there's 100 single males to every single female or couple then it's obvious that male cheats are going to be called out far more, by a factor of 100.

It's wrong, the worst are those who justify it by saying they cheat and lie so they can stay together for the sake of the kids. There's nothing more toxic and devastating than cheating and been ultimately been found out causing untold mental damage to your children.

As someone who works with teenagers who have been devastated by growing up in cheating households the damage to those children can be life long.

Kids are not daft, they see, sense and understand far more than many parents realise. When you only stay a toxic / dead / cheating relationship just for the sake of the children those kids work that out and feel the pain of that burden. They know that one or both parents unhappiness and misery is been compounded for their sake. The damaged caused follows those kids into adulthood, leading to trust and relationship issues in thier lives because of the environment they grew up in.

It's much better and fairer for all parties when both parents split up allowing them both a chance of happiness and work as adults to co parent the children.

2 separated but happy parents sharing parental responsibility is a million times better than 2 parents staying together in a toxic cheating relationship "for the sake of the children" what a truly horrible burden to pass on.

KJ

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"Find it amusing tho that on hear guys who are in a relationship and effectively cheering get blasted but female who do same just get away with it

They don't get ripped into as much that's true ,but thats because many men won't slate them in a forum cos they're less likely to get a shag."

I've never let that stop me, I've been abused by a forumite. If they went to the trouble of getting in my face then they weren't interested in the first place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

14 times. Never more.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit


"Find it amusing tho that on hear guys who are in a relationship and effectively cheering get blasted but female who do same just get away with it

They don't get ripped into as much that's true ,but thats because many men won't slate them in a forum cos they're less likely to get a shag.

I've never let that stop me, I've been abused by a forumite. If they went to the trouble of getting in my face then they weren't interested in the first place."

There's no need for anyone to be abusive to others ,I hope you reported them .

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By *amierebelMan
over a year ago

nae danger.

I sometimes wonder if only everything was as black and white as reading what people write. If life was that easy where we could make assumptions and class it as what we believe it to be and believe in ourselves so much that it then becomes facts

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By *lutandhubbyCouple
over a year ago

west midlands

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By *lutandhubbyCouple
over a year ago

west midlands

i caught my ex wife cheating. thats why she is the ex wife now. wife no 2 is much better

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Once is more than a enough

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

I’ve put up with repeated cheating in the past, but I’d like to think I wouldn’t again. A relationship isn’t worth shit once someone has cheated IMO. So you may aswell cut loose straight away.

If they respected you they wouldn’t cheat. And you can’t have a worthwhile relationship with someone who doesn’t respect you.

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By *pslad99Man
over a year ago

colchester

Once is to much

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By *ikesEmBigMan
over a year ago

Herts


"So how many times does a partner get away with it?"

Monopoly is a long game anyway, so if it finishes early, it can only be a good thing

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By *rincess Peach xxCouple
over a year ago

leeds


"So how many times does a partner get away with it?"

0

In a swinging lifestyle why would you need to cheat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your both in to swinging then why cheat ?? We as a couple have all the ground rules sorted out .. i male half can go any where i want and do what ever i like a long as i don't play on my own doorstep or with any one we know .. but i choose not to meet any one ..

My wife only plays when we've arranged meets from here and 99% were together .

It batters my head when guys are looking for married wife to play solo with it there hubby's knowledge .. what's even worse is when we're on a meet and the guy will whisper to the wife .. can we meet some next time .. ffs them guys are scum ..

Once a cheat . Always a cheat . Never to be trusted again in my opinion .

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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"Find it amusing tho that on hear guys who are in a relationship and effectively cheering get blasted but female who do same just get away with it "

Big difference being women often don't want to get involved in a cheating relationship, where as a large percentage of men on here are either cheating themselves anyway or happy with whatever as long as they are getting their dick wet.

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By *ikesEmBigMan
over a year ago

Herts


"Find it amusing tho that on hear guys who are in a relationship and effectively cheering get blasted but female who do same just get away with it

Big difference being women often don't want to get involved in a cheating relationship, where as a large percentage of men on here are either cheating themselves anyway or happy with whatever as long as they are getting their dick wet."

I have to call bollocks on that one. Both sexes are just as bad

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By *lecom1Couple
over a year ago

Stornoway

Is it cheating when you encourage your partner to cheat?

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By *umbriaman1962Man
over a year ago

outside of penrith


"It sometimes depends upon the level of control that the cheater has over the other person.

Cheats often have self obsessed and narcissistic personalities which can manifest in other forms of piss poor behaviour towards others such as verbal and physical abuse and the classic gas lighting “I only did it because you don’t give me what I need”

What goes around comes around though hopefully. "

That might be case lots times but I had affair married lady that was treated badly by husband put down all time your old your fat your passed it etc. We chatted year or so after affair stopped parted very good terms. She said knowing she was still fancied wanted gave her confidence to stand upto him. When he found out she was capable of leaving he and was about to he had shock he needed still together but he's changed way he speaks etc

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Back of the bins.

Not with everyone! Same standards apply to all for us.

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter


"Find it amusing tho that on hear guys who are in a relationship and effectively cheering get blasted but female who do same just get away with it

Big difference being women often don't want to get involved in a cheating relationship, where as a large percentage of men on here are either cheating themselves anyway or happy with whatever as long as they are getting their dick wet.

I have to call bollocks on that one. Both sexes are just as bad"

Nope. Correct that both cheat but the majority of guys on here wouldn't care whether someone was attached or not as long as they got laid. Women on a whole on here definitely have stronger morals.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it cheating when you encourage your partner to cheat?"

No.

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By *ust Passing ThroughMan
over a year ago

poole

Many have a cheating fantasy. If it's just fantasy no harm done

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By *pice-meWoman
over a year ago

Home

Play together and stay together. So much more fun exploring each other still

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